NYPD rookie sorry for boss' lap dance -- but says a man wouldn't see same backlash

[RandySF]

The NYPD rookie caught on tape giving her lieutenant a bawdy lap dance at their precinct holiday party apologized to her boss and his wife — as she insisted that the video wouldn’t have gone viral “had it been a man doing it.”

“I feel like just because, mainly — I’m a female, dressed the way I was, being a rookie ‚— things were different,” Vera Mekuli told TMZ. “Had it been a man doing it, I feel like it would have been more of a joking matter and it would have stayed in-house versus go public the way it did with me.”

Mekuli, 26, “had no knowledge” her superior was married and is “truly sorry” for the consequences of the lap dance, which prompted police brass to reassign 44th Precinct Lt. Nick McGarry to subway patrol, she said.




https://nypost.com/2021/12/25/nypd-rookie-sorry-for-giving-lieutenant-christmas-party-lap-dance/amp/

[OneGrassRoot]

1. Geez...

I don’t think gender was a factor in this going public. That was no joke and was pretty raunchy for such an occasion, imo. Wowzer about her and her boss thinking that was no big deal (or not caring). 😳

[enough]

6. Seems the same to me, but I'm wondering if this is generational.

I’m old, and this seems way over the top, but the current younger adults may see it very differently?

[Mary in S. Carolina]

12. Sorry - the older generations are much, much, much,

worse than the younger generation. The older the man the nastier they are in the workplace.

[48656c6c6f20]

19. All of us?

[orangecrush]

2. ...

Thanks, I needed this.


"Mekuli, 26, “had no knowledge” her superior was married and is “truly sorry” for the consequences of the lap dance, which prompted police brass to reassign 44th Precinct Lt. Nick McGarry to subway patrol, she said."

[Dan]

3. The real sad part is that she doesn't appear to recognize how

Her fellow officers will perceive her going forward.

[ornotna]

4. The lieutenant didn't seem too upset

Ya' know.

[maxrandb]

5. Sorry, but this women seems to represent the

*rump could grab my pussy anytime" crowd of Donnie Dipshit supporters.

See, it's not the objectifying of women as sexpots that's troubling and wrong, it's the "cancel culture" that discriminates against women who want to be treated as sex objects that's the problem.

It's kind of a sad commentary, but take Lauren Boebert for example. We think it's disgusting that she met her husband by him flashing his junk at her.

Problem is, there are a shit ton of Americans that say; "what's wrong with that? That's how I met my husband"

I think we're multiple generations away from when that attitude dies out...if ever.

[cloudbase]

7. Yet, somehow,

she's deemed to have sufficient judgement to carry and use a lethal weapon.

[Mary in S. Carolina]

13. Everyone in the room seems to have poor judgement.

When I was younger, I made it a point to skip Christmas parties. By the way, when your "family values" workplace decides to throw a Christmas party without invited the "family", it is an excuse to get drunk and have, wanted or unwanted, sexual contact with co-workers.

[Hekate]

8. Was booze involved? Office holiday parties are notorious for wrecking careers. nt

[IbogaProject]

9. The nypost is sleazy too

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The nypost is sleazy too, don't they have a page 6 girl like some of the lobrow London Rag Tabloids?

And going to the guy's house to photograph his wife and reporting on her fit of rage at the reporter like that is newsworthy?

[Tomconroy]

18. Page 3 in the London tabloids is quite different from Page Six

(which is never on page 6) in the Post.

[misanthrope]

10. The lieutenant's REAL trouble started

when his wife saw how much he seemed to enjoy and facilitate the lap dance. He was no innocent in this matter.

[Silent3]

11. It's very hard to analyze these situations by reversing the genders involved

Ideally the rules should always be the same.

In reality, as a male, I would not at all object to an unasked-for lap dance from that woman, and could never imagine getting upset that my consent wasn't requested first.

[Mary in S. Carolina]

14. This is in the workplace - even though they were

both consenting adults, it created a hostile work environment for others, hence, the release of the video. They should both be fired creating a hostile work environment, immediately (Zero Tolerance).

[bahboo]

15. um, if it was a man giving a lap dance....

to a man...I do think the video would have gone more than viral....

[WA-03 Democrat]

17. It's true!

[Hekate]

16. I hope that on reflection this young woman realizes that she should never, ever drink at an ...

… office party. Inhibitions relax, judgment slips, and women are the ones most likely to find their career damaged. That’s just the way it is.

She is absolutely right about the double standard.

[Irish_Dem]

20. A big lesson that office parties are not parties. They are work settings.

Stay professional and sober.

If you want to party, go to a party given by friends, not co-workers.

[milestogo]

21. I knew a woman whose boss scheduled their office Christmas party at a strip club.

He arranged chartered transportation since there would be drinking. She was the only female, and she stayed out of the stripper area and so did a few of her male colleagues who were also very uncomfortable with the whole situation.

She said they felt like hostages sitting there all afternoon. They couldn't leave, couldn't complain, and just did not want to be there. Some bosses are idiots.

[lame54]

22. Usually police footage release...

Requires a court order

[BlackSkimmer]

23. Sorry, but that young woman knew what she was doing.

I can’t even imagine doing such a thing at any party.

Nor would I know how.