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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsWould it be possible for everyone to talk about women without using insults?
Last edited Wed Mar 23, 2022, 02:44 PM - Edit history (1)
Disclaimer: I'm talking about those who engage in this behavior. It you don't, the OP isn't about you. End of story.
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Do we really need to see Lindsey Graham feminized in a way that insults both LGBTQ+ Americans and women? How is it this meme continues, despite people being told repeatedly that it is insulting? When they know how such taunts are received yet continue the behavior, the only conclusion I can draw is that their insults to women and LGBTQ+ folks are deliberate.
Why do people think it's okay to call women c...ts just because they are Republican? (In case you're not aware, referring to someone as a "cunning stunt" means c...t.). Because when someone invokes such language, it's not just Republicans they insult. Presumably they justify this misogynistic slur because they disagree politically with Republican women. Does that mean Republicans are justified in calling their mothers, wives, and daughters those same names because they disagree with them too?
Why must do some folks enforce puritanical standards of femininity that rivals the far right by calling women whose dress, comportment, or photos they disapprove of "sex workers," as though that disguises what they really mean?
How is it that in 2022, white male entitlement is so pronounced that any Democrat would feel perfectly comfortable using such insults?
Can we just be nice to one another and quit using sexist and homophobic tropes as though they were acceptable? The vast majority of people do, but I find it disturbing that some seemingly well intentioned people do engage in such behavior. Please try to be more aware of your language choices. They matter.
ETA: Someone pointed out that they've seen several "See you next Thursday" references. People should understand that also means c...t.
North Shore Chicago
(3,303 posts)The Hindu Goddess Kunti, or great Yoni of the Universe, represented the beauty and power of the female body in Mahābhārata, a major Sanskrit epic of ancient India. (And soon to be movie.) The Mahabharata was a historical Hindu text, believed to have been written between 200 and 400 BC, containing mythological and didactic tales of heroism and the sovereign rivalry between two families. Not only did Yoni lead a powerful matriarchy that rivals the discourse of contemporary gender politics, but she encompassed life itself; she was worshiped at hundreds of shrines across the ancient Eastern world.
De-tooth the vulgarity of this word and they will stop using it as an insult.
hlthe2b
(102,131 posts)Last edited Wed Mar 23, 2022, 09:26 AM - Edit history (1)
is clearly misogynistic or incel-driven hate in THIS country.
NO! Women of my generation were taunted with this behind our backs throughout our professional careers to prevent our rising in male-dominated professions. And it worked in the male-dominated board rooms, management meetings, and CEO offices. Younger folks obliviously think it is not so bad, given it is a feature of RAP and the Brits use it, after all. That is insensitive (and foolish self-defeating) claptrap.
obamanut2012
(26,046 posts)Scrivener7
(50,916 posts)MineralMan
(146,262 posts)Way too late.
It doesn't mean that in today's English. We don't have a Hindu perspective on language at all. In England the word is used as a general insult, but in the US, it is blatantly a sexist, cruel word used to demean.
It can't be reconfigured by explaining through an ancient Hindu scripture. Nope.
Wednesdays
(17,317 posts)It would be like "rehabilitating" the "n" word, by saying that after all, it was originally just the Latin word for "black."
MineralMan
(146,262 posts)is truly a fool's errand.
RobinA
(9,886 posts)I have never understood why people give so much power to these unmentionable words. I'm a female. Call me a c--- until the cows come home, I could not care less. I give that word no power at all.
North Shore Chicago
(3,303 posts)meadowlander
(4,388 posts)When you call a certain, in your view contemptible person a word to put them in their place and signal to other people that they don't have to listen to or respect that person and the word you pick means "vagina" what you are also doing in reinforcing that other people who also happen to have vaginas are contemptible and should be ignored and put in their place.
You don't detooth the vulgarity of the word by pretending it comes from Hindi instead of Latin. You detooth it by calling people out on the inherent misogyny of using it in the context of attacking a woman, even one we don't like.
