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Right is right and wrong ain't nowhere...Will Smith should be charged (Original Post) Baltimike Mar 2022 OP
I agree. Evergreen Emerald Mar 2022 #1
Uh man hits man. How did you make this a female issue. Quite a sexist leap. nt delisen Mar 2022 #11
Really? Why did the man hit the man? Love makes you do crazy things? Walleye Mar 2022 #13
Don't think you understand my comment. nt delisen Mar 2022 #22
Probably not. This frenzy over one star slapping another has got me kind of confused Walleye Mar 2022 #27
i was enjoying the oscars up until then.. all the women and the diversity and then samnsara Mar 2022 #2
The person who got hit can decide to press charges. nt delisen Mar 2022 #17
LA Police reported that Chris Rock declined to press charges. n/t CincyDem Mar 2022 #32
It's a common cop out. Mosby Mar 2022 #82
Lighten up he was just being funny. Chris Rock can't take a joke? Srkdqltr Mar 2022 #3
physical violence is not a joke. That wasn't scripted. nt Baltimike Mar 2022 #4
Verbal violence isn't a joke either. Srkdqltr Mar 2022 #6
The law distinguishes between the two. yardwork Mar 2022 #8
Oh good grief. Sticks and stones may break your bones but names will never hurt you Baltimike Mar 2022 #9
Sticks and stones is the worst bull of all. I find people who enjoy others discomfort detestable. Srkdqltr Mar 2022 #14
Do you honestly think Smith's behavior was ok? Evergreen Emerald Mar 2022 #19
Violence is violence. Rock was verbally violent to Jada . he got his reaction. Srkdqltr Mar 2022 #23
Nice try. No dice. Hitting someone is a crime. Telling a joke about someone is not. Baltimike Mar 2022 #24
What if the comment had come from Amy Schumer instead of Chris Rock? Orrex Mar 2022 #58
Amy didn't. Rock did. Srkdqltr Mar 2022 #60
Go around punching people cuz you don't like what they say Chautauquas Mar 2022 #63
No shit. Orrex Mar 2022 #71
No, that saying is about how ones lets it affect them treestar Mar 2022 #74
👆 Walleye Mar 2022 #18
One is against the law Sunsky Mar 2022 #15
Verbal violence? LiberatedUSA Mar 2022 #21
Comparing ones wife to Demi Moore is not in anyways verbal violence! Emile Mar 2022 #39
I agree, imagine if a non-famous person did it! Nt USALiberal Mar 2022 #5
Agree, physical violence in response to a joke is not OK Johnny2X2X Mar 2022 #7
this. nt Baltimike Mar 2022 #10
How is it up to Chris Rock if charges are filed or not? Blues Heron Mar 2022 #12
Chris Rock did not want him charged. He is considered the victim. 33taw Mar 2022 #33
right but is it always up to the victim? Im not clear on how it all works assault-wise Blues Heron Mar 2022 #34
pretty much. mopinko Mar 2022 #47
Thanks Blues Heron Mar 2022 #48
Lol good lord WhiskeyGrinder Mar 2022 #16
HUBRIS Goonch Mar 2022 #20
Heckler assaults comedian at comedy show. NightWatcher Mar 2022 #25
this. nt Baltimike Mar 2022 #53
He should have handled it after the show, not during. eShirl Mar 2022 #26
There are a lot of people who feel making fun of others is funny. Look at all the defense of it . Srkdqltr Mar 2022 #28
Chris is apparently refusing to file a police report. LisaL Mar 2022 #29
Before seeing a vid of the event crim son Mar 2022 #30
A misdemeanor assault in most jurisdictions madville Mar 2022 #31
"love makes you do crazy things" sky_masterson Mar 2022 #35
Also, What if Lisa Lampaneli told that same joke sky_masterson Mar 2022 #36
Ya but she didn't. Rock did. Srkdqltr Mar 2022 #59
And Smith overreacted sky_masterson Mar 2022 #62
Agree Johnny2X2X Mar 2022 #40
Insult comedians have been around since kings and jesters. tavernier Mar 2022 #37
Banned from the academy would be worse. SYFROYH Mar 2022 #38
He'll never win another Oscar unblock Mar 2022 #43
true, very true SYFROYH Mar 2022 #45
That's up to Chris Rick Lunabell Mar 2022 #41
Rock was in the wrong too and hope he apologizes (if he hasn't) Mad_Machine76 Mar 2022 #42
Seeking mental health should be the consequence. Emile Mar 2022 #44
The same thing happens in every hockey game. The Jungle 1 Mar 2022 #46
When A Celebrity Attends An Event Like The Oscars One Has To Expect.... global1 Mar 2022 #49
While I agree with the premise hamsterjill Mar 2022 #50
This is very true...and while I did post this before I knew that... Baltimike Mar 2022 #57
It is never acceptable to make fun of how someone looks luv2fly Mar 2022 #51
The joke was HORRIBLE, but the reaction was worse. Baltimike Mar 2022 #54
Sorry no, you don't make fun of how people look, period. luv2fly Mar 2022 #68
Sorry, no, you don't lay your hands on other people, period. Baltimike Mar 2022 #72
So making fun of how people look is okay with you luv2fly Mar 2022 #76
Chris Rock is bigger person in this interaction. SYFROYH Mar 2022 #65
It's not a contest luv2fly Mar 2022 #69
It's not a contest, and violence is not the answer to words Baltimike Mar 2022 #73
Can't wait for the Grammys. Midnight Writer Mar 2022 #52
I think he was in the wrong, but I don't think he necessarily needs to be charged fishwax Mar 2022 #55
Nah 🤪 Xoan Mar 2022 #56
nope bigtree Mar 2022 #61
He was assaulted on live national television Baltimike Mar 2022 #67
he was provoked into what resulted in a slap bigtree Mar 2022 #70
Thank you, bigtree. DemocratSinceBirth Mar 2022 #77
Hm. No, don't think so. Jedi Guy Mar 2022 #78
they make too much money for those 'employers' bigtree Mar 2022 #79
Just saying, in my experience your example doesn't hold up. Jedi Guy Mar 2022 #80
that's just not my experience and I worked 35 years in retail bigtree Mar 2022 #83
I worked mainly in finance until very recently, so perhaps that's why. Jedi Guy Mar 2022 #84
Smith is a punk...Rock is a professional. I don't think charges are necessary. nt LexVegas Mar 2022 #64
Supposedly dependent on whether Chris Rock wishes to press charges Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin Mar 2022 #66
Chris Rock isn't pressing charges iemanja Mar 2022 #75
"We're not going to take that Oscar from him," bigtree Mar 2022 #81

