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canetoad

(17,174 posts)
Wed Jan 19, 2022, 11:43 PM Jan 2022

Old Women

Lately I've been paying more attention to the sheer number of YEARS that many of us have been friends, associates, acquaintances.....etc and I'm starting to think about this group of ageing woman who post on DU as 'The Sisters'.

You all know who you are. And YOU, (Celerity and coupla others) despite being young-uns, you belong to the sisterhood.

In many other aspects of society, we ageing females are discarded as of no use; we cannot breed or entice men. IMO, that is our power. And what a true power it is.

Older women have ALWAYS held the most power in society; this is why their most vehement opponent is their diametric opposite; the young man. Not all young men, just some.

As many of us approach and pass twenty years of online friendship, I salute my sisters. I love you all, respect your opinions, and want you to know that you make me a better person.




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Old Women (Original Post) canetoad Jan 2022 OP
As an old woman myself, I'm happy to know you Walleye Jan 2022 #1
Well said leftieNanner Jan 2022 #2
Same! It was a journey of empowerment to let my hair go natural. oregonjen Jan 2022 #13
I agree! llmart Jan 2022 #51
I let my hair go natural in the first year of COVID & I love the silver... Hekate Jan 2022 #36
When mine goes all the way, I'll let it go Bettie Jan 2022 #45
We are the DU sisterhood Pachamama Jan 2022 #3
OMG look at you canetoad Jan 2022 #4
Haven't been here 20 years but I am "old" so hope I can join the sisterhood. LoisB Jan 2022 #5
You already have Lois canetoad Jan 2022 #6
Thank you. LoisB Jan 2022 #11
May I recommend? Hoyt Jan 2022 #7
And you are loved, canetoad! babylonsister Jan 2022 #8
LOL ya know... canetoad Jan 2022 #10
Dolly turned 76 on 19 Jan canetoad Jan 2022 #40
If we all went to this place - CHANGE Will happen alittlelark Jan 2022 #9
Lark, I'm not as optimistic as you canetoad Jan 2022 #12
Great post. hamsterjill Jan 2022 #14
Personally, I'm madly in love with my wife of nearly 27 years. Mr.Bill Jan 2022 #15
Great sentiment that I've also felt here but not expressed. JudyM Jan 2022 #16
Thanks canetoad Jan 2022 #17
We crones, we know a thing or two. n/t TygrBright Jan 2022 #18
Ya canetoad Jan 2022 #20
Happy to be here. MuseRider Jan 2022 #19
... Solly Mack Jan 2022 #21
Poms... myohmy2 Jan 2022 #22
It was such a relief when I stopped getting hit on ... and now I just laugh when a young man fierywoman Jan 2022 #23
Nice. Thanks! Bluesaph Jan 2022 #24
Wow. I've been here 10 years come October. BadgerMom Jan 2022 #25
You ARE already part canetoad Jan 2022 #30
I haven't been posting here that long (although I've had this account since 2013). ShazzieB Jan 2022 #26
You're older than I am canetoad Jan 2022 #32
Right back at you! 💖 ShazzieB Jan 2022 #38
Your avatar is an IDIC, yes? Earth-shine Jan 2022 #37
Yes, that's an idic! ShazzieB Jan 2022 #39
❤ Cheers! littlemissmartypants Jan 2022 #27
Where did my 16 years on DU go? Smart, informed folks who read and think. LuckyLib Jan 2022 #28
It's nice to be acknowledged! lunatica Jan 2022 #29
I'm teaching a class on aging and working on a novel about older women. nolabear Jan 2022 #31
Nolabear, that sounds wonderful and inspiring. JudyM Jan 2022 #48
Oh absolutely. nolabear Jan 2022 #49
I'll check em out JudyM Jan 2022 #55
I'm touched no end by this thread. Thank you so much for it & for being here... Hekate Jan 2022 #33
That's me on the left canetoad Jan 2022 #34
What a great photo. You look ready to find some abalone! Hekate Jan 2022 #35
you posted my feelings exactly .... nebby70 Jan 2022 #41
I passed 20 years here last October Maeve Jan 2022 #42
Recommended. panader0 Jan 2022 #43
I honestly feel that the world is a better place because of women like us. flying_wahini Jan 2022 #44
I'm addicted to the daily dose of DU sisters (and bro's) BlueGreenLady Jan 2022 #46
Beautiful post. I think we women "of a certain age" are the counterweight Scrivener7 Jan 2022 #47
I'm almost 73 and your post made me feel so much better. This morning, with the knowledge Vinca Jan 2022 #50
What a wonderful sentiment. llmart Jan 2022 #52
K&R. I consider you all to be my sisters, too. MineralMan Jan 2022 #53
Old age is the best thing that ever happened to me. shrike3 Jan 2022 #54

leftieNanner

(15,137 posts)
2. Well said
Wed Jan 19, 2022, 11:48 PM
Jan 2022

Having embraced my natural white hair in the past few years, I am happy to be a part of that sisterhood.

