Unless it's being used by RadFems truly reclaiming the word by trying to change its meaning -- like when Bee highlighted the female politicians getting hit with tons of hateful comments from male sports fans about a stadium. Highlighting all the great things each had done (and one especially creative death threat each had received as the "Seattle Seawards"....
THAT'S reclaiming. Even in her opening where she referred to it in the anatomical sense before getting into it to make sure people got the pun, that's not weaponizing it against other women.
For male personal safety, I definitely wouldn't recommend a guy using the word towards or about a woman. Even in fictional GoT that earned Jaime a slap from Cersei, and again this is the show that seems to potentially be doing what the authors of the 2008 anti-McCain short "He Said It First" by "repeating a despicable word enough and making it part of the national vocabulary".
But I still don't like to use it, or see it used by other women, as the weaponized insult such as a man means when he says it. Even in the most negative way a person of African-American descent might use the n-word about another black person, meaning it to be insulting, there's the sense of "brother" still behind it, even in the sense of "brother I want to smack upside the head" depending on context.
The only word we've reclaimed even that far, where there has some small echo of "sister" when said by one woman to or about another, is the b-word. Even from woman to woman, the c-word has no connotation of sisterhood, even the tiniest echo. In fact, it's almost exclusively, if used by a woman about a woman, to express *anti*-sisterhood. Women unworthy of being humanized enough even to be the sister we want to smack upside the head.
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