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Chainfire

(17,465 posts)
Fri Mar 25, 2022, 10:56 AM Mar 2022

Sockie Mom is gone. Our feral cat that we have fed for over ten years died last night.

She and another feral had kittens under my front steps about ten years ago. It was very odd to us that two females shared the same "nest" and apparently both nursed all of the kittens. We gave all of the kittens but two away and had our own little feral colony for a while. They dropped out, one by one, three from natural causes and one I believe was taken by a Coyote. Old Socks had a good life, she only left our front porch for hunting or going to the bathroom. My wife has always tended to her, she had a heated house and she ate well. She appeared to be healthy and happy up to the end, but we knew it was coming. It was only in the last several months that she started allowing anyone to pet her, and that on a very limited basis. I always referred to her as "that old nasty cat", but I will miss her (but I won't admit it).

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Sockie Mom is gone. Our feral cat that we have fed for over ten years died last night. (Original Post) Chainfire Mar 2022 OP
I have been taking care of my outdoor cat for 11 years now Walleye Mar 2022 #1
Have you thought of posting your cat story under DU Lounge or the Pets forum? SharonClark Mar 2022 #2
Classy post. This was very necessary. n/t Fix The Stupid Mar 2022 #5
There's a hide thread feature, too. Wish you would have used it instead. nt Duncan Grant Mar 2022 #7
I am sorry I offended you. Chainfire Mar 2022 #10
The Death Of A Pet... ProfessorGAC Mar 2022 #13
Sending hugs MLAA Mar 2022 #3
So sorry to hear that. 😿 benfranklin1776 Mar 2022 #4
Aaawww, this is sad. She was lucky to have had compassionate caretakers, but you all were lucky Karadeniz Mar 2022 #6
Being kind to animals is an act of love. I'm all for it. Duncan Grant Mar 2022 #8
Sorry for your loss. 2naSalit Mar 2022 #9
Sorry for the loss of your friend. hamsterjill Mar 2022 #11
you are good people for taking care of the cats IcyPeas Mar 2022 #12
Our Condolences ProfessorGAC Mar 2022 #14
Wish I could send you one ofthe twoadorable ones malaise Mar 2022 #15
I just had no idea that they would do that. Chainfire Mar 2022 #18
Cats and dogs develop relationships malaise Mar 2022 #22
This message was self-deleted by its author malaise Mar 2022 #16
So sorry for your loss, Chainfire SheltieLover Mar 2022 #17
Thanks to everyone for the nice thoughts. It is appreciated. Chainfire Mar 2022 #19
Sorry for your loss. Nt raccoon Mar 2022 #20
Hugs to you mercuryblues Mar 2022 #21
Heck, you did well. jeffreyi Mar 2022 #23
I think that one reason that Socks never let us pet her Chainfire Mar 2022 #25
Sometimes they come around, sometimes not, my experience anyway. jeffreyi Mar 2022 #26
Sorry for your loss, and hugs. yagotme Mar 2022 #24
Wow. 25. jeffreyi Mar 2022 #27
Yes, we had some good times. yagotme Mar 2022 #30
Lady Bast, please take Your little one gently home in Your loving arms, and send peace and comfort niyad Mar 2022 #28
My condolences Ohio Joe Mar 2022 #29

Walleye

(30,973 posts)
1. I have been taking care of my outdoor cat for 11 years now
Fri Mar 25, 2022, 11:00 AM
Mar 2022

He was with a bunch of kittens we had neutered and released. He’s the only one left. He comes up on my second floor deck every night I have a little house there for him. And I worry 11 years is a long time for an outdoor cat. He has let me pet him for years now but he’s still a little skittish and won’t really come inside.I have a cat indoors that actually came to me on my deck a few years ago. He has been owned before obviously. So he stays inside now Crazy how we love our kitties. you have my condolences

SharonClark

(10,014 posts)
2. Have you thought of posting your cat story under DU Lounge or the Pets forum?
Fri Mar 25, 2022, 11:05 AM
Mar 2022

The purpose of GD is "Discuss politics, issues, and current events. Posts about Israel/Palestine, religion, guns, showbiz, or sports are restricted in this forum."

Chainfire

(17,465 posts)
10. I am sorry I offended you.
Fri Mar 25, 2022, 02:32 PM
Mar 2022

General discussion must have a different meaning in DU speak. Perhaps per your directive you should be called the politics and current event forum.

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affecting or concerning all or most people, places, or things; widespread.
"books of general interest"
Similar:
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prevalent
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ProfessorGAC

(64,847 posts)
13. The Death Of A Pet...
Fri Mar 25, 2022, 07:10 PM
Mar 2022

...is by definition, a current event.
The Lounge is meant as a fun meeting place. So, that would seem to be at cross purposes with a post about grief.
Also, this recent insistence on a hard reading of that generalized statement of purpose is insensitive.
Let people grieve. How does it hurt for it to be in GD.
If the OP spends most of their time in GD, this is where they'll find the other DUers that know their posts.
If grieving, connecting with familiar names is important.
Sometimes rules are merely suggestions.

benfranklin1776

(6,443 posts)
4. So sorry to hear that. 😿
Fri Mar 25, 2022, 11:14 AM
Mar 2022

But you can take solace in the fact you havee her and her descendants a far better life than they would have had otherwise and her spirit will still be with you. But it is a loss and it hurts.

