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babylonsister

(171,066 posts)
Fri Mar 9, 2018, 08:42 AM Mar 2018

Hugging is BAD!

Kind of sad...

https://www.thedailybeast.com/study-fake-news-spreads-faster-than-real-news-on-twitter

California Lawmaker Banned From Hugging Colleagues
Facebook/Robert.Hertzberg


A California state lawmaker sometimes called “Huggy Bear” for his habit of embracing colleagues has been ordered to abandon the practice after an investigation found his hugs were alienating colleagues. Sen. Bob Hertzberg, a Democrat out of the Los Angeles area, received a formal reprimand from the Senate Rules Committee on Thursday and was told he would face discipline if he persists in hugging colleagues. An investigation covering four complaints against Hertzberg going back to 2010 found that his hugs were not intended as sexual advances but that the frequent and sometimes prolonged embraces made both women and men uncomfortable. Hertzberg, who has also reportedly been dubbed “Hugsberg” for his overly friendly greetings, has apologized for his behavior but said the hugs were only meant as “a gesture of warmth and kindness.” “I understand that I cannot control how a hug is received, and that not everyone has the ability to speak up about unwelcome behavior,” he said in a statement.

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Javaman

(62,530 posts)
1. I don't hug in the work place.
Fri Mar 9, 2018, 11:05 AM
Mar 2018

not everyone likes to hug and it's not appropriate at work.

I only hug people outside of work and only people I know that are good friends.

Nitram

(22,803 posts)
2. Not everyone welcomes a hug. I'd say it is inappropriate on the job except in
Fri Mar 9, 2018, 11:21 AM
Mar 2018

certain situations such as when someone retires after a long relationship, or for comfort when a death has occurred. As long as both parties are agreeable to the practice.

a kennedy

(29,669 posts)
5. but usually a guy holding up a sign that says free hugs gets tons O hugs.....
Fri Mar 9, 2018, 11:45 AM
Mar 2018

Gusss you just gotta ask eh??

babylonsister

(171,066 posts)
9. My sister goes on piers on holidays and does that.
Fri Mar 9, 2018, 04:04 PM
Mar 2018

And she does get tons of hugs. Win for them and her.

 

Codeine

(25,586 posts)
7. Not everyone is comfortable with that
Fri Mar 9, 2018, 11:51 AM
Mar 2018

sort of unsolicited contact. I have a friend who hugs and I grudgingly put up with it, but it’s nothing about which I will ever be enthusiastic.

shanti

(21,675 posts)
8. Me neither
Fri Mar 9, 2018, 12:21 PM
Mar 2018

But if you don't hug, people think you're cold, so most non-huggers get bullied into it.

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