Hekate
(90,560 posts)FreepFryer
(7,077 posts)obamanut2012
(26,046 posts)I am so tired of the Graham thing, and EarlG told people to stop that and the "sly" anti trans stuff, but it is all the fuck over this site. And, calling women sluts, bitches, cunt (in a "cute" way), etc. and people do not think it's wrong.
It is making me think of leaving the site, because this is worse now than it was a couple years ago.
Thanks for the OP.
spooky3
(34,407 posts)Behaving men or women (evil jerk; stupid racist; etc.) that are NOT related to the targets gender.
obamanut2012
(26,046 posts)"Total and complete fuckwit" is what a British friend called Theresa May, not "stupid bitch."
BlackSkimmer
(51,308 posts)If hes made a similar comment about snide remarks about cis women or gay people, I missed it.
Im not here all the time, so I easily may have missed such a statement.
obamanut2012
(26,046 posts)Specifically towards Graham, but implied generally.
Scrivener7
(50,916 posts)But whether he did or not, it's beneath us.
BlackSkimmer
(51,308 posts)This.
yardwork
(61,539 posts)I've seen them personally ban posters over an anti-trans comment, for instance.
DU has been around a long time, and admins didn't always understand this issue, but, like President Obama, they "evolved." It's been many years now that DU admins have been clear about this.
LizBeth
(9,952 posts)against sexist slurs. Now granted, I did not see the comment addressing anti-gay and anti-trans slurs, so I probably would not see a comment addressing plain ole boring sexist slurs.
yardwork
(61,539 posts)Can't disagree at all, sadly.
BlackSkimmer
(51,308 posts)Seems to be accepted too.
obamanut2012
(26,046 posts)I suspect many are "bait" OPs and comments, and the usual suspects don;t call about EarlG's OP a few months ago -- they need to all be FFRed.
Doodley
(9,045 posts)obamanut2012
(26,046 posts)Scrivener7
(50,916 posts)So.....
obamanut2012
(26,046 posts)yardwork
(61,539 posts)Doodley
(9,045 posts)First question: "Do we really need to see Lindsey Graham feminized in a way that insults both LGBTQ+ Americans and women?"
I don't know what "Lindsey Graham feminized" means. I know he has a problem with women--look at the way he treated Ketanji Brown Jackson--with a level of contempt that he shows for women, and I know he is anti-gay. I can't stand the guy. But I honestly don't understand the question and who is to say what insults Americans, women and LGBTQ?
DLevine
(1,788 posts)Doodley
(9,045 posts)imposing his bigotry on others and denying the rights of others. That is the insult. But let's be nice as we walk nearer and nearer towards a fascist state.
DLevine
(1,788 posts)AntiFascist
(12,792 posts)OMG (apologies to anyone who is religious that I may have offended).
DLevine
(1,788 posts)AntiFascist
(12,792 posts)DLevine
(1,788 posts)Scrivener7
(50,916 posts)thing to call a man? Whether you understand what you are doing or not (and I suspect you do), you are saying that women are inferior to men.
AntiFascist
(12,792 posts)Lindsey Graham referred to about himself. I prefer not to explain any further, but it has absolutely nothing to do with women, and I mean that absolutely.
LizBeth
(9,952 posts)Really, promise. Like we are all stupid. No really, it is about a cat.
AntiFascist
(12,792 posts)BlackSkimmer
(51,308 posts)BannonsLiver
(16,311 posts)That about sums it up.
spooky3
(34,407 posts)brer cat
(24,524 posts)I totally agree.
betsuni
(25,380 posts)Scrivener7
(50,916 posts)Civility is really impossible for some.
DLevine
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Amishman
(5,554 posts)The entire point of offensive language is to offend. The more it bothers us, the more they are encouraged to use it
ignore it, don't take offense.
The words only have power if you let it bother you.
MindHowYouGo
(36 posts)RobinA
(9,886 posts)we give them.
treestar
(82,383 posts)sticks and stones can break my bones, but names will never hurt me.
We were taught not to let these things get to us.