Walleye

(31,015 posts)
27. Probably not. This frenzy over one star slapping another has got me kind of confused
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 08:46 AM
Mar 2022

I wouldn’t be surprised if Smith had been a little alcohol impaired

samnsara

(17,622 posts)
2. i was enjoying the oscars up until then.. all the women and the diversity and then
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 08:20 AM
Mar 2022

..he had to ruin it for everyone. He should be charged and i will refuse to watch that movie.

Mosby

(16,299 posts)
82. It's a common cop out.
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 09:28 PM
Mar 2022

There were hundreds of witnesses, any of whom could testify, but they don't like to prosecute when the victim isn't cooperating. There is one area of law where this is different - domestic violence. A lot of state legislators have passed laws requiring prosecution, so charges are filed even when the victim isn't cooperating or planning to show up in court.

So it's not really up to the victim whether charges are filed or not.

Baltimike

(4,143 posts)
9. Oh good grief. Sticks and stones may break your bones but names will never hurt you
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 08:30 AM
Mar 2022

Telling a joke about hair loss isn't "verbal violence" either

Evergreen Emerald

(13,069 posts)
19. Do you honestly think Smith's behavior was ok?
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 08:36 AM
Mar 2022

Seriously, the violence in our society is becoming more and more common place. And for some, more and more acceptable.

