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Words hurt.
The sticks and stones thing is bull.
Laughing at someone elses problem is the sign of a sick mind.
If a person laughs at their own problems that is fine but when someone else makes fun it is cruel.
There is way to much cruel in the world..
LastDemocratInSC
(3,647 posts)Words can inspire and heal, no doubt about that, but words can also convey cruelty that causes deep harm.
Blues Heron
(5,932 posts)that what the old saying is getting at (and our laws)
DinahMoeHum
(21,787 posts)There are some places you just. don't. go.
Blues Heron
(5,932 posts)Its a misdemeanor assault on live TV
I think "slap a nazi" or "slap a bully" should be a tik tok challenge, lol.
USALiberal
(10,877 posts)USALiberal
(10,877 posts)Mrhyde719
(212 posts)And perhaps a couple of finger salutes
uponit7771
(90,339 posts)BlackSkimmer
(51,308 posts)All the roasts, all the comedy shows.
Smith is an insecure, immature bully. Hed never have done that to a larger man. Wonder what hed have done if a woman had made the joke?
meadowlander
(4,395 posts)bucolic_frolic
(43,161 posts)ripcord
(5,399 posts)WhiskeyGrinder
(22,345 posts)USALiberal
(10,877 posts)Standing up to you means punching them in the face?
WhiskeyGrinder
(22,345 posts)USALiberal
(10,877 posts)WhiskeyGrinder
(22,345 posts)USALiberal
(10,877 posts)WhiskeyGrinder
(22,345 posts)fishwax
(29,149 posts)oldsoftie
(12,536 posts)BlackSkimmer
(51,308 posts)I have alopecia.
It is not a disability.
meadowlander
(4,395 posts)"The ADA defines a person with a disability as a person who has a physical or mental impairment that substantially limits one or more major life activity."
Alopecia is a medical condition, not a disability.
BlackSkimmer
(51,308 posts)And Jada is not bald. Shes chosen to shave her head.
Im not bald either; my doctor and hairdresser are the only people who even know.
Javaman
(62,530 posts)handicap sticker for my car. Sweet parking spaces LOL
BlackSkimmer
(51,308 posts)Shell probably crack up laughing.
BlackSkimmer
(51,308 posts)What if a woman made that joke? Would it be ok if he slapped a woman?
And whats her race got to do with it? Last time I checked, Chris Rock is a black man.
BannonsLiver
(16,387 posts)Not at all surprising either.
TNNurse
(6,926 posts)I see posts about how Smith was acting for himself...I truly believe he was totally defending his wife. What Chris Rock said was tasteless, thoughtless and needed to be taken to task. Words would have been a better option.
I cannot however imagine how Will Smith's emotions were sitting in that room wondering about his possible part in the ceremony.
When I lost my hair to cancer (which was temporary), I did not go out in public without my head covered. It was a big step for her to do that and he was aware.
AllyCat
(16,187 posts)Physical violence is almost never the answer, even when Rock was being a real arse.
Emile
(22,741 posts)LisaL
(44,973 posts)Are we then allowed to smack people who say things that upset us?
heckles65
(549 posts)I agree. The joke was rather mild.
LiberatedUSA
(1,666 posts)Attacking people for saying things they dont like.
dumbcat
(2,120 posts)If some MAGAt gets really, really upset by us making some progressive point, it's justified for him to smack us? I think that thread would go in a different direction.
Srkdqltr
(6,286 posts)Physical strength to do it. This had to be done in the moment. Bullying is difficult to combat. Too many people enjoy others being bullied.
ChazII
(6,205 posts)can break your bones but words can break a heart.
Lunabell
(6,080 posts)It was the heat of the moment. Chris Rock learned the hard way that you shouldn't make fun of someone's medical condition. He didn't press charges. Let's move on.
cemaphonic
(4,138 posts)Smith laughed at the joke, then walked up to the stage. It wasn't some reflexive reaction (which still would have been unjustified) - He had time to consider his actions.
Srkdqltr
(6,286 posts)And folks who think making jokes about others is funny are all up in arms to justify.
fishwax
(29,149 posts)Not everyone who has been the butt of others jokes thinks that violence is the answer
Act_of_Reparation
(9,116 posts)And punching people ain't the proper or constructive response to hurtful words.