DLevine
(1,788 posts)Or is it just gendered slurs that you have no problem with?
obamanut2012
(26,046 posts)RobinA
(9,886 posts)so I can't say anything about those slurs. But I am a female and I say slur away with female terms. They don't mean anything to me. And yes, I've been called them. I simply refuse to give some word that much power over me.
DLevine
(1,788 posts)RobinA
(9,886 posts)actually, not to be held hostage by some word(s) someone decided was a slur. We should give away less power, not more.
DLevine
(1,788 posts)Or calling a Jewish person a k***, or using gay slurs, just because we don't like the person. What a cesspool this place would become. Most women don't appreciate being called a c*** or a b**** or a t***. If you're ok with being called those words, that's your business, but those words don't belong on DU.
treestar
(82,383 posts)any of that. But when right wingers do, does it not give them power and the will to continue if we tell them it is hurtful? The question being not that we'd use them.
And some are less than others. You've picked out the worst ones.
DLevine
(1,788 posts)Nothing will stop them from doing the horrible things they do. They have no shame. I do encourage DUers to not engage in slurs. Some seem to think gendered slurs are no big deal, but they are a big deal to many of us. Yes, some slurs are worse than others, but none of them should be considered acceptable on a Democratic site.
treestar
(82,383 posts)But never engaging right wingers will let them keep it up just as well. But engaging with them as their victims doesn't improve them either. I don't think they can just be ignored. Unless you think that sexism and the other isms will go away in time anyway without having to worry about their behavior.
But then for that matter such slurs against Lindsay Graham don't do any good in making him favor better policies either.
DLevine
(1,788 posts)I agree with the op, slurs against any oppressed group is a bad thing. I have no interest in discussing right-wingers in this thread. I'm hoping to change the minds of DUers who still use gendered slurs.
treestar
(82,383 posts)is what brought about the thread.
I do think you will succeed. DU has finally stopped using prison rape comments, for example. At least, it seems to to me.
DLevine
(1,788 posts)It was about gay slurs, yes, but also about some DUers who feel the need to call a woman a b**** or a c*** or a t***.
LizBeth
(9,952 posts)Is the 'one" that has stopped. Totally ironic.
Doodley
(9,045 posts)be so easily offended by names and words when what is really offensive is that half the lawmakers in this country want to take away our rights and move us closer to a fascist state. That is what is offensive.
Amishman
(5,554 posts)I won't use them and try to be careful with my own language, but I won't reward those who use offensive language by giving them the attention they crave.
There is no easy way to handle this, as any reaction is giving them attention and this rewarding the behavior
DLevine
(1,788 posts)If admin suddenly decided to permit slurs on DU (the N word, f**, k***, c***), this place would become extremely hostile to the targeted groups. Many good people would leave, and rightly so, just out of self-respect. You have to call it out. Ignoring it only makes it worse.
treestar
(82,383 posts)it is not to be permitted.
But when talking about right wingers who would have not problem with them, or might be too polite to use them but argue for every sexist or racist policy, there are other issues. The right winger won't react to them, or if they complain they will be hypocritical. The right winger will see the power they get from using the word. And may make fun, saying it doesn't bother them.
treestar
(82,383 posts)Not "ok" with them. The question is how to react to them.
Or whether to use them, on right wingers. I suggest mostly not, but remember they would use them in a minute.
And when you tell right wingers what they say is hurtful, what is the right winger's reaction?
DLevine
(1,788 posts)Nothing is going to change their behavior. But we need to be better than that, and by that I mean don't use those words on DU.
BlackSkimmer
(51,308 posts)Just no.
CrackityJones75
(2,403 posts)But black people use it all the time and it has that exact effect. As a middle aged white male who am I to tell them how to use that word?
What I find funny is when it comes to Trump (or really any man we dont like) we can use whatever words we want. We can talk about private parts, fatness, stupidness, oldness, and we can use any number of words that would be deemed offensive against women.
What is funny about that is the patriarchal attitude that women cannot handle the heat. Which I find funny because I learned to mind my manners a long time ago from a girl my age when I said something ignorant and stupid and she verbally let me have it.
No I am not saying it is ok to insult people and to use disparaging words. But lets be honest here, when it comes to that there is an awful lot of hypocrisy here and everywhere else.
