My daughter-in-law and my baby granddaughter have COVID.

[mommymarine2003]

My son called a little bit ago and told us that his wife and baby, age 19 months, have COVID. My son is vaccinated, but his wife comes from an Evangelical family and refused to get vaccinated. We were going to babysit our granddaughter yesterday, but they both weren't feeling well, so everyone in my home was not exposed, thank goodness. My daughter-in-law flew to Arizona 10 days ago for a bachelorette party. They wanted to go to a place that did not require you to wear a mask. We live in Oregon where we have both indoor and outdoor mask mandates right now.

I am trying not to feel anger towards my daughter-in-law, but it is hard. It is so selfish that she exposed her child to this. My niece who lives in Washington State just recovered from COVID. She is vaccinated but still got the virus. She is no longer positive but is suffering from extreme fatigue.

I am starting to develop a strong resentment of anti-vaxxers.

[Skittles]

1. your DIL is a selfish asshole

disgusting

[blm]

2. Same feeling I developed.

So sad you’re going through this.

[elleng]

3. Good luck with trying not to feel anger.

[MustLoveBeagles]

4. I'm sorry about your granddaughter

You have every right to be angry.

[lagomorph777]

20. That poor granddaughter has an asshole for a mother.

[Dan]

5. ....starting to.....

[brer cat]

6. I'm very sorry about your granddaughter.

It is thoughtless, at best, to expose a young child. I hope she recovers fully.

Your anger toward your DIL is understandable.

[mommymarine2003]

9. To make matters worse, she attended her grandfather's funeral this past Saturday

There were 150 people at the funeral. I imagine very few people were wearing masks. The baby was in the nursery, so all the other babies and toddlers were exposed. What a nightmare.

[brer cat]

27. Are they doing contact tracing?

That really is a nightmare. Take care of yourself; this is especially stressful for you.

Please keep us posted.

[CentralMass]

7. I hope that they both have a speedy and full recovery. I'm also glad that we have

the mask mandate back in place in Oregon.

[mommymarine2003]

11. Thank you.

[gldstwmn]

8. Wishing your daughter in law and

granddaughter a speedy recovery.

[mommymarine2003]

12. Thank you.

[viva la]

10. Oh, no!

I'm sorry. You must be so worried..
I hope this teaches her a lesson.

[mommymarine2003]

13. I am very worried.

My sister had COVID in March/April of 2020. She was very sick. She is a senior citizen and not a 29-year-old or 1-year-old, but I know that the Delta variant is hitting the younger age groups pretty hard; so this really scares me.

[RicROC]

14. I wish your innocent granddaughter recovers.

I wish your astute son is able to take proper care of his daughter

Your daughter in law is a domestic terrorist and should be in jail because of her disregard for the health of her daughter and anyone else she endangered.

[roamer65]

15. Your DIL should be jailed for child endangerment.

I feel sorry for your granddaughter.

[Freddie]

16. May the little one get well soon

Exactly a year ago (before vaccines) my daughter and family were exposed. She got it - sick for 10 days but recovered fully. My 3 grandkids were tested and the 6 yo tested positive. He had gastro symptoms common in kids with Covid but also recovered fully. The girls (10 and 2) and my SIL never got it. Terrifying time. So looking forward to when kids younger than 12 can be vaccinated.

[mommymarine2003]

21. Thank you,

I am hoping that their youth will help them through this. My daughter and grandson live with us. He turned 12 on August 19th and just got his first vaccination, so he has not built up any immunity yet. I am so glad that he was not exposed yesterday. My youngest lives in Seattle. His children's daycare has been shut down due to some toddlers coming down with COVID. He also said that he will not attend Thanksgiving with us if our daughter-in-law does not get vaccinated after all this, as he will not expose his young children to someone who deliberately does not get vaccinated. This may cause a rift in the family. My daughter-in-law is beautiful and sweet, but her Evangelical upbringing is definitely a negative.

[Freddie]

25. Hope the reality of risking her kid's life

Sinks in and punches her in the gut. Child endangerment.

[stillcool]

17. that is rough...

So hard to not be resentful. I'm downright hostile, but don't have family playing games with their lives. Hope you find some peace.

[zuul]

18. I'm sorry you're going through this.

And I really hope your grand baby has a mild case and bounces back quickly.

[LetMyPeopleVote]

19. Is too late to try monoclonal anitbodies?

Your family will be in my prayers

I do not blame you for being mad at anti-vaxxers

[scipan]

41. I second this. Nt

[hamsterjill]

22. You can work out your feelings on the other side of this.

Right now, may they both recover quickly and fully.

Once that is accomplished, were I in your shoes, I’d give the dil a piece of my mind big time! She is an irresponsible parent and spouse.

[dutch777]

23. Hoping everyone recovers. Wish anti-vaxxers could see the bigger picture.

[Rabrrrrrr]

24. Holy crow, what a dilemma to be in. A son you likely love, a DIL who's a life-hating terrorist,

and a granddaughter who is sick because of the negligence of the DIL - and yet, your son surely loves her, so you can't quite just treat her like she deserves...

uffda.

