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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsPoll for those who supported Hillary in '16 primary and the use of label "Karen"
48 votes, 2 passes | Time left: Unlimited | |
I oppose the use of such a label | |
17 (35%) |
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I don't use it myself but don't mind if others do | |
2 (4%) |
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I haven't used it yet but may do so in the future. | |
5 (10%) |
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I have used the label and see no problem with it. | |
24 (50%) |
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2 DU members did not wish to select any of the options provided. | |
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dawg day
(7,947 posts)I doubt they were all named "Karen", but as a white woman who voted for Hillary, I do wonder if some of them expressing themselves now with this sort of passive-aggressive "whatever you're doing is not fair TO ME" behavior.
It does seem like many white-women-trump-voters are changing their mind. It's embarrassing it's taken this long.
spooky3
(36,583 posts)Still too high (47%) but lower/better than 52%.
https://time.com/5422644/trump-white-women-2016/
Squinch
(53,459 posts)lower number.
StarfishSaver
(18,486 posts)so there's that ...
Squinch
(53,459 posts)StarfishSaver
(18,486 posts)whathehell
(29,922 posts)and among college educated White Women, they were a Minority..All of them were GREATLY out numbered by White MEN, so the need for all this "shame" and "embarrassment" is being way overstated.
spooky3
(36,583 posts)They need to focus primarily on white men who voted for Trump or third party candidates.
whathehell
(29,922 posts)delisen
(6,653 posts)This foolish meme started out as a label to smear women as unjustified complainers regarding poor service. It was used to promote the false idea that men do not complain and women are petty. It was used to try to keep women from asserting themselves in the public space-particularly older women who are often rendered invisible and discriminated against in our society and are the p
referred victims of con men because they have already been dismissed by society as of little value.
As some people decided to use it as a gendered term for incidents of visible white female racist behavior it met with much glee on the part of some on DU and has now morphed further into calls for
and promotion of violence against women. It is not just the right that has become more authoritarian in recent years.
Unjust societies which have used fear violence, segregation, otherization, bullying, denigration to bind themselves together and maintain their preferred power structure and status quo do not easily become just societies. First they engage in divide and conquer techniques .and then move to .make sure scapegoating continues by any means possible -as long as our society succeeds in doing this, we never achieve the just society.
snort
(2,334 posts)Caliman73
(11,767 posts)No choice for that category.
It is complicated. What we are seeing is intersectionality. Two historically oppressed groups (Black people and Women) who are unfortunately interacting in a way that is problematic.
Sexism is as old as Racism. The absurdity of it all is that Rich White Men are responsible for BOTH and yet we see two disadvantaged groups going at it instead of putting the blame where it really lays.
White Male Supremacy must go!
Kaleva
(38,732 posts)Caliman73
(11,767 posts)Understanding people's objection to the use, does not make it offensive to me.
When I hear the name Karen, I do not immediately think "racist" or "a sexist meme".
I actually try to see the context.
There was a DU'er that was called "Karen" because she asked her neighbors to consider the psychological well being of her pets when launching illegal fireworks. That is a misuse and offensive.
The shorthand Karen, has been adopted by Black people to describe the BBQ Becky's, Dorm room Debbie's, Picnic Patty's, etc... who call police on Black people occupying "normal spaces" or another way, just living and being (but Black).
It is not a great situation for anyone.
Kaleva
(38,732 posts)I took that to mean you opposed it.
Caliman73
(11,767 posts)It is a complicated issue the strays from a binary description.
I can certainly sympathize with women who feel it is offensive to ALL women, even though I may not necessarily agree in specific contexts.
DonaldsRump
(7,715 posts)I can't take credit for this: I read it in a Youtube comment on a video about Kar*ns.
WhiskeyGrinder
(24,187 posts)qazplm135
(7,555 posts)Not do I have a problem with John being used for toilets for example. Buster, Nervous Nelly, or other names tied to specific characters.
Karen is a euphemism just like the others. It very clearly is shorthand. It does not literally mean all women named Karen everywhere.
Beakybird
(3,396 posts)mr_lebowski
(33,643 posts)If one must compromise.
I'm not planning to.
