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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsA wild and crazy place to retire: The Villages in Florida
'It hasn't been the fantasy land I thought it would be': New documentary goes inside the creepy Utopia for senior citizens that belies a sinister underbelly of racism, orgies, drunken debauchery and a make-believe history
*New documentary, 'Some Kind of Heaven' explores the dark underside of America's largest retirement community known as 'The Villages' in central Florida with a notorious swingers scene
*The community was designed to be a manicured fantasy land for seniors aged 55+ ; grandchildren and visitors under the age minimum are strictly prohibited to visit for more than 30 calendar days
*It's dubbed 'the Disneyland for retirees' because the neighborhoods are designed like a theme park to imitate old town squares, complete with make-believe histories; residents say its like living in a 'bubble'
*The developers own the a TV channel, multiple radio stations and newspaper that only prints positive news
*Critics say The Villages are like a creepy Stepford cult for Baby Boomers with Orwellian-like rules that are dictated by an elusive family worth billions of dollars
*According to the US Census, The Villages is the fastest growing metro in the United States where the population rose by 37.8% between 2010-2019; homes cost between $100K to $1million
*The Villages is larger than the size of Manhattan and covers 32 square miles of property with 130,000 residents, five zip codes, 50 golf courses, 100 rec centers, 11 dog parks, 14 supermarkets
*There are 2,700 social and recreational clubs for residents that include one for: singles, Beatlemaniacs, synchronized swimming, softball, cheerleading and retired CIA members
*The Villages were 'designed to hide all of the problems of everyday life' says first time documentarian, Lance Oppenheim - his film follows the lives of four seniors that live on the fringe of the fantasy
The sprawling expanse of flat emptiness in central Florida is an unlikely place for America's fastest growing metro area in the nation. Yet, just 70 miles northwest of Orlando sits 'The Villages' the world's largest retirement community that surpasses the size of Manhattan and encompasses five zip codes with an ever-growing population.
Spanning 32-square-miles, The Villages is a veritable boom-town for baby boomers aged 55+ who flock to the geriatric paradise in droves for its endless margarita mixers (happy hour starts at 11am), unlimited golf courses (50, to be exact), and notorious for its laissez-fair attitude towards sex, thriving swingers scene, and controversial politics.
'I'm just saying for me, it hasn't been the fantasy land I thought it would be, for reasons that are true to my own,' said Barbara Lochiatto, a widow from Boston who has lived in The Villages for 12-years and longs to return to her hometown but can no longer afford to do so.
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For many, The Villages are a Utopian fantasyland. Giant swathes of ready-made track homes and manicured lawns dot the pre-fab neighborhoods in Stepford-like uniformity. An elusive billionaire family lords over the master planned community that boasts 100 recreation centers, 89 swimming pools, 11 dog parks, one polo-field, 14 grocery stores, 2,700 social clubs (from bingo to hot-air ballooning to golf cart drill team) and even its own radio station, newspaper and television channels.
More: https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-9147745/Inside-Utopian-Disneyland-retirees-belies-sinister-underbelly-racism-orgies.html
dhol82
(9,353 posts)A true horror.
jimfields33
(15,978 posts)They had 4 people. A homeless guy, a couple and a single guy. All unhappy. There are over 100,000 people living there and they couldnt interview people who like it? At least have balance. I guess that is the reason it was a huge bomb making only 38,000 WORLDWIDE!
Kingofalldems
(38,487 posts)Sounds like hell to me. Don't know why you are defending the place.
SergeStorms
(19,204 posts)"hell" is being most generous. I don't know where most of those people lived before retirement (I'm guessing tract homes with HOAs etc.) but it was way too regimented and uptight for this old boy. Why anyone would want to live there baffles me. Besides, there were just too damned many old people there. I like to have an eclectic mix of dudes and dudettes around me. I never knew there was a retired CIA club there though. That would creep me out.
SunSeeker
(51,726 posts)She said looking at all those frail old people depressed her. She liked to be around people of all ages, especially kids.
SergeStorms
(19,204 posts)Your Mom sounds like she's got a good head on her shoulders.
jimfields33
(15,978 posts)Now you could do a documentary on Berkeley and find four people that hate it. I live 10 miles from the villages and its weird but you make of it as you wish.
