After 22 years, my cancer has come back,

[Racygrandma]

Yes I had breast cancer surgery in November of 1998 and Chemo in December of 1998 to May of 1999. I was put on a clinical trial. So now I had a needle biopsy on a lump in my armpit, and it came back positive. I am not surprised, my aunt had a 20 year remission. But the thing is now I am ready to tell my Republican in-laws and other Trump humping relatives exactly what I think. Let me tell you I have in-laws that live a few miles from Roger Marshal's home in Pawnee Rock Kansas. Boy are they fans of him. I still remember his commercials, him holding two newborns and telling everyone how pro-life he is. They thought I was just awful because I voted for his Democratic opponent . They think I am horrible. I am pro-choice and they think they have the moral high ground. Man, I think someone here probably needs to talk me out of letting me go after those guys. Right now I feel pretty good, health wise. Still have lots of energy, so I could let them have it. I have a sister in law that has a gun in her purse. I live in Wichita, and they think that makes me a horrible person because I am from the "big city". So should I hold back? Remember I have been listening to this for 35 years.

[TreasonousBastard]

1. I do not stand in your shoes, but I gotta say "Let 'er rip."

I

[Racygrandma]

2. That is what I am thinking

they have said so much more but I am going to be quiet about that. I do not want to hurt people I do love.

[WVreaper]

14. YEP

[pwb]

3. Maybe spend your time around people you like more?

You will find out who in your family puts politics over even life itself. Covid showed us that they have a different side to everything. You are not alone, Birth control makes me a bad person in my family. FUGUM all. Nicely.
Peace to you.

[SunSeeker]

4. Sorry to hear about your recurrence. Did you have a full body CT scan yet?

It's important to determine what stage you are. If it is limited to your armpit lymph nodes, it is very treatable. I was Stage III in 2005 with 4 positive lymph nodes. I had surgery, chemo and radiation, and I'm still here!

Your first priority is getting your health squared away. Preserve your energy for healing yourself.

I would not waste your precious time with your idiot relatives. I tried arguing with my Trumper in-laws and it only made me hate them more as they absolutely would not acknowledge reality and escalated the depravity of their assertions.

Use your precious energy on what will make you feel better. Unfollow your relatives on social media (you can do that without unfriending them on Facebook) so that you don't see their poisonous words. Spend time with people who appreciate you. Get out in nature. Do what makes you happy. That is the best thing you can do for your health, both physical and mental.

[Racygrandma]

8. That is what I am thinking

I had 6 positive lymph nodes in 98, but should I waste my time making myself miserable on these people No no scans yet, I assume that will some next week. So we shall see

[uponit7771]

23. +1,

[StarryNite]

29. I agree with your suggestions for her.

Those people aren't worth her time. It will only increase stress which is not healthy.

[madaboutharry]

5. I wish you only the best.

I hope this will also be something you beat and that you have another 20 years ahead.

And yes, tell them what you really think. Say it with a smile.

[Skittles]

6. you kicked cancer ass before you'll do it again!

and YES, please feel free to kick repuke ass while you do it!

remember, someone is always here on DU, we are here for you

[live love laugh]

7. My mom had a recurrence after 20 years and she's fine. That was more than 5 years ago.

She needed chemo 20 years ago. Only required radiation recently.

I wish you the very best outcome.

[Deuxcents]

9. Wishing you a good health report

As to your R friends n family.. tell em how you feel and let it go. They’ve been free with their feelings..be free with yours and see who still stands with you. Keep us posted on your progress

[MLAA]

10. So sorry to hear of your recurrence.

In case you are interested, I’m adding a link and a short excerpt on diet’s effect on Breast Cancer. Also a book if you are interested. And I say give those relatives a piece of your mind then spend time with kinder/smarter folks!

Sending you 💖💖💖

According to the World Cancer Research Fund (WCRF), there is some evidence suggesting that eating non-starchy vegetables may decrease the risk of estrogen-receptor-negative (ER) breast cancer. Foods containing carotenoids, which include carrots, yams, kale, spinach, and oranges, may decrease your risk.

Full article: https://www.livekindly.co/can-plant-based-diet-reduce-risk-breast-cancer/

I gave this book to a friend with breast cancer and she found it useful and changed her diet.

https://www.thriftbooks.com/w/breasts-the-owners-manual-every-womans-guide-to-reducing-cancer-risk-making-treatment-choices-and-optimizing-outcomes_kristi-funk/17987601/item/30666855/?gclid=CjwKCAiAg6yRBhBNEiwAeVyL0KOQSPOH6YRu3vJQyWDfmWLfDWzo3NLwSA81iiL8H0zE06-KSm-CyhoCuQcQAvD_BwE#idiq=30666855&edition=18973328

[Racygrandma]

19. My cancer was estrogen positive

at least that is what I remember, no estrogen was not allowed no estrogen supplements, had to take pills to block the estrogen in my body. Sorry do not remember the name just remember the cost 500 dollars a month.I had to take it for five years. It has gotten to the point that a lot of food makes me sick, my relatives think I am evil because steak and potatoes makes me sick. My stomach likes vegetables, so much restaurant food makes me sick too much grease.

[MLAA]

21. Glad you like Veggies and they work for you.

Veggies are the best thing for us ❤️

[DFW]

32. My wife has the same problem with much restaurant food

The excessive use of grease makes her ill.