Tommy_Carcetti
(43,622 posts)..."It's lame, tired, unimaginative and has long seen its day"?
jorgevlorgan
(11,063 posts)It is not a term for all white women. There have been videos of "Karens" where it is not actually clear it is a "Karen." On the other hand, it really isnt fair for anybody actually named Karen who isnt bigoted.
whathehell
(29,922 posts)Why not the same for white women? Why are they being singled out for a snide nickname?
As one honest poster who identified as "not white and not a woman" admitted, "It's just misogyny'.
jorgevlorgan
(11,063 posts)whathehell
(29,922 posts)Now, let's see if it's put into practice.
EarnestPutz
(2,718 posts)....a few women named Karen and they are sweet people who deserve a little consideration.
lame54
(37,272 posts)Dick Peter John Roger or Felicia
What the fuck is so special about Karen?
EarnestPutz
(2,718 posts)treestar
(82,383 posts)Dick was never related to calling a penis that, it's short for Richard. However, it just refers to a part of male anatomy, nothing done by people named Dick.
Peter?
John?
Roger?
All the same thing, I imagine.
Felicia - again not used to describe behavior or attribute a behavior to a group of people.
lame54
(37,272 posts)treestar
(82,383 posts)Can't believe liberals are defending a sex based slur.
mr_lebowski
(33,643 posts)You have got to be kidding me right now.
People named Karen are not a historically persecuted peoples.
Give me a break. This is political correctness seriously run amok.
dsc
(52,725 posts)All righty then.
mr_lebowski
(33,643 posts)If the word was 'Harpy' or 'B*tch' or the like, I would see your point.
dsc
(52,725 posts)now is it? And I have seen a whole bunch of calling women Karen for daring to stand up for themselves when in stores having nothing at all to do with race. This is a term that basically means what you wrote here but as you note can't be said without being universally acknowledged as sexist. If a woman is being racist, call her a racist. If a man is being racist, call him a racist. The fact is whenever a woman dares stand up for herself she is called a name.
mr_lebowski
(33,643 posts)Are you complaining there's no generic name like 'Ken' for men who act like this?
If not, I would say that's more an oversight or coincidence than anything else.
Pretty sure it was just actual name of a women who was filmed being racist early on, it was like 'Campground Karen' or something (there was also 'Barbeque Becky' in Oakland, CA called the PoPo on the black family barbequing w/charcoal on the lawn at Lake Merritt ... Becky was her real name).
People have just arbitrarily stopped finding out the real name of the person and applying another word to match with it like 'Campground' and using a previous offender named Karen, as a generic.
There probably was just no famous male version, otherwise we'd call these racist dudes 'Ken' or whoever it was. I think that's totally arbitrary.
I don't condone referring to women as Karen just for standing up for themselves, for the record. This moniker should be reserved for racists since that's the association everyone made early on.
Being a "Karen" means being a female racist, caught on video.
What's wrong with having a simple name for the phenomenon?
jorgevlorgan
(11,063 posts)As the bigoted Male version.
mr_lebowski
(33,643 posts)"Donald"
that will even things out right?
Assuage these sexism complaints?
jorgevlorgan
(11,063 posts)Or "Trump" even would work. It would also rile him up and keep us focused on him as the symbol of hate and intolerance. He is after all surely one who helped inspire some of these these tirades.
dsc
(52,725 posts)and there is a generic term, racist.
mr_lebowski
(33,643 posts)I'm going with there was no famous, early (and alliterative) 'Campground Karens' (or whatever it was), or 'Barbeque Beckys' in male form, such that a particular person's name 'stuck' in the public sphere.
I don't think that's to do with gender. I think it's a coincidence.
If we all agree to start calling all the dudes in racist vids "Donald", will things be okay then?
Kali
(55,941 posts)also I have a family member named Karen who fits the stereotype to a T.
LanternWaste
(37,748 posts)Cool bait, but missing subtly when casting the line.
RGinNJ
(1,027 posts)Crunchy Frog
(27,179 posts)It's a nickname, not your given name. You could have just as easily chosen to go with Rich, or Rick, or some other variant.
Karen is a given name, so not the exact same thing.
