My daughter tossed a Trump Humper from a family gathering

[fleur-de-lisa]

About ten of us gathered at my mother’s house when my girl, who lives in Europe, came for a visit. My daughter has not been home in two years. We held this event as a surprise for my mother. My brother and sister were there, along with a few of my nieces and nephews.

My oldest sister, who is in her sixties, is “dating” this racist asshole who is, of course, a Trump supporter. The rest of us, except said asshole and my sister, are Democrats. As usual, the racist “boyfriend” started in with the typical republican nonsense: anti-vax bullshit, anti-immigrant bullshit, etc.

We all argued with him, but when he started on a really vile racist rant, my girl had had enough. During his immigrant tirade he suggested that black people should be forced to work in agriculture to harvest crops after we deport all immigrants.

My daughter got up, stood right in his face and told him “You have to leave. I have not seen my family in two years. We are not going to sit her and listen to your racist bullshit. You are smiling because you think I’m kidding. I’m not. You have to leave”. And he did!

I argue with this fucker all the time, but I never thought to just EJECT him! I am SO PROUD of my girl!!!

[Glamrock]

1. Sounds like you raised one helluva girl.

Nice job mom!

[kimbutgar]

2. Great story

Love what your daughter did.

[appleannie1943]

3. You raised one smart girl. You have every reason to be proud.

[trueblue2007]

51. your daughter is a GREAT LADY !!!!!!

[Trust Buster]

4. Best way to deal with them. They crave attention. Refuse to socialize with them.

[luvtheGWN]

21. There's a British saying that fits situations like this:

"Being sent to Coventry" -- which means that you intentionally ignore the person saying the vile, racist (or any other adjective which fits) crap. In a group setting, there has to be agreement beforehand that everyone will ignore and talk around that person. It avoids the possibility of a nasty argument, and usually drives the person crazy!

But good on your daughter for taking a stand!

[pennylane100]

46. I had forgotten about that saying.

We used it all the time when I was growing up. Thanks for the little trip down memory lane.

[luvtheGWN]

49. My Canadian Dad (of Scottish ancestry)

used that technique with me when I was a mite too sassy or disrespectful. It worked every time, because the last thing this little girl ever wanted was for her father to be angry with her.

[homegirl]

79. Can we

send Donald Trump to Coventry?

[byronius]

5. Kind of her to not simply remove him from the gene pool.

Darwin needs to speak, here. But good on her for being the better woman.

[ProudMNDemocrat]

6. Good for you.....

Your daughter reflects your values.

In the era of Trump, she recognized that species of bully.

[packman]

7. There comes that time when IT has to be said

to her

[fleur-de-lisa]

36. It never occurred to me to just tell a racist fuck bag to leave!

I always argue with them and throw logic in their faces! She just told him to get the fuck out. Genius!

[greymattermom]

83. If it's your party

you should be able to do that. Time to do it more often.

[liberalmuse]

8. Everyone needs to take a stand against racism.

Good for your daughter! When someone starts emitting vile, dehumanizing toxic waste, they need to be shown the door. If everyone stopped allowing racism to enter their sphere, this would be a better world.

[Locrian]

14. not just racism (which it is)

they do it for getting a "rise" out of people because they get off on it an want to pretend they're the strong, keeping everyone else in their place. Bet he was doing it in front of the "weak" women to appear like a "strong" man

Glad she cleaned his clock - bet he wasn't expecting that!

[fleur-de-lisa]

16. You are absolutely correct.

He does this shit all the time just to upset the liberals in my family. And then he and my asshole sister claimed that we were bullying him.

Fuck that shit!

If you are intent on spewing racist shit, you are the bully! Not the people who call you out on you racism!

[EndGOPPropaganda]

60. For next time

“Don’t be a sucker. Billionaires lie to you so you’ll vote for tax cuts for them. Trump went to maralago after trump tax cut and LAUGHED AT YOU. He and his rich friends laughed at the suckers that voted for their tax cuts. They got billions and you got crumbs. Sucker!

If you listen to Fox and Limbaugh you’re harming America.”


I have nearly a 100% return rate on this speech

[hauckeye]

9. Did the sister leave with him?

[fleur-de-lisa]

10. That's the funniest part. No, she didn't.

I forgot to mention that my sister now lives in my mother’s house. My mom is ninety and although in good health, we worry about her.

My sister is on a very limited income. Since they both live in the same town and the rest of us live away, it made sense for my sister to move in with Mother. It works for everyone. Sister doesn’t have to worry about paying bills, Mother has a live-in companion.

This is a very recent development and my daughter temporararily forgot that my moms house is now my sisters house also.

So my daughter EJECTED my sisters “boyfriend” from the house where my sister lives!

