27% of adults have cut contact with one parent

[Demovictory9]

Long article about woman who thought she was perfect parent until.daughter cit contact..they reconciled by end of article

Interesting illustration of perceptions and that a child can be unhappy with no outward abuse

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The Perfect Mom. Then My Daughter Cut Me Out Of Her Life.
"I sat on the bench by the back door as she rolled her suitcase past me. I silently screamed, 'Please stay; we can work this out,' but her expression was determined, her eyes fixed and resolute."

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I was shocked to learn that according to one survey, 27% of Americans age 18 years and older have cut contact with one parent. Before I became part of that statistic, I had no idea there were so many fractured families. I’d always thought that adult children only become estranged from their parents due to serious abuse or neglect.

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/reconnect-estranged-child-parent_n_62713e5ce4b050c90f44fa94

[elleng]

1. Sadly, a member of my family (identity hidden, for privacy) has been 'fractured' forever,

tho not apparent to most. Our contacts have been 'cut' 'regularly,' for years, and also recovered, regularly.

('Happily,' I was awakened with 2 Happy Mother's Day calls this morning.)

[Demovictory9]

3. I am happy for you getting m day.calls

[elleng]

14. Thanks.

Another 'fractured' message this morning, 'I hate my life.' And request for $.

I suspect 'borderline personality disorder.'

[kimbutgar]

2. How many families have been fractured since 2016?

I personally know two people who don’t talk to their parents because of TFG. He has divided us more than any other president in my lifetime. A lot of Mothers today won’t be getting a phone call from their kids because of TFG.

[BlackSkimmer]

4. I would do anything to have my parents back.

Yes, we argued, but I miss them so much.

[Raine]

6. Same with me

mine are both dead and unless someone's parents were abusive throwing your family away over politics is just to awful to contemplate. Sure we would argue over things, didn't always agree but I miss them and always will.

[bucolic_frolic]

5. Family is important to some

but others not so much. To fly the coup brings freedom and opportunity. Sometimes the nest is supportive, sometimes not, and sometimes it's toxic. In a culture of consumption and narcissism, I'm not surprised family ties are fracturing. If a relationship is unhealthy it's best there is less contact. At least for some.

[localroger]

7. A lot of parents think they are being "helpful"

...when in actuality they are trying to maintain a suffocating level of control over every aspect of their adult child's life. They want to "protect" their child from "bad" influences, associates, or romantic partners. They might gaslight the child to create a narrative that the poor kid couldn't possibly succeed on their own. Then they are shocked when the child announces that they are now an adult and want to make their own decisions.

[shrike3]

8. Sometimes it is necessary for one's mental health.

I have done it. It was one of the best things I've ever done for myself.

I'm very happy for those with loving families. But if you didn't grow up in a toxic family, you don't know.

[obamanut2012]

12. Exactly

[misanthrope]

9. My background makes it quite believable

My family history is a minefield of personality disorders, cruelty, mental illness, physical abuse, sexual abuse, psychological abuse, serial infidelity, greed, selfishness, lying, manipulation, religious obsession, bigotry and general stress. If the rest of my species has experienced anything similar, I'm surprised it is only 27 percent that have opted for estrangement to retain their sanity.

[pansypoo53219]

10. not sure, but no biggie i have no contact w/ my GOP paternal unit + step-monster. no biggie at all.

just miss his parents. deceased now.

[obamanut2012]

11. My partner has been NC with her mother

For several years. Her mother never raised a finger nor voice, but is an abusive piece of shit.

[smirkymonkey]

13. I honestly would not have contact with my step-mother if it didnt prevent me from having

contact from my father and probably the rest of my family. Meanwhile, I have to keep up the charade.

[Hortensis]

15. But you care enough to do it. :) We acquired a number of relatives

through marriage we could happily enough never see again, like most families I imagine, but because they're "family" we see them and if they need us we'll answer. That the reverse isn't true we take as a hopeful sign that they never will.

[obamanut2012]

16. Good -- Narc parents still get passes from society

My partnetr has cut off her mom -- best thing she ever did for herself.