Srkdqltr

(6,271 posts)
23. Violence is violence. Rock was verbally violent to Jada . he got his reaction.
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 08:40 AM
Mar 2022

Maybe Smith was joking? Rock can dish it out but can't take it?

Baltimike

(4,143 posts)
24. Nice try. No dice. Hitting someone is a crime. Telling a joke about someone is not.
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 08:42 AM
Mar 2022

Verbal violence, in this case, is straight up bullshit.

Orrex

(63,203 posts)
58. What if the comment had come from Amy Schumer instead of Chris Rock?
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 11:04 AM
Mar 2022

Would Smith have shared his particular physical "humor" with her as well?

Would he be defended?

treestar

(82,383 posts)
74. No, that saying is about how ones lets it affect them
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 05:28 PM
Mar 2022

It has nothing to do with someone enjoying discomfort.

It's a thing a kid says to taunt someone who has said something that is supposed to be insulting.

Sunsky

(1,737 posts)
15. One is against the law
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 08:35 AM
Mar 2022

Furthermore, do we even know if Chris knew of Jada's condition and was intentionally making fun of her? How about Jada's opinion of the matter, do we know that?

 

LiberatedUSA

(1,666 posts)
21. Verbal violence?
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 08:39 AM
Mar 2022

Good fucking grief.

I hope you don’t go walking around assaulting people for their words in a society that can carry concealed guns. That is a really dangerous view to have; the idea one can attack another for their words.

Johnny2X2X

(19,051 posts)
7. Agree, physical violence in response to a joke is not OK
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 08:27 AM
Mar 2022

And let's be honest here, that was a crummy joke to tell, it was in poor taste, but it wasn't way over any line, there's a thousand things Chris Rock could have said that would be more offensive.

And everyone today seems to be, "Oh, that Will Smith, he's got a family he's standing up for..." What about Chris Rock and his family? He's got a wife and kids at home that just saw him get assaulted in front of 500 million people on TV.

mopinko

(70,086 posts)
47. pretty much.
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 10:12 AM
Mar 2022

some states have passed laws allowing cops who see a domestic attack file the charges.
but that's why a lot of abusers dont go to jail. their victims wont file charges.

eShirl

(18,490 posts)
26. He should have handled it after the show, not during.
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 08:44 AM
Mar 2022

Presumably by then he would have calmed down enough not to assault anyone.

Srkdqltr

(6,271 posts)
28. There are a lot of people who feel making fun of others is funny. Look at all the defense of it .
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 08:47 AM
Mar 2022

Do any of you realize how hated you must be when you make fun of others? Watch your backs.

LisaL

(44,973 posts)
29. Chris is apparently refusing to file a police report.
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 08:48 AM
Mar 2022

So Will Smith won't be charged. Even though it's on tape in front of many witnesses.

crim son

(27,464 posts)
30. Before seeing a vid of the event
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 08:51 AM
Mar 2022

I was prepared to give Smith a pass. Now that I've seen what happened, nope.

sky_masterson

(416 posts)
35. "love makes you do crazy things"
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 09:09 AM
Mar 2022

Is something abusers often say. That wasn't love making him do crazy things it was anger.
The fact Smith wasn't punished in any way for it is just a pass for a shitty reaction.

Johnny2X2X

(19,051 posts)
40. Agree
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 09:45 AM
Mar 2022

The way he justified it afterwards was the way a spoiled child would act.

What if in response to being assaulted live on television, Chris Rock had picked up a mic stand and split Will Smith's skull with it? Would people be saying, "Well, the things you do for love..."

tavernier

(12,381 posts)
37. Insult comedians have been around since kings and jesters.
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 09:24 AM
Mar 2022

They have been given a certain immunity, despite some unfunny and sometimes disgusting jokes. It would have been more insulting to Rock for Will and Jada to just walk out until his dumb jokes were over.

unblock

(52,200 posts)
43. He'll never win another Oscar
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 09:57 AM
Mar 2022

Whether banned, disqualified, or whatever; enough academy members will refuse to vote for him that he'll never win again.

