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Two weeks after Renard Matthews was tragically shot and killed in his New Orleans neighborhood, the 18-year-old looked exactly how he had in life. At his wake, he lay slumped in an office chair in front of a TV "playing" NBA2K with his hands wrapped around a PS4 controller. Clad in sunglasses, socks and flip-flops, and a Celtics jersey, he even had his favorite snacksDoritos and root beerwithin reach. And thats just how his family wanted it.
Matthewss wake was the latest in a string of what funeral directors call "nontraditional" memorial services. Instead of displaying their loved ones in a casket, some families choose to pose the bodies in life-like scenarios to see them as they were in life before theyre laid to rest.
... then there was Miriam Burbank, a Saints fan whose daughters had Charbonnet deck her out like theyd always seen her: sitting at a table in black and gold, with a menthol cigarette between her fingers and a can of Busch beer at her side.
At a time when you can actually launch cremated remains into space, these nontraditional embalmings are just another creative way people are choosing to celebrate a person's life, and changing the narrative around death.
Full story at:
https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/9kmqy7/inside-new-orleans-extreme-embalming-funerals
janterry
(4,429 posts)I'm glad it's comforting to some.
But.......please. Not me.
Fullduplexxx
(7,846 posts)dalton99a
(81,406 posts)MissB
(15,804 posts)JHB
(37,157 posts)Last edited Tue Jul 31, 2018, 02:55 PM - Edit history (1)
Very long exposure times compared to what we're used to, so people had to hold the pose. A small movement adds a blur, but only one of them is deathly still, for obvious reasons.
MissB
(15,804 posts)That makes sense!
Hekate
(90,565 posts)It's such a common human impulse to want to have something to hold on to after they're in the ground.
I have to say, though, that these modern iterations are -- jarring.
raccoon
(31,105 posts)Bettie
(16,078 posts)say it is wrong.
It does, however, remind me of an episode of a TV show several years ago. John Waters played the funeral director at a funeral home where they did this.
LastLiberal in PalmSprings
(12,568 posts)If I hear Bruno Mars singing "Marry Me" one more time I'll slit my wrists.
Think no one's thinking about doing this? Check out this student flash mob during a wedding (with the bride's blessings, BTW):
What kind of flash mob song would be appropriate at a funeral? "Sympathy for the Devil"?
MuseRider
(34,095 posts)I suppose they could put a music stand up and bring my clarinets to sit around me.....I have had a long standing order to my family. Burn me. I don't even care what they do with my ashes. Throw them in the trash for all I care but whatever they need to do with the ashes for themselves they can do but burn me. The thought of being in a box, even dead, gives me nightmares.
However, this is kinda cool for those who are into the whole funeral thing. I am amused by this given my own attitude but if it works for them I hope it helps them.
hlthe2b
(102,141 posts)Uggh.
Shhh somebody will think, great idea!
Adrahil
(13,340 posts)Look up Jeremy Bentham autoicon.
Isn't that what they did with Lenin? Some in Argentina wanted to do the same thing with Eva Peron's body. Her ex-husband and his third wife kept the body, in a coffin, on their dining room table. The supposedly true story of Eva Peron's body is truly crazy.
https://www.nytimes.com/1995/07/30/world/eva-peron-s-corpse-continues-to-haunt-argentina.html
workinclasszero
(28,270 posts)dawg
(10,621 posts)that gives me the willies.
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)which I always thought is a great way to say bon voyage to the dear departed.
WhiskeyGrinder
(22,309 posts)mourning traditions (as well as everything else), and for many in the black community, funerals can still be seen as a release.
Zing Zing Zingbah
(6,496 posts)Would be kind of messed up if that was how the guy died though.
ADX
(1,622 posts)left-of-center2012
(34,195 posts)Maybe pose a cheating husband,
in bed with his mistress?
Hekate
(90,565 posts)erpowers
(9,350 posts)My mom told me about a story similar to this a few years ago. She had been searching the web for something else and somehow she stumbled upon either this article, or an article similar to this article. She told me about the man who was posed on his motorcycle. She may have also mentioned the woman sitting at a table. I think the story both creeped her out and made her laugh at the same time. I do not think she want a wake/funeral like the ones shown in this article. Nor do I.
Ms. Toad
(34,008 posts)After my organs are removed for whoever can use them, and before my body is cremated and my ashes scattered.
I'm not using the body anymore - what do i care?
EffieBlack
(14,249 posts)Stop.
ooky
(8,908 posts)Interesting thought...
CaliforniaPeggy
(149,534 posts)getting peed on???
B2G
(9,766 posts)No earrings though. My daughters would lose me inside of a month.
http://www.lifegem.com/?gclid=EAIaIQobChMI4unhnPPJ3AIVAUCGCh2wAAYZEAAYAiAAEgIwWfD_BwE
BannonsLiver
(16,313 posts)This is so macabre it gives me the willies.
saidsimplesimon
(7,888 posts)Cremate or donate my body to science, funerals give me the creeps.
Initech
(100,043 posts)Floyd R. Turbo
(26,545 posts)place somewhere in the Caribbean.
renate
(13,776 posts)I was kind of horrified at first, but as Karl became comfortable with moving the woman around and stuff, the tradition actually started to seem kind of nice. Nothing I would want for myself or anybody whose funeral I would go to, but I liked the way it made death a normal part of life.
Historic NY
(37,449 posts)google them....sometimes they had to find a stand-in for the deceased too. It hard to tell except the dead person is clearer since the body isn't moving
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)Solly Mack
(90,758 posts)that is the Titanic.
(for/to me)
bullwinkle428
(20,628 posts)"traditional" open-casket funerals as rather morbid, in and of itself. This doesn't push the line - it plows way over it.
Mosby
(16,263 posts)no_hypocrisy
(46,038 posts)Iggo
(47,537 posts)...but I can't help it.
sinkingfeeling
(51,438 posts)Tommy_Carcetti
(43,155 posts)Just no.
rusty fender
(3,428 posts)I dont even like open casket viewing.
I do like seeing the picture boards of the deceased when he/she was alive.
lame54
(35,268 posts)Then get up and walk out in the middle of the service
Historic NY
(37,449 posts)BluesRunTheGame
(1,607 posts)Poiuyt
(18,118 posts)malaise
(268,724 posts)It's quite a business in Puerto Rico.
The. Victorians did this as well, but that was pre-refrigeration