RobinA
(9,894 posts)I have an aunt who lives there. She is as blue as they come. Never lived in a place with a HOA in her life. Their other home is a ranch in Australia. I have no idea why they live there, because it is a tad Stepfordish, but it seems to work for them. I have no idea if they swing, but that's kinda their business.
SunSeeker
(51,726 posts)LanternWaste
(37,748 posts)Or are you simply guilty of the same one-sidedness and lack of balance you accuse the producer/director of?
Aristus
(66,467 posts)dchill
(38,546 posts)Raine
(30,540 posts)madaboutharry
(40,224 posts)I wonder what she is going to think about this documentary.
On edit: I just read the entire article at the link. I am officially worried!
LakeArenal
(28,847 posts)madaboutharry
(40,224 posts)She hated Trump as much as we all did. I wonder if her neighbors are speaking to her.
live love laugh
(13,141 posts)I have a niece who grew up politically informed as a Democrat. She moved to IAshes now Republican.
LakeArenal
(28,847 posts)They didnt like it. They felt that it was just old people waiting to die. Where every topic of conversation revolves around doctors appts, new prescriptions, gossip about other residents medical conditions.
They moved to a neighborhood with children and dogs.
Dem2theMax
(9,654 posts)And you pretty much described it.
But I doubt you've ever been here.
This is where my parents retired. And I inherited it. Financially, really can't get out of here. But how I wish I could!
We have a dog park here, and it is Gossip Central.
And yes, if you go to the dog park, you will also find out everyone's ailments.
It's actually a very active community. (When we're not having a pandemic.) But I do know people who have moved away because, just as your parents said, they felt like this was the waiting room for people getting ready to die. If you stay here long enough, that's exactly what's going to happen.
SergeStorms
(19,204 posts)And they're all pretty much the same. The amenities and cost of the homes are really the only differences. They're all pretty much "god's waiting room". Every town, village and city has them. Personally, I don't see what the attraction is.
Dem2theMax
(9,654 posts)I'm actually in a pretty upscale Mobile Home Park. The newer mobile homes, if someone blindfolded you and took you inside, and then took off the blindfold, you would never know you were in a mobile home.
I'm in a rural area, which is actually nice. And you can be as busy as you want to be, or just do your own thing.
Again, this was pre-pandemic times.
It was perfect for my parents. My dad was a workaholic, and it wasn't until he moved here that he learned how to relax. Sort of. And he discovered this little game of golf. So that was really good for him. My mom was quite the social butterfly, so she fit in really well.
But then you put an introvert like me into a place like this, and it doesn't work quite as well.
Thankfully, there are some incredible Democratic neighbors here. We all keep each other sane!
It's just like DU in that way!
SergeStorms
(19,204 posts)lived in a gated "mobile" home park too. There's nothing mobile about those double wides. I don't know why they keep calling them "mobile". They loved it there. They were country folk, so being around so many people their own age was unique for them. They lived in Sebring, FL, and after my Dad died I decided to retire and move to Florida just so my mom would have some family nearby. She wasn't in the best of health, so it seemed like the right thing to do. I didn't want to live too close though, if you know what I mean. I really miss vacationing down there now. This is the first year I haven't been to Florida in decades. I just don't want to travel with everything that's going on now. Enjoy the sun and warmth. Its 18 degrees right now in western New York. Brrrrrrrrrrr.
Dem2theMax
(9,654 posts)2,000 square feet for one person is more than I need!
I know what you mean about not wanting to live too close, but I ended up in the next bedroom. Parents had a lot of health issues their last seven years. They both passed in 2012.
I feel like one of the old-timers in this Village, although I'm actually one of the younger people living here. I would come visit my parents when they first moved here in the early 80s, so I got to know all of the 'original folks' who lived here. I think there are two left.
I'll try to send you some sunshine. It was 73 degrees here a couple of days ago. But it's getting chilly again. But it's nowhere near what you're experiencing!
Try to stay warm! And healthy! 🌞
SergeStorms
(19,204 posts)Yikes, you must get lost in that place. Do they still tax each part of the mobile separately? What I mean is, for a double wide my folks used to get two tax Bill's. For a triple they'd get three. I just thought that was a strange way to do things, but Florida is jam-packed with strange things. You know what I mean. Take care, and don't freeze to death or anything.