My sister is basically a coward. Typical republican. As we were leaving, she complained to my daughter that we were all bullying her dumbass boyfriend. She made sure to say this while I was far enough away that I couldn’t hear her. I am the youngest and she is the oldest, but she knows I will call her out when she talks shit about me or anyone else.

[Cha]

25. Actually it was her Dumbass boyfriend who

started the whole thing.. being responsible for getting himself Kicked OUT.

But, of course, I know repubs are always the victims even when they're Bullies.

Thank You for the update!

[fleur-de-lisa]

27. You are right, he started it.

And yes, the racist, asshole republicans always play the victim. Fuck that shit!

[LuckyCharms]

11. Good, good, good!

That's the way to do it.

[Atticus]

12. Applause, applause, applause! That's how it's done! nt

[RainCaster]

13. Bravo! You raised her to speak truth, and she did

[fleur-de-lisa]

18. To be honest, she is the one who got me involved in politics.

I was relatively apolitical until she started college. Then we started talking about politics and she showed me the way.

And then I found DU!

[Ferrets are Cool]

15. Fantastic!!

[Augiedog]

17. I absolutely refuse to engage with these fucks, they are hideous and hopeless. My fury meter

goes off the charts when I hear that these asses invade a families reunion and think they have the right to spout off. Their end time is coming. One day soon you will have to hurt high and low to find one of these scum bags, they will be harder to find than a time trump told the truth.

Fuck them, fuck tRump, fuck the entire ratpublican party.

Sorry about the language but it is accurately reflective of how I feel, and that I will never apologize for.

[fleur-de-lisa]

19. Amen!

They need to be shunned!

[blueinredohio]

28. When my husband's family goes on a rant I say to him

"Time for me to step out" before I say something. My family is different I will stand my ground and let them know they are wrong.

[The Wizard]

50. A few years ago

Last edited Sun Jul 29, 2018, 11:08 AM - Edit history (1)

I was at a party and one of the guests started talking to me. He was spouting Pox News propaganda. I asked if he watched Pox and he said yes. My response was "I don't talk to people who watch Pox News." He asked if I was kidding. I said no and leave me alone. His jaw dropped and I walked away.

[SWBTATTReg]

84. I love it!! nt

[nancy1942]

20. Good for her!!!

[Cha]

22. Wow! What a Racist Asshole! No wonder

he was told to GTF OUT!

I can imagine how people were talking after he left.

So your sister left too, of course! Good on your daughter, Fleur!

[fleur-de-lisa]

23. My sister didn't leave. Please see post #10.

[brush]

24. Woohoo! That's how it's done. Hats off for your daughter.

[CentralMass]

26. Awesome.

[BigmanPigman]

29. BRAVA!!!

I only had to kick someone out once in my life. It was 10 days after my little dog died at Christmas. She was my life and my best friend loved her to bits too. Her roommate came in and ruined our visit by telling me that there is no way a dog should be mourned since they are such vile beasts. I kicked him out and found out that he never even had a dog as a pet. My friend was in love with him and didn't apologized for ruining our visit or making me even more depressed. I would do it again in a heartbeat. I would be proud to know your daughter and would invite her to any event I hosted knowing she has a good head on her shoulders and has enough self respect to stand up for herself against an obvious asshole.

[fleur-de-lisa]

39. OMG! What kind of asshole would say that about a pet?

Animals are far better than most people I know. I have a saying: “I would be content to spend my life attending to plants and animals, with no human contact”.

Except for my daughter, I stand by that statement.

[demigoddess]

44. I had one of those ****holes say to me that he could not take a kid like my daughter

(severely retarded) I asked him what he would do if he had one. He said he would give it up for adoption. Could not believe my ears. I just turned and walked into the house. Wish I had had your daughter's gumption.

[lunasun]

30. Who wants to argue at a celebration? Don't let racist Nazis ruin your party

Good on your daughter gets her time and family back from a nasty man no one except your sister wanted around. If he had been polite yet Republican ok,
but most can't because they are deplorable
Silence means they win. Resist!!

[KY_EnviroGuy]

31. Could we possibly get your wonderful daughter to....

travel to DC and have a similar chat with one Donald J. Trump?......

Thanks for the great story, she's a champ!......

[PoindexterOglethorpe]

32. So glad she did that.

People like that do not deserve respect and should never be tolerated by decent people.

[gratuitous]

33. With musical accompaniment from They Might Be Giants

[fleur-de-lisa]

41. I love TMBG!

I heard of them from watching the show “Malcomb In the Middle” which, I think, is one of the funniest sit-coms ever written.

I only have one daughter, so of course I would think a show about a family with four (or five, if you count Jamie) horrible sons is hilarious.

