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redstatebluegirl

(12,265 posts)
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:22 AM Jun 2022

I had dinner last night with a very progressive friend of mine.

She heavily supported Bernie and "reluctantly" voted for Biden. She loves AOC and the other members of the squad. We normally agree to disagree until last night. She proceeded to tell me that she and her group of progressive friends would not vote in 2024 if Biden or one of his "minions" were at the top of the ticket. Needless to say we had a pretty heated discussion, as heated as you can have in a restaurant.

She told me it was her opinion that the system needed to be completely blown up or no real change would occur (her big thing is student loan forgiveness and universal healthcare).

We have been friends since college when we were routinely protesting on campus. Right now I'm not sure I want to see her again.

I used to be considered a progressive, but not in today's world. I guess I am one of those nasty moderates who think if we don't win we can't change anything. I also believe in democracy and our republic, it doesn't always give me what I want all the time but it beats the hell out of the alternative.

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I had dinner last night with a very progressive friend of mine. (Original Post) redstatebluegirl Jun 2022 OP
Your friend is a moron. BannonsLiver Jun 2022 #1
Yes, a Rhode Scholar and an Attorney. redstatebluegirl Jun 2022 #2
Some of the dumbest people I've ever been around were great at academics BannonsLiver Jun 2022 #4
Exactly.. think Dr Ben Carson & all those Cha Jun 2022 #98
Great example Cha! BannonsLiver Jun 2022 #123
Here's another one.. Fuckhead's Lying Gaslit Press Sec Cha Jun 2022 #124
I've worked with high-dollar attorneys my entire working life... Raster Jun 2022 #9
Nope, she was raised by a single mom, she had nothing growing up. redstatebluegirl Jun 2022 #13
The far left "only we know how to fix it" is just as bad as the far right "we don't want to fix it" Raster Jun 2022 #22
So she is bright but not smart. DURHAM D Jun 2022 #10
So this high powered attorney won't vote Democratic dsc Jun 2022 #51
Well one wonders how she arrived at the conclusion that having everything go to hell is the way to Demsrule86 Jun 2022 #54
I've heard that before, from progressives. shrike3 Jun 2022 #75
Because everybody else is corrupt but they totally aren't. betsuni Jun 2022 #78
And yet, still an idiot. Happy Hoosier Jun 2022 #83
Excellent Point, HH! Like Sarandon.. Cha Jun 2022 #100
Ask the Russians how well their republic worked after Putin took power. SharonAnn Jun 2022 #89
Ted Cruz went to Harvard and Thomas Massey went to MIT... SKKY Jun 2022 #99
Ted Cruz isn't an idiot though . He puts on the act to appeal to the trash base JI7 Jun 2022 #101
Rhodes. Treefrog Jun 2022 #117
Sounds privileged, privileged are OK with blowing things up cause they get to watch not be blown up uponit7771 Jun 2022 #40
Please, let me insert a 'think' in there. Hugin Jun 2022 #58
AbsoFuckingLutely. Doesn't give a Shit Cha Jun 2022 #96
Did you ask your friend how she thought student loan forgiveness and universal healthcare... Raster Jun 2022 #3
Yes I went there. redstatebluegirl Jun 2022 #16
Wowwwwwwww. Just wow. :( n/t OneGrassRoot Jun 2022 #18
We already tried that with DISASTEROUS consequences. Raster Jun 2022 #23
+1 empedocles Jun 2022 #38
But, we haven't given Republicans complete power. Hortensis Jun 2022 #81
Having a 6-3 Radical Right on the SCOTUS will cost us damn near everything before the year is over Hekate Jun 2022 #94
:) Way overstated? We have enormous blessings to cherish and protect, but Hortensis Jun 2022 #109
Not overstated, imo. 28 out of 50 states have just outlawed abortion, many with no exceptions. nt Hekate Jun 2022 #119
Okay, just came back from shopping -- they're going to go after the Hortensis Jun 2022 #122
It definitely is a very stupid argument awesomerwb1 Jun 2022 #30
Then why aren't we even attempting election reform? TheFarseer Jun 2022 #62
If you wanted the evening to end wryter2000 Jun 2022 #43
Okay . . . gratuitous Jun 2022 #47
Literally sounds like the Jimmy Dore gospel ... Hugh_Lebowski Jun 2022 #57
That was Susan Sarandon's view: Trump et al will trigger "the revolution". JustABozoOnThisBus Jun 2022 #82
I Know People RobinA Jun 2022 #84
Classic "only I'm smart enough to see through the lies" bullshit. mathematic Jun 2022 #121
I'm sorry. it's mind boggling that they continue to blow us up and refuse to see it. onecaliberal Jun 2022 #5
Yes, you are right. redstatebluegirl Jun 2022 #8
They are just like the right when they're more interested in blowing up the place than actually onecaliberal Jun 2022 #12
Tell her that if she doesn't vote for the Dem candidate for POTUS, LuckyCharms Jun 2022 #6
The only "real change" your friend and those like her will create is more victories for highplainsdem Jun 2022 #7
That is what terrifies me. redstatebluegirl Jun 2022 #11
Yup. Straw Man Jun 2022 #14
If they "blow it all up" Timewas Jun 2022 #26
They don't inthewind21 Jun 2022 #36
Time to stop allowing the term "progressive" to be expropriated Just A Box Of Rain Jun 2022 #15
If you met her and asked her what party she was affiliated with she would answer "progressive". redstatebluegirl Jun 2022 #25
It is sad to lose people to extremist mindsets. Just A Box Of Rain Jun 2022 #37
I miss the "old Ann", the one who protested the war with me. redstatebluegirl Jun 2022 #41
I truly understand where you are coming from. Just A Box Of Rain Jun 2022 #49