Dem2theMax
(9,654 posts)But any time you do paperwork for something related to the mobile home, you do have to list the number that is attached to each portion of the coach. Kind of a pain in the rear end to remember where the blueprints are when you need those numbers.
SergeStorms
(19,204 posts)My folks were in Highlands County, which is pretty funny when you realize the whole place is no more than 85 feet above sea level. "Highlands". Only in Florida.
Dem2theMax
(9,654 posts)PoindexterOglethorpe
(25,902 posts)criticizes the younger one for things like promiscuity. Tsk, tsk, tsk.
Wicked Blue
(5,854 posts)Baitball Blogger
(46,758 posts)Being around a bunch of creepy old conservative white men and women sounds like a nightmare.
No culture, no intellectual conversations no integrity. Sounds like a man's locker room.
SMC22307
(8,090 posts)dewsgirl
(14,961 posts)be ex husband used to work for a company and would spent all day there at least once a week. I was stunned at the sexual stories coming out of there.(not because of their ages, the severe irresponsibility as far as safety is what always got me).
It is a beautiful place and sounds idyllic, but when you look closer, I think a lot of people find themselves, likely in the same position as the person at the end of the story.
JI7
(89,276 posts)when they probably married early or because the girl got pregnant and just ended up staying married . IN later years they would probably not have gotten married.
So now they are living the life that younger single people do in modern times which they never got to do but without the awareness of safe sex.
dewsgirl
(14,961 posts)heaven.
One thing I forgot in my post, lots of marital/relationship issues caused by the free for all orgies.
Hekate
(90,829 posts)....yet, well I guess certain oldsters might feel very liberated by shriveled ovaries for the women and a steady supply of Viagra for the men. Woo-hoo. Lots of widows thinking they might as well find out what they missed so long ago.
And along those lines, it was several years ago that I read an interview with a doctor who was trying to get the word out about safe sex because the number of his retiree patients contracting VD was on the rise, up to and including AIDS, which they thought of as the gay disease.
nolabear
(41,991 posts)CatMor
(6,212 posts)The Villages sounds like an awful place full of conformity.
50 golf courses is unreal.
Corgigal
(9,291 posts)who thinks like me. We moved yup two states, with a college in town. I like the variety of people. Some from around the world. I dont want to live around all the same types of people, I dont think its good for us. Got to have others challenge the bubble now and then.
luvtheGWN
(1,336 posts)from Michigan several years ago. Yes, they were republicans through and through, and I'm sure they felt very much at home there. House was beside a golf course, and they didn't have to worry that anyone of colour might move in next door.
No, they never expressed any racist tendencies, but the more I learned about The Villages, I realized that this was perhaps a significant reason they chose to move there. His son (my nephew) is a trump supporter and listens avidly to rightwing media and believes the Q-Anon conspiracy theories. Ugh ugh ugh!
Anyhow, as a former Torontonian I too love diversity, but I'm not a golfer so if you love to play golf every day (with folks with the same epidermal colouring) I suppose it would be the place to be.
I do recall a news clip last October showing a parade of Democrats in their golf carts, so perhaps they were among the 30%?
CatMor
(6,212 posts)the fact that cocktails start at 11:00AM tells me they have too much time on their hands. That many golf courses is ridiculous. Too bad your nephew is a trumpet and follows the rightwing media. I always hope the younger generation is not into that brainwashing.
spooky3
(34,483 posts)Tanuki
(14,922 posts)enjoy living there.
Mariana
(14,861 posts)The number of people of color who live there is miniscule.
The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,869 posts)I can't imagine a more tedious, oppressive existence.
BigmanPigman
(51,635 posts)At the beginning of Covid many, many residents went out and socialized without masks. You would think that someone who is at risk would do anything they can to stay Covid free. I have noticed a change in the general attitude of the place over the last 3 months. More seniors are wearing masks and socially distancing than even a few months ago.
I wouldn't live there, even if you paid me.
Mariana
(14,861 posts)that I imagine now most residents know someone, or know someone who knows someone. My parents live there. They thought the dangers of Covid-19 were overblown, until one of their neighbors came home from the hospital with her lungs so damaged that she'll probably be on oxygen for the rest of her life.