My brother has two sons. He doesn’t appreciate MITM, because he lived it!

[gratuitous]

45. Fun fact about Malcolm in the Middle

You never knew the family's last name!

[fleur-de-lisa]

47. Ha ha! That's true.

I thought that show offered the best role ever for what’s his face, the guy who later played Walter White. I could never get into that show, Breaking Bad, because Hal from MITM was such a likeable guy.

It’s funny to recall that he also played the dentist in the Seinfeld series.

I guess that’s what makes a great actor. The ability to play good and bad characters equally well.

[AdamGG]

55. Bryan Cranston is great at everything

If you haven't seen them, check out his portrayal of Lyndon Johnson in All the Way (HBO movie) and Dalton Trumbo in Trumbo.

[fleur-de-lisa]

56. I saw 'Trumbo' and loved it! I haven't seen the Johnson flick yet.

Will try to catch it.

Cranston (thank you for reminding me of his name. . . . brain fart) also played the titular character in the movie ‘Wakefield’. He plays a very bitter man who fakes his own disappearance as retaliation against his family.

The entire movie is mostly Cranston’s character reflecting on his life and his relationships. It must be difficult to pull off such a performance so strongly dependent upon one character. He was great in that role.

[lunatica]

93. I love that movie too

Cranston picks really good characters and movies to act in.

[lunatica]

92. Trumbo was a wonderful movie

Cranston was really good in it!

He makes you forget you’re watching him play a character and you believe he really is the character. Now that’s great acting!

[badhair77]

34. Sometimes you just have to throw out the trash.

Keeping it around just smells up the place. Your family deserved to have a nice visit with your daughter. I’m sure the gathering was less stressful after he left. Good for her.

[Honeycombe8]

35. Yep. Sometimes it takes someone to wake everyone up. I did something similar...

sort of...years ago.

My youngest sister and her husband were going through a bad divorce. He had been betraying her for some time with kinky sex parties & such. She found out. By the time she found out, he had a gf...and he left her. It broke her and their two kids (about 11 to 13).

There was going to be a holiday get together at our father's house (he was married to someone else). I lived out of state, so one of them called me to tell me about the dinner and hoped I could come. I said I would. Then she told me that our sister's husband was going to be there.

What?...says I, shocked. She explained that they thought it would help the kids to have their father their. They wanted to be inclusive and make everyone happy, and be like it used to be.

So I told her that they could do what they want, and I would go. But there was no way that I was going to sit at the same table with that SOB and pretend that he hadn't done the things he'd done and crushed my sister. I told her not to worry...they could go ahead and eat, and I'd eat upstairs alone and not make trouble. But there was NO WAY I was going to break bread w/that assh*le. And that I didn't think it was helpful to the children for everyone to pretend there wasn't an elephant in the room and that things were still normal with their family...although none of my business.

Thank goodness they decided not to invite him, and I could eat at the table! Sometimes it take just one person to speak up.

[fleur-de-lisa]

42. Yay! Good for you!

[panader0]

37. Fantastic!! Your daughter is wise and true. Much respect to her

and you for raising her.
I can imagine my eldest daughter doing this too. She and her husband
are flying in from Dubai tonight, after visiting Vietnam, Thailand and India.
They want to embrace the differences in culture.

[Aristus]

38. That's wonderful, fleur-de-lisa! Good for her.

And good for you.

I hope you never have to talk to him again.

[fleur-de-lisa]

43. Unfortunately I will have to see him again.

Like most republicans, he is a taker, not a giver. When he hears that my brother or I will be in town to visit our mother, he can’t wait to show up for a free meal. We always go out to dinner.

And there is no way my brother or I would ever let our mother pay for a meal, though she is very comfortable financially. But that mooch will always show up, and never once has he offered to pay for a for a meal or even chip in.

Sorry, but we live in the south. Men just DO NOT let women pick up the check unless it is agreed upon beforehand. That worthless SOB never reaches for the check. I always pay for the entire table unless my brother happens to be in town.

[fleur-de-lisa]

48. What, no "Friday night wine buzz" post, Aristus?

I was counting on you to chime in on my Pomegranate Martini thread in the Lounge.

And you were also tagged in on an earlier thread about being snubbed at funerals. And anal bleach was also covered in the last few days. Are you slacking off? Your opinion is greatly valued in these weighty matters, dear Aristus.

[Aristus]

57. Send me the link on the 'snubbed at funerals' thing. That sounds interesting...

[Demovictory9]

40. no need to let his toxicity ruin your nice gathering

[InAbLuEsTaTe]

52. Good for her!!

[Lucky Luciano]

53. I'm with your daughter all the way.

We have to stop arguing with these asses. They need to be ostracized, shamed, humiliated, and rejected by polite society.