Auggie
(31,169 posts)The joke was inane, unoriginal, and thoughtless. The assault and battery was reckless and uncalled for bravado.
ForgedCrank
(1,781 posts)you nailed it.
In addition, a real man would have done the deed off camera and never spoke of it again if his intentions were pure.
By what he did, he forced every person in attendance, and every person watching on TV to be a participant in an extremely uncomfortable situation.
I won't condone violence as a general rule, but if you insult my wife, that could happen depending on circumstances. I'm just not going to make a public spectacle out of it, especially after I just laughed at the joke myself. It shows signs of instability and a lack of impulse control. What we witnessed was your classic dick waving contest due to an injured ego.
Auggie
(31,169 posts)Evergreen Emerald
(13,069 posts)What is acceptable? Slap? Kick? Slug? Shot?
When is the above acceptable? Anytime someone says something YOU believe is offensive? Is there criteria?
The idea that Will Smith's actions are acceptable is appalling.
Wahyee
(610 posts)Baltimike
(4,143 posts)meadowlander
(4,395 posts)So that's the line justifying hitting someone else.... not "he made me feel bad".
PatrickforB
(14,574 posts)Yes. There is never a need to be cruel.
SYFROYH
(34,170 posts)ECL213
(212 posts)But she is not bald because she has alopecia. She shaves her head. As a Southern black man, the only one of those two who deserved a slapping was Will Smith for his borderline racist impression of a Southern black man foe which he won the Oscar. Venus and Serena should slap the shit out of him.
neohippie
(1,142 posts)So you know this how She may have shaved her head because of hair loss, and just decided it was a better look than patches of lost hair, but you know her personally and she told you that was not the reason?
In this case, Chris Rock may have not known about her condition, and the joke was potentially hurtful. Was Smith's reaction appropriate, no, a better response may have been to bring up her condition and the pain that was potentially caused by the joke, but all of us have shown our worst sides at one point or another in our lives.
We are all capable of bad choices especially in a heat of a passionate moment. I think it is up to the two people involved to decide how to move on from this moment
And for all of those commenting about punching someone is never acceptable, who threw a punch? It just goes to show you how perceptions of events get very distorted.
AlexSFCA
(6,137 posts)and only when he saw his wife was upset, he overcompensated for laughing and punched rock. The lesson here - dont insult people with autoimmune desease or you will get punched in the face.
Srkdqltr
(6,286 posts)Wingus Dingus
(8,052 posts)than bombed.
Srkdqltr
(6,286 posts)Actually being invaded is the ultimate bullying.
nowforever
(302 posts)At minimum there's Gen. Kelly, Nancy P., Ted Cruz, Pence and all the women and minorities in this country....that should do it.
Traildogbob
(8,739 posts)Women in abusive relationships and stay, getting the shit beat out of them, say the same thing. And are told to them by the abuser to justify beating them.
Believe me, very few would love to take that swing with a closed fist at trump, Jr and every damn one of the SC hearing howling Monkey crowd than me. But ya know what, there are laws in a civilized society. Sure seems like that is becoming no longer a thing here in MurKKKa, or world wide. We are heading into
.Fucked.
Wingus Dingus
(8,052 posts)you deal with it in a proper way.
Traildogbob
(8,739 posts)Outrage out of control, ya add in unlimited semi auto killing machines, no training required and zero permits, we are heading into unlimited deaths. Self control may save your own life in the world we are in today. And after Rittenhouse, your death may be absolutely legal.
Chill pills people! Right wing media is pushing kill your neighbor. Heard a few blurps from the Georgia Klan jamboree, and not just trump, but his costar puppets like MTG had the words kill, death, lay down your life, ( not his) throughout their rants.
Bad days ahead.
rictofen
(236 posts)Whew boy.
Srkdqltr
(6,286 posts)But... people know and can take part or not. It's the meanness that I don't understand.