BigmanPigman
(51,635 posts)in a paper for The Villages and it made me feel uneasy and creepy. The author referred to "Developer" several times in the article. It didn't say "the developer" or use anyone's name or company name. I assume that "Developer" must be the community's president but I could be wrong. It sounds very "Big Brother" to me.
Mariana
(14,861 posts)The Villages is a for-profit enterprise. The very name "The Villages" has been registered, for real. The signs say "Welcome to The Villages®" Check it out:
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BigmanPigman
(51,635 posts)in FL who told me aboit the senior sex life and millions of golf carts. My friends seem to like it so far. You won't catch me visiting them.
Celerity
(43,545 posts)mine so FUCK YOU' assholes)
Blue_true
(31,261 posts)Phoenix61
(17,019 posts)I like that all the yards in my neighborhood look different. I love decorating my house for Christmas. Christmas lights on Thanksgiving night to January 7th. Hanging out with people half my age is fun!
scarletlib
(3,418 posts)I want to live in a neighborhood with a mix of people young, old, different ethnicities etc.
beveeheart
(1,371 posts)He was a Democrat until, as he said, he realized republicans were better for his business and taxes. Money is his bottom line, how to get it, keep it, and keep the undeserving from getting any.
SunSeeker
(51,726 posts)I'm gad that you escaped that.
GaYellowDawg
(4,449 posts)Acquisition of money is her top priority in life, by far. Everything else is secondary. She divides men into two categories: 1) long-term prospects who can make her significantly richer (she already has a very good salary) and 2) temporary conveniences to meet her emotional/physical needs who can be easily discarded. I fell into the latter category. Fortunately, it was only a 7 month relationship and even though she put on a very good act, I hadn't committed to love before finding out what she was all about.
We're all better off without people like that.
llmart
(15,555 posts)My ex-husband was the same. Every thought seemed to revolve around money. As he got older he got more right wing. Hence, the divorce.
Generic Brad
(14,276 posts)I watched an interview with the director over the weekend on "The Village Newcomers" You Tube channel. He actually lived there for two years while he worked on his documentary. He made a film about non-conformists who he feels would be challenged to fit in anywhere they called home.
As I near retirement, the weather in Florida is beckoning and my wife and I have been exploring places we would like to move to. We probably will not settle in The Villages, but have taken a close look at it due to all the hobby possibilities that are supported there. I've noticed that Florida's elderly lean Republican, but that doesn't mean everybody does (just like where I currently live in Tennessee) and The Villages is no exception. And all the talk of STDs and sinkholes there is just that - sensationalized stories that have grown into urban legends. The vast majority are not indulging in Viagra benders while their homes rapidly disappear into porous Florida limestone.
Hortensis
(58,785 posts)going on here.
RockCreek
(739 posts)Between getting evicted from Mar a Lago and
Being admitted to a federal penitentiary.
If that non-extradition treaty country plan doesn't work out.
Just saying....
Coventina
(27,172 posts)Totally Tunsie
(10,885 posts)Life in The Villages sounds like a special kind of hell.
doc03
(35,382 posts)got divorced after less than three years in the Villages. I visited them the first year they were there. It is not for me
they are just a bunch of racist snobs. Most are Trump people that are afraid of the "other" and need to hide in a gated community,
like they tried to make our country. All the work in the Villages is done by brown and black people that live in
poverty outside the walls. No I wouldn't live there if you gave me a house. don't want to live behind a wall with a bunch of
racist snobs.
Squinch
(51,021 posts)kskiska
(27,048 posts)That was probably the first all-senior community ever - the biggest, anyway. It was unique when it opened. Just the idea of no families or children around excwpt to visit was controversial. You never hear about it anymore.
Coventina
(27,172 posts)called "Sun City West" because demand was so great.
It's a big, black hole where anything that's on the ballot or pro-education dies when the counts come in.
KentuckyWoman
(6,696 posts)They lasted a year. Now they in a regular suburban condo near Charlotte, NC.
He said Villages is an absolute cesspool. They would have left sooner but it took time to unload the cottage.
SoonerPride
(12,286 posts)Good god it sounds horrific.
I read the long article.
Terrifying.
LeftInTX
(25,566 posts)MelissaB
(16,420 posts)Really, half of the people associated with Trump.