Karadeniz

(22,468 posts)
6. Aaawww, this is sad. She was lucky to have had compassionate caretakers, but you all were lucky
Fri Mar 25, 2022, 12:09 PM
Mar 2022

to have had her as a means to build your compassion muscles! If everyone was like you guys.....!!!

Duncan Grant

(8,259 posts)
8. Being kind to animals is an act of love. I'm all for it.
Fri Mar 25, 2022, 12:29 PM
Mar 2022

I’m sorry to hear this. You both were great guardians. It was worth every minute, even the painful ones. Thanks for reminding me (us) how important these relationships can be.

2naSalit

(86,323 posts)
9. Sorry for your loss.
Fri Mar 25, 2022, 12:35 PM
Mar 2022


The passing of an animal is far more difficult for me than that of a human, including relatives.

hamsterjill

(15,220 posts)
11. Sorry for the loss of your friend.
Fri Mar 25, 2022, 03:58 PM
Mar 2022

Even if you won’t admit it, I know she was. Thank you for caring for her all those years.

malaise

(268,686 posts)
15. Wish I could send you one ofthe twoadorable ones
Fri Mar 25, 2022, 07:18 PM
Mar 2022

that I'm taking to the JSPCA tomorrow.

By the way it's not unusual for them to share the nest. I've observed baby stealing among feral cats and then watched them share duties. I've even seen both mothers resting on the same patio chair.

Chainfire

(17,465 posts)
18. I just had no idea that they would do that.
Fri Mar 25, 2022, 08:08 PM
Mar 2022

I am a dog guy and I have had some mangy mongrel around throughout my life. This my first real cat experience. My current dog spotted on Socks passed away on my front porch this morning and barked until I came to see what it was. The dog has been moping around all day. I hope she is not wondering if I am going to put her in a box and bury her by the fish pond.

I appreciate all of the kind words from everyone.

malaise

(268,686 posts)
22. Cats and dogs develop relationships
Fri Mar 25, 2022, 09:09 PM
Mar 2022

Like you I was a dog person for most of my life although mum and dad had both dogs and cats.
Looking after the feral cats has been an amazing experience.
There is nothing quite like a wild animal's trust.

Response to Chainfire (Original post)

jeffreyi

(1,938 posts)
23. Heck, you did well.
Fri Mar 25, 2022, 09:14 PM
Mar 2022

I have my own feral brood (out in the country). I trap them and get them "fixed up." Sometimes they hang around, sometimes they are never seen again, by me, anyway. But at least they are not making more kittens. Good for you for caring for another creature.

Chainfire

(17,465 posts)
25. I think that one reason that Socks never let us pet her
Sat Mar 26, 2022, 10:32 AM
Mar 2022

was, after she finished nursing her kittens, we trapped her and her partner and had them spayed. Socks did not like the trap, and I mean really did not like it: and I don't thing she ever forgave us for it.

Did I mention that she did not like being trapped? On the way to the vet, I thought we had something from a Stephen King novel in the back.

jeffreyi

(1,938 posts)
26. Sometimes they come around, sometimes not, my experience anyway.
Sat Mar 26, 2022, 01:56 PM
Mar 2022

The trap is a pretty big betrayal. Especially after they have just started to trust you a tiny little bit.

yagotme

(2,911 posts)
24. Sorry for your loss, and hugs.
Fri Mar 25, 2022, 09:28 PM
Mar 2022

Last month, I had to put down our indoor/outdoor (when she wanted out) cat. She lived 25 years, and had a pretty easy life. Sometimes, I think I still hear her meow from the basement. She was doing fairly well, but one day, she had just come in from outside, made a horrible sounding meow, and fell over. I don't know exactly what happened, but I suspect her heart. Pain seemed to recede after a few minutes, but I figured it was time, and didn't want her to endure any more pain.

jeffreyi

(1,938 posts)
27. Wow. 25.
Sat Mar 26, 2022, 01:58 PM
Mar 2022

I don't think I've heard of one living to that age. Well, heck. You were both apparently good for each other.

yagotme

(2,911 posts)
30. Yes, we had some good times.
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 02:36 PM
Mar 2022

She was a good cat, not really getting into things like others. Pretty mellow. I used to work 3-11, and about noon or so, would lay down for a bit and watch TV, and that was "our" quiet time.

niyad

(113,049 posts)
28. Lady Bast, please take Your little one gently home in Your loving arms, and send peace and comfort
Sat Mar 26, 2022, 03:05 PM
Mar 2022

to those who grieve her.

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