She had serious breast cancer in 2001. two operations, brutal chemo, a series of radiation treatments and then rehab took 11 months, but left her cancer-free until 2016. Then she was diagnosed with a rare form of uterine that is called „the murderer“ here because it is never discovered until it is too late. But hers was discovered by chance due to hyper vigilance due to her first cancer. She had a brutal 5 and a half hour operation during which they took 84 biopsies. ALL 84 came back clean. The surgeon said he had never seen that, and she might be that first case that he could save. She has been cancer-free since then. She has so far been that „one case in ten thousand.“

So don‘t give up hope. You might just find out that you don’t have to.

[womanofthehills]

11. I would concentrate on healing and spending time with people who have the same beliefs as you

Why bother? This is a time for you to heal -not get upset. You could tell them off and they would not care. Many people don’t behave how we would prefer - why argue? Just eliminate them from your life. I would relax, do things you enjoy, spend time with good friends and erase them from your mind. Your healing is of number one importance. Wish you the best!

[gldstwmn]

12. Do what makes you happy.

I will hold a good thought for your health.

[Meowmee]

13. I am so sorry

But I hope you get those scans and treat and beat it again. I would stay away from those family members for now at least while you deal with your health. I hope you have others to turn to.

[MuseRider]

15. Howdy Wichita from South of Topeka!

I hate that creep as well. I don't really know but if it were me I would let it rip. You have enough to work through but this might relieve some pressure? I hope all will be easy for you as you continue treatment after all this time. You beat it back once, you can do it again and perhaps the newer treatments will be easier on you? I hope so.

I have quite a few friends in Wichita, people I have done a LOT of political work with. Great people, fun people and people you can always count on. I hope you have connected with some of them working so hard to make this state better. I sure wish we were not in the mess we are in now but we can climb out of it again.

First and foremost, do what you feel like doing and what will make you feel better but make sure everything helps you get better.

Roger Marshall, 'ole doc as he prefers to be called. What an awful creep he is.

[Racygrandma]

22. I am telling you

I hate that guy, such a two faced piece of shit. I heard he had covid parties at his home in Pawnee Rock. Parties rejecting the covid pandemic. I thought the Hypocratic oath said "first do no harm" Then he was one of 8 Senators that voted in favor of the insurrection

[oasis]

16. Do your thing. We're pulling for you to come through again.

[Rebl2]

17. Spend time

with those you like and think like you. Have nothing to do with your in-laws since they make you angry. They aren’t worth your energy. Concentrate on your health and getting better.

[seta1950]

18. If I were in your shoes

I would definitely not hold back not at all,it’s very empowering believe me.

[EndlessWire]

20. Yeah, the whole body scan is a good idea.

Changing your diet, if you need to, is also a good idea.

I would not make the effort to teach them anything. Reduction of stress is important. I'd say, avoid them altogether, but if they must opine to you, then feel free to say your mind. Maybe in your past you had your company manners on. Well, you don't have to any more.

[MartyTheGreek]

24. Please no! You take the High Ground! They have the Rage don't let it reflect back...

You be you! I can tell you have much Love in your heart because you have the power already to make a conscience decision without giving into an emotional reaction that you can't take back later. Become the observer and think above this all of this! They are watching you to see your reaction too, so make it a heartfelt one always.

And don't let them try to get you to debate healthcare yada, yada! Science has given you and many other longer lives and you got more to go!

So, Save that Energy! Convert it to focusing your attention to your challenge. Any added negative energy, back and forth will be draining. Yes you feel good now, maintain it! Have you learned meditation? This helps much with slowing thoughts and monkey mind chatter type thoughts like revenge, resentment, I win, you lose, got you back. We're all guilty of it, but if we can capture those thoughts before they become bad emotional reactions, that's power! When you start applying that power with thoughtful decision making it reflects outward!

Hang tough for you! Be calm and cool. Proper intuition will follow to guide you. It could soften their hearts on how you handle this!

[dflprincess]

25. If it would make you feel better go for it.

If you think, in the long run, doing it might cause you more stress, then don't

Just decide what is best for you and your mental & emotional health right now. That is all that's important.

[summer_in_TX]

26. Anger and rage are not exactly conducive to good health and

healing.

But choking it in isn't exactly healthy either. A dilemma. But your health comes first and I hope you have many healthy years ahead.

[demtenjeep]

27. Fellow ICTan and I f'n hate roger marshall and ron testes

I am sorry about your new bout with fucking cancer.

My sister died of colon cancer MOSTLY because she had to wait until she got medicare so she could actually afford to go to the doctor. She likely had it several years ...had symptoms but her asshole of a husband never provided much for her and they had no insurance



anyway-I am sorry


I will join with you in cursing "dr" roger piece of shit

[Pepsidog]

28. Live and let live! Give it to them.

[StarryNite]

30. Screw them. They aren't worth your time.

Get healthy. Arguing with those idiots will only increase your stress. Stress is really hard on the body. Do what you need to do to get well.

[raising2moredems]

31. Nope - no holds barred

Both barrels any time - regardless of your health situation.. Matter of fact, feel free to mess with their heads (though likely pretty empty). Ensure your ducks are in a row (aka no ammo for them to declare you unable to handle your own affairs/money).
No offense but if they think Wichita is a big city, they are not all that bright. But then again, most maggots aren't that bright. Please be sure to ask them when they are going to Ukraine to protect the "unborn".

[a kennedy]

33. Sending good vibes and ♥️ as you go through this process.....

and I say let ‘em have it.

[Raine]

34. Put all your energy into being positive, don't dwell on past

feuds ... all that negativity is not doing anything for healthy healing. Wishing you all the best.

[Racygrandma]

35. I remeber people who became terminal and got very angry

That made the people around them miserable. Which would just push them deeper into the Roger Marshall camp. i can voice my opinion, but in a kind way.