PurgedVoter
(2,220 posts)I am not a number!
Patrick McGoohan didn't die. He was just relocated to this place.
CloudWatcher
(1,851 posts)I'm really surprised the entire article didn't reference the obvious inspiration for this place. Especially after mentioning the ex-CIA members!
lettucebe
(2,337 posts)Seems a stretch and I'm not buying it. I did not read article cuz I'm not in the mood to turn off my ad blocker so I'm really reacting to the title of this post and the snippets.
No matter where you live, you can run into people of this ilk -- and whether you like it or not, you are usually stuck with your neighbors unless you live on a boat.
Personal story as an aside: My husband and I used to go to Rooster Rock day-park, a WA State nude beach. For years, we'd spend most weekends out there. We had a large group of friends. Played volleyball, swam, sunbathed, just had a nice time. I took the kids too until they got to the age they didn't like it any more, so that was when we stopped going. Years later I ran into a member of the old group, and he told me he now ran the local swingers club. Wha? This was when I found out most all the group I'd been friends with for years were swingers. We never knew. Not a clue. There was really no reason to think anything was going on. Some were couples, some singles, just regular people.
Only clue was one time we were invited to some people's RV to play cards and were informed we'd be nude inside, both my husband and I were like, why? I like being nude in the sunshine -- not indoors. What's the point? I'm not really a nudist, more a sun worshiper (this was early sunscreen days). We thought it was odd, yet, but still didn't think much of it. Guess had we gone we might have gotten an earlier education.
Now, finding out they were all doing odd things after dark, it was shocking. We seriously had no idea. So, just because some are involved in that lifestyle, does not mean the entire community is. Just my 2 cents.
COLGATE4
(14,732 posts)STD's are absolutely rampant at the Villages. Seems the Seniors figure that birth control is no longer an issue and don't think too much about the nasty little microbes that can make your life (or at least going to the bathroom) a living hell. Some doctors are cleaning up there.
Mariana
(14,861 posts)The article does not say that the entire community is a sex-crazed bunch, nor does it say that there aren't any sex-crazed people elsewhere.
COLGATE4
(14,732 posts)in Florida my wife and I took a trip and looked at a bunch of planned retirement communities. Among those was The Villages, which had a promotion at the time to stay in a guest apartment, pay for one night and spend 2, with access to all the amenities.
We did it and I've never been so glad to get out of a place in my life. From dawn to dusk you are assaulted with "the pitch", about how this place is really heaven on earth. We both found it to be incredibly boring, oppressive and incorporating all the worst of small town America. BTW 70% for Trump strikes me as being seriously undercounted. I would have bet somewhere North of 90%.
Mariana
(14,861 posts)of registered voters who identify as Republican.
The Democrats in The Villages probably mostly keep their mouths shut except when they're amongst themselves, for fear of harassment from the Republican majority.
COLGATE4
(14,732 posts)Was definitely not a Democrat-friendly place.
AnnieBW
(10,460 posts)retirees have moved there. I refuse to. My husband wants to move to Florida to be closer to his mother, who is on the West Coast near Sarasota. To me, The Villages sounds like Hell on Earth. The only place worse would be the Catholic Disneyland that the owner of Domino's founded. Florida is too full of bugs, alligators, crazy people, and Republicans for me!
spooky3
(34,483 posts)I also liked Miami when I visited many years ago. I wonder whether its a city vs small town thing.
AnnieBW
(10,460 posts)My MIL is on the West Coast, between Sarasota and Ft. Myers. We often fly into Tampa when we visit her. It's a nice town. I visited there once for work in June and damn near melted from the humidity, though! Miami is a fun place to visit, but I wouldn't want to live there. I think it's a city vs. small-town thing. Or a "retirees vs. non-retirees" thing. A lot of people that retire to Florida have the "I got mine, f**k you" attitude. It's even worse during snowbird season.
Me, I'm too much of a non-conformist to fit in somewhere like The Villages.
BobTheSubgenius
(11,571 posts)That thread has officially unravelled and attention can be turned elsewhere. The residents are, by and large, conservative hedonists, which strikes me as very, very bizarre. I would not be popular there, at all...as most of the population of DU would not, I'd wager.
