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Wife of Sandy Hook father Jeremy Richman speaks out for the first time since his suicide, saying he succumbed to the grief that he could not escapeBy NICHOLAS RONDINONE | HARTFORD COURANT | MAR 28, 2019 | 3:17 PM
Jenniffer Hensel, holding a portrait of her daughter, Sandy Hook School shooting victim Avielle Rose Richman, stands with her husband Jeremy Richman at a news conference at Edmond Town Hall in Newtown, Conn., Monday, Jan. 14, 2013. (Jessica Hill/AP)
Jennifer Hensel, the wife of Jeremy Richman, said her husband succumbed to the grief from the death of their daughter, Avielle, who was among the 20 first-grade students and six educators gunned down in the Sandy Hook massacre.
Richman, 49, was found dead at Edmond Town Hall in Newtown on Monday. His death was ruled a suicide.
In the note, posted to a fundraising page established by a relative, Hensel wrote: Side by side since 1991, Jeremy and I walked a path of deep friendship, marriage, and parenthood. As you may know, our first born, our beautiful Avielle, was murdered at Sandy Hook school in 2012.
Hensel and Richman, both scientists, started a foundation in honor of Avielle in 2013 that was dedicated to researching how brain health is tied to violence. The Avielle Foundation maintained an office in Edmond Town Hall.
On the foundations website, the couple described Avielle as having a grand spirit of adventure and was willing to bravely try new things. They said she loved her school and took great pride in the community she had at Sandy Hook Elementary School.
Richmans death Monday sent a shock of grief through the Newtown community, where the family stayed after the deadly mass shooting. It prompted many to consider the lasting impact of these tragedies and how grief can persist.
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marble falls
(57,084 posts)take years to play out.
easttexaslefty
(1,554 posts)You learn to live with it. Hopefully.
Kitchari
(2,166 posts)..."how grief can persist," even though they channeled their grief into a foundation to help people. Just heartbreaking.
UpInArms
(51,284 posts)that, if something should happen to my son, they would just need to dig a bigger hole
Tipperary
(6,930 posts)He must have been beyond rational thought from the horrible grief to have left his wife behind to deal with yet another death. Such a tragedy.
femmedem
(8,203 posts)that eventually the people they leave behind will be better off.
You're right: it isn't rational. But sometimes people (not you) think that suicide is a selfish act, but that isn't usually how the people see it when in the midst of their depression.
I say this as someone who lost a loved one to suicide several decades ago.
Tipperary
(6,930 posts)What you say is so right. But still so sad.
aikoaiko
(34,170 posts)The legacy of suicide is tragic.
https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/news/media/releases/children_who_lose_a_parent_to_suicide_more_likely_to_die_the_same_way
treestar
(82,383 posts)the tragedy, the article says.
womanofthehills
(8,709 posts)Bad situation.
Tipperary
(6,930 posts)My heart breaks for her and those children.
Act_of_Reparation
(9,116 posts)$1 for kids, $2 for adults. A truly screwy, dissonant juxtoposition of emotion and memory.
CDerekGo
(507 posts)that azzhat Alex Jones to this day says Newtown was fake. I wonder if all of that didn't play on Mr Richman. There's only so much an individual can take.
hotrod0808
(323 posts)We all lose a parent, or a friend, or a colleague. It is expected. To lose one to murder is tragic. Nothing will ever top the loss of a child, which is devastating. To lose one to murder, I assume, is even worse than that. No matter how many other kids a person has, no matter how much they love their wife or family, no matter how good they are at their job, that void still remains and there is a feeling of failure to protect or fix your child. My heart goes out to those who survive the loss of Avielle and Jeremy. If someone reads this and feels like Jeremy did, I implore you to reach out to a professional, a friend, or even the hotline at 1-800-273-8255. Let one of us help you make it through another day, and we will worry about tomorrow when that gets here.
aikoaiko
(34,170 posts)Last edited Fri Mar 29, 2019, 05:08 PM - Edit history (1)
Depression and suicide advocates ask us to switch our terminology so that we don't reinforce suicide as a sin and stigmatize those who might be suffering.
barbtries
(28,795 posts)the pain ripples and ripples and ripples out
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)In addition to the tragedy of his daughter's death, apparently Alex Jones and his evil minions just hounded him to death and told him his daughter was still alive and that SH was all a hoax, etc. These people are beyond depraved. It makes me so angry to think of what they are doing to the surviving family members.
B Stieg
(2,410 posts)Slowly or quickly, either way...
llmart
(15,539 posts)What a sick country that worships these things.
This picture and story is heartbreaking.