While I dont care for using insults all that much (I am a hypocrite too) I do try to look at peoples actual actions or their intent.
With that said fuck that fat assed small dicked stupid piece of shit Trump.
obamanut2012
(26,046 posts)oldsoftie
(12,492 posts)I mean, as you say at the end; Trump IS a fat stupid dumbass.
treestar
(82,383 posts)Straw man.
No one on DU would use those or suggested it.
obamanut2012
(26,046 posts)Or someone Jewish a k***? Why not???? BECAUSE YOU ARE WRONG
Amishman
(5,554 posts)I'm not saying offensive language is OK, I'm saying actively trying to punish or suppress it is counterproductive.
They use it to cause offense, to get attention. By reacting, we give them what they want.
Don't use slurs yourself, but don't reward those who do by reacting
Torchlight
(3,293 posts)To me, it comes across as an appeal to the better angels of our natures. I saw zero punishment, and even less oppression in the request.
Scrivener7
(50,916 posts)Your argument is the one favored by people who don't want to be called out on their incivility or verbal abusiveness. It puts the onus on the person who was insulted or verbally abused.
It's total bullshit.
The solution is much easier than what you propose and it is this: stop slurring people.
yardwork
(61,539 posts)Ignoring bad behavior doesn't magically change the behavior. Ignoring it encourages the behavior.
Over and over again, oppressed people are told to wait until everybody agrees before pushing to change laws. Well, what actually works - over and over - is changing the laws. Slave owners weren't going to stop buying and selling people until slavery was outlawed. Then, for a hundred years Jim Crow laws were imposed to essentially re-enslave Black people. Things didn't improve until federal laws were passed making discrimination illegal. And we're watching how hard the Republicans are working to overturn those laws. Why? Because they know that as soon as laws are lifted, a bunch of people will go right back to behaving badly. And they want that "right" to behave badly.
Same with the history of gay rights. People didn't suddenly decide that it was ok for gay people to get married. Laws were changed, and then more people went along with it.
Same with women's rights. Men didn't give women the right to vote out of the kindness of their hearts. Laws had to change first.
Bringing us to this issue on DU. Juries need to enforce DU rules. Ignoring bad behavior encourages bad behavior.
Hekate
(90,560 posts)treestar
(82,383 posts)the legislatures and POTUS that passed the 19th amendment were surely male dominated if all male. The people who could make it the law were mostly male.
And that law will not be reversed, no matter how many troll Republicans say that women should not be able to vote. I remember Ann Coulter saying that. Interestingly she is one who draws nicknames and insults that DU deplores.
bullwinkle428
(20,628 posts)are, 99.9% of the time, straight white males. How do I know? Because I'm part of that fucking community!!
It's unbelievable presumptuous of us to just assume the optimal way to deal with reactions to words, when we haven't had to deal with that kind of marginalization in our lives. Sometimes it's just better to sit back and listen, and make adjustments to our own behavior accordingly.
yardwork
(61,539 posts)As a white woman I feel the same way about racism. The white people saying and doing racist things just can't seem to see the problem.
treestar
(82,383 posts)What is their reaction going to be? Very happy to find they have such easily usable power. They don't feel bad about that. They don't feel guilty about that. They'll take it.
MineralMan
(146,262 posts)We should not use that kind of language. If others do, it marks them as assholes. If everyone uses that language, the words still mean what they mean, and we join the assholes if we use them.
Just don't.
iemanja
(53,015 posts)and that is how the word is communicated. Words have meaning. How about telling the people who used bigoted language to knock it off rather than telling those who are the target not to be bothered.
MineralMan
(146,262 posts)The problem is attempting to normalize their use.
LizBeth
(9,952 posts)to continue sexism.
MineralMan
(146,262 posts)None. Those who try reveal themselves.
treestar
(82,383 posts)all kinds of obscenities are used on DU and that is normalized.
DU has tried and perhaps succeeded in getting people to stop with certain things. OP is trying on this. The B word for right wing females, not making prison rape jokes, those seem to have succeeded. Interesting process.
