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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsMy brother was on a ventilator in the ICU
For over a week. He had pneumonia, COPD, mrsa, and it turns out, a failed heart valve. They extubated this morning, and he passed about an hour and a half later.
He was 71. You know, it feels like someone kicked you in the stomach. My elderly mom is coping pretty well, but I think it's going to hit her hard a little later.
alwaysinasnit
(5,037 posts)denbot
(9,894 posts)Peace to you and yours.
hamsterjill
(15,214 posts)Please accept some healing wishes for you, your mom, and any other family members.
I wish you peace and comfort.
malaise
(267,784 posts)Response to Beatlelvr (Original post)
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zuul
(14,615 posts)kozar
(2,029 posts)brer cat
(24,401 posts)I hope that you and your mom find peace with your loss.
NJCher
(35,421 posts)Seventy-one isn't all that old.
I am so sorry, Beatlevr.
hlthe2b
(101,698 posts)I hope you can be comforted knowing that it sounds as though he was given the level of care that he deserved and should have received-- and didn't fall victim to the rationing ongoing in some areas.
None of this makes the loss any easier but it is good that you can be there for your mother.
My sympathy to you and yours.
uppityperson
(115,674 posts)Nevilledog
(50,659 posts)Laura PourMeADrink
(42,770 posts)A peaceful way to grieve and communicate.
Freddie
(9,231 posts)5 years ago my BIL passed of a massive heart attack at 56. DH had to tell their 85 year old dad. I think it took quite a while for Dad to grasp. Youre not supposed to outlive your child.
Hugs to you
Texaswitchy
(2,962 posts)happy feet
(856 posts)Diamond_Dog
(31,657 posts)Hugs to you and I hope for strength for your mom to deal with this tragedy.
lisa58
(5,754 posts)FakeNoose
(32,328 posts)I'm sorry you lost your brother. May he Rest In Peace.
ProudMNDemocrat
(16,468 posts)When my late Mother passed away, she had been on a ventilator for 9 days at the ICU at Reno Renown Hospital. Her lungs were shot. She had Stage 4 Cancer in both lungs and in the T-8 of her back. MRSA was overtaking her as well. She lasted 75 minutes from the moment of being taken off, each last breath a rattle. She was ready to go.
That was Jan.2, 2013. She was my rock. I still miss her so much.
May you find comfort. A mother, no matter her age, never gets over losing a child. Hugs.
gademocrat7
(10,623 posts)piddyprints
(14,600 posts)There are no words.
cate94
(2,797 posts)MLAA
(17,162 posts)sheshe2
(83,319 posts)snowybirdie
(5,190 posts)sorry for your family's loss..
sdfernando
(4,896 posts)Please take care of your mother, she is going to need it.
Demovictory9
(32,320 posts)budkin
(6,688 posts)May peace find you.
gldstwmn
(4,575 posts)Phoenix61
(16,949 posts)irisblue
(32,828 posts)GPV
(72,377 posts)SheltieLover
(57,073 posts)Healing vibes on the way to you & Mom. 💓💓💓
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)My sincere condolences to you and your family. May your brother RIP.
viva la
(3,224 posts)In memories. Do you have photo albums from childhood? Nothing like those to release laughter and tears.
Danmel
(4,892 posts)May sweet memories of your beloved brother bring you comfort and peace.
Hortensis
(58,785 posts)As for your poor mother, at least getting old should have spared her from a child going first. Stay well.
BigmanPigman
(51,430 posts)so maybe your mom was preparing herself mentally and emotionally for the loss. Very sad news, indeed.
Just_Vote_Dem
(2,790 posts)Greybnk48
(10,147 posts)Take care.
TygrBright
(20,733 posts)May your memories bring you comfort.
respectfully,
Bright
3catwoman3
(23,812 posts)Your sibs are the ones who are supposed to be there with you after your parents are gone.
You are likely right about your mom. I hope you have someone to lean on, as it is so hard to be supportive to someone else when you are barely able to function yourself. I felt like I had to be strong for my parents, which was very difficult, as it felt like I had no one supporting me.