So many smart, giving women here on DU. I learn something new every day.

llmart

(15,545 posts)
51. I agree!
Sun Jan 23, 2022, 01:42 PM
Jan 2022

It's quite liberating to boot. My hairdresser says that boomer women are making silver hair fashionable and they are coming in to her shop asking to have their hair actually colored silver!

Here's to older, sage women everywhere!!!

Hekate

(90,751 posts)
36. I let my hair go natural in the first year of COVID & I love the silver...
Thu Jan 20, 2022, 02:02 AM
Jan 2022

It was about time, seeing I was over 70, and I do love the results. A Crone’s crown is silver.


Bettie

(16,117 posts)
45. When mine goes all the way, I'll let it go
Thu Jan 20, 2022, 09:56 AM
Jan 2022

right now, it's a muddy in-between stage so I often have purple or pink hair. I rarely go out these days, but the bright color makes me happy.

canetoad

(17,174 posts)
12. Lark, I'm not as optimistic as you
Thu Jan 20, 2022, 12:28 AM
Jan 2022

I really wish change could happen via an internet forum but seriously doubt the probability.

At my age, memberships and affiliations are unnecessary. It's all about how I define myself and I'm increasingly aware of the total inconsequence of our lives in the general scheme of the universe.

No, that is not a sad thought; it's a realistic, comforting thought that places me in the correct place in 4 billion years of evolution.

Mr.Bill

(24,311 posts)
15. Personally, I'm madly in love with my wife of nearly 27 years.
Thu Jan 20, 2022, 12:47 AM
Jan 2022

She turned 71 in June and can't imagine being without her.

MuseRider

(34,112 posts)
19. Happy to be here.
Thu Jan 20, 2022, 12:58 AM
Jan 2022

19 years and counting. I am recently turned 68 and very happy to be that age. It is a pleasure to read all of you as you write. Us older women have seen our lives change in so many ways and I am glad we have enough here to have support as we watch everything we worked for get taken away.

Personally, I don't know what others think of my use at this age. I think I am capable of more every year and am so happy to be in the place where I do not have to care much about what someone else thinks of me.

Thanks for this thread.

fierywoman

(7,688 posts)
23. It was such a relief when I stopped getting hit on ... and now I just laugh when a young man
Thu Jan 20, 2022, 01:21 AM
Jan 2022

runs ahead to open a door for me !

BadgerMom

(2,771 posts)
25. Wow. I've been here 10 years come October.
Thu Jan 20, 2022, 01:25 AM
Jan 2022

I was going to ask if I could be part of the sisterhood since I’m old though a relative newbie here. But, it’s almost a decade! So not that much of a newbie. Clearly I’m old though since I didn’t realize 10 years had passed. But I still like the idea of sisterhood.

ShazzieB

(16,455 posts)
26. I haven't been posting here that long (although I've had this account since 2013).
Thu Jan 20, 2022, 01:31 AM
Jan 2022

But I am old! 71, to be exact. And I won't lie; I love that there are so many of us old folks here. I enjoy interacting with people of all ages, but the older I get, the more I enjoy the company of wise old women.

littlemissmartypants

(22,719 posts)
27. ❤ Cheers!
Thu Jan 20, 2022, 01:32 AM
Jan 2022

If I live until August 28th, I will have been here for ten years. Seems like yesterday when I joined. I will also celebrate my 65th birthday this year. Also, seems like yesterday that I was wearing bell bottom jeans and halter tops.

Now, I'm living in love with my grey hair but can we talk about electrolysis?

I love my uppity women friends most of all. Wonderful post, canetoad. Thank you.

LuckyLib

(6,819 posts)
28. Where did my 16 years on DU go? Smart, informed folks who read and think.
Thu Jan 20, 2022, 01:33 AM
Jan 2022

Can't think of a better sisterhood!

nolabear

(41,990 posts)
31. I'm teaching a class on aging and working on a novel about older women.
Thu Jan 20, 2022, 01:34 AM
Jan 2022

It’s all a learning experience, or maybe a confirming one. We are dismissed, feared, ignored, avoided, and sometimes recognized for the forces of nature we are now we’re free of a lot of the chains of youth. If we’re lucky and smart we can do so much. And do it together.