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MineralMan
(146,262 posts)They will be confronted. Thus, the comments in this thread. Assaults that are misogynistic, homophobic, or racist in nature will be called out here. Period.
iemanja
(53,015 posts)whites to call them the n word. It's all the fault of black people complaining. That is what you are saying. Do you see how that looks when you turn it on women?
Solly Mack
(90,758 posts)Words are tools - tools that can be used as a weapon. Weapons can be used to attack or defend.
More importantly, words shape and inform thought and concepts. Meaning they can determine how a person thinks, which in turn influences how they act.
If a person is comfortable using sexist, racist, or homophobic slurs then it's a safe bet they are equally as comfortable engaging in sexist, racist, and homophobic thought and action.
Such actions include how they vote, how they view events like the murder of George Floyd, how they see rape and rape victims, how they view LGBT people, discrimination, how they view women in the workplace, whether or not they cling to outdated and oppressive gender roles, how they view America's history of bigotry - and how they see themselves in relation to those who have been on the receiving end of that bigotry.
All of the above examples carry with them intent - intent determined by and driven by their use of words. The words that shaped their thinking.
There's a lot of power behind the words to thoughts to actions of a racist cop, for example. A sexist judge. Or the homophobic governor. Or members of Congress at both the state and federal levels.
To pretend that by ignoring the initial bad behavior somehow reduces the power behind those slurs is ludicrous. Those words shaped the thoughts that directed the actions that lead to banning books on race, gender roles, and sexuality; to ignorant legislation like "Don't say Gay", and to all other forms of discrimination. Witness the confirmation hearing of Judge Ketanji Brown Jackson for more evidence.
Words matter. How they are used matters. When they are used matters. Word selection matters - even a single word.
How people use words tells on them - whether they realize it or not.
It says a lot about them, whether they like it or not.
Black people's use of the N-word is nothing like when white people use the word. Though racists always make the comparison.
Oppressed groups often adopt the words of abuse hurled at them to take control and reduce the sting of the words used.
LGBT people do it.
Women do it.
But they all do it for entirely different reasons than the bigot who uses a slur to attack.
Racist, sexist, and homophobic slurs are meant to harm. They are meant as an attack. Nothing but.
The victims of homophobia, sexism, and racism didn't decide a word was a slur - the assholes using the slurs made it so. They did so not only with their words - which form their thoughts - but with their actions, and those actions include use of the word/slur as a weapon to dehumanize and degrade. To reduce someone, to make them less. To justify their hate and discrimination.
Behind the Aegis
(53,921 posts)...actions include use of the word/slur as a weapon to dehumanize and degrade. To reduce someone, to make them less. To justify their hate and discrimination.
It is one thing to speak about something offensive in a didactic way; I don't have issue with that use. However, to pretend offensive words aren't anything more than bullying tactics is just ignorant.
Solly Mack
(90,758 posts)How anyone denies the power of words, for good and for bad, is beyond me. Thought may as well not exist for them. Books, songs, and movies may as well not exist for them.
The idea that a slur is only offensive if you take offense is like saying I'm sorry for anyone I might have offended after making an offensive remark.
Blaming the victims of racial, sexist, and homophobic verbal abuse - when that was the intention of the abuser the whole time. To cause harm.
Pretending it didn't happen won't make it stop. Won't make it go away. And those words of hate always carry the threat of action.
Ignoring hate does not make it go away.
It only emboldens it.
LizBeth
(9,952 posts)shouldn't have been insulted. What? A better person would not have been even though that was the exact intent.
Doodley
(9,045 posts)treestar
(82,383 posts)anyone else. Us not using them is mature and going higher. But now we are questioning whether that helps us or not. After TFG, it is difficult to be sure.
oldsoftie
(12,492 posts)Its just AWFUL when the RW is happy to see RBG pass, but then Clarence Thomas goes into the hospital & people proudly announce prayers for a speedy death. Same with Scalia.
But every time I've seen the "C word" I've also seen a hide. First time I found out what "see you next Tuesday" meant was when it was posted HERE! And it got hidden as well. But hides here are all over the place; much like locked threads.