Thanks... redstatebluegirl Jun 2022 #66
Unfortunately "blown up " equals Fascism crazylikafox Jun 2022 #17
And once we hit full "blown up" Fascism, it is almost impossible to return. Raster Jun 2022 #27
That's exactly why we have the Supreme court we have awesomerwb1 Jun 2022 #19
I'm sorry that your friend is braindead Hav Jun 2022 #20
Believing that "the system needs to be completely blown up" is a fundamentally romantic notion... Jade Fox Jun 2022 #21
Putin's propaganda pushers have focused on left heavily blm Jun 2022 #24
Your friend is a member of the Susan Sarandon squad of progressives peggysue2 Jun 2022 #28
Bannon's "populist uprising" of "Hispanics, African-Americans and working class people" betsuni Jun 2022 #104
If one goes far enough left, one begins to sound amazingly like a right winger. mn9driver Jun 2022 #29
I think I'm done. The last couple of times we have been together it as gotten heated. redstatebluegirl Jun 2022 #31
Such people make me sputter. nt LAS14 Jun 2022 #32
completely blown up... 2naSalit Jun 2022 #33
If serious seleff Jun 2022 #34
Sorry you're dealing with this. She sounds like the Left's version of ... Whiskeytide Jun 2022 #35
I sometimes wonder BlueSky3 Jun 2022 #39
One person does not make that statement true. SharonClark Jun 2022 #88
Please re-read what I wrote BlueSky3 Jun 2022 #120
This is one of the reasons Biden's approval nevergiveup Jun 2022 #42
They either vote for Biden or we lose everything. And I sincerely hope every last one of them Demsrule86 Jun 2022 #55
We see a similar stance from many around here on Joe Manchin Zeitghost Jun 2022 #44
In some ways those of us who are centrist don't feel as welcome in the party as we used to. redstatebluegirl Jun 2022 #45
That's two years away. H2O Man Jun 2022 #46
Uh oh, you're a moderate/centrist supporting the milquetoast status quo establishment corporatists! betsuni Jun 2022 #48
I haven't been hip and cool since 1973. redstatebluegirl Jun 2022 #67
At least you were! betsuni Jun 2022 #103
Wasn't the system completely "blown up" under the reign of King Donald?????? Tell your friend unless Vinca Jun 2022 #50
I say fuck your friend. She can call herself what she wants...I call her a Republican who also Demsrule86 Jun 2022 #52
She is not not and not a progressive and calling her that besmirches the rest of us. Demsrule86 Jun 2022 #53
I see her point TheFarseer Jun 2022 #56
We are screwed zipplewrath Jun 2022 #63
All of that is correct TheFarseer Jun 2022 #68
Minority contol zipplewrath Jun 2022 #69
it's called accelerationist. it's a thing. wisdom from beau of the 5th column- mopinko Jun 2022 #59
"Riots are the voice of the unheard" Sympthsical Jun 2022 #60
"Burn it down" is what gave us Trump. intheflow Jun 2022 #61
Cool story, bro. RandiFan1290 Jun 2022 #64
Yeah, I'm wondering Sympthsical Jun 2022 #90
Actually I've been hearing the same thing. ecstatic Jun 2022 #91
Indeed. nt BlackSkimmer Jun 2022 #111
I just got off the phone with her. redstatebluegirl Jun 2022 #65
The myth that the majority of Americans are secretly progressive populists, there will betsuni Jun 2022 #76
I'm really sorry. She sounds something, though, like the LW authoritarians Hortensis Jun 2022 #79
I fear that our left has been defeated but a Russian Political Technology Aroundabout23 Jun 2022 #70
A line in "Inherit The Wind..." Grins Jun 2022 #71
Where the far left and far right meet. sarcasmo Jun 2022 #72
Ask her how that worked out in the 2000 election. LudwigPastorius Jun 2022 #73
I hear exactly the same thing from my nephew who just graduated from walkingman Jun 2022 #74
She isn't a progressive. She is the usual fucking idiot JI7 Jun 2022 #77
That whole blow it up thing is something this hardcore, never been anything else, big L Solly Mack Jun 2022 #80
This message was self-deleted by its author traitorsgalore Jun 2022 #85
So she wants what would had happened if TFI had been reelected? LiberalFighter Jun 2022 #86
Your friend sounds like Susan Sarandon LetMyPeopleVote Jun 2022 #87
"it was her opinion that the system needed to be completely blown up" brooklynite Jun 2022 #92
I lost a friend in 2016 over not voting for Hillary. Lunch, not dinner, tho. It's awful. Hekate Jun 2022 #93
You can be progressive, love Bernie and AOC, and still think Biden is doing well mvd Jun 2022 #95
What happened after "blowing it up" in 2016 wasn't enough for her? DFW Jun 2022 #97
Hillary tried to warn us LetMyPeopleVote Jun 2022 #108
It DID terrify me. DFW Jun 2022 #113
The excuse why the revolution didn't happen: Teh Establishment will stop at nothing to thwart it. betsuni Jun 2022 #110
The Cliches are more prevalent than the truths DFW Jun 2022 #112
+1 (And others: I don't know how any of those people sleep at night) betsuni Jun 2022 #114
They said the same thing in 2016 and what did that get us? Trump Samrob Jun 2022 #102
my answer is too far down so you probably won't even see/read this orleans Jun 2022 #105
Blow everything up and let fascists take over? Germany did that once... CarlYasutomo Jun 2022 #106
Cool story! n/t Mysterian Jun 2022 #107
As a Lawyer, she should understand how incrementelism or precedent works to change laws haele Jun 2022 #115
Hillary warned us LetMyPeopleVote Jun 2022 #116
I'm caught between relatives who feel like your friend and relatives who are Trumpsters. yardwork Jun 2022 #118

BannonsLiver

(16,482 posts)
4. Some of the dumbest people I've ever been around were great at academics
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:27 AM
Jun 2022

Zero common sense though. Sounds like the case here.

