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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsMy sister with colon cancer (on hospice) took a turn for the worse today.
I drove down and just laid in bed with her. And just talked. and let her talk and talk when she could . She was sucking down the morphine and taking Dilaud like crazy. The Hospice nurse came and cathed her because she wasn't outputting. .I think it scared her greatly. She wasn't expecting things to be this fast. She has lost 100 lbs.
tblue37
(65,408 posts)sheshe2
(83,791 posts)hlthe2b
(102,292 posts)I'll be thinking of you.
mcar
(42,334 posts)Cancer is the worst. I am glad for your sister that she is on hospice care. I lost both my parents to cancer, and a beloved SIL.
I hope your sister's journey is pain-free and peaceful.
SheltieLover
(57,073 posts)I'm glad you are having some time together.
Jim__
(14,077 posts)Croney
(4,661 posts)She was 59.
Its good that you had time to talk. I hope she experiences comfort and peace.
lunasun
(21,646 posts)chillfactor
(7,576 posts)spend all the time you can with your sister and cherish each moment.
gademocrat7
(10,659 posts)spanone
(135,844 posts)Laura PourMeADrink
(42,770 posts)going thru.
mobeau69
(11,145 posts)crickets
(25,981 posts)I'm glad to hear that she has medicine for the pain. You are a wonderful sister to be there for her, to listen to her and to give her comfort. My love and strength goes out to you both and to your family to get through this time.
majdrfrtim
(318 posts)FWIW
mountain grammy
(26,624 posts)blogslut
(38,002 posts)I wish peace and mercy for you both.
MLAA
(17,298 posts)Hekate
(90,714 posts)Know that she will be at peace and beyond all suffering
cayugafalls
(5,641 posts)I know it must be hard, but she knows you love her.
Much love, demtenjeep.
MontanaMama
(23,322 posts)Peace be with you and your sister.
Hoyt
(54,770 posts)Sugarcoated
(7,724 posts)Colon cancer at 36. It's all about love...
onecaliberal
(32,864 posts)JudyM
(29,251 posts)Precious time together for both of you, sharing love. I treasure memories of those days before my dad passed. Wishing both of you comfort and peace.
Niagara
(7,627 posts)Last edited Mon Aug 17, 2020, 09:32 AM - Edit history (1)
Sending you and your family strength.
raging moderate
(4,305 posts)Love to you, and Love to your sister!
We are all temporary. Our love is true forever.
Illumination
(2,458 posts)still_one
(92,219 posts)diva77
(7,643 posts)CaliforniaPeggy
(149,640 posts)I am sure she was very glad that you were there with her. Nothing says love like being there in person.
I hope she passes easily, without pain or struggle.
Blessings to you both.
WheelWalker
(8,955 posts)Gore1FL
(21,132 posts)But the fact that you are there for the moments before speaks volumes. I feel fortunate to have siblings that behave like like you.
Find peace in this horror. When faced with this, you know you did everything right.
Docreed2003
(16,863 posts)You and your sister will be in our thoughts!
PoindexterOglethorpe
(25,862 posts)Can I say I'm glad you have gotten this time with her?
It is always incredibly difficult to lose someone you are close to. I know. It doesn't matter if that person is, like your sister, in hospice and so you already know her end is near, or anyone of the many sudden things that can happen.
Keep in mind that we here at DU love you very much.
lunatica
(53,410 posts)Im so sorry.
electric_blue68
(14,912 posts)that I love very much and visa versa ... (we've both through medical scares).
I'm so sorry you are near it seems to losing yours
I'm glad you got to be with her. It means a lot.
A few years before my mom died (she had some pre existing conditions) I said to myself because I knew I was going to be devastated... "she wouldn't want me to be too sad for too long" (because she loved me).
You will grieve how ever you will.
I know it helped me from truely as devastating as it was going into a very deep nosedive.
I wish you strength, and hopefully all the support you would want, need.
fierywoman
(7,686 posts)GeoWilliam750
(2,522 posts)kimbutgar
(21,163 posts)So sorry.
peggysue2
(10,832 posts)Lost my sister in January. It's hard. Really, really hard.
Best to you and your family.
renate
(13,776 posts)Make sure she knows she will be remembered. I think thats the fear we all have... that after were gone our lives wont have mattered and we wont be remembered. Reassure her that she will still be part of family gatherings and celebrations.
Honestly, she has thousands of people here thinking of her right now. She is held in love right now. You and she are not alone.
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)I can't imagine how difficult this must be for both of you. It is so wonderful that you can be there for her during this time to ease her fear and pain. My thoughts are with you both at this difficult time.
Demovictory9
(32,457 posts)dlk
(11,569 posts)Sending prayers of comfort and peace to you both.
Demsrule86
(68,586 posts)through.
malaise
(269,054 posts)and no pain
babylonsister
(171,070 posts)enduring this years ago. It is so tough to see a loved one go through this awful cancer; I am glad you have hospice to help you. I hope she can find some comfort, and you, too.
demtenjeep
(31,997 posts)this sister is 10 years older than me.
When I was born, our mom had blood clots and had to have extended stays in the hospital.
My sister stayed home from school to take care of me. It was noticed and the school called and accused her of being my mom so women from the church stepped in so she could go back to school.
She is like my second mom and I love her so much. When I hug her there is nothing there to hug
renate
(13,776 posts)You probably feel helpless and as though youre not making a big enough difference, but honestly, your presence and love must mean the absolute world to her. You are giving her something so important and precious. As ill as she is, she is feeling cherished, and that is such a wonderful feeling.
hedda_foil
(16,375 posts)Your visit with her today sounds like it means the world to her. I know how hard it is to watch her vitality care but the love you share between you will always endure.
❤❤❤❤❤
myccrider
(484 posts)This hurts the heart. So sorry for you both having to go through this. Hope you can spend more quality time with her and that she is kept comfortable.
North Shore Chicago
(3,316 posts)to embrace your sister.
boston bean
(36,221 posts)I do not think I can write anymore, but please know my heart is with you all.
panader0
(25,816 posts)Being with her is all you can do and she needs it. Be strong for her.
Both parents and my best friend died alone. I "knew" they were bad but didn't realize
they'd be gone so quick. I'd love to have those few days back to be with them at the end.
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)I've been there and I know that feeling of helplessness... wanting to savor every moment... dreading the moment that the end arrives... and feeling guilty at my own sense of relief. The next few hours, days and weeks will be difficult for you and your family. I hope you're able to draw strength from each other.
Good luck to you all.