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left-of-center2012

(34,195 posts)
Tue Jul 31, 2018, 12:11 PM Jul 2018

Funeral Homes Posing the Dead Like They're Still Alive

Two weeks after Renard Matthews was tragically shot and killed in his New Orleans neighborhood, the 18-year-old looked exactly how he had in life. At his wake, he lay slumped in an office chair in front of a TV "playing" NBA2K with his hands wrapped around a PS4 controller. Clad in sunglasses, socks and flip-flops, and a Celtics jersey, he even had his favorite snacks—Doritos and root beer—within reach. And that’s just how his family wanted it.

Matthews’s wake was the latest in a string of what funeral directors call "nontraditional" memorial services. Instead of displaying their loved ones in a casket, some families choose to pose the bodies in life-like scenarios to see them as they were in life before they’re laid to rest.

... then there was Miriam Burbank, a Saints fan whose daughters had Charbonnet deck her out like they’d always seen her: sitting at a table in black and gold, with a menthol cigarette between her fingers and a can of Busch beer at her side.

At a time when you can actually launch cremated remains into space, these nontraditional embalmings are just another creative way people are choosing to celebrate a person's life, and changing the narrative around death.

Full story at:
https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/9kmqy7/inside-new-orleans-extreme-embalming-funerals





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Funeral Homes Posing the Dead Like They're Still Alive (Original Post) left-of-center2012 Jul 2018 OP
Please don't let this happen to me janterry Jul 2018 #1
Cteepy af Fullduplexxx Jul 2018 #2
Just like in the olden days dalton99a Jul 2018 #3
Honestly not sure which one is dead in that second photo MissB Jul 2018 #15
The one that isn't blurred. JHB Jul 2018 #21
Thanks for the explanation! MissB Jul 2018 #35
Thanks for this. There's a lot of these memento mori photos of infants and children... Hekate Jul 2018 #40
I know! Creeps me out to the max. Nt raccoon Jul 2018 #44
It is very strange, but if it gives people comfort, who am I to Bettie Jul 2018 #4
Just don't start a flash mob in the middle of the memorial service. LastLiberal in PalmSprings Jul 2018 #5
Burn me! MuseRider Jul 2018 #6
Damn... next they'll be permanently displayed like taxidermy... hlthe2b Jul 2018 #7
Ha. mahina Jul 2018 #9
Somebody already did.... in the 19th century Adrahil Jul 2018 #17
Lenin? erpowers Jul 2018 #23
Reminds me of an old Twilight Zone show called "Elegy" workinclasszero Jul 2018 #8
Damn ... dawg Jul 2018 #10
Kinda creepy, maybe, but this is New Orleans where they have jazz funerals... TreasonousBastard Jul 2018 #11
I love this. Much of this is cultural, as well -- slavery in the U.S. put its stamp on funerals and WhiskeyGrinder Jul 2018 #12
The motorcycle one is cool Zing Zing Zingbah Jul 2018 #14
Nah, no, nope, and no siree... ADX Jul 2018 #13
Maybe pose a cheating husband ... left-of-center2012 Jul 2018 #16
Replication of Before or After his wife caught them en flagrante and cocked her pistol? Hekate Jul 2018 #43
My Mom Told Me About This erpowers Jul 2018 #18
Whatever gives comfort to anyone I've left behind. Ms. Toad Jul 2018 #19
Um. No. EffieBlack Jul 2018 #20
So Trump will be propped up getting spanked by a porn star? ooky Jul 2018 #22
Or better yet........... CaliforniaPeggy Jul 2018 #45
I'm thinking more along these lines. B2G Jul 2018 #24
Another ringing endorsement for the dignity of cremation BannonsLiver Jul 2018 #25
Fini saidsimplesimon Jul 2018 #26
Creepy as hell! Initech Jul 2018 #27
I recall an episode of An Idiot Abroad which had a segment about this practice. I believe it took Floyd R. Turbo Jul 2018 #28
that episode was pretty cool! renate Jul 2018 #46
19th century post-mortum funerary photographs Historic NY Jul 2018 #29
It used to be very common in Victorian times - Memento mori smirkymonkey Jul 2018 #41
In the realm of whatever floats your boat Solly Mack Jul 2018 #30
I've read most countries outside of the U.S. view our custom of bullwinkle428 Jul 2018 #31
gross. Mosby Jul 2018 #32
John Prine - Please Don't Bury Me (ORIGINAL ALBUM VERSION) no_hypocrisy Jul 2018 #33
I know I'm not supposed to be laughing out loud at this... Iggo Jul 2018 #34
I don't like this trend. Creepy. sinkingfeeling Jul 2018 #36
No. Tommy_Carcetti Jul 2018 #37
Just too creepy for me rusty fender Jul 2018 #38
Wouldn't it be great to pose like that... lame54 Jul 2018 #39
That would really put the 'fun' back in funeral. Historic NY Jul 2018 #42
When I die won't you bury me, in a brand new Stetson hat... BluesRunTheGame Jul 2018 #47
No reason it has to stop at the funeral home Poiuyt Jul 2018 #48
We had a few threads on this subject a few years ago malaise Jul 2018 #49

JHB

(37,157 posts)
21. The one that isn't blurred.
Tue Jul 31, 2018, 01:39 PM
Jul 2018

Last edited Tue Jul 31, 2018, 02:55 PM - Edit history (1)

Very long exposure times compared to what we're used to, so people had to hold the pose. A small movement adds a blur, but only one of them is deathly still, for obvious reasons.