Ill be thinking of you.
GentryDixon
(2,944 posts)I wish you & your mom peace.
aggiesal
(8,863 posts)It's hard to say Welcome to DU , but the members on this site are the best,
and will no doubt help you through this.
KT2000
(20,544 posts)I am so sorry for your loss. That is really scary about the mrsa. These are incredible times we are in.
GeoWilliam750
(2,519 posts)One can only hope that those were 71 wonderful years, and do look after your mother well. She will need you now more than ever.
crickets
(25,896 posts)diehardblue
(10,997 posts)NNadir
(33,368 posts)spooky3
(34,300 posts)Mugu
(2,887 posts)May he Rest In Peace.
virgdem
(2,119 posts)skylucy
(3,734 posts)JohnSJ
(91,937 posts)SheilaAnn
(9,663 posts)kimbutgar
(20,871 posts)May your brother Rest In Peace. At least hes not suffering anymore.
blogslug
(37,955 posts)May you find peace
Soph0571
(9,685 posts)Solly Mack
(90,740 posts)sarge43
(28,939 posts)Peace and comfort for you and your mother.
Marthe48
(16,688 posts)My brothers have all gone on ahead of me. Hard to take.
iluvtennis
(19,756 posts)mzmolly
(50,957 posts)for your loss.
Ishoutandscream2
(6,646 posts)And your family.
MissMillie
(38,450 posts)I'm glad you're there for your mom.
I'm sure there are no words I can say to comfort you. So...
ms liberty
(8,478 posts)CaptainTruth
(6,546 posts)Backseat Driver
(4,333 posts)My "little brother" died this week too! Yes, it sure sends a punch and reminds those left behind of our own and our loved ones' mortality and/or future protective care in this world.
lunatica
(53,410 posts)It gets harder before it gets easier. Try not to ignore the stages of grief. Try not to get stuck in the anger stage.
My son died in 2014. It was quite raw at first. That passed too.
Richard D
(8,692 posts)So difficult.
Ilsa
(61,675 posts)be kind to yourself and your mom, and ask for help if you need it.
Kimber432
(74 posts)n/t
alphafemale
(18,497 posts)Condolences to your family and friends.
bluestarone
(16,720 posts)niyad
(112,424 posts)and your family. Your DU family is here for you.
Beatlelvr
(618 posts)By the wonderful and heartfelt best wishes from a group of folks I've come to love and rely on in these trying times, but have never met! DU rocks. Thank you so much.
PatrickforB
(14,514 posts)May he rest in peace, surrounded by eternal light.
stillcool
(32,626 posts)momta
(4,076 posts)My brothers are some of my best friends. I can't imagine...
July
(4,750 posts)It is a terrible blow. Your brother and your family are in my thoughts.
Maraya1969
(22,441 posts)sinkingfeeling
(51,274 posts)okaawhatever
(9,453 posts)Wicked Blue
(5,767 posts)area51
(11,868 posts)MustLoveBeagles
(11,563 posts)Texin
(2,585 posts)Texin
(2,585 posts)Stinky The Clown
(67,669 posts)marble falls
(56,353 posts)mountain grammy
(26,568 posts)orleans
(33,986 posts)and your mom.
Granny M
(1,395 posts)Condolences to you and the family.
lark
(22,993 posts)Take care of yourself & your family during this hard time, it's easy to be overwhelmed.
mercuryblues
(14,489 posts)xxqqqzme
(14,887 posts)Peace to you and your mother.
Raster
(20,996 posts)Butterflylady
(3,523 posts)Your baby. So sorry for your loss.
Heartstrings
(7,349 posts)murielm99
(30,655 posts)Yes, it does feel like a kick in the stomach. I lost my brother the last week in August.
Take care of your mom, if you can.
DownriverDem
(6,205 posts)RIP It's hard losing a sibling.
wryter2000
(46,016 posts)Keep track of your mother. I don't know if you have a cause of legal action if he acquired his infection in the hospital.