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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsKyle Griffin: Missouri woman who voted for Trump is ashamed after her daughter-in-law was deported
@kylegriffin1
She voted for Trump. Now, a Missouri woman is overwhelmed with emotion after her daughter-in-law was deported, leaving behind a husband, child and life in America. "I'm ashamed."
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Actions have consequences. Now her grandchild is without their mom.
donkeypoofed
(2,187 posts)Did that change?
iluvtennis
(19,758 posts)they cna then apply for naturalization to become a citizen. My ex husband was an Italian immigrant and had to go through the process after we married. Took 5 years just to get the green card, then another 5 to become naturalized citizen.
moriah
(8,311 posts)I met my ex-husband when he came for his second visit to the US. He'd first visited as a summer trip right after high school, the second was after he'd completed his medical degree. I wasn't acquainted with him on the first visit, but later became friends with someone he met then. When he came back, he looked his old friends up, and she introduced us.
He extended his temporary visa once, and it was only possible once. I was still nervous about marriage tp someone I'd known about nine months, but I was young and in love, and we'd looked up the law. He couldn't just go home, come back again on another tourist visa, hang out awhile longer to be sure, and us get married then. We'd have to go through the K-fiance' immigrant visa process, because we already knew each other. If we'd met on the Internet even and he came here on a tourist visa vs an immigrant visa, it'd have been considered an illegal entry into the US. It was either marry then and adjust status with him here, or go through the K-visa process (essentially the same paperwork) in separate countries where we couldn't support each other.
So we got married, adjusted status, and our "big interview" ended up being shortly after 9/11. I was nervous because we pretty much did a "courthouse wedding" style of getting hitched (a friend was ordained and did a semi-private ceremony, just my mom and a few other people) vs throwing anything large, given not enough timing to pull it off. But after I realized what the interviewer was looking for was something either that spontaneously assured him we were familiar with each other's lives, or a red flag indicating we didn't.
What made him stamp us -- I am a nervous talker (probably something they are used to and use) so had asked him about a picture on his wall I thought I recognized, and was right -- he'd been assigned to a NYC field office before. I visibly shuddered and said I couldn't imagine living in that big of a city, that I had issues with navigating Dallas to see some friends who lived there. My (now ex) husband, who'd been mostly quiet up until then, asked me how they were by name, and I answered him easily, filling him in about one still being in art school, the other at a new job, etc. Wasn't anything we could have planned, but was the spontaneous interaction that would happen between husband and wife he was looking for. He stamped the passport with the 2-year stamp almost immediately after that.
But funnily enough, we did end up in NYC eventually. I met another girl married to an immigrant. His family had brought him here illegally as a kid. The fact of illegal entry made their attempt to adjust status fail, and he ended up being sent back to Portugal even though he'd married a USC. Fortunately his family still spoke the language in the home so he didn't lose it, but I felt so sorry for her. Their marriage probably would have worked, too, but she couldn't consider leaving her family, had a very sick relative and trans-Atlantic trips at short notice are incredibly expensive.
Hav
(5,969 posts)Friends, relatives, the friend of your kid, those who know someone who could be affected...surely they wouldn't vote for Trump. He made no secret about it, this was the basis for his campaign.
LisaL
(44,962 posts)Not their relative. There was also a story about woman married to an illegal immigrant, and yet she voted for Trump. She didn't think whatever Trump was saying applied to her husband, even though her husband was an illegal immigrant. Husband got deported.
Fullduplexxx
(7,818 posts)hatrack
(59,446 posts)Sympathy for your DIL and her family.
However: This. Is. What. Trump. Said. He. Would. Do.
And you voted for it.
Bettie
(15,998 posts)but I'm willing to bet she'll vote for him again.
So, only ashamed when there is a light shining on her in all likelihood.