[fleur-de-lisa]

54. Yes! Exactly!

They must be shamed back into the dark holes from whence they slithered! Fuck that racist shit!

[certainot]

58. well done. the faster easy way would be to

say in the beginning that limbaugh is a liar, and everything he says is bullshit, and put a limbaugh tattoo on his forehead

[Initech]

59. Excellent! Fight stupid or stupid thinks it's right!

[dalton99a]

74. +1

[3catwoman3]

61. Bravo to your wonderful daughter!

I would have paid good money to see that.

[greytdemocrat]

62. Super story!!!

[Mopar151]

63. Sounds like a great plot for the new season of "The Connors"

"Becky, you threw MOM out of the house?" "Yup! You know those guys don't wear white coats anymore?"

[DFW]

64. Good on her for standing her ground

I have a cousin like that in Tennessee, but I haven't seen him in 24 years, and probably never will again. My siblings and children all chose liberal partners, and my MIL is only "conservative" by German standards, and has accepted me from the moment we met in 1974.

[JNelson6563]

65. Parenting: You did it right!

Well done!

[iluvtennis]

66. Who the f does the a-hole think he can "FORCE" black people to work in the fields. I'm speechless.

[UCmeNdc]

67. You have to get rid of these Trumpers for life.

You are not going to change their minds and most will argue those idiot talking points they get from conservative media. Propaganda works!

[RhodeIslandOne]

68. Another fucking asshole "owning the libs"

They love sowing their toxic shit.

I cannot wait until all these pieces of shit get their comeuppance.

[roscoeroscoe]

69. Drop this guy the no politics rule

See if he has anything to talk about at all, if he can just have a normal conversation.

Probably not, but if the rule is set, it's his fault if he brings anything up.

And.. "Bob, your turn for the check."

[leftieNanner]

95. "Bob, your turn for the check."

And be sure to order lobster and champagne!

[Cobalt Violet]

70. Yay for her!

Trumphumpers should be force to work agriculture.

[malaise]

71. Fabulous

: grouphug:

[Captain Stern]

72. Well done, by her

It's always best to try and keep the peace in those kinds of situations, but sometimes it's impossible....without removing someone. We all have the right to our opinions, but we don't have a right to espouse them wherever we like, without consequences.

Anti-vax and anti-immigrant bullshit have no places in reasonable discussions.

[sellitman]

73. Your daughter rocks!

You should be so proud.

[SallyHemmings]

75. Well done Mama!

[Paladin]

76. Admirable job by the daughter, but it'll have to happen to that jerk, more than once.

No one ever accused the trump base of being quick to catch on---not even to well-deserved public shaming.

[Gothmog]

77. Good job

You did a great job raising your daughter and should be proud of her.

[oberliner]

78. Did you sister leave also?

What was her take on what happened?

[Blue_true]

80. Black people should be forced to work in fields?

What century is that guy living in? Likely is the type that when in the presence of two big Black dudes, is afraid to even breathe.

[SpankMe]

81. Trump - destroying America one family at a time. n/t

[NNadir]

82. It sounds as if this young woman had some great upbringing.

If one of my sons said something like this:

" “You have to leave. I have not seen my family in two years. We are not going to sit her and listen to your racist bullshit. You are smiling because you think I’m kidding. I’m not. You have to leave”," I'd be bursting with pride and having raised them.

(I am bursting with pride over them, but for different things.)

You did well. Kudos to the Mom here.

[RocRizzo55]

85. We all have to do this

We should reject and eject them from our tribes, one at a time. They do not belong. They should take some time alone to figure out why they are being rejected, and then come to terms with what is correct. They have to drop the Faux "News" pipe first.

[SWBTATTReg]

86. You have every right to be proud of your girl!! I am too, and this is what it ...

takes, one person at a time, to take back our country from these people who think that they can take our rights and the like away. No more!!

Your girl is a GEM!

[LiberalLovinLug]

87. "I argue with this fucker all the time, but I never thought to just EJECT him!"

This is the new attitude that Democrats in Washington must have. Its a good analogy.

Enough with the strongly worded letters. The shying away from using the T word. Admonishments for incivility.

And the concerned public need to do what Michael Moore has been shouting about....a million people surrounding the White House demanding he leave.

[gay texan]

88. Never met her

But damn it I think I'm in love!

[populistdriven]

89. We will never reach people if we don't communicate with them

[AllaN01Bear]

90. good for her that she hit the eject button.

[roamer65]

91. Your daughter is a great person.

[BobTheSubgenius]

94. With apologies to Tom Petty...

She grew tall and she grew up right, with a Democratic family, fights the Democratic fight

(...and to anyone else who thinks this is as goofy as shit. I simply just loved the anecdote!)