Did anyone ever see The Magic Christian? This is as outlandish as any of Sir Guy Grand's schemes.
Pluvious
(4,323 posts)... Priestess of the Whip !!
LOL
Pic with Ringo :
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0064622/mediaviewer/rm1650104320?ft0=name&fv0=nm0000079&ft1=image_type&fv1=still_frame&ref_=tt_ch
"A fiver? I can't change a bleed'n FIVER!!"
Initech
(100,105 posts)Raine
(30,540 posts)I guess she likes it fine but she's a Trumper so I guess that says it all ... I myself say YUCK!
Hortensis
(58,785 posts)Last edited Tue Feb 9, 2021, 04:14 AM - Edit history (1)
ugly that too often surfaces here. I don't know why the enmity toward this one of many thousands of retirement communities across the nation, but it reminds me of Hillary Hate. and of course the trumpists, in its eager virulence and thirst for supporting lies. Imo, that a majority of the 125,000 residents are conservative is no excuse for echoing what disgusts us in the worst of them. Over 40,000 Democrats and other liberals are there for each other too.
Our winter place is about a half hour away, extremely different at the end of a little rural road surrounded by beautiful marsh and wild preserve. (Spring's here and the frogs are croaking at each other out there.) It's a decrepit old 1200-sqft MH but has beautiful views out every window. We'll have dinner on the patio tomorrow also. We know a couple of couples, though, all Democrats, in The Villages and normally visit there a few times a year. The last time was to hit some yard sales and join friends for dinner and one of the outdoor concerts (which attract a lot of people who don't live there). We may not choose that for ourselves, but it's cheery and pleasant, and there are always a bunch of people out.
Yes, sadly, if you see one subdivision in America these days, you've basically seen all of them in that size and price range. So if anyone wants to check out the kind of houses that appeal to retirees in The Villages, just drive through any nice but affordable subdivision designed for retirees in your own town and take a gander. Add in walking, biking and golf cart trails, and lots of green space and amenities, as needed to get the idea. Don't forget to check skin color. Very white all right, but there are still more minorities in The Villages than most northern towns of its size, where the vast majority came from.
Move to The Villages to wait to die? THAT strikes me as the most determinedly ridiculous statement in a thread loaded with them. People move when they retire because they can and they go where they want.
Their ability to do so may burn some people's butts, but that's tough. After decades of work and obligations, retirees with a little means are finally free to do what they please.
It's later, often decades, that large numbers move back home, to be close to family when their independent years are ending. Anyone who chooses to think people move in with their children in order to wait to die can, they're certainly finally a lot closer to death, but that'd still be the most creepy and depressingly ugly possible way to view living one's final years. "Here, want to hold the baby, Nana?" "No, I'm waiting to die." Good grief.
Hekate
(90,829 posts)I think a little of The Villages would go a long way with me. You know, like visiting a friend for a week and then getting out of Dodge before the neighbors discover what you really think.
I hope most of the residents are happy there, but the regimentation and emphasis on pleasure-pleasure-pleasure sounds numbing, with echos of Aldous Huxleys Brave New World.
Roisin Ni Fiachra
(2,574 posts)of Covid in the Villages is high, compared to statewide and national averages.
hunter
(38,328 posts)I'll bet their neighbors in the real world were happy to see them go.
I like living in a place where I'm not forced to have a lawn, can paint my house any color I like, and work on my cars in the driveway.
My children are grown up and moved away, but there are still plenty of children running wild here, playing basketball and hide-and-seek, or drawing on the sidewalks with chalk.
We live near an elementary school which has been closed for the pandemic. I miss the sound of children making lots of noise during recess.
shrike3
(3,803 posts)However, I would NEVER live in a place like The Villages, or any planned development for that matter, because I would not be interested in any place that told me how often kids could visit me, what color my house can be, what kinds of pets I can have, etc. It's weird, the people who live in these places are probably complaining about mask-wearing because it infringes on their "freedoms."
Relatives of mine live there and they seem happy. They're Trumpers, of course. Florida does not appeal to me, and if I were to move to a warmer clime, it would be elsewhere. No offense meant to happy Floridians. To each his own.
raccoon
(31,126 posts)gldstwmn
(4,575 posts)wound too tight and was really into guns. He reminded me of Phil Spector.