My mom needs urgent help. My GoFundMe is included in this thread

[mvd]

Hi all,

I have started this GoFundMe to help my mom out. Full story is in the GoFundMe link, but I will give a summary. My mom has been having health and blood pressure problems and is a 72 year old widow. She is having major financial stress and I am afraid something serious will happen if this stress continues. My mom and I have always tried to get through it before, but now she has been hit very hard and I really needed to start this for her. Anything you can give I will be extremely thankful for.

Here is the GoFundMe link:

https://www.gofundme.com/f/v676x-my-mother-needs-help

Thank you very much,
Matt/mvd

[Elessar Zappa]

1. I get paid tomorrow.

I can’t give much but I’d be happy to chip in. I’m sending good vibes to your mom, whatever that’s worth.

[mvd]

2. Thank you so very much!

Anything you can do would be greatly appreciated. My mom is not doing well and I had to do this.

[marble falls]

3. You're a good son.

[mvd]

4. Thank you

[tblue37]

5. K&R for visibility. nt

[tblue37]

6. Done. Good luck.

[mvd]

8. Thank you very much!

[a kennedy]

7. Just donated to your cause, and good luck.

[mvd]

9. Thank you

[CaliforniaPeggy]

10. Just donated and am very happy to help! ♥

[mvd]

11. Thank you very much Peggy!

And thank you for your encouragement!

[ARPad95]

12. I'm glad to help your mother out. Hope your GoFundMe will successfully take the excess stress off.

[mvd]

15. Thank you!

[3Hotdogs]

13. Was your dad or mom a viet nam vet?

[mvd]

14. My dad was not in Vietnam, but was an Army vet

We are proud of his service and thanks for asking.

[3Hotdogs]

27. If money owed for medical care is still outstanding, she should file for bankruptcy.

She should not continue paying it.

Have you investigated social services?

[mvd]

60. Yes

This is only part of the plan for my mom and me to be more financially stable. I have some things that could be used for disability. There are places that help with utilities and transportation. Maybe other senior services. I do some care for my mom but I am looking into those. I have a friend who helps out with borrowing money but she isn’t the solution.

Her lawyer hasn’t recommended bankruptcy but we will keep it in mind.

While I won’t be kicking the thread anymore as the goal has been reached, I will still reply to others.

[Bayard]

16. Done!

Best wishes to you and your mom,

[mvd]

18. Thank you and hugs

:hugs:

[MLAA]

17. Best wishes, made a small contribution 🙂

[mvd]

19. Thanks, any amount is greatly appreciated!

[whathehell]

20. Happy to donate..

Best of luck to you and your family.

[mvd]

21. Thank you

I was a apprehensive before starting this but DU has been wonderful!

[whathehell]

38. You're quite welcome, mvd

Having one's faith in people renewed is always a great feeling.

[mvd]

51. It is

It is a very good feeling!

[whathehell]

61. Yes..

Back at ya.

[marybourg]

22. Check out whether your mom will qualify for SSI -

Supplemental Security Income. Also check your local Area Agency on Aging to see if she qualifies for aid such as food stamps, housing aid, Medicaid, etc.

[mvd]

23. Thank you - good ideas for her

She gets food stamps (and thank President Biden and the Democrats for boosting them!) but they don’t last the whole month.

This thread is because of the immediate emergency.

[mvd]

24. Thank you all so much for the support!

My mom already feels better and we are well on our way to our goal. I can’t thank DU enough!

[MANative]

25. Sent a little something - best wishes to both of you NT

[bluecollar2]

26. Done

From one Matthew to another. Best wishes my friend.

[mvd]

28. Thanks so much fellow Matthew!

[Treefrog]

29. Why isn't your mom getting your dad's social security benefits?

Check into that, because she should.

[mvd]

34. I agree, she should

The SSA told us that my mom could only receive one of the two when my dad died.

[Treefrog]

36. I don't get that. Pretty sure my mother got my father's benefits.

She wasn’t hard up for money so it wasn’t a real conversation, but I helped her with her mail and so on. I’m sure she did.

[mvd]

37. Oh, she does get the bigger part

But when my dad was alive it was $600 higher which made a difference.

[Treefrog]

41. Ok good.

Just worried she was missing out. I have to say they were one of the easiest bureaucracy I had to deal with. At least in that instance.

