My kid got COVID.

[cilla4progress]

I'm worried about her state of mind. She's 28 and lives alone - is kind of alone - in a little city about 10 hours away by car.

I don't know how to help her.

Nothing else matters when your kid is hurting.

[TheBlackAdder]

1. Sending Positive Energy ⚡️ Both Your Way and Her Way!

[IzzaNuDay]

2. There are ways to help

1) Call her daily.
2) Find out if food can be delivered to her. Cans of soup, crackers, non perishables.
3) Find out of there are some social services in that city that can help. Or the health department in that state.

I am so sad to learn your child is suffering. I hope she recovers and stays well.

[FSogol]

50. +1. Great suggestions. n/t

[YDogg]

3. I'm so sorry to hear this, cilla.

I hope your daughter will be well, and quickly.

[alwaysinasnit]

4. There is nothing worse for a parent than to watch their child suffer. I wish her a speedy recovery.

[Phoenix61]

5. Call, text. Do you have the phone number of

someone who lives where she does? If your able, Instacart or Shipt her some groceries.

[Hekate]

6. All the best to both of you

I like the idea someone else suggested of having food delivered. DU hugs

[Rorey]

7. I hope she makes a quick recovery

Please keep us posted.

[Heartstrings]

8. Healing vibes sent her way.....

And I agree with all the comments about utilizing any available resources in her area.

[Tree Lady]

9. Really sorry to hear that

Is she vaccinated? It's hard not to worry about our adult kids working out in public.

[cilla4progress]

13. Yes and boosted last week.

Very responsible that way. But at 28, she's now lost almost 2 important years in her social life.

Will her immunity be stronger after?

[left-of-center2012]

23. If she was vaccinated and had a booster ...

This could be a reaction to the booster shot.

I had both vaccinations earlier in the year and last week I had my booster.
I had no reaction to the first two shots but after the booster I got really sick.

It has been a week now since my booster and I'm about 90% recovered.

You say she has covid,
but it could just be a reaction to the booster?

[cilla4progress]

24. She tested positive

with a PCR test at a clinic.

She had her booster about 2 weeks ago.

[womanofthehills]

34. Some studies say you are vulnerable the first 2 weeks after each shot

Till your system makes the antibodies

[Ms. Toad]

30. Were you tested after the booster?

A co-worker continued to run around in public, even though he had symptoms of COVID, because he assumed that what he was experiencing was a reaction to the booster. Ultimatey he was pushed to get tested, and tested positive. After he had continued to wokr for 3-4 days.

[Igel]

28. Yes.

Vaccination + natural infection = broader range of protection, more robust protection.

Studies are out as to whether natural infection is as good as, less good than, or better than vaccination. Each camp cites supporting studies; most follow The Science, meaning few follow actual science practice and deal with evidence counter their beliefs.

[womanofthehills]

35. Not necessarily true say latest studies

Natural infection only is very robust and many drs saying those who have had a natural infection and then get a vaccine are more apt to have vaccine side effects.

Natural immunity to covid is powerful. Policymakers seem afraid to say so. https://www.washingtonpost.com/outlook/2021/09/15/natural-immunity-vaccine-mandate/

[BlackSkimmer]

46. I've seen you post this several times.

Did you decide not to get vaxxed?

[Tree Lady]

37. Our kids are tougher than we think

Mentally. They have done very well during covid. Both my daughters do yoga now to deal with the added stress, they are 40 & 42. The older one reads books about growth and positivity, the younger one rides bikes with her husband and reads fluff to relax. Both have intense jobs, older one manager of 300 employees, younger one working for large accounting firm and studying for CPA exams, she has passed 2 of the 4. Don't know how she can concentrate with covid. The tests are very hard.

[Dorian Gray]

38. Advice from someone who just went through a covid scare

By 11 year old daughter received first vaccine on Thursday. Missed school for it, and missed their weekly covid test at school to attend next week. So I got her tested at an urgent care facility on friday. (Both rapid and PCR as I was uncertain which the school would accept.)

Rapid came back positive.

I flipped out. We had mild, post vaccine symptoms. But similar to what I experienced. Achy. Fatigue. Light sniffles.

Is it possible she had covid? Yes.

Then the PCR came back the next morning. Negative.

Uh oh.

School rules... two more negative PCRs and she would be cleared. Sunday and Monday took them. Negative. The NYC Department of Health got our info and overruled the diagnosis and she (and the ten other kids who had to quarantine as close contacts) were allowed back into school.