Jetheels
(991 posts)Everyone attending this event is well aware that there will be a comedian hosting the event and anyone could be a subject of their jokes. And they are well compensated for their work earning millions of dollars in a few months what the rest of us dont earn in our entire lifetimes so they might have to suck up a thing or two here and there in their chosen public lifestyle. Pay me 30 million a year and call me whatever you want.
Whether or not the joke was in good taste or poor taste could be seen both ways. Some see it as an attack on someones looks / disease. Some see it as comparing her to Demi Moore. One is denigrating, one is elevating. These people all live a life of privilege most of us have no inkling about.
Most of us will be insulted many times in our lives. No ones going to notice or give a fuvk.
These privileged few will go on talk shows and be paid even more money to go over how terrible their lives are and how awful they have been treated. And then go back to their 300 acre properties, jets, limos, Scientology classes, open marriages, Betty ford clinics, whatever, etc
.
while the country is being reduced to a Jerry Springer episode.
uponit7771
(90,339 posts)Jetheels
(991 posts)cadre of workers at their disposal; makeup people, wardrobe, dressers, lighting
..they are the center of the universe, everyone is completely dependent on their every whim mood desire
. So they often have the maturity of baby.
When have any of us had someone putting out clothes on, ironing our clothes, putting on our make up, doing our lighting. These people do not live in the real world.
Maybe because theyre stars people accept their behavior. Idk. But good point, maturity is very lacking.
uponit7771
(90,339 posts)... could easily escalate to other bullshit and get hugged ?!
Naw, hell now
Jetheels
(991 posts)I felt more embarrassed for Will Smith than he felt about himself, tbh.
uponit7771
(90,339 posts)LizBeth
(9,952 posts)sexist slur we want to use.
Duncan Grant
(8,264 posts)Nothing I saw of Will Smiths behavior can be excused or explained. Theres no under the circumstances, I understand why argument to be made.
Will Smith trespassed, intimated, slapped, assaulted and screamed at a comedian in front of untold millions. In my mind, thats the real issue, not words or comedy. The sick minds thing? That was Will Smith believing he had the right to beat down a comedian at the Academy Awards.
I understand you found the words cruel. That is difficult. I simply find the physical violence and its subsequent lets pretend it didnt happen response to be appalling and unacceptable. Some corrective action needs to be taken.
Goodheart
(5,324 posts)58Sunliner
(4,386 posts)Please don't tell me CR did not know about her condition. The joke was not vetted, apparently, or it would have been out. I wish WS would have taken the option to publicly inform the public how ugly his comment was and that women's looks should not be subject to ridicule. Women face a constant barrage of judgment from men based on their looks. That she has a medical condition that he was ridiculing makes it that much worse and shows a nasty character. The comment from CR creates the type of environment in which women are harassed and abused. I'd like to see the acknowledgment that being a comic does not give you license to play into the misogyny.
treestar
(82,383 posts)I doubt CR wants to ridicule anyone specific - why would he do that on purpose? How was he making fun of the condition, especially if he did not know about it? Making fun of the hairstyle, which some women do - I have seen women who are not ill choose that hairstyle of just shaving, then wearing a lot of make up and big earrings. It's not unheard of.
58Sunliner
(4,386 posts)I won't be responding.
treestar
(82,383 posts)I am as good at reading his mind as you can be.
Hieronymus Phact
(369 posts)"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
treestar
(82,383 posts)there's so much out there about not hurting people's feelings - and it is possible to do it unintentionally and it does seem to be getting extreme. ER was right. You don't have to worry about what people say - they don't know all the facts. And why let those people who are trying to put you down succeed?
nowforever
(302 posts)His remark was made at another human being's expense. It drew all the focus to her and for what purpose so it could generate a laugh. That is the lowest form of humor and encourages that behavior. It is demeaning and he received the appropriate response. If Will Smith had wanted to he could have leveled Chris, he chose to give him a physical reprimand that then made Chris the focus and the object of ridicule. Every bully needs that lesson because verbal correction does not reach their brain. Consequences need to be immediate and it was. Guarantee Chris Rock will think before he derives his humor at the expense of another. I just wish when Trump was a youngster he was taught that lesson but unfortunately his father was a practitioner.
