I know it is hard, sometimes you just have to let them go.

[sheshe2]

It is hard, Betty White's death hit us all hard. She gave decades of life and laughter to everyone of us. Please don't feel that her passing makes 2021 worse, think of the incredible woman. She needed to say goodbye, it was her time to go.

If you have watched a loved one decline for years and know that they are finally ready to leave you hug them and say your goodbyes. My sister and I have have been caring for my mom 24/7 for the past four years. Thankfully she has her wits about her talks, laughs, reads, is political and loves to eat good home cooked meals. Mom is 95 1/2. Since Christmas we have had some really hard days, she is very short of breath. It is her heart, it is just giving out on her. Two days ago I thought she would not see the new year. When it is time, she will die here at home. She has surprised us before, yet I think she is saying goodbye.

Betty White knew her time to say goodbye and she was surrounded by loved ones in the end.

Goodnight, Betty.

You were loved.

[Botany]

1. And you will be there for your Mom too. "When it is time, she will die here at home."

I wish you well! Happy New Year.

[sheshe2]

16. Thank you, Botany.

[Botany]

19. I just went through this with my Dad .... Thanksgiving 2018 to late January 2019.

it is tough duty but it is the best duty too.

[sheshe2]

20. Love to you and yours.

Yes, it is the best duty and tribute to a loved one.

[Atticus]

2. That was a very wise and beautiful post. Been there; done that. Thanks. nt

[sheshe2]

17. ...

[JanMichael]

3. Agreed. I also saw a really nice moment in the grocery store right after the news hit.

A older man in a wheelchair said to a youngish store employee that his wife had texted him about Ms. White's passing. They were both saying how much she would be missed. I piped in and said I thought she would outlive live all of us (I am obviously in my 40's or 50's even with a KN95) and they both laughed and said the same. A couple of quips about the Mary Tyler Moore Show, Hot in Cleveland, followed.

I gave the peace sign and moved on to the bread aisle.

It was a sweet moment made possible by a Legend.

[sheshe2]

25. She gave us so much joy.

Thank you for your story, makes everything a little bit sweeter.

[JanMichael]

26. I will raise it by two

Me 53 year old white guy. Old guy in wheelchair was Vietnam Vet and Black as was the youngish grocery worker.

We all shared that moment.

[sheshe2]

27. Bravo, Jan.

[littlemissmartypants]

4. ❤

Stay encouraged, she.

[secondwind]

5. I hope your Mom crosses over gently, when the time goes...

[brer cat]

6. Your mom knows that she is loved also.

You have been a very caring and consoling daughter, sheshe.

[Hekate]

7. Sheshe, my dear

[MarineCombatEngineer]

8. +100.

Like you and your sister, I watched my wife deteriorate from cancer, and she knew when her time was up and me and our children were able to say goodbye to her.

You and your sister are the greatest sheshe2.

Betty White knew her time to say goodbye and she was surrounded by loved ones in the end.

Goodnight, Betty.

You were loved.

Yes she was, my all time favorite movie of hers is The Lost Valentine, with Jennifer Love Hewitt, I always teared up at the end.

RIP Betty, you've well earned it.

[sheshe2]

10. I am so sorry about your wife, MCE.

So glad you had the chance to say goodbye, it helps.

Stay safe my friend.

[MarineCombatEngineer]

28. Thank you and what a beautiful song.

I hope when your Mom passes, it is peaceful and painless. you and your sister are just wonderful to take care of her until the end.

Peace be with you and your family.

[sheshe2]

29. Happy New Year my friend.

Peace.

[spooky3]

9. Sheshe2, you and your sister have been great to

Take such good care of your mom. I hope when the time comes, that she passes peacefully.

[sheshe2]

11. I hope it is peacefully in her sleep, spooky.

I and pray it is not on my watch.

[Scrivener7]

12. I send you love and my hopes that your mom passes easily.

You have cared for her for such a long time. She must have been a good mom to raise such a dear and kind daughter.

[LoisB]

13. Such a lovely post. Your mom is obviously a very beautiful person to have children who love

her so much.

[sinkingfeeling]

14. After watching my Mom go blind, become unable to walk, and in pain, I felt relief at her passing.

She was 96 and also retained her mental facilities up until she took a hard fall in her nursing home (which she hated) and broke her hip. She never really recovered from the surgery and didn't recognize me. I drove 1200 miles to be there. I never cried for her as I think she was thankful to leave. I just told her I loved her and she would once again be with my Dad who had passed 16 years earlier.

I cried when I had to sell many of her things when I moved into an apartment last year.

[sheshe2]

30. Hugs to you and sorry for your loss.

It isn't easy, yet we cope.

To a new year, sinkingfeeling.

[mercuryblues]

15. Hugs got you and your sister

💜

[TygrBright]

18. Thank you for sharing this, she.

You are correct in every word. Your Mom is so lucky.

And, painful as it is, so are you.

Holding you and your family in the Light.

appreciatively,
Bright

[mcar]

21. Bless you she

a caregiver's job is often so hard and yet you see the joy in being there for your mother.

[niyad]

22. Tears and hugs, she. A beautiful tribute to both Betty and your mom.

Know that your DU family is here for you. May your mom cross gently when it is her time, surrounded in light and love.

[HipChick]

23. God Bless sheshe2..

[MustLoveBeagles]

24. Kudos to you and your sister for caring for your mom

This celebrity death hit me hard. I didn't want to believe it. I also had the same reaction when Dawn Wells passed away a year ago today from Covid. I think the 100th birthday party should still go on and make it a celebration of her life. I think she'd love that.

[sheshe2]

34. Hey, hon, TY.

Thanks for all the clips as well. She was one amazing woman.

[maddiemom]

31. Recalls the also much loved George Burns, wo made it about six weeks into his hundredth year in 1996

[Maru Kitteh]

32. My dearest sheshe,

I don’t recall if we’ve had this conversation, but I’m hoping you are set up with hospice. The resources they can offer are just invaluable. My mom lived with us for 16 years.

16 years, and yet her passing was rather quick and unexpected, which has it’s own blessings, but candidly, I really could have used the counseling services.

Love you girl. Wishing you calm, solace and peace in the time to come. ❤️

[sheshe2]

33. Hi, Maru.

We did have hospice for almost 2 years, the insurance called them off...she wasn't dying fast enough I guess. We also stopped them for several months in 2020 when COVID was was out of control, then when things were looking better we brought them back only to lose them again.

Not saying anything bad about hospice they were wonderful people. One woman, I think she was considered a social worker, helped me out when I was summoned for jury duty at the beginning of the year 2021. I was summoned to both state and grand jury within weeks of each other. The grand jury cancelled out the state summons. The other, you have to serve for 18 months! I never knew this. She wrote a letter and it was signed by a DR that it was only the two of us caring for mom. I was excused.

We will be talking to moms PC if things continue to slide. Hospice will be back, just not sure when.

Thank you for your kind words, Maru.

Love and hugs to you and yours.