Cha

(297,733 posts)
124. Here's another one.. Fuckhead's Lying Gaslit Press Sec
Fri Jun 24, 2022, 07:46 PM
Jun 2022
Kayleigh McEnany was also a Harvard Grad

Being Highly Educated means Nothing when it comes to honor and integrity or getting brainwashed.



💙💛

Raster

(20,998 posts)
9. I've worked with high-dollar attorneys my entire working life...
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:29 AM
Jun 2022

...let's not automatically assume they are smart people.

Also, she sounds like a child of privilege. It's always easy for persons of privilege and power to make sweeping broad generalizations and pronouncements, especially when the results of said pronouncements don't really hurt them at all.

redstatebluegirl

(12,265 posts)
13. Nope, she was raised by a single mom, she had nothing growing up.
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:30 AM
Jun 2022

I do agree that a lot of attorney's I know are not necessarily smart.

Raster

(20,998 posts)
22. The far left "only we know how to fix it" is just as bad as the far right "we don't want to fix it"
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:37 AM
Jun 2022

It does not take an attorney, or any other reputed smart person to see that the Republicans are goose-stepping us into American Fascism.

Perhaps your friend needs to read or watch "The Handmaids Tail." Reich-wing dystopia is real and we are skirting the edges.
And frankly, it's "progressives" like your friend that could put us over the edge.

And seriously, has Ms. Smart Rhodes Lawyer person actually looked around at what is happening today?
Just a few more SCOTUS rulings, and women will be legally relegated to chattel and broodmare status.
But I'm sure that won't affect your friend. After all, she seems to know exactly how to fix the situation.

dsc

(52,167 posts)
51. So this high powered attorney won't vote Democratic
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 12:11 PM
Jun 2022

unless people who are significantly poorer than her pay her student loans. Dumb well I don't know that, Greedy, surely she is that.

Demsrule86

(68,696 posts)
54. Well one wonders how she arrived at the conclusion that having everything go to hell is the way to
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 12:17 PM
Jun 2022

proceed. She clearly has no empathy and consideration for those that this would hurt and possibly kill... She may be smart but her fanaticism has curtailed any intellectual prowess, she once had.

shrike3

(3,811 posts)
75. I've heard that before, from progressives.
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 02:19 PM
Jun 2022

"Burn it all down." Once it's all smoke and ashes, they (progressives) will step in build it "the way it should be."

Happy Hoosier

(7,404 posts)
83. And yet, still an idiot.
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 03:18 PM
Jun 2022

She no doubt has the resources to weather a fascist GOP hellscape, or even get out if she has to. The rest of us plebs? We can apparently fend for ourselves.

She is no "progressive" if she is willing to let the fascist right take control.

Cha

(297,733 posts)
100. Excellent Point, HH! Like Sarandon..
Fri Jun 24, 2022, 12:58 AM
Jun 2022

she doesn't give a Shit what the Fascist takeover of our country would do the poor and those whose Social Security would be Wiped Off the face of the map.

That's what the Psycho wanted to do.. defund SS by eliminating the tax that funded it.

That sent Chills down my spine when I read it on here in 2020.
💙💛


SharonAnn

(13,779 posts)
89. Ask the Russians how well their republic worked after Putin took power.
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 10:09 PM
Jun 2022

How are “open and fair” elections faring?

If we don’t vote for the Democrat, we may never be able to vote again.

Hugin

(33,222 posts)
58. Please, let me insert a 'think' in there.
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 12:24 PM
Jun 2022

They are okay with blowing things up cause they think they'll get to watch.

These sorts are doubly surprised when they go up in the cloud with everyone else.

FAFO fodder, they are.

Raster

(20,998 posts)
3. Did you ask your friend how she thought student loan forgiveness and universal healthcare...
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:26 AM
Jun 2022

...would do with Republicans in power?

Any comment to that?

No need to answer. It's always the same rhetorical bullshit about "blowing it all up for real change to occur."

If it were me, I'd tell her to get over her childhood trauma of not getting her pony and grow the fuck up.
And, I would NOT be having brunch, lunch or dinner with anyone so fucking stupid.

redstatebluegirl

(12,265 posts)
16. Yes I went there.
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:32 AM
Jun 2022

She said that until they are in complete power with Trump at the top people will not see how dangerous they are. I know it is a stupid argument. I just threw up my hands at that point, ordered another glass of wine and hoped for the evening to end.

Hortensis

(58,785 posts)
81. But, we haven't given Republicans complete power.
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 03:07 PM
Jun 2022

They did have a trifecta in DC and didn't begin to come close to the disastrous consequences these fringies imagine will destroy both parties and allow them to push in and take over a nation in collapse. These whackos mean really, really bad times.

Understandable that reasonable people tend to underestimate how irrational and ruthless the thinking of normal appearing extremists tends to be.

