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When I moved to a white neighborhood, my life became a series of incidents like the one in Central Park.https://slate.com/human-interest/2020/05/amy-cooper-central-park-racism-video.html
By AYMANN ISMAIL
In 2016, I was coming back to my apartment in Greenpoint, Brooklyn, after a long afternoon of playing basketball with old friends. I was about to head upstairs, but I saw a missed call that I figured Id return outside rather than annoy my roommates through the thin walls. A few minutes later, I looked up and saw that two NYPD officers had cornered me. They wanted to see my ID, which I didnt have. They asked if I lived in the building. They said someone had complained about someone loitering in front of their apartment. I assured them that I too lived there, and had every right to be there taking a phone call. They insisted that I prove it to them by opening the lock with my key. Sure officer, no problem.
I chose to live in Greenpoint because I really like the G train, which connects Queens and North Brooklyn with other Brooklyn neighborhoods to the south. I hadnt once considered that there are a lot of white people who live there, and that I, an Arab-American, might stand out. I had lived in that apartment for about half a year. I went out of my way to present myself as friendly. Maybe it was the sweaty basketball shorts, or maybe the white woman on the bottom floor had gotten tired of me locking my bike to the handrail and wanted to send a message. There was no way to be sure. But I held on to that paranoia. I had always been afraid of the police. I had experienced enough of those random searches to catch on to the fact that theyre hardly random. As early as 14, I had my backpack emptied out on my way to school by a police officer who said I fit a profile, and that kind of extra attention became routine. They told me they needed to be sure. I learned to see the police as a threat.
It wasnt until I moved to New York City in 2013 that I began extending that fear to my white neighbors. I first noticed it in myself. I assumed that white people would see me as threatening, so Id try to disarm them and do little things to assure my innocence. Sometimes, its as innocuous as a wide smile at a gas station. Other times, itd be more deliberate, like crossing the street when someone white was in my trajectory. I didnt want to spook anyone, so I didnt give them a chance to be spooked. In Central Park on Monday morning, a white woman named Amy Cooper was filmed by a black man who was there bird watching. He asked her to leash her dog, and she responded by calling 911 and lying to the operator that she was being threatened by an African American male. She emphasized his race many times.
Theres no doubt that she was aware how many NYPD officers handle encounters with black men. Cooper was pleading to the police to show up guns blazing because she didnt like that a black man told her to put her dog on a leash. Both Cooper and the man in the video were gone when the police arrived. Thats lucky. I didnt have to confront a white woman in the park to experience situations like this. Once I was put in handcuffs for being on a subway platform standing on my skateboard because someone told a police officer they felt unsafe. Another time I was in a car with other brown men, and we were asked to exit the vehicle so the officers could pat us down and search the car; it wasnt clear if someone had complained, or if the officers were just making sure we knew we were being watched. Sometimes it was more mundane. Once I was at a bar and was confronted by a bouncer after putting down my empty glass on a table just past a huddle of white women. This all took a toll. I was anxious and suspicious of my neighbors all the time, because I had no idea who might see me as a threat. Eventually I couldnt do it anymore.
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greenjar_01
(6,477 posts)Celerity
(46,154 posts)Wednesdays
(19,237 posts)What, exactly, is the point being presented?
Celerity
(46,154 posts)ismnotwasm
(42,372 posts)Cmon now. Dont be shy. Say what you mean. Gifs are for ambiguity, and racism in America is not a topic to be ambiguous about on a Democratic discussion board.
Hekate
(93,492 posts)tulipsandroses
(5,819 posts)White Fragility should be compulsory reading for every white person in America. Dr. D'Angelo should be pumped into the airwaves of every household. But that's just wishful thinking. She hits the nail on the head every time I listen to her.
https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/white-fragility-why-its-so-hard-to-talk-to-white-people-about-racism-twlm/
Celerity
(46,154 posts)abqtommy
(14,118 posts)can be identified as "fragile"... Just trying to keep things real...
tulipsandroses
(5,819 posts)before responding. It will provide you with context. I will leave it at that.
abqtommy
(14,118 posts)Celerity
(46,154 posts)compulsory reading for every white person That is not saying every person exhibits White Fragility, but it is the best way to reach every one that does. It isn't like you can read minds. I would add every person, regardless of colour. It needs to be part of the civic education, same as other components are.
ismnotwasm
(42,372 posts)A good primer for such folks is to look at what Whiteness means. Especially as a social power structure.
dalton99a
(83,248 posts)smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)I'm white, and this shit pisses me off. I can't stand injustice wherever it occurs, no matter what the color, race, sex, sexual orientation, religion of the victim. I don't have a problem with people criticizing white fragility or entitlement or "Karens" because I see it all the time.
Probably not as clearly as a person of color, but I do see it. I don't take it as a personal affront. I don't behave like these people, but I can see how enough white people do for there to make the stereotype legitimate. Sometimes, it really embarrasses me to be white because I don't want other people to think I am just like "one of them". I don't get it. I really don't.
Joinfortmill
(15,751 posts)summer_in_TX
(3,042 posts)The longer I live the more sensitized I've become to the constant pain so many people of color live with much of the time.
It's not that I was raised in a racist home. Far from it. My parents were huge supporters of the Civil Rights Movement, and as a teen I read and was profoundly moved by King's books, "Letter from a Birmingham Jail," and "Stride Toward Freedom."
At some point I realized all my well-meaning assurances to black people that I was liberal was part of the constant burden they bear. The burden of never being allowed to forget their color and to just be. To be one among many human beings. I became aware how bone-tired many were from carrying that burden.
I'm in a book club that meets on Tuesdays by Zoom these days. One member is a beautiful black woman, a former professional ballerina. She'd learned this morning about Amy Cooper and the cop who killed George Floyd who was unarmed, handcuffed, and on the ground. Her pain was huge. Part of it was fear for her brothers, educated professional men in their sixties whose skin is much darker than hers.
The pervasive fear and pain, mixed with righteous anger that rarely is satisfied by seeing justice applied equally, was something that all of us who know and love her could feel in a way that I don't think any of us white friends would have known otherwise. She was hurting so much she kept having to turn her face away from the screen to fight the emotions welling up.
And though it's not as deep and pervasive as hers, I am living with the pain of knowing that beautiful human beings are being treated as despised, worthless, or feared. I still haven't recovered from the horror of James Byrd being tied up and dragged behind a truck and killed. I don't think I've ever cried so much. And all these videos. What is being perpetrated in the United States pervasively is horrific. I'm sick and I'm tired, and I can't stand doing things that I've done before that have made no difference at all. It's worse than it has been for decades. I don't know what to do exactly. I'm looking.
In the meantime I signed up this afternoon with A Poor Peoples Campaign, A National Call for Moral Revival.
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