Duncan Grant
(8,264 posts)Nothing Will Smith did was chivalrous or excusable under any circumstances. It was a public assault. Smith should have been detained and arrested, just as any member of the public would have been. The entire episode is a travesty from start to finish.
Im stunned anyone would be a cheerleader for physical violence here at DU.
Jedi Guy
(3,190 posts)There have been plenty of people here on DU advocating and/or cheering on violence on a number of occasions. This is just the most recent example. As long as the target of the violence is an "acceptable" person/group, then violence is fine and dandy to these DUers.
These are no doubt the same folks who will call for people to be jailed for making remarks they don't like, such as the people here who consistently call for "hate speech" to be criminalized. The only difference is that they're advocating force/violence perpetrated by the state in the latter instance.
Duncan Grant
(8,264 posts)I dont agree with your framing that legislating hate speech is equivalent to state sanctioned violence/assault on an individual. Enough said, AFAIC.
Jedi Guy
(3,190 posts)Legislating hate speech is 100% equivalent because force is being employed in response to speech; the only difference is the actor employing the force. In fact, it's arguably worse. In this instance, Smith responded to Rock's speech with a slap. It stung for a moment, no doubt, but then it was over. If the government arrests someone and throws them in prison because they engaged in speech that's proscribed under "hate speech" laws, that's far more serious than a momentary sting on the cheek and has a far greater impact on their life.
58Sunliner
(4,386 posts)"These are no doubt the same folks who will call for people to be jailed for making remarks they don't like, such as the people here who consistently call for "hate speech" to be criminalized."
Jedi Guy
(3,190 posts)It's 100% an authoritarian response. Suggesting that someone be jailed or otherwise punished by the state for engaging in "hate speech" runs directly counter to the First Amendment, as it protects even the most abhorrent speech as long as it doesn't cross very well-defined lines. It's behavior that the right also engages in. The only difference is the nature of the speech in question.
live love laugh
(13,109 posts)While Rocks remarks were unfortunate they were not violent.
There were so many other options available. Smith couldve used the pulpit to respond or confronted Rock privately.
What Smith did was unacceptable.
BannonsLiver
(16,387 posts)Violence = love in your book.
Catherine Vincent
(34,490 posts)And get rich by it. Making jokes is fine but don't make it personal.
gulliver
(13,180 posts)I find it very hard to believe that Chris Rock would deliberately make fun of someone suffering from a disease, mocking a symptom of the disease. That just doesn't fit with my experience of Chris Rock.
Both Will Smith and his wife should have assumed Rock didn't know. Indeed, if Rock didn't know that the situation was something besides Pinkett Smith sporting a daring look, then he might in fact have been wanting to give her a gentle "roast" and "name check" good publicity.
If Smith knew 100% that Rock was deliberately making fun of his wife's medical condition, he could have confronted him verbally. Smith's later speech shows that he has the ability to use words.
But if Smith didn't know 100% that Rock was deliberately being cruel (and that is what I suspect), then what Smith did was, unfortunately, completely insane and rotten. Denzel Washington's warning may have come too late.
live love laugh
(13,109 posts)treestar
(82,383 posts)Why would CR deliberately insult her at that moment in that place? There would have to be a history of bad blood between them, bad enough for CR to do that.
live love laugh
(13,109 posts)SYFROYH
(34,170 posts)Last edited Mon Mar 28, 2022, 04:08 PM - Edit history (1)
...skewer the attendees. This is normal at the Oscars and Golden Globes
BGBD
(3,282 posts)And if you think they don't then they are lying to themselves.
cksmithy
(231 posts)has said something similar to this, apologies if they have, I don't want to be repetitive/redundant. I wish a person had walked onto the stage and got in tfg drump's face with a raised hand and maybe slapped or hit him, when he mocked the handicapped reporter by making fun of the reporters movements. I don't see what Chris Rock said as being different from what trump said. Chris Rock was making fun of someone with a medical condition that is totally not their fault. Maybe Chris will research his targets before he makes jokes. It was like making a ms joke, not ever funny. My sister had to endure people laughing at how she walked while she was still working. They knew about her condition, but they still mocked her.