What they could help come about is a RW authoritarian state. Looking at the traits of these people, and their similarities to extremists on the right, suggests the real reason they've acted in ways that could help that come about. The reason a RW authoritarian state would be more desirable to them than continued liberal government. Liberals are the anti-authoritarians.

Hekate

(90,840 posts)
94. Having a 6-3 Radical Right on the SCOTUS will cost us damn near everything before the year is over
Fri Jun 24, 2022, 12:27 AM
Jun 2022

Hortensis

(58,785 posts)
109. :) Way overstated? We have enormous blessings to cherish and protect, but
Fri Jun 24, 2022, 08:59 AM
Jun 2022

most of them are far too deeply embedded in the American way of life for them to just take away. Like the revolutionary-left dreamers, far-right authoritarians need disasters to cover for and provide excuses people will accept for dismantling "the system." And our rights.

Note that they didn't dare cancel the duty to inform people in custody of their rights before interrogation (didn't even come close), and we probably won't be losing our constitutional right to create federal programs like Social Security or Medicare this year either (though I believe they intend to). I'm very unhappy that schools can use tax dollars to teach that I'm going to hell, but freedom of religion still stands.

Critically, note that despite 40 years of Republican attempts to undo the great expansion of rights and widespread prosperity created out of the previous New Deal era -- including the huge, accelerating devastations of their 2008 Great Recession and Republican pandemic, and tRumpism -- over 70% of Americans still say they're doing okay to fine.

Everyone needs to keep in mind what that last means. These are not end times. They are need-to-protect times. And what they do manage to take away temporarily, the people, left AND right, will restore even more comprehensively.

Hekate

(90,840 posts)
119. Not overstated, imo. 28 out of 50 states have just outlawed abortion, many with no exceptions. nt
Fri Jun 24, 2022, 11:28 AM
Jun 2022

Hortensis

(58,785 posts)
122. Okay, just came back from shopping -- they're going to go after the
Fri Jun 24, 2022, 01:56 PM
Jun 2022
right to privacy that protects so many of our personal decisions, especially relating to our own bodies, from interference by the government. At least Thomas's writing strongly indicates that.

Gotta admit you were right in that the portent is turning out to be HUGE, far bigger than making abortion illegal, which is only one extremely important right guaranteed by the right to privacy. Taking that out would likely also invalidate any laws we pass to replace Roe, no doubt behind Thomas's threat.

It might just also be the best thing that could happen with this RW extremist court seated, going after ALL people's rights to many highly personal and important decisions in a way that over time can't be missed or mistaken -- as opposed to paring away at smaller groups for years.

Whoa!

awesomerwb1

(4,268 posts)
30. It definitely is a very stupid argument
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:46 AM
Jun 2022

Should the GQP consolidate power thanks in part to voter apathy, they will make sure Dems never win any meaningful elections again. We may never get back the country should that happen and I don't think I'm being fatalistic here.

TheFarseer

(9,326 posts)
62. Then why aren't we even attempting election reform?
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 12:49 PM
Jun 2022

There are compromises to be had such as, require ID but everyone gets a free ID if they can’t afford it. We can do vote by mail but you have to request a ballot. But we’re not doing anything. It’s like we are down one, on the power play, but just trying to run out the clock. It’s as if the strategy is to just have an excuse Incase you lose. It’s extremely frustrating. I honestly don’t understand. Some cynical people say their only goal is to get re-elected, here’s the proof that they do not seem to have that goal!

gratuitous

(82,849 posts)
47. Okay . . .
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 12:03 PM
Jun 2022

And under the former guy's regime, we had hundreds of thousands of excess deaths due to his administration's feckless response to the Covid-19 pandemic. It sounds like your friend doesn't consider that consequence serious enough to avoid in the future.

How many excess deaths would be too many, then, under a renewed Republican regime that would treat its election as an iron mandate to do anything they pleased? A million? Ten million? How many allies would progressives lose, since they're in the majority of the population? How many people wouldn't survive to participate in the re-building of the society once it's been burned down to your friend's satisfaction?

 

Hugh_Lebowski

(33,643 posts)
57. Literally sounds like the Jimmy Dore gospel ...
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 12:24 PM
Jun 2022

Practically guarantee she's a big fan.

Next time ask her if she has any ideas that DIDN'T come from Jimmy Dore.

JustABozoOnThisBus

(23,369 posts)
82. That was Susan Sarandon's view: Trump et al will trigger "the revolution".
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 03:14 PM
Jun 2022

... very likely the same revolution that was going to occur in the 1960's.

any day now ...

RobinA

(9,896 posts)
84. I Know People
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 03:37 PM
Jun 2022

from both sides who favor this sort of megacollapse. Certainly they have never lived in a failed society. I mean, I haven't either, but I do have some respect for the horror it can contain. Maybe a few people who have crawled through the dirt on their way out of some European catastrophe over the past 100 years should set up a lecture series. Soooo, You Think You Want To Live in a Failed State!

mathematic

(1,440 posts)
121. Classic "only I'm smart enough to see through the lies" bullshit.
Fri Jun 24, 2022, 01:44 PM
Jun 2022

Your friend thinks they're so smart? Just derisively laugh at them whenever they say this stupid stuff. They'll hate that.

onecaliberal

(32,902 posts)
5. I'm sorry. it's mind boggling that they continue to blow us up and refuse to see it.
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:27 AM
Jun 2022

They’re frankly why we are so fucked.

redstatebluegirl

(12,265 posts)
8. Yes, you are right.
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:29 AM
Jun 2022

She has never been quite this bad, not sure what is going on that pushed her this far. She has always been further left than I am but we have usually been able to talk about it. The last thing I said to her is she is no different than the far right, it is their way or the highway.

onecaliberal

(32,902 posts)
12. They are just like the right when they're more interested in blowing up the place than actually
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:30 AM
Jun 2022

Helping people.

