This is going on your permanent record, Missy.
Shame..Guilt..
This is what's behind the "forcible rape" wannabee-legislation.
Rapes are all different, even if the end result is pretty much the same in each case.
A male coerces/overpowers/drugs/intimidates the female and uses his power to take from her, something that she alone should be in a position to "give".
I have known many women who have been raped, and to a women, NONE have been "officially" reported to the police.
It's a humiliating experience, often not even acknowledged fully for a while after the fact....and often kept as a secret for a long time... and only divulged when the time is right, and to only a few trusted loved ones.
The whole "forcible" thing is a way to force a woman to officially "come out" into the glaring light immediately, to "confess" to strangers/police that she was raped. Forcible rape pretty much presumes police involvement.
She must make sure that her story is "forcible enough", and then she must prepare to endure months/years of explaining away days off work for court appearances, to endure the lost wages (since many/most women are NOT in high powered jobs where they can just take a leave of absence.)
She must prepare herself for the constant questioning and doubt from the people who she seeks help from.
If there is a court involved, she will be dragged through the mud and her life will be turned inside out, even though she is the victim..Why? Because she will not be believed, and by the time this all happens, she will be months/years beyond the experience.
In a perfect world, she would just make an appointment with her own doctor and be tested for the various possibilities, and the decisions would be hers to make.
It's nice to think that a rapist will be found, prosecuted, and jailed, but many rapes don't happen that way.
They often happen when a Daddy violates his daughter, or when a date decides that sex is her "share of dinner", or when a wild party gets waaay too wild or when a flattered younger girl gets herself into a dangerous situation with a solicitous older guy.
It can also happen with a stranger , but I suspect that is pretty rare.
In any case, not all women want to "widen the trauma". They want the confidentiality of one women and one doctor, and together THEY will decide what happens next. With so many women lacking health insurance, the ones who need assistance will probably be the ones who will be required to prove "forcible".
By making "forcible rape" a special legal entity, different from just plain old rape, they are adding a level of scrutiny...an extra dose of shame..especially if a pregnancy occurs.
As counter-intuitive as it may sound, confidentiality and empathy (as well as medical treatment) is more valuable to many than police involvement.
disclaimer:
I am NOT talking about serial rapists who break into homes .. Obviously that is a different thing altogether. Those victims are rarely asked to prove "forcible".