Help me out here. What would you do?

[llmart]

In about an hour I was planning on leaving for my daughter's house for Thanksgiving dinner. The last time I spent Thanksgiving with them, there was an obnoxious quasi-family member there who I just knew was a trumper. I have no idea if she'll be there today but I was just looking on Facebook and clicked on her profile and she's a foul-mouthed piece of white trash. She has many, many posts about how she's anti-vaxx and her two children aren't getting the vaccine. She uses the "f" word with regards to Biden and others. I'm fully vaccinated with the booster also. If she's there I'll keep my distance from her which I do anyway because she's obnoxious.

I don't worry about myself so much because I'm vaxxed and because I'm healthy, but my daughter has a six-year old and I haven't heard from her if she got her vaxxed yet or not. My daughter is extremely non-confrontational and this is her husband's relative (not a blood relative though).

Hopefully she won't even be there.

[marybourg]

1. Why don't you ask your daughter

if she'll be there so you can at least be forewarned. I personally wouldn't go if an unvaccinated person was going to be indoors with me.

[MOMFUDSKI]

20. agree totally

We refuse to hang out with ANY unvaxxed people. Never stopped wearing our masks in stores and continue to do so. This thang ain't over until it is over.

[Ziggysmom]

2. I like to stir the pot 😊. I'd confront her, but that's just me. I'd tell this Typhoid Mary to take

a hike. I realize it's your daughter's home and you don't have control over who she invites. Hope you and the children stay safe & healthy.

[StarryNite]

3. Stay far away from her.

Don't let her ruin your day.

[pwb]

4. I am still staying put.

Covid is on the rise again. We face enough danger from Covid in our regular day. If you do go pick a fight with her so she leaves?

[llmart]

8. I'm as non-confrontational as my daughter.

So I would never pick a fight. Last time she was there she didn't say one word to me even though I tried to engage her in a conversation. I didn't know then what a piece of trash she was.

[pwb]

14. In the face of danger to yourself and others it may

be better to confront. Mask up anyway.

[Faux pas]

5. You

have the right to be with your family, shine the she-devil on. She doesn't deserve to be among good people.

[llmart]

6. That's how I sort of feel about it.

My daughter and granddaughter are the only family that live near me. I was looking forward to it.

[SheltieLover]

7. Avoid the pos at all costs

Personally, I would not share air space with her.

Have you asked daughter to disinvite her?

[llmart]

9. It's a little too late for that now.

I wouldn't presume to tell my daughter who to have at her house. I just wish I would have known in advance.

If she is there, I will stay as far away from her as possible and stay a decent length of time and then go home early.

[SheltieLover]

11. Well maybe she hasn't considered death as a consequence

Open all the windows for ventilation? (Absolutely serious here.)

[Tetrachloride]

10. Take a large chill pill. Cheshire Cat. Be smug. Superior. Scientific.

Talk about Sesame Street.

[llmart]

12. LOL!

I'll hit the wine soon as I get there. I like your advice about being smug. I can do that

[egduj]

13. You mentioned race...

If all else was the same but the ethnicity was different, would it change your view?

[llmart]

16. No.

[gulliver]

15. Treat her like she has dementia

Don't argue with her. If she decides to spout off about her club's dumb ideas, just humor her and look to the other people with a look that says "What can we do? She's missing a couple of cards in her deck, but she's a guest."

[RobinA]

17. I Would Go

and enjoy a good dinner with family, staying as clear as possible from anybody I didn't like.

[llmart]

19. Yeah, that's what I'll probably do.

It could be that she won't be there but somehow my instincts tell me she will. Too bad the weather here today is yucky, rainy, grey, cold, or else I'd eat, then go for a walk then leave.

[NameAlreadyTaken]

18. Just don't go. And tell them why.

If you go, they win.

[SoCalDavidS]

21. My Guess Is She'll Be There

For them, the pandemic never even existed, so it’s business as usual. Plus, she’ll want the opportunity to stir things up, and spread her bile around to those in attendance.

[LuckyCharms]

22. Stay home.

Why even be in the same house with her?

My response is late, but that's what I would have done.

[Meowmee]

23. Really your daughter

Should not allow anyone unvaxed to be there. It is more a matter of safety concerns regarding covid than this person. Everyone will be at risk. I won’t go anywhere to events like this with unvaxed people. But we always stay home for holidays mostly anyway. I was invited to something recently but declined when I was told everyone was not vaxed. Really though I wouldn’t feel totally safe with all vaxed either and would have to mask which is what I do everywhere. If food is involved you can’t do it unless it’s outdoors.

[BlackSkimmer]

24. Seems like you know more about this trumper than you do about your daughter and her six year old.

Wtf?