LuckyCharms

(17,460 posts)
6. Tell her that if she doesn't vote for the Dem candidate for POTUS,
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:29 AM
Jun 2022

or if she doesn't vote at all, then she is aiding the opposition, rather than "blowing up the system".

highplainsdem

(49,041 posts)
7. The only "real change" your friend and those like her will create is more victories for
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:29 AM
Jun 2022

Republicans, and more likelihood of one-party RW rule very soon.

Straw Man

(6,625 posts)
14. Yup.
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:31 AM
Jun 2022
It's always the same rhetorical bullshit about "blowing it all up for real change to occur."

I don't think they realize just how painful that would be, nor are they considering the possibility that "blowing it all up" could yield exactly the opposite type of change from what they are hoping for.

Timewas

(2,196 posts)
26. If they "blow it all up"
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:40 AM
Jun 2022

They will find that the choice of not voting does not exist anymore, they won't have to decide who or what to not vote for as there will not be any choices...

 

Just A Box Of Rain

(5,104 posts)
15. Time to stop allowing the term "progressive" to be expropriated
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:31 AM
Jun 2022

by those who willfully help enable fascists to come to power by withholding their votes from the Democratic coalition without a challenge.

Such people actively turn back progress and are rightly called "regressives."

Know truth. Speak truth.

redstatebluegirl

(12,265 posts)
25. If you met her and asked her what party she was affiliated with she would answer "progressive".
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:39 AM
Jun 2022

She has gone down the rabbit hole all the way to the bottom. She is in her mid 60's and runs with a young crowd of people right out of graduate school. She has spent her life doing legal work for those who cannot afford a good lawyer. She was a public defender in Chicago for 20 some years and then started her own practice in a small storefront. Everything we talked about doing when we were in college she has done, now this.....

 

Just A Box Of Rain

(5,104 posts)
37. It is sad to lose people to extremist mindsets.
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:54 AM
Jun 2022

I've experienced the same thing (and I am apparently in the same age cohort).

You are not alone in the complex feelings of disappointment, anger, and confusion that comes when someone who was a friend, and one that you considered to be forward-thinking, goes wrong.

I believe the correct course if to refuse to yield the term "progressive" to those who help enable Trumpist fascism.

Good on you for calling her out. I know it isn't the easy path.

redstatebluegirl

(12,265 posts)
41. I miss the "old Ann", the one who protested the war with me.
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:57 AM
Jun 2022

The one who got arrested with me when we had a sit in over the firing of a black professor on campus for no cause. I will really miss her, but I am truly done at this point. We do not live in the same city anymore so I don't see her as often but wow, the wonderful woman I knew is gone.

 

Just A Box Of Rain

(5,104 posts)
49. I truly understand where you are coming from.
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 12:08 PM
Jun 2022

I was a Political Science major at UC Berkeley and a person who became politically active in childhood.

I marched and demonstrated with a someone who I no longer recognize.

That has caused me feelings of despair that I can only imagine are similar to what you are going through.

No good comes from allowing such people to brand themselves as "progressives" IMO.

Doing what you did is harder. Takes courage. But it is the right thing in my estimation.

Big virtual hug for you.

Raster

(20,998 posts)
27. And once we hit full "blown up" Fascism, it is almost impossible to return.
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:43 AM
Jun 2022

That usually requires a World War or other major calamity to change the fascist mindset.

awesomerwb1

(4,268 posts)
19. That's exactly why we have the Supreme court we have
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:35 AM
Jun 2022

and it'll get worse if the republicans win the House and/or Senate.....and then the WH.

Not only will the system not be "blown up", but republicans will make sure Dems don't ever win again.

One has to be particularly dumb or naive not to understand that real changes can only be made with Dems in power.

Cut your nose to spite your face and then bitch about it. Great strategy folks!

Hav

(5,969 posts)
20. I'm sorry that your friend is braindead
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:36 AM
Jun 2022

I suppose it's a good idea to let Trump nominate even more SC judges.

Everyone who talks about the need for the system to blow up is a selfish azzhole. They are talking from a position of privilege where they aren't affected by repub policies. They may care about student loan forgiveness for their own selfish reasons but they don't give a shit about losing your right to have an abortion which will likely end deadly for too many.

Jade Fox

(10,030 posts)
21. Believing that "the system needs to be completely blown up" is a fundamentally romantic notion...
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:36 AM
Jun 2022

that would be an utter disaster in reality.

You might want to point out to your friend that the MAGAs believe the same thing.

blm

(113,101 posts)
24. Putin's propaganda pushers have focused on left heavily
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:39 AM
Jun 2022

over the last 6 years. The RT left has taken up the social media space where the RightWing extremists once prevailed.

peggysue2

(10,842 posts)
28. Your friend is a member of the Susan Sarandon squad of progressives
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:44 AM
Jun 2022

Blow it all up so we can build from the ashes. Very Bannon-like when you think of it, horseshoe theory writ large.

It's a stupid, self-destructive position to take bc in the aftermath of sabotaging the system, claiming both parties are the same or my personal 'must-haves' are a prerequisite for my vote, there is no guarantee of the end result. We're more likely to end up worse than better.