My point being, it's possible she had a false test. I NEVER would have followed up had I not also had a negative PCR test. I would have assumed that everything was kosher, and all those kids would've been out of school for the week.

So if she is not feeling ill, please suggest to her that she should get another PCR (or two) to confirm her diagnosis. My daughter's post shot symptoms lasted a day and a half, so they were within the time frame of vaccine symptoms to not be considered covid.

As a parent, it's totally natural to worry about your child. I was a basket case for five days until we got it sorted out. (Yesterday. Yesterday was when it was finally sorted!)

So, offer support and guidance. If she's not feeling symptoms anymore, tell her to re-test. And hoping for the BEST for her and your family

[mzmolly]

10. I'm very sorry

to hear this.

I hope she'll get the best of care and will heal quickly.

[sheshe2]

11. Good vibes to you and your daughter.

So to be far away.

[Diamond_Dog]

12. No matter how old they are

We worry about our kids.

Others here have offered great suggestions. I don’t have anything to add so here’s a

Hope she feels better very soon.

[onecaliberal]

14. Hopefully she's in an area you can have things delivered to.

[BradBo]

15. If she's vaccinated then I would not worry to much.

Scary though, parents have the strongest bond.

[orangecrush]

16. Wishing a rapid and full recovery

[cilla4progress]

17. Food is an issue.

Also, space. She lives in a small studio. She is really quite isolated. Never had a lot of friends. Only child. Fits some stereotypes.

[Dorian Gray]

39. Can you arrange to have some food delivered to her?

That could be very helpful. Either a local delivery service that could be left at her door, or meals from some local places?

[cilla4progress]

45. Thing is,

she has plenty of food and is trying to watch her intake.

We are encouraging her to take lots of long walks, which she likes.

[Dorian Gray]

49. Ah I see.

When you said food is an issue I thought you meant getting it. As she’s in a small apartment and doesn’t have plenty.

[cilla4progress]

56. No, just minding her intake.

Thanks.

[lapfog_1]

18. Depending on the access and how severe the symptoms

and the length of the infection...

There are many treatments now...
1) Calcifidiol
2) dexamethasone
3) Regeneron
4) supportive Oxygen

I had my case a year ago... and even though I am older and type 2 diabetic, my case was "mild" (compared to the horror stories)... but I was very sick, it lasted weeks... some symptoms lasted months. But I survived and now am vaccinated... about to get my booster.

These treatments are partially effective, but not a miracle cure. And are given at different stages of the infection.

[IronLionZion]

19. Video chat for wellness and to keep spirits up

and then have her ask her doctor about monoclonal antibodies if needed.

Then fluids, vitamins, soup, fresh outdoor air, etc. for any typical illness.

[KarenS]

20. can you guys use Zoom or video calls??

I know it's not the same as being there,,,, but,,,,

Sending lots of good energy your way and I hope she has a mild case of it.

((Hugs))

[cilla4progress]

21. Thanks so much, guys!

Its so great to have this community! We have family and friends here, but I am not at liberty to share this news about her with them. Yet - there you are! And with good ideas!

She did just text us she has good support there, and knows she can text us any time.

OTOH her temp is elevating slightly.

Damn Gianforte! She's in Montana....

[LoisB]

22. I do hope she recovers quickly.

[brer cat]

25. I hope she has a mild case and recovers quickly.

Hugs to you both.

[iluvtennis]

26. Sending positive healing vibes. Call, FaceTime, or WhatsApp her everyday and do your mom

thing. I know it's not the same as being there in person, but it does help there psyche. And send messages with virtual hugs gifs.

(p.s. have daughter in school in Italy and this is my MO when she is sick/under the weather)

[MontanaMama]

27. Damn, cilla.

Indeed nothing matters when your kiddo is hurting.

[bottomofthehill]

29. I am sorry for both of you, it is frightening

On the bright side, she is vaccinated and hopefully her body has already processed how to fight this virus. Now she needs supportive care. Fluids, rest, food.

When I contracted Covid, I went to my basement for 13 days before the board of health cleared me. I did not come over the stairs at all. I wanted to protect my family. My wife and children would call me when they heard me moving around.

You can support her by calling and talking to her. Reassure her that she will be ok, it helps both of you. Make sure she has what she needs, fluids, food, medicine and supplies like thermometers and pulse oximeters, if she does not, target, Amazon, Walmart all ship. Get her what she needs. Comfort foods help.