They were right on it. I remember thinking how odd it was they knew he was dead before we notified anyone. Funny that, huh?

[mvd]

50. Yeah the process was pretty simple

I am glad we have President Biden’s appointee in the SSA now. My mom was supposed to get a one time $200 bonus but didn’t. That was the only issue.

[DownriverDem]

30. Social Security

I hope my donation helps. How come you Mom doesn't get part of your Dad's Social Security?

[mvd]

32. When one spouse dies, they take the other spouces's away

I hope that policy changes. Thank you very much!

[tavernier]

54. No.

She should be getting hers and half of his.
That’s what I get and all the people that I know who are widows get the same.

[mvd]

56. She still gets his part. I want to make sure I am clear

Mom lost her part. I hope she is getting the right amount.

[dixiechiken1]

31. Done.

Best wishes to you and your mom, my friend. May better times be upon you both very soon.

[mvd]

33. Thank you so much!

This will definitely make our lives easier.

[Pepsidog]

35. Not sure where you live but I practice bankruptcy law in NJ in addition to contributions she should

talk to a bankruptcy lawyer who may be able to help. If you are from South Jersey I will be happy to offer my services for free if it’s helpful.

[JudyM]

45. Wow, that's a really kind and generous offer.

[mvd]

46. I live in SE PA, but that is a very nice offer!

Sorry I missed your post. Yes it something my mom and I have considered because of the foreclosure.

[Cadfael]

39. Done

I hope your mom’s situation eases soon

[mvd]

40. Thank you very much and this will help

[Arazi]

42. K&R. Good luck!

[mvd]

43. Thank you!

[mvd]

44. So close to the goal

Whatever you can contribute would help get there. DU has been wonderful! I hope I can donate in return someday.

[dixiechiken1]

47. Kicking for visibility. n/t

[mvd]

48. I'm bringing this up to give people..

a chance to see this thread who might have missed it yesterday.

[mvd]

49. This is great! Only $140 shy of my goal

DU has been extremely kind. I have been here for 20 years and know how it can come through. I bet my mom’s blood pressure reading will be better today!

I will be withdrawing the money today as it takes 2-5 business days to transfer. But I will leave the fundraiser open for now because you I can withdraw again.

[Arazi]

52. Can we get Matt's mom a little extra breathing room?

Can we get her a couple hundred extra to help her really breathe easier? When you're this poor and desperate you have no idea how helpful that extra can be.

Matt's been a DUer for 20 years! His mom raised him right

[mvd]

53. I reached the goal which is so great, but if people want to give some..

breathing room I’ll keep donations open for a bit. Thanks so much! Your words are very kind.

[DFW]

62. Good thing you did

I only saw this today, sent a contribution this morning.

[mvd]

64. Thank you very much, DFW!

I will keep it open as long as this thread still shows interest.

I am so happy I started this. I do not like asking for money, but I have been at DU a long time and felt it would work out. I also do not like showing my picture as I am private, but it wasn’t so bad. I actually did not intend for my eyes to look closed - I am not good at taking selfies.

[DFW]

66. Don't worry about the pic

I have been breaking mirrors for decades with mine. If the mirror is still intact afterwards, it's only because my wife was with me when the pic was taken.

[SidDithers]

55. Done. Not much, but DUers stick together...nt

Sid

[electric_blue68]

57. A little bit for your extra cushion. The best of luck to her & you

🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞

and I've never actually seen a 'go fund me' page - so that was a new experience, for me. 👍

[mvd]

58. Thank you very much

This is my second GoFundMe. The first one was set up to help with dad’s cancer bills and only went to relatives. But I have drifted apart from those relatives which is a shame.

[electric_blue68]

59. You're very welcome 👍 ...

Well, there are genuine reasons why relatives can drift apart.
Good you've got DU for support.


I've been here for 16 months so I'm pretty recent, enjoying my time here. 👍

[JonAndKatePlusABird]

63. Donated

Sending good vibes to your mom and you!

[mvd]

65. Thank you very much!

[mvd]

67. Update to my fundraiser

I am just bringing this up once for an update. Mom is doing better. I can’t imagine where she would be without DU’s generosity! I am leaving the fundraiser up until October 20. This is a 5 week wait for mom’s Social Security and she could still use a little more breathing room and less stress. Whatever you can do in the week I keep the fundraiser up would be appreciated.

Hugs to all!