If you recall, Sarandon insisted there was no difference between Hillary Clinton and The Former Guy. How many times do you need to be wrong before people wake up????

betsuni

(25,660 posts)
104. Bannon's "populist uprising" of "Hispanics, African-Americans and working class people"
Fri Jun 24, 2022, 03:46 AM
Jun 2022

which will "destroy the Democratic Party as a national institution."

mn9driver

(4,428 posts)
29. If one goes far enough left, one begins to sound amazingly like a right winger.
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:46 AM
Jun 2022

I also have a friend who is brilliant and was also a Rhodes scholar in the early 1980s. Definitely a progressive, she left the US and now lives overseas. She reserves most of her hate for Obama and Biden, with Trump getting what is left over.

We don’t talk much anymore.

redstatebluegirl

(12,265 posts)
31. I think I'm done. The last couple of times we have been together it as gotten heated.
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:48 AM
Jun 2022

I am not going to waste my valuable time with someone who doesn't see the forest for the trees.

seleff

(154 posts)
34. If serious
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:52 AM
Jun 2022

Why doesn't she make her point and go home, turn on the gas, fill the house, and ignite? She could write her manifesto and make the news. Makes about as much sense as withholding her vote.

Whiskeytide

(4,463 posts)
35. Sorry you're dealing with this. She sounds like the Left's version of ...
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:52 AM
Jun 2022

… anti-showerist Steve Bannon. tell her she can be as progressive as she wants and yet still recognize the clear and present danger the current R party poses to our democracy. If they get control this time, they won’t give it back - ever - no matter how woke the masses become. It doesn’t do much good to “burn it all down” if there will be no ability to build it back afterwards.

BlueSky3

(515 posts)
39. I sometimes wonder
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:56 AM
Jun 2022

if there's an inverse relationship between a high IQ and emotional maturity. At least in some people.

SharonClark

(10,014 posts)
88. One person does not make that statement true.
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 09:54 PM
Jun 2022

There are many high IQ people who are emotionally mature.
It's her narcissism that is the problem.

nevergiveup

(4,765 posts)
42. This is one of the reasons Biden's approval
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:57 AM
Jun 2022

ratings are so low. I know liberals who are totally down on Biden. I am not sure where we go from here but it is scary.

Demsrule86

(68,696 posts)
55. They either vote for Biden or we lose everything. And I sincerely hope every last one of them
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 12:18 PM
Jun 2022

suffers mightily.

Zeitghost

(3,873 posts)
44. We see a similar stance from many around here on Joe Manchin
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:58 AM
Jun 2022

Some would rather have a Republican in office than an imperfect or centrist Democrat. I never understood it myself, but many would gladly cut off their nose to spite their face.

betsuni

(25,660 posts)
48. Uh oh, you're a moderate/centrist supporting the milquetoast status quo establishment corporatists!
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 12:06 PM
Jun 2022

You are totally not hip and cool, like, revolutionary.



"Progressive" now means populist anti-establishment with the establishment being Democrats.

betsuni

(25,660 posts)
103. At least you were!
Fri Jun 24, 2022, 02:58 AM
Jun 2022

I thought there would be another sixties-type politically active youth movement during the G.W. Bush years, but it never happened.

Then the pro-Russia anti-American (meaning anti-Democrats, anti-Obama) thing morphed into a whole industry. By 2016/7 there were audiences trained to boo louder at the words "Democratic Establishment" than at "Republican Establishment." Using "establishment" and "elite" as insults is really sixties. That populist propaganda was so successful.

Vinca

(50,312 posts)
50. Wasn't the system completely "blown up" under the reign of King Donald?????? Tell your friend unless
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 12:09 PM
Jun 2022

she wants to live under Putin-like rule, she'd better get her entitled behind to the polls and vote for Democrats. Biden wasn't my choice either, by he's light years better than Trump in 2024 or Ron DeSantis.

Demsrule86

(68,696 posts)
52. I say fuck your friend. She can call herself what she wants...I call her a Republican who also
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 12:14 PM
Jun 2022

want to blow the system up and I tire of those like her basically blackmailing us...we need the rust belt more than her...we can move to the middle if we need to and stop looking for votes in such unreliable places. And I am a Progressive who always votes for the Democratic candidate in all races. She is many things but she is not a progressive. And it is because of message voters like her that we can't have nice things.

TheFarseer

(9,326 posts)
56. I see her point
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 12:19 PM
Jun 2022

I don’t agree with all things progressive but I’m very frustrated with no progress on climate change, income inequality and gun control. It seems no one will do anything substantial on any of these. It’s like we move an inch toward these goals with Democrats and a mile in the wrong direction with Republicans but we are certain to go over the cliff because you simply can’t win every election and time is not really on our side with some of these issues.

My frustration is when we have progressive candidates like Jessica Cisneros vs Republican lite, under investigation for corruption Henry Cuellar and high ranking Democrats trip all over themselves to prop up Cuellar instead of someone who might actually do something besides fight for corporations. It really makes me wonder what exactly the priorities are.

zipplewrath

(16,646 posts)
63. We are screwed
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 01:19 PM
Jun 2022

And it's only going to get worse.

We are currently being controlled predominately by a minority of the population.
Mitch McConnell and the GOP senate represent roughly 30% of the population, yet control 50% of the senate.
The SC is controlled 6 - 3 by extreme conservatives despite the fact that at least 3 of them trace their nomination to presidents that represented significantly less than 50% of the voting population.
By 2040, 70% of the population will live in just 15 states.