I feel for you, and I can only say that I hope they all get through Covid just fine and that your DIL will eventually realize that for all the protestations of the Evangelicals/Fundies to be pro-life, they're nothing but a death cult and a religion of wealth and power wielded immorally.

[Niagara]

26. Sending healing vibes to your DIL and granddaughter.

I know how frustrated and heartbroken you must be at this time. Here's to a quick recovery for both.

[Tree Lady]

28. Its so hard when you love your grandkids

My grand daughter and husband early 20's with baby finally getting vaccine this week. She put off because of being pregnant and nursing until her doctor thank god told her to get it right away. I like her husband nice guy but really stupid he waited to get shots with her.

What made me mad, they live in Sacramento large city and take baby shopping, they of course have to wear masks in CA but not 4 month old baby and baby goes to daycare. So I was worried.

She is still pumping her milk so baby will get antibodies from the shot, I read a great article that said it helps protect the babies and won't hurt them.

[emmaverybo]

29. You would have to be a saint not to be angry. Sorry about your DIL's dangerous denial. I hope

both mama and baby come through well. Surely, your DIL will take all precautions now for baby’s sake. Surely your son will want her to. And she will want to be healthy to be able to be there for baby. For now, your DIL was sadly misguided. Most of us must be very careful what we say about an adult child’s partner or spouse. Ask the cosmos to grant DIL an epiphany, regret for her poor judgement, and a great recovery for mama and baby.
.

[mommymarine2003]

31. It is a fine line to walk.

I am sure my son is worried and angry at the same time. My husband and I will keep our anger locked up in our house. I hope that she will get vaccinated as soon as she can.

[calimary]

32. Wow - I'm not sure I could keep my feelings to myself!

This has torn families apart, EVERYWHERE.

I'm so sorry you're going through this, mommymarine2003. It's gotta be doubly hard when the stubborn stupidity and willful ignorance are in one's own family. I am grateful both our kids are sensible and taking all the precautions. Often, our son is double-masked.

Sometimes I find myself wondering if we'll actually survive this as a country. But then again, it isn't just COVID that's driving the wedges separating us.

[secondwind]

30. Join the club.

[littlemissmartypants]

33. Reality is that your DIL prioritized a disease spreading bachelorette party

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Over her own daughter's life and health. Her daughter will live her life, if she continues to have one, at whatever quality, with that knowledge.

The daughter, your granddaughter will grow up, if she lives, knowing that her mother cared more about attending that party, during a deadly pandemic than she cared about her own child. What a life.

I am so sorry for your son, his daughter and the rest of the family, especially the innocent, helpless baby and you.

Please share this reality with your DIL.

Stay safe and strong. ❤

[mommymarine2003]

35. Thank you.

I woke up this morning so worried and angry. I bugged my son for months about them getting vaccinated. I know that he tried to convince her to get vaccinated, but it appears she can be pretty stubborn when she wants to be. If anything happens to their baby, I doubt that he could ever forgive her.

[littlemissmartypants]

40. It was early when I wrote the reply.

I corrected the mistakes I made. I know you got the meaning. I would be furious too. Her poor daughter will forever know the awful decision her mother made which put her daughter and your son in a sad situation. I feel for your son. I would have left by now. He's in a difficult situation. He's lucky to have a loving mom like you. Stay strong. ❤

[ShazzieB]

34. I do NOT understand what's going on with these evangelicals.

Their position just baffles me. I'm talking about the ones who are who tout "trusting in God" rather than being vaccinated. I had one yesterday tell me in these exact words: "Everyone who got that death shot should repent before God for trusting man more than God."

Up till now, I thought I had a pretty good understanding of evangelicals. I was raised in that kind of background, and I'm very familiar with many of their beliefs, but never in my childhood and teen years attending churches of this type did I ever hear a minister or other authority figure say that being vaccinated against a disease or receiving any kind of medical care was wrong or talk about "trusting in God" as an alternative to following medical advice. I'm now realizing that I don't know nearly as much about fhese people as I thought I did.

This whole idea that "trusting in God" has anything to do with whether to take a vaccine is alien to everything I was taught growing up. I feel like evangelical Christianity (or at least some subset of it) has morphed into a whole different kind of thing than it was when I was growing up in that milieu. Weird!

[malaise]

36. No words

[LisaL]

38. What?

NT

[SkylineChili]

39. Pretty and Sweet, but also Stupid, Dangerous, and Uncaring

Sorry, I would not hold back my righteous anger at a "sweet, beautiful, daughter in Law" who willfully and deliberately put everyone in her path, including her own baby daughter, in danger of a life-threatening illness....all for the sake of a f'ing Bachelorette Party in Arizona so she could party and drink and soak up some sun and virus. What a selfish person.

Everyone in her circle is now exposed. I hope the rest of your family stays away from her unless she agrees to be vaxxed. Having Covid does not provide the immunity that the vaccine does.

I am so sorry for your granddaughter and sending her the best, but don't feel guilty for your anger and resentment. It is justified.