Mad_Machine76

(24,407 posts)
42. Rock was in the wrong too and hope he apologizes (if he hasn't)
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 09:49 AM
Mar 2022

but Will was wrong to respond with violence like that and should face consequences.

 

The Jungle 1

(4,552 posts)
46. The same thing happens in every hockey game.
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 10:11 AM
Mar 2022

But nothing ever happens!
I do not support this action however it was an open hand. In hockey it is a punch which could do real damage.

global1

(25,242 posts)
49. When A Celebrity Attends An Event Like The Oscars One Has To Expect....
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 10:15 AM
Mar 2022

that one may be the butt of a joke.

You would think that one would have developed a thick skin being a celebrity and know that such jokes are all in the fun of the moment.

Most unfortunate.

I wonder what Don Rickles is thinking about this incident as he looks down and watched this play out.

hamsterjill

(15,220 posts)
50. While I agree with the premise
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 10:16 AM
Mar 2022

I think the fact that Chris Rock has chosen not to press charges is his decision, and makes him the bigger man here.

This needs to go away. The incident last night detracted from all of the other winners and honorees. To continue a court case would only continue the blight on Hollywood.

Chris and Will need to take up the offer to “settle this like family” and be done with it.

Baltimike

(4,143 posts)
57. This is very true...and while I did post this before I knew that...
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 10:51 AM
Mar 2022

Smith should be sanctioned in some way.

Assaulting someone on live national tv is not okay.

luv2fly

(2,475 posts)
51. It is never acceptable to make fun of how someone looks
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 10:17 AM
Mar 2022

Never ever acceptable. Doesn't matter who it is or what the issue is. Doesn't matter who the target is or who is making fun of someone, it is never okay.

Goes for all of us too. I cringe a little every time I read something about how Sinema dresses, or Ted Cruz's beard, etc etc etc. We can all be better.

Baltimike

(4,143 posts)
54. The joke was HORRIBLE, but the reaction was worse.
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 10:49 AM
Mar 2022

Will Smith knew he wouldn't get in trouble for this.

Shows two Americas...one for the rich and privileged and another for the rest of us.

luv2fly

(2,475 posts)
68. Sorry no, you don't make fun of how people look, period.
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 01:17 PM
Mar 2022

Violence is not an answer but I understand it.

And two Americas in this case? Please, they are both stars.

Baltimike

(4,143 posts)
72. Sorry, no, you don't lay your hands on other people, period.
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 05:25 PM
Mar 2022

Your understanding violence does not excuse it.

And, yes, privilege. Will Smith knew damn right well he would have a seat instead of being escorted out of there. His victim does not make a difference in that regard.

SYFROYH

(34,169 posts)
65. Chris Rock is bigger person in this interaction.
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 12:43 PM
Mar 2022

Almost every other comic would have slowly said, "Jaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa-Daaaaaaaaaaaaaa" after Smith said to keep her name out of his effing mouth.

luv2fly

(2,475 posts)
69. It's not a contest
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 01:18 PM
Mar 2022

And no one should make fun of people. If you do, you might deserve what happens.

Baltimike

(4,143 posts)
73. It's not a contest, and violence is not the answer to words
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 05:27 PM
Mar 2022

words = insult

violence = assault

These ain't the same

fishwax

(29,149 posts)
55. I think he was in the wrong, but I don't think he necessarily needs to be charged
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 10:51 AM
Mar 2022

I don't think every digression requires the use of force, whether Smith using force against Rock or the state using its force against Smith. Rock doesn't want to press charges, apparently, so the de-escalation seems appropriate here.

bigtree

(85,988 posts)
61. nope
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 11:40 AM
Mar 2022

...little spats break out at work sometimes between heated up folks, men and women, and most times it takes a little cooling off and a round of apologies and warnings to settle an insult and a slap.

You give allowances for first time offenses in which no one was in any great harm.

Baltimike

(4,143 posts)
67. He was assaulted on live national television
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 12:59 PM
Mar 2022

Rock not pressing charges makes me think this thing was staged after all

bigtree

(85,988 posts)
70. he was provoked into what resulted in a slap
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 01:31 PM
Mar 2022

...might be prosecutable, and some grandstanding attorney general might pursue it, or Chris Rock.