ProfessorGAC
(64,854 posts)I'm on board with the OP.
But, I don't see that as at all equivalent to the "grave dancing" you referenced.
Wishing a comeuppance to a terrible person is not at all like using an insult toward one person that offends many unintended targets.
Seems like apples & elephants, to me.
yardwork
(61,539 posts)OneGrassRoot
(22,920 posts)I'd never heard of "see you next Tuesday" until your post, but YES to everything said in the OP and the thread.
I know this gets away from the message of the OP and I tend to dislike when that happens, so sorry...lol.
Might I add that I will never, ever understand what I perceive as the juvenile behavior of name calling. There are hundreds of middle school names for Trump and all the Trump followers. Just use their initials and add fuckwit, as someone above suggested. That's fitting and suffices. I don't find all the name calling clever as the users seem to intend.
Lastly, DU is a discussion board. DISCUSSION. Oftentimes one-third of the posts are someone making a statement (usually about something obscure to most of us), more and more often now followed by "that is all." Well, okie dokie then. Another third use exaggerated or inflammatory verbiage in the subject line to attract attention, just like clickbait articles.
I still sift through the posts as DU has always been one of my favorite news and discussion aggregators but it has really degraded, through no fault of the admins.
Thanks for the opportunity to vent. I won't express this point again and shall go back to being silent...lol.
oldsoftie
(12,492 posts)There's a lot of hypocrisy here. But its NOT to those doing it.
Like you say; DU is for DISCUSSION. But heaven forbid if you want to discuss something unpopular but valid!!
BlackSkimmer
(51,308 posts)It is middle school, as you say.
Whats sad is that those who do it the most think theyre being really clever. Go figure.
Dial H For Hero
(2,971 posts)the cool kids.
oldsoftie
(12,492 posts)BlackSkimmer
(51,308 posts)I remember kids making up names for teachers that way.
I thought it was silly then too.
treestar
(82,383 posts)Putler, that's clever. Trumplethinskin. Trumpertantrum.
TFG isn't all that clever, it's just an acronym for a fact.
Tangerine Idi Amin - awesome.
It just shows disdain for people who deserve it.
Tarc
(10,472 posts)I will tapdance on that fucker's grave.
oldsoftie
(12,492 posts)I'm sure I can come up with a few for Marjorie Taylor Greene. I have.
obamanut2012
(26,046 posts)Please, make your own OP about gravedancing, there is no parallel to the OP.
Raine
(30,540 posts)Scrivener7
(50,916 posts)dixiechiken1
(2,113 posts)Ohio Joe
(21,727 posts)A repug or some other POS is the topic and out come the insults to whatever extent its felt can avoid a hide.
iemanja
(53,015 posts)Is that your point? Do you not understand that when you insult a Republican woman with those terms, you are also insulted all the women who read the post?
Ohio Joe
(21,727 posts)I was simply pointing out the times people who do use them, attempt it here. I've alerted on them when I see them and vote to hide whenever on jury for them.
iemanja
(53,015 posts)that wasn't true with a recent case, and I wrote this post after ruminating on that and other things I'd seen just yesterday.
WhiskeyGrinder
(22,308 posts)luv2fly
(2,475 posts)Works both ways right?
WhiskeyGrinder
(22,308 posts)luv2fly
(2,475 posts)So confusing. We need a list of the gender-derived slurs that apparently are acceptable.
WhiskeyGrinder
(22,308 posts)than relying on a list.
CrackityJones75
(2,403 posts)yardwork
(61,539 posts)Is anyone in this thread demanding the right to use certain slurs and not others? I don't see anything like that. Instead, I see the same old lame-ass attempt to avoid confronting a problem by heaving a bunch of "both sides" and "whattabout" arguments around. Boring and lazy, actually.
iemanja
(53,015 posts)Just like that. That's how it cuts both ways. The oppressor tells the oppressed that he is the one who is truly aggrieved to ensure the oppressed keeps their mouths shut.
That said, I have no problem avoiding the word dick.