By already having been vaccinated, she has done her part to lessen the chances of hospitalization. She will be all right.

[Pobeka]

31. So sorry to hear this!

But she should know, being boosted, she'll likely face very minor symptoms, if any. I do hope she gets no symptoms. From the sounds of it, the isolation will be the worst part.

Perhaps some of those food delivery options might be a way to connect with her? I see my neighbors getting those things now -- where all the ingredients for a meal are delivered and ready to cook?

Maybe toss in a delivered gift or three to surprise her. Flowers can really brighten up a place too.

I'm really hoping she comes through this quickly!

[CentralMass]

32. My oldest, also 28, got covid 2 weeks after getting her first shot.

She lives on the other side of the country from me and I felt BBC th ed same way. She had a few unpleasant days tge first week but recovered quickly.

[womanofthehills]

33. Everyone who tests positive can get monoclonal antibodies

Early treatment is supposed to be the key. There are lists online that tell you where monoclonal antibody infusions are available in each city. Most young people do fine. Positive thoughts for your daughter.

[LisaL]

42. I am pretty sure antibodies are only approved for those at high risk of covid.

At least for those not living in Fl.
Other than that antibodies would be a good idea.

[cadoman]

36. does she have a sweet neighbor who might be willing to check in on her?

It may be a bit of a reach, but a conversation something like this might put your mind at ease:

"Hi [NEIGHBOR], I'm the parent of a shy young woman who lives next door to you who has recently come down with COVID. She's doing well so far but doesn't really know anyone in the area and it'd make me feel so much better if someone might be able to check in on her at X:00 while I'm tied up at [WORK OR WHATEVER]. Would you or anyone you know in the area be able to help us?"

I'm usually surprised at how happy and willing people are to help if you ask them. It's a long shot, and you might get shot down, but if it pans out you and your daughter would have a friend for life. There's a shocking number of people who kinda sit around the house doing nothing all day and this kind of moment gives them a chance to shine.

If that phone call is gonna be too big a hurdle, drive down this weekend, meet the neighbors, or maybe pick up your daughter and take her back? Set up a gofundme to have an Uber drive her take her to you?

And life lesson here: meet your neighbors and get their numbers!

[LisaL]

41. Covid is an infectious disease.

It spreads easily. Getting into an Uber while infectious is not a good idea. Same goes for a neighbor being send in.

[BlackSkimmer]

47. Gotta agree. nt

[Solly Mack]

40. I'm sorry, cilla4progress

Hoping for the best.

[malaise]

43. Use Facetime, Zoom or Google and check in with her

at least twice a day - hope she recovers soon

[Dorian Gray]

55. Yep

this is the best way to do so. Y'all can see each other's faces and hopefully it will give a boost if she's feeling depressed.

[cilla4progress]

44. Still asymtomatic this morning!

I'm urging her to get another PCR test - she is only 2 weeks out from booster - but she is resigned.

Thoughts?

[Dorian Gray]

52. I'd encourage another pcr test.

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I’ve stated in the thread above that my daughter was a victim od a false positive.

Bit foe the department of health to negate the positive Rapid Antigen it takes two negative consecutive pcr on days 4 and 5, I believe. At least in my state.

So that’s still five days of quarantine.

Ten days is the required quarantine.

I’d she doesn’t mind being alone then it could be relaxing. No actual symptoms, she can read, Netflix, relax, etc. and she’s done in day 10.

If she wants to reverse the diagnosis then she should take another pcr.

No matter what happens, though, I guarantee as a parent you will worry. That’s what we do.

[cilla4progress]

53. Am I misunderstanding,

or was your daughter's false positive the antigen NOT the PCR (which is more accurate)?

[Dorian Gray]

54. The false positive was the rapid antigen

The PCR read negative (accurate). We learned that by following up with multiple PCR tests (and multiple at home Binax Now rapid tests).

But in NYC, students have to quarantine from school until they've had two subsequent negative PCRs (to reverse the quarantine) and the department of health determines it was a false positive.

Having said that, PCR tests are more accurate, but they are still not 100% accurate. There are a couple of kids I know who had false positive PCRs (one is the child of an administrator at our school). Each state may have it's own guidelines to determine that, but I'm sure it involves multiple PCR follow up tests, which may be more daunting than the actual quarantine.

[XanaDUer2]

48. A quick recovery nt