One woman's plan to keep her GOP husband from voting in midterms.

[Funtatlaguy]

So, at a gathering of progressive Dems last night, the conversation got around to voter suppression.
But, instead of the usual weeping and gnashing of teeth over voter ID laws and Repub purges of voters roles, this idea was a table turner.
A Dem woman married to a GOP man said she has a plan that will (legally) mean her husband won’t be voting while she still will.

She’s going to tell him that she has mapped out time in their busy schedules for them to go vote at a particular time together late in the day on Election Day.
However, She plans to vote in the early voting period a week before Election Day and just not mention that to her husband.
Then, on Election Day at the appointed time that they planned that morning to go vote together, she plans to manufacture a minor crisis at the house that he needs to come home for.
She will call her husband and say, “I know we are supposed to go vote now, but we’re just not going to be able to. And, our votes would just cancel each other’s out anyway”.

I thought this was a great idea.
What if all Dems with GOP spouses, significant others, family members did this same thing?
A little sneaky, yes, but so what? What do you think? Would you do it?

[Lars39]

1. That's dishonest and wrong.

[Funtatlaguy]

3. Technically, it's just a lie of omission.

If he never asked her if she already voted.
Even so, if that’s the worst lie in their relationship, I’d be surprised.
And, the end result is a good one.
Lying to Republicans about voting doesn’t bother me at all.

[LisaL]

27. Why would he think she already voted if she tells him they will vote together?

You are blaming someone being lied to (actively), as she claims they will go vote together for not figuring out he is being lied to.

[Hortensis]

21. +1000. It's dishonest. It's wrong. It's betrayal.

The Republicans have become the party of systematic dishonesty, wrong deeds, and betrayal. This wife's behavior leads me to guess she is not so different from her husband as might be assumed from their official affiliations.

I could not and would not be married to the kind of person who'd support what Trump is and stands for and/or for what the Republican Party has become. But this one can.

[Tipperary]

24. Ugh. I agree. Being deceitful to one's spouse says a lot about a marriage.

[teach1st]

2. Not cool

Not honest

[RhodeIslandOne]

4. I'm all for it

Fuck anyone trying to destroy this country.

[magicarpet]

5. Something from the Mitch McConnell play book ?

Guerrilla Warfare.

[Funtatlaguy]

6. Not quite that nefarious, I don't think 🤔

Karl Rove?
Lee Atwater?
Or how about our side just finally fighting back and trying to win for a darn change.

[Croney]

7. Unfortunately, there are probably more Repugs

who will keep their smarter spouses from voting, than the other way around.

[Funtatlaguy]

8. One more reason to fight fire with Fire

🔥
Dem rage leads to Blue Wave 🌊

[bucolic_frolic]

9. Turning voter suppression on the party of voter suppression is no vice

THE REPUBLICANS WOULD DO IT TO US!

[ancianita]

11. Stooping to dishonest and undemocratic means to a democratic end is no virtue. nt

[bucolic_frolic]

12. Do you want to win elections?

Or do you prefer to continue losing them?

Republicans play by Machiavellian rules. We don't win if Ann Landers is our battle plan.

[ancianita]

15. Really? Being like them is the only way to win? You think we've exhausted all honest possibilities?

Did you read how VA restructured its voting and that's how the Democrats, with McAuliffe, won in 2014. Everyone said that system should be the national model, then everyone moved on and forgot about it.

Granted, honest structuring and non-partisan personnel of voting will be an uphill battle, but it's been done.

What is suggested here is absolutely not our only option.

[bucolic_frolic]

16. It's politics

Honesty is only part of the equation. The amounts of money are obscene, the special interests behind the ideology are manipulative. No one is saying let the people decide because they can't and are easily manipulated. Dishonesty is not often punished at the ballot box. So parties will do what they can get away with, or push until public opinion pushes back, which it rarely does against Republicans because they control so much of the media narrative. They lead the public, and the public is easily led. It's like trying to break into Fox News with a liberal platform.

When you get the other 49 states to restructure their voting without winning elections first, email me. I'd love to read that outcome. Democrats winning an honest election would mean sanity had overwhelmed the right wing fringe infrastructure. Until external events intervene - depression, war, panic - elections are won by counting votes, and sometimes we don't even do that honestly.

But I applaud your ethics. I just don't think it will lead change our direction a lot.

[ancianita]

20. Politics only? No. Democracy, the goal of which is utilitarian: the greatest good for the greatest

number. I'm sure everyone here has heard of that philosophy, which can be implemented as principle and method.

You can't compromise democracy. It's the voice, well recorded and represented -- when it's not chiseled away by expedience of con men and capitalists -- of The People.

When you do, you're no better than Putin, who runs on the 'ends justify the means' method in his federation. Means is covered up by some "show of democracy," like a parliament, or, when that's scorned by the people, force of civilian 'guards' or military guns and money.

And don't leave the restructuring of the other 49 states up to me. That's exactly why this party fails. It doesn't look at best practices that will win those other 49 states.

Yeah, pouring clean water into a bucket full of dirty water doesn't make it clean, but pour enough in, long enough, and it does.