Despite progressives having relatively popular ideas, they struggle at the ballot box in many places. The reason is that the way politics is supposed to work is that you get elected, you deliver what the people want (even if they didn't initially know it), and that gets you re-elected. It's how politics "progress".

But that can't happen in a system in which the minority controls so much of the government. We are headed towards real trouble in this country.

TheFarseer

(9,326 posts)
68. All of that is correct
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 01:32 PM
Jun 2022

We should try to negotiate a truce on gerrymandering. Blue states do it and red states obviously do it. Why can’t we all just agree to have a computer or non partisan committee draw the boundaries?

zipplewrath

(16,646 posts)
69. Minority contol
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 01:34 PM
Jun 2022

Because the minority won't agree to lose their control. And gerrymandering has nothing to do with the senate.

Sympthsical

(9,121 posts)
60. "Riots are the voice of the unheard"
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 12:27 PM
Jun 2022

Did people think that was limited to actual in the street riots?

Riots take many forms.

I suspect, if precedent is anything, this will all result in fingers in ears. It always does. Then there is more disruption.

It's weird how effect follows cause like that.

intheflow

(28,505 posts)
61. "Burn it down" is what gave us Trump.
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 12:33 PM
Jun 2022

If your friend can't see that, she's willfully missing the big picture.

Sympthsical

(9,121 posts)
90. Yeah, I'm wondering
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 10:12 PM
Jun 2022

Seems a little pat for a running theme. This one human just hits all these awesome bases.

Quite the player.

ecstatic

(32,734 posts)
91. Actually I've been hearing the same thing.
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:19 PM
Jun 2022

President Biden has been a good president, but a lot of people are being fed a different perspective through social media and other outlets. It's very difficult to get through to them. A lot of it might be ageism as well. Many people (incorrectly) conflate old age and physical symptoms of old age with dementia. Even people who should know better.

redstatebluegirl

(12,265 posts)
65. I just got off the phone with her.
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 01:28 PM
Jun 2022

I can say with some certainty after a 20 minute rant that I will cut ties with a friend of over 40 years. She is batshit crazy. Saying Bernie is going to run against Biden in the primary and beat him. That progressive candidates are going to take over the House. Reasoning with her was fruitless. I need a glass of wine and it is only 12:30. Good grief, how many friends and family do we have to lose over politics today?

betsuni

(25,660 posts)
76. The myth that the majority of Americans are secretly progressive populists, there will
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 02:24 PM
Jun 2022

be an alliance between Trump populists and progressive populists and um, revolution.

Hortensis

(58,785 posts)
79. I'm really sorry. She sounds something, though, like the LW authoritarians
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 02:31 PM
Jun 2022

who've now been identified and studied. A big lesson for us since 2016 is confirmation that authoritarianism's not just a RW thing. Many are currently loyal to the leader she's chosen, and batshit crazy times are not just encouraging increasing extremism (a lot of groups are circling faster and faster) but also very frank and open expression of what might once have been more diplomatically expressed, and perhaps less passionately felt.

And personality-driven ideology tends to rule at all educational levels. Many highly educated LW extremists and authoritarians wrap themselves and what some call "Progressivism" up in faux intellectualism with foundations of dishonesty and irrationality. And then quote each other. A lot!

If any of this is the case with her, it doesn't sound like a good sign for supporting Democratic leaders in future. Both RW and LW authoritarianism are antithetical to the liberal principles of the Democratic Party and to the democratic pluralism absolutely essential to representative government. As for extremism,...!

Plus, thinking about it, there's the strong overlap between authoritarians and populists, many being both. That aggressively antagonistic promise to "take over" the house is certainly characteristic of both, and the LW populist movement has not replaced Sanders as its leader, even if he did align with the "Democratic establishment" to stop tRump's populist movement.

Oh, well. Hope you enjoyed your wine. I'd like a glass myself thinking of this stuff, but out.

Grins

(7,234 posts)
71. A line in "Inherit The Wind..."
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 01:44 PM
Jun 2022
“I may be rancid butter but I’m on your side of the bread.” - Reporter E.K. Hornback to the defendant when he had words for him.

If Biden and his “minions” are a problem for her (and I often agree with her) think of the alternative! In their hearts they are on your side. The opposition - NEVER!

(In real life, the defendant was John Scopes, and that reporter was H. L. Mencken.)



LudwigPastorius

(9,181 posts)
73. Ask her how that worked out in the 2000 election.
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 02:16 PM
Jun 2022

All those voters who pulled the lever for Nader instead of Gore really helped bring the revolution, didn't they?

"We have to destroy the village to save the village" didn't work then, won't work now, or ever.

walkingman

(7,671 posts)
74. I hear exactly the same thing from my nephew who just graduated from
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 02:17 PM
Jun 2022

college this Spring. I thought he might be getting these ideas from Texas Tech, which has the rep as a right-wing university, but I am not sure he even understands how our political system works. He gets all of his info from podcasts, etc. and seems to think that whining and moaning about things online has the same impact as voting?? It is very frustrating to me but I continue to try help him understand that his political choices will impact him for a very long time.

JI7

(89,276 posts)
77. She isn't a progressive. She is the usual fucking idiot
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 02:27 PM
Jun 2022

with empty meaningless sayings .

'system needed to be completely blown up' is meaningless and empty.

These things don't make one a progressive.

Solly Mack

(90,788 posts)
80. That whole blow it up thing is something this hardcore, never been anything else, big L
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 02:41 PM
Jun 2022

Liberal, well, you can also call me an anti-fascist (always been that, too) has never cottoned to, and while I get the sentiment and people's reasoning for thinking it would work that way, it shows an utter lack of understanding of how people actually think and behave.