But most judges would look at the circumstances and take the provocation into account, leaving Smith with a slap (ironically) on the wrist.

The hysterical calls for his arrest are absurd. It was a tiff between acquaintances in an industry event which was basically a workplace. Valued workers engaging in a tiff and a slap don't normally get the cops called on them. They get a reprimand, usually verbal, and are sent back to work (if there's any reason at all about them, and there's no further threat of an argument), a suspension, at best, if the employer values them.

That's what I'd do in that situation, not jump to charges. That's what most people would do, imo, in that position.

DemocratSinceBirth

(99,710 posts)
77. Thank you, bigtree.
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 06:41 PM
Mar 2022

Chris shouldn't have insulted his wife and Will shouldn't have slapped him but the calls for Will's arrest and prosecution are over the top. What do you think the response of the police would be to a gentleman who calls the police and says he was at a party and insulted a man's wife and the man slapped him and there were no injuries involved?

Jedi Guy

(3,185 posts)
78. Hm. No, don't think so.
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 06:51 PM
Mar 2022

I feel like if I got "heated up" and slapped one of my coworkers (male or female) I'd be out of a job in the best-case scenario and out of a job and charged with assault in the worst-case scenario. Most of us learn not to put hands on other people when we're children. Either Mr. Smith never learned that lesson or (more likely) he knew that his celebrity would almost certainly shield him from any serious consequences for his decision to engage in physical violence.

It appears he was correct in that assessment.

bigtree

(85,988 posts)
79. they make too much money for those 'employers'
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 09:24 PM
Mar 2022

...and this was little more than an embarrassingly public tiffle.

I wouldn't try and have people of that caliber fired, arrested, or any of the other punitive nonsense. I'd work to resolve it with a warning or reprimand, and I've managed several dozen men and women in my work experience.

No need to criminalize a taunt and a slap, and I'd be just as inclined to reprimand the instigator, as I would be the person they instigated.

Jedi Guy

(3,185 posts)
80. Just saying, in my experience your example doesn't hold up.
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 09:27 PM
Mar 2022

Anywhere I've ever worked that saw an incident in which one employee put hands on another, regardless of provocation or who brings in how much money, the employee who threw hands got fired. There's too much liability involved in such a situation for a normal employer to look the other way, since the assaulted employee could make a strong case for a hostile work environment afterward.

The only reason that does not hold true here is because Hollywood is not, in any way, shape, or form, a normal work environment.

bigtree

(85,988 posts)
83. that's just not my experience and I worked 35 years in retail
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 09:34 PM
Mar 2022

...you protect workers as valuable as those two from even the consequences of their own actions, at least initially, especially if there's no actual complaint from the person supposed to be the victim.

I understand that many employers might act to keep their work environment safe, but it's ludicrous to apply that to this industry event. They'll protect their assets, both of them, as well they should.

Jedi Guy

(3,185 posts)
84. I worked mainly in finance until very recently, so perhaps that's why.
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 09:36 PM
Mar 2022

Different expectations and standards of behavior in different industries, I suppose. I work in HVAC now, so I wouldn't be all that surprised if two of our technicians slugged it out on Monday, got suspended for the rest of the week, and were back to work the next Monday but kept separated from one another. It's much more blue-collar than I'm used to, without wishing to sound snobby.

Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin

(107,922 posts)
66. Supposedly dependent on whether Chris Rock wishes to press charges
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 12:44 PM
Mar 2022

Didn't look like much of a slap to me but I wasn't on the receiving end of it.

bigtree

(85,988 posts)
81. "We're not going to take that Oscar from him,"
Mon Mar 28, 2022, 09:28 PM
Mar 2022

"We’re not going to take that Oscar from him,” Goldberg said on "The View." "There will be consequences I’m sure, but I don’t think that’s what they’re going to do, particularly because Chris said, ‘Listen, I’m not pressing any charges.' ”

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