JenniferJuniper
(4,550 posts)spicysista
(1,731 posts)Men whom exhibit "Karen" like behavior are often referred to as Chad, Ian, or Ken. There are some subtle differences by region, though.
https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term="IAN"%20%28male%20Karen%29
StarfishSaver
(18,486 posts)spicysista
(1,731 posts)hunter
(39,116 posts)I think I'll pass on this one.
edhopper
(35,127 posts)is a very Karen thing to do.
BannonsLiver
(18,342 posts)Squinch
(53,459 posts)Seriously. It's only fair that you answer this question.
If it matters, I am a bit tired of the joke now, but I am not particularly bothered by it.
jcgoldie
(12,046 posts)...but I feel the term is a bit misogynistic and I'm assuming the op was trying for a sample to leave out a certain segment of responders.
Kaleva
(38,732 posts)Where it was stated that there was a connection between the misogyny and sexism directed against Hillary back in 2016 and the use of the label.
"My guess is, if examined, we'd also find a fair amount of overlap between "Karen" perps and those who directed misogynistic malice toward Hillary.".
Squinch
(53,459 posts)which has a female gender and for which there is no male counterpart. But I feel we have bigger hills to die on.
We live in a world where misogyny and sexism are ingrained deep inside everyone and everything in our culture. If you think it's not ingrained in you, you are a bigger problem than if you know it is ingrained in you and regret that fact. It's a lot like racism that way.
It is deeply ingrained in me and I am a feminist woman.
It seemed like the sum total of the fear and hatred and malice that our culture has toward woman found a target in Hillary. When I saw the venom with which people treated Hillary, I became more aware of the venom and hatred our society holds toward me and all other women.
I don't really find the Karen joke to be on the same level as that filth and hatred that was thrown at Hillary. It DOES have elements of that hatred, given that racism has no gender and within the (not very significant) Karen joke, only women are being blamed for it. I don't use the term. I see why others are bothered by it. I am too exhausted by our world to fight against it. As I say, there are bigger things using up my energy.
But, hell. DU has taught me things in the past. Maybe I will learn that it is more powerful and insidious than I am thinking it is.
hunter
(39,116 posts)My family, and my wife's family, are matriarchal. Misogynists are quietly disposed of.
My great grandmas were Wild West, better than any man with a gun or a knife. And maybe worse, their tongues were so sharp they could kill a man with their words.
My wife is of a similar Wild West matriarchal family, and some of her ancestors were here long before that idiot sociopath Columbus crash landed in the Western hemisphere.
I haven't used "Karen" as anything more than a sarcastic response to the meme itself.
Sigh.
Misogyny exists on the left and the right.
I recall pot smoking guys my age who wore Birkenstocks, tie-dye tee shirts, wire rim glasses, and ate granola, but they were not any less misogynistic than the Ronald Reagan Republicans they despised. So maybe you've got something there. They probably voted for that white guy savior Bernie Sanders. I don't know that because I no longer converse with them.
Please don't alert on this post.
The last thing I want to do is make memes.
Kaleva
(38,732 posts)If one accepts the results of the poll, then it appears that the great majority of Hillary supporters here don't have an issue with the meme and it's only a minority that does. And i think we would both agree that, based on the poll results, the use of "Karen" here isn't going away. Which makes me wonder why anyone who opposes its use would prefer to remain a member of a forum that accepts it. Kind of like a liberal being a member of a church tat says that gays are destined for hell and abortions ought to be illegal. My guess is that "Karen" really isn't that big a deal but that's just my opinion.
boston bean
(36,534 posts)texasfiddler
(2,194 posts)She couldnt be further from the caricature that the name implies. She is empathetic, caring and selfless. It hasnt bothered her until it started being connected with racist women.
USALiberal
(10,877 posts)rictofen
(246 posts)Now it's "Karen". It may be something else soon. But whatever term is currently en vogue, I sense it gets used at DU for reasons beyond merely calling out problematic behaviors or attitudes in white people.
EarnestPutz
(2,718 posts)LeftInTX
(31,198 posts)Hassin Bin Sober
(26,812 posts)Steelrolled
(2,022 posts)actually seem to be nice people. It just goes to show.
LeftInTX
(31,198 posts)Ivanka is the epitome of white privilege.
JustABozoOnThisBus
(23,862 posts)Didn't vote for HRC until the general.