Hekate

(90,565 posts)
40. Thanks for this. There's a lot of these memento mori photos of infants and children...
Tue Jul 31, 2018, 04:10 PM
Jul 2018

It's such a common human impulse to want to have something to hold on to after they're in the ground.

I have to say, though, that these modern iterations are -- jarring.

Bettie

(16,078 posts)
4. It is very strange, but if it gives people comfort, who am I to
Tue Jul 31, 2018, 12:27 PM
Jul 2018

say it is wrong.

It does, however, remind me of an episode of a TV show several years ago. John Waters played the funeral director at a funeral home where they did this.

5. Just don't start a flash mob in the middle of the memorial service.
Tue Jul 31, 2018, 12:30 PM
Jul 2018

If I hear Bruno Mars singing "Marry Me" one more time I'll slit my wrists.

Think no one's thinking about doing this? Check out this student flash mob during a wedding (with the bride's blessings, BTW):



What kind of flash mob song would be appropriate at a funeral? "Sympathy for the Devil"?

MuseRider

(34,095 posts)
6. Burn me!
Tue Jul 31, 2018, 12:31 PM
Jul 2018

I suppose they could put a music stand up and bring my clarinets to sit around me.....I have had a long standing order to my family. Burn me. I don't even care what they do with my ashes. Throw them in the trash for all I care but whatever they need to do with the ashes for themselves they can do but burn me. The thought of being in a box, even dead, gives me nightmares.

However, this is kinda cool for those who are into the whole funeral thing. I am amused by this given my own attitude but if it works for them I hope it helps them.

erpowers

(9,350 posts)
23. Lenin?
Tue Jul 31, 2018, 01:48 PM
Jul 2018

Isn't that what they did with Lenin? Some in Argentina wanted to do the same thing with Eva Peron's body. Her ex-husband and his third wife kept the body, in a coffin, on their dining room table. The supposedly true story of Eva Peron's body is truly crazy.

https://www.nytimes.com/1995/07/30/world/eva-peron-s-corpse-continues-to-haunt-argentina.html

TreasonousBastard

(43,049 posts)
11. Kinda creepy, maybe, but this is New Orleans where they have jazz funerals...
Tue Jul 31, 2018, 12:47 PM
Jul 2018

which I always thought is a great way to say bon voyage to the dear departed.

WhiskeyGrinder

(22,309 posts)
12. I love this. Much of this is cultural, as well -- slavery in the U.S. put its stamp on funerals and
Tue Jul 31, 2018, 12:50 PM
Jul 2018

mourning traditions (as well as everything else), and for many in the black community, funerals can still be seen as a release.

erpowers

(9,350 posts)
18. My Mom Told Me About This
Tue Jul 31, 2018, 01:02 PM
Jul 2018

My mom told me about a story similar to this a few years ago. She had been searching the web for something else and somehow she stumbled upon either this article, or an article similar to this article. She told me about the man who was posed on his motorcycle. She may have also mentioned the woman sitting at a table. I think the story both creeped her out and made her laugh at the same time. I do not think she want a wake/funeral like the ones shown in this article. Nor do I.

Ms. Toad

(34,008 posts)
19. Whatever gives comfort to anyone I've left behind.
Tue Jul 31, 2018, 01:30 PM
Jul 2018

After my organs are removed for whoever can use them, and before my body is cremated and my ashes scattered.

I'm not using the body anymore - what do i care?

Floyd R. Turbo

(26,545 posts)
28. I recall an episode of An Idiot Abroad which had a segment about this practice. I believe it took
Tue Jul 31, 2018, 02:08 PM
Jul 2018

place somewhere in the Caribbean.

renate

(13,776 posts)
46. that episode was pretty cool!
Tue Jul 31, 2018, 04:30 PM
Jul 2018

I was kind of horrified at first, but as Karl became comfortable with moving the woman around and stuff, the tradition actually started to seem kind of nice. Nothing I would want for myself or anybody whose funeral I would go to, but I liked the way it made death a normal part of life.

Historic NY

(37,449 posts)
29. 19th century post-mortum funerary photographs
Tue Jul 31, 2018, 02:10 PM
Jul 2018

google them....sometimes they had to find a stand-in for the deceased too. It hard to tell except the dead person is clearer since the body isn't moving

bullwinkle428

(20,628 posts)
31. I've read most countries outside of the U.S. view our custom of
Tue Jul 31, 2018, 02:12 PM
Jul 2018

"traditional" open-casket funerals as rather morbid, in and of itself. This doesn't push the line - it plows way over it.

 

rusty fender

(3,428 posts)
38. Just too creepy for me
Tue Jul 31, 2018, 03:09 PM
Jul 2018

I don’t even like open casket viewing.

I do like seeing the picture boards of the deceased when he/she was alive.

malaise

(268,724 posts)
49. We had a few threads on this subject a few years ago
Tue Jul 31, 2018, 06:29 PM
Jul 2018

It's quite a business in Puerto Rico.
The. Victorians did this as well, but that was pre-refrigeration

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