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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsThis helps men understand sexual assault/abuse.
"Guys ask why women are so pissed off. Even guys with wives and daughters. Jackson Katz, a prominent social researcher, illustrates why. He's done it with hundreds of audiences:
"I draw a line down the middle of a chalkboard, sketching a male symbol on one side and a female symbol on the other.
Then I ask just the men: What steps do you guys take, on a daily basis, to prevent yourselves from being sexually assaulted?
At first there is a kind of awkward silence as the men try to figure out if they've been asked a trick question. The silence gives way to a smattering of nervous laughter. Occasionally, a young a guy will raise his hand and say, 'I stay out of prison.' This is typically followed by another moment of laughter, before someone finally raises his hand and soberly states, 'Nothing. I don't think about it.'
Then I ask the women the same question. What steps do you take on a daily basis to prevent yourselves from being sexually assaulted? Women throughout the audience immediately start raising their hands. As the men sit in stunned silence, the women recount safety precautions they take as part of their daily routine.
Hold my keys as a potential weapon. Look in the back seat of the car before getting in. Carry a cell phone. Don't go jogging at night. Lock all the windows when I sleep, even on hot summer nights. Be careful not to drink too much. Don't put my drink down and come back to it; make sure I see it being poured. Own a big dog. Carry Mace or pepper spray. Have an unlisted phone number. Have a man's voice on my answering machine. Park in well-lit areas. Don't use parking garages. Don't get on elevators with only one man, or with a group of men. Vary my route home from work. Watch what I wear. Don't use highway rest areas. Use a home alarm system. Don't wear headphones when jogging. Avoid forests or wooded areas, even in the daytime. Don't take a first-floor apartment. Go out in groups. Own a firearm. Meet men on first dates in public places. Make sure to have a car or cab fare. Don't make eye contact with men on the street. Make assertive eye contact with men on the street.
― Jackson Katz, The Macho Paradox: Why Some Men Hurt Women and How All Men Can Help"
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This helps men understand sexual assault/abuse. (Original Post)
Cattledog
Oct 2018
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wryter2000
(46,051 posts)1. Handy
But a lot of men don't need that.
JHB
(37,161 posts)3. But a lot of men do, often from simple intellectual laziness...
"I don't think about it, so why would anyone else?"
There's also a lot of men who stay quiet in the face of the boors. A more pointed understanding of the disparity shows off the cowardice of such acquiescence.
And younger guys need a better sense of what's actually going on around them. I know I was knocked back on my heels a bit when I finally saw one of my college pals act one way with the guys and become a completely different person with women.
WhiskeyGrinder
(22,357 posts)4. A lot of men don't, but a lot of men do.
mythology
(9,527 posts)5. A reminder of what others go through doesn't hurt
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)2. K&R
Kaleva
(36,312 posts)6. Very similar to the steps I take to prevent being assaulted