LizBeth
(9,952 posts)oldsoftie
(12,492 posts)Everyone can be oppressed if there is an oppressor close enough.
yardwork
(61,539 posts)Do you believe that whites as a group are as victimized by racism as people of color?
If so, I'm not sure I can change your mind, but check out the book How to be an Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi. It's an excellent summary.
oldsoftie
(12,492 posts)Some even will say that black people cannot be racists.
But to equate what the Irish, Italians, Chinese, etc have gone through in the US (as some will always bring up) with what black people have had to deal with is certainly comparing apples to airplanes.
iemanja
(53,015 posts)White people pretending to be the victims of racism is a means by which white people enforce subjugation of non-whites. The same is true for inequality of women and LGBTQ+ individuals.
oldsoftie
(12,492 posts)Plenty of lawsuits have proven that point. You don't think blacks can oppress whites in a work environment or in a neighborhood or business? It happens. Is it to the same level of what blacks have put up with? Of course not.
iemanja
(53,015 posts)Are you suddenly stopped on a regular basis by the police?
Are you accosted when you go into a bank for supposedly being a robber?
Do you run a substantially elevated chance of being killed by police?
Are you excluded from jobs because of the color of your skin?
Do your chances of getting a bank loan decrease, for no other reason than your skin color?
The answer is No. You are not a victim of racism, and the argument that white people are victims is key to white dominance.
RW judges, appointed by the likes of Trump, Reagan, and Bush, have sided with white people on affirmative action, but not on the notion that white people are victims. That, however, is a major tenet of the GOP. There can be no civil rights lawsuit based on discrimination against white people since whiteness isn't a protected class under law.
oldsoftie
(12,492 posts)if it happens to one person thats wrong. Quit trying to say white people dont have to experience it just because its not on the scale that blacks do.
And depending on where you live you may very well experience some of those things that you mention.
While racism among cops is certainly a problem to be addressed, I've long had the opinion that the bigger problem is an abuse of power problem more than a race problem. Did you know that black cops are more likely to shoot unarmed black men than white cops? Its true. POWER is a corrupting influence and when people get power some of them will also abuse that power. And some of them are black people and there are many employment cases proving that.
I'm a middle aged white guy and I've been told "White people don't come into this store". "Why are you here? White people don't come around here". "You need to take another elevator" And I was either going to get off that elevator or I was going to be taken off of it. I have other examples & I'm sure you'll dismiss all of them. But if I'm made to feel uncomfortable or fearful, its WRONG. And if its because I'm white its WRONG. All of that is racist behavior. You think its just fine because it doesn't happen nearly as often as it does to black people?
The Jews have been oppressed and assaulted more than any other group in the history of the world. Does that mean slavery wasn't a big deal? Hell no. Just because the scale is different doesn't make it any less WRONG.
yardwork
(61,539 posts)There's a big difference. The OP is about using a slur that implies a man is less than a man because he appears to be gay or feminine.
Calling someone a "dick" means the person is a jerk. It's usually used against men by men. It's the equivalent of calling someone an "ass."
There is no insult that implies that somebody is "less than" simply because they're a man, or masculine.
luv2fly
(2,475 posts)All these gender-derived slurs are offensive and are used in a variety of ways. If one needs to go they all need to go.
obamanut2012
(26,046 posts)Just stop it.
luv2fly
(2,475 posts)The OP talks about not insulting women in our use of language in DU, and I agree. That isn't related to gender?
So no, not stopping. Enjoy the day.
obamanut2012
(26,046 posts)iemanja
(53,015 posts)Is that none go, right?
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Ferrets are Cool
(21,103 posts)iemanja
(53,015 posts)That's the question I posed. The Republicans aren't seeing posts here, but other DUers do.
LizBeth
(9,952 posts)Not just the "mean" Republican. I do not know why that concept is so hard with sexism but seems to be widely understood with racism and anti gay.