[Takket]

36. One woman lying to her husband will not "win elections"

Nor is what she doing viable on a nationwide scale. So in the end with no real way of swaying elections by tricking our spouses we are left with just one person being dishonest with their partner in what appears to be a dysfunctional relationship.

[GreenEyedLefty]

10. No. (nt)

[Pepsidog]

13. Kill 2 birds with one stone. Hit him in the head with a bat knocking some sense into him and sending

him to the hospital so he cannot vote.

[Iggo]

19. Wow.

That's enough.

[EllieBC]

29. Oooh advocating domestic violence. How edgy.

Hopefully she wouldn't be able to vote either becaue she'd be in jail.

[Pepsidog]

39. Really? Get a life and a sense of humor. Only a moron would see my post as a call for violence and I

assume that 99.9% of DU readers would realize it wasn’t a call for DV. I guess I should have used the stupid sarcasm emoji. So for anyone who read my post as a call to action, please don’t hit your significant other over the head with a bat. As a criminal defense attorney I can tell you that in NJ that will get you 5-10 years New Jersey State prison. And anyone who read that post and was offended, you need to get off DU and get a grip on reality. But I also caution, that our fellow citizens on the far-right with their extremist view may actually resort to violence to prevent Dems from voting, so be prepared. And if you live with one of these righties, the night before the midterm elections I suggest you sleep with one eye open and hide the guns, knives and bats.

[oasis]

14. Let the asshole vote. Many pig-headed GOPers won't admit how wrong

they've been about Trump. It's likely they'll take a step to end Trump's embarrassing presence on the world stage, but in the privacy of a voting booth.

[SamKnause]

17. I would never be married to anyone who votes for the GOP.

It makes zero sense to me.

We would have zero in common.

I consider them my enemy.

I would not marry my enemy.

[Iggo]

18. Not cool.

[Bettie]

22. I can't even imagine being married to someone

with values so very different from my own.

And that is what it comes down to, the values of people who are willing to vote for AgentOrange and his enablers are entirely different from those of us who find him repugnant.

[dansolo]

23. It would be better to get someone who doesn't vote to vote

The better way to cancel out Republican votes is by increasing voter turnout. Why would we support voter suppression by dishonest means? All that does is legitimize what they do.

[Lefta Dissenter]

31. this (N/t)

[LisaL]

25. Dishonest, deceitful and manipulative.

No, I wouldn't do it.

[Agschmid]

26. This is horrible. Unrec.

[janterry]

28. Everyone has their own marriage dance

I suppose if that is how they dance......then good luck to them.

[Freethinker65]

30. Stupid plan. Why not just provide encouragement and transportation for those unlikely to vote?

During the day

[handmade34]

32. not good...

I would just divorce him

[Bluepinky]

33. The husband sounds clueless, and the wife is controlling and manipulative.

Why would he let his wife “map out” time for him to vote, and can’t he vote without her there?
I do think it’s wrong, and I wouldn’t want to be married to either of them.

[Corvo Bianco]

34. Why are you married to that guy.

Address that, lady. If he supports the GOP he likely repeats harmful rhetoric at work that oppresses and even cages POC, women, the disabled, the working poor.

If you let that touch you at night you need to get your priorities straight.

[Takket]

35. That's one of the dumbest things I've ever read

A relationship with open deceit like that probably shouldn’t exist. I certainly wouldn’t want to be married to anyone that manipulated me like that.

[Funtatlaguy]

37. I would never be married to or date a Republican.

But, let me give some of you a hard truth.
If you live in most red states (especially Southern ones), most white straight males are Republicans.
So, for a white straight woman who will only date a white straight male, there’s a limited group of Democrats to choose from (especially in rural areas).
Some women who aren’t real political or that lean Democratic lie to their husbands about politics or just don’t talk about it to get along. That makes their lives more manageable, they have told me.

[Ilsa]

38. Too actively deceptive for my tastes.

I prefer more passive acts, like marking his calendar for the election for the following week.

[Turbineguy]

40. It's less messy

than shooting him while "standing her ground".

[Funtatlaguy]

41. You just made my day 🤙

Lol

[Jake Stern]

42. So that's how we roll now?

Putting a positive spin on being openly deceitful to one's spouse for Dem gain. She's just like the Republicans she professes to hate.

Hope hubs finds out about this and ditches her ass. Someone willing to go to such disgusting extremes deserves nothing less.

[cynatnite]

43. To keep anyone from voting is flat out immoral and should be criminal, IMO. n/t

[Funtatlaguy]

44. Dems the party of nice

GOP = the party of vice.

[egduj]

45. Sounds like a great marriage.

[Funtatlaguy]

46. You don't think marriages survive worse lies?

Seriously.
About finances, infidelity, family dynamics, friendships, where they spend time apart, etc.
People lie to their significant others every day.
We are a nation of liars.
Some much bigger than others, of course.

[wonkwest]

47. It worries me people are ok with this

If I ever found out my boyfriend did something like this to me, it'd be the end of our relationship.

Intentionally depriving one's spouse of their rights?

The hell kind of deceitful, authoritarian nonsense is this shit?

It's wrong. And anyone who would do this or support this is not a great person.

[Solly Mack]

48. What horrid thinking.

If you don't respect your spouse then it's time to get out of the marriage.

I don't respect republicans but then I didn't marry one either.