The idea that people will simply rise up and throw off the yokes of oppression is naive.

People have a tendency to adapt - even to oppressive laws and conditions.

Yes, there will be some that fight back from the word "No", but most will try to hunker down, lay low, keep quiet, hope for the best, as they go about adapting to life under oppressive laws.

It won't be this "come to jesus" moment a lot of folks seem to think it will be.

And while they are waiting for the resistance to take over, there will be a lot of death and destruction.

"Sooner or later" isn't exactly a well thought out plan for change.











Response to redstatebluegirl (Original post)

LiberalFighter

(51,112 posts)
86. So she wants what would had happened if TFI had been reelected?
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 07:43 PM
Jun 2022

She needs to realize that setbacks can have long term consequences.

LetMyPeopleVote

(145,627 posts)
87. Your friend sounds like Susan Sarandon
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 07:49 PM
Jun 2022

It this type of thinking that is going to lead to the overturing of Roe. Today gun rights were drastically expanded and Miranda was weakened.

The SCOTUS was on the ballot in 2016 and we are paying the price


brooklynite

(94,748 posts)
92. "it was her opinion that the system needed to be completely blown up"
Thu Jun 23, 2022, 11:28 PM
Jun 2022

Wasn't that supposed to happen when Trump won in 2016 and would govern so extremely RW that he's bring about the Glorious People's (™) Revolution?

Hekate

(90,840 posts)
93. I lost a friend in 2016 over not voting for Hillary. Lunch, not dinner, tho. It's awful.
Fri Jun 24, 2022, 12:22 AM
Jun 2022

I am sorry for your loss.

By the way, you’re not “one of those nasty moderates,” you’re a pragmatist who can see the big picture and the long view. The radical right on the SCOTUS and in elective offices isn’t going to give us squat — just anarchy with guns.

mvd

(65,180 posts)
95. You can be progressive, love Bernie and AOC, and still think Biden is doing well
Fri Jun 24, 2022, 12:31 AM
Jun 2022

That is how I am. For a time I was a bit like her, but then I came back to thinking that is not so good to demand perfection. Biden started out pretty progressive and I think he has done a good job. Hopefully progress can be made getting more progressives in, but the Repukes are a fascist party and we need to put our main energy towards beating them.

DFW

(54,445 posts)
97. What happened after "blowing it up" in 2016 wasn't enough for her?
Fri Jun 24, 2022, 12:35 AM
Jun 2022

What does she want, a Sarin cloud over Washington?

Or maybe she would prefer this?

betsuni

(25,660 posts)
110. The excuse why the revolution didn't happen: Teh Establishment will stop at nothing to thwart it.
Fri Jun 24, 2022, 09:11 AM
Jun 2022

DFW

(54,445 posts)
112. The Cliches are more prevalent than the truths
Fri Jun 24, 2022, 09:20 AM
Jun 2022

The Establishment, the corporatists, the capitalists, blah, blah, blah.

The Trumps of the world weren't the nail in the coffin of the 2016 election (and thus the Supreme Court) for us. The Jill Steins and Nina Turners were, along with their backers.

orleans

(34,078 posts)
105. my answer is too far down so you probably won't even see/read this
Fri Jun 24, 2022, 04:02 AM
Jun 2022

but i'm a progressive (or as i prefer: a liberal; i've always been a liberal)

just wondering what your pal plans on doing once everything is blown up? how does she/they plan on getting our right to vote reinstated, how do they plan on making universal healthcare possible when the only ones with power are the fascists? same with student loan forgiveness. same with assault rifles? global warming?

how does anyone find themself in the position to make change happen when they're too preoccupied with struggling just to survive?

the crazies want to blow up social security too. how's she gonna stop that crap when they take away our votes?

wake up america! get off your attitude & ass & vote against every one of those fucking republicons

it's the only way to make a positive change.

anyway, sorry about your friend.


CarlYasutomo

(53 posts)
106. Blow everything up and let fascists take over? Germany did that once...
Fri Jun 24, 2022, 04:16 AM
Jun 2022

So the only answer is to blow everything up and let the fascists take over? How did that work out in 1930s/40s Germany? Is that what your friend wants to happen in the US?

haele

(12,682 posts)
115. As a Lawyer, she should understand how incrementelism or precedent works to change laws
Fri Jun 24, 2022, 10:10 AM
Jun 2022

And that expedient rulings or rulings by fiat are easily appealed or overturned. Same with Executive Orders. There's very little to support or build on these types of decisions.

Bernie and the Squad have great ideas, but very little legal or robust process behind them that can bring those ideas to common practice or law that won't be challenged or protect them when they are challenged. It's a ideological War with 30% of the population that sees no reason for those ideas, not a sporting event that ends with an undisputed talley mark in the seasonal standing score box.
Lots of comfortable people assume politics is a team event rather than a scientific process.
In other words, they don't see the dependable team players are as important to the success of the team as the hero-ball player with all those cool but risky moves that look great on film.

If one thinks all they need to do is wave a magic populist wand to make everyone suddenly happy, one really needs rethink their political process.

Haele

yardwork

(61,712 posts)
118. I'm caught between relatives who feel like your friend and relatives who are Trumpsters.
Fri Jun 24, 2022, 10:52 AM
Jun 2022

Sometimes I feel like an old-fashioned conservative, fighting for institutions.

In the country I grew up in - the U.S. in the 60s and 70s - maintaining a 50-year precedent (Roe v Wade) would have been considered the conservative approach.

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