JudyM

(29,251 posts)
48. Nolabear, that sounds wonderful and inspiring.
Sun Jan 23, 2022, 11:38 AM
Jan 2022

Would you be up for sharing a couple of your favorite links or readings?

nolabear

(41,990 posts)
49. Oh absolutely.
Sun Jan 23, 2022, 12:55 PM
Jan 2022

Look up the books “This Chair Rocks” by Ashton Applewhite. She has a website by the same name, and this Ted Talk and other interviews on YouTube.



And Elderhood, a book by Louise Aronson, was nominated for a Pulitzer.

They’re both accessible, enraging and uplifting at once. They pertain to everyone, not just women, but we’re certainly mentioned as having our unique issues.

nebby70

(471 posts)
41. you posted my feelings exactly ....
Thu Jan 20, 2022, 08:22 AM
Jan 2022

... I gave up trying to 'chase the latest' whatever and decided it was pretty good to be old because I had experience ...
... joints complain, grandma's face appears in the mirror instead of mine, but I've honed my snark and take no foolishness...
... I stand tall (okay -almost 5') with the women of DU and with the entire DU family - you're what makes it worthwhile....

Maeve

(42,286 posts)
42. I passed 20 years here last October
Thu Jan 20, 2022, 08:30 AM
Jan 2022

Altho I swear I was here earlier than that--just didn't register. I don't post as much as some, but I do appreciate the women of DU.

In fact, it was the large number of female posters that kept me here over the years. Back in the day (and still true now) opinion boards were dominated by men who thought being loud and pushy made them right.

flying_wahini

(6,626 posts)
44. I honestly feel that the world is a better place because of women like us.
Thu Jan 20, 2022, 09:50 AM
Jan 2022

…Staying sharp and focused in issues that matter, speaking out about injustice and working to
Elect people that will help us change the world. I love DU! It is my ‘internet’ home.
I started lurking when W and 9/11 happened but didn’t post/join for about 3-4 years.

66 and happy to be here.

BlueGreenLady

(2,824 posts)
46. I'm addicted to the daily dose of DU sisters (and bro's)
Thu Jan 20, 2022, 09:59 AM
Jan 2022

Sorry, I'm introverted and mostly lurk, I don't post unless I really have something to add to a discussion. i'm 64 and stuck here in Redstatistan often feel isolated. It is ladies like UpInArms, JudiLynn and LeftyLadyfromMO and all the rest, that keep me from feeling all alone. DU helps keep me sane. Thank you all for posting throughout the 18 years I have been on DU. Would like to give you all a big cyber hug!

Scrivener7

(50,977 posts)
47. Beautiful post. I think we women "of a certain age" are the counterweight
Thu Jan 20, 2022, 09:59 AM
Jan 2022

to much of what is breaking our hearts these days.

Vinca

(50,299 posts)
50. I'm almost 73 and your post made me feel so much better. This morning, with the knowledge
Sun Jan 23, 2022, 01:27 PM
Jan 2022

my last old cat might get a bad diagnosis from the vet next week, I was kind of weepy. I got into one of those black holes where you start to think back on all the things you've loved - human and animal - who are long gone and how you're the next generation on the chopping block. I'm usually rather content with how I feel about death and dying, but for some reason I had a dark cloud over my head earlier today. Feeling better now and your post has helped. I appreciate all the older people (we know who we are - LOL) on DU for your long memories and insight on the messes du jour. I've been here since 2004 and despite our occasional bickering have enjoyed it all.

llmart

(15,545 posts)
52. What a wonderful sentiment.
Sun Jan 23, 2022, 01:56 PM
Jan 2022

Thank you for this thread. I lurked on DU for awhile before joining in 2003, so I've been here at least 20 years and I'm almost 73. It's my go-to place for news, but also to learn.

You are absolutely correct that older women hold the power. I have no qualms about wielding it whenever I damned well feel like it!

shrike3

(3,695 posts)
54. Old age is the best thing that ever happened to me.
Sun Jan 23, 2022, 03:07 PM
Jan 2022

I stopped trying to be nice. I stopped worrying about what I said. Life is great.

I live in an industrial area, and the ratio of males to females is pretty much even. The guys my age are more anxious for a mate than the women my age. (I'm married.) My single friends have no interest in anything but casual relationships if that, and the men seem to find someone to take of them before it's too late.
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