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oldsoftie
(12,492 posts)the "Miss Lindsey" & other comments have been around here for years
AntiFascist
(12,792 posts)I usually assume it came from another member of the LGBTQ or LGBTQ-friendly community. Maybe there is a bit of self-hatred involved in this kind of language, but I would agree, this kind of language has been around for a long time. I certainly don't see it being intended to be insulting to women. It is intended to be insulting to someone with rigid gender conforming beliefs.
Scrivener7
(50,916 posts)Because that is the inference of the slurs.
AntiFascist
(12,792 posts)the slurs from my point of view are intended to reference gay men.
Scrivener7
(50,916 posts)Because being a woman, from the point of view of the one making the slur, is inferior. And from the point of view of the one making the slur, the feminine aspects of gay men are what make them inferior.
Tarc
(10,472 posts)Assholes.
Fuckheads.
Dipshits.
Inbred, right-wing, knuckle-dragging fascists.
The B-word and the C-word are the low-hanging fruit of insults, avoid them.
MTG and Boebert aren't degenerate vermin because they're women. They're degenerate vermin who happen to also be women.
iemanja
(53,015 posts)COL Mustard
(5,871 posts)To those I've offended, I apologize. I now have a different term to refer to him.
LizBeth
(9,952 posts)attack a black Republican, would not be allowed even for a second. But time and time and time again we watch here progressives' sexist slurs slide with excuses, well she is. Then in hypocrisy we throw up threads when the right use sexist slurs for our women.
obamanut2012
(26,046 posts)CTyankee
(63,892 posts)And anyway, VILE is so much better an adjective. SOULLESS is very good, also. As is UGLY.
Yep, that just about sums up Sen. Graham.
Next!
BradAllison
(1,879 posts)That manifest themselves in bizarre ways as he tries to keep his place in a party that actually despises his existence.
I truly, truly am.
Wait, I thought thought the headline was about women, not Lindsay. Hmmm.
iemanja
(53,015 posts)that isn't the point.
Lindsay Graham is regularly feminized, as though to say being a woman is the worst thing anyone can possibly be.
SYFROYH
(34,163 posts)And I've been known to make many blunders regarding sexism and misogyny by underappreciating the impact of my words.
We can do better at DU.
yardwork
(61,539 posts)milestogo
(16,829 posts)And every time I have ever complained about this sexist language I have been slapped down.
treestar
(82,383 posts)that its origins are completely forgotten.
beaglelover
(3,460 posts)It's funny as hell.
obamanut2012
(26,046 posts)beaglelover
(3,460 posts)obamanut2012
(26,046 posts)Or our trans sisters and brothers.
You are just precious AF.
beaglelover
(3,460 posts)obamanut2012
(26,046 posts)And even sadder you think you are being funny and cute. I am not even angry at you, i just feel deep and sincere pity for you.
beaglelover
(3,460 posts)But you be you, and I'll be me, and we'll both be happy! Have a great evening!
treestar
(82,383 posts)but then I was taught not to let that get to me. You can't, or the bully will keep it up. It's allowing them to make you a victim.
Do you disagree with Eleanor Roosevelt's line about noone being able to make you feel inferior without your consent?
Not following that gives right wingers power. They don't learn from it. They just learn they have a way to make others feel inferior and will gleefully use it.
Scrivener7
(50,916 posts)It infers that femininity is inherently inferior to masculinity.
Do you find it funny as hell when people insult other people by calling them "queer" as if there is something inherently wrong with being queer?
Same thing. Not funny as hell.
beaglelover
(3,460 posts)I also have no issue with the word Queer. I embrace it, not repel against it.
iemanja
(53,015 posts)It's an identity.
beaglelover
(3,460 posts)Doodley
(9,045 posts)Demsrule86
(68,469 posts)with such infractions.
iemanja
(53,015 posts)So I sought to appeal to people's decency in the hope that they will be more aware in the future, including when they serve on juries.
obamanut2012
(26,046 posts)It has ramped up even worse than usual lately, and it is always bad for women/LGBT on here. There is a reason why so many women have left DU over the years.
It is interesting you don't see it, because you have been in some of the threads. No, you don't do it, but you don't see it.
LiberalFighter
(50,787 posts)ie sleaze ball for instance.