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Algernon Moncrieff

(5,790 posts)
Fri Jun 24, 2022, 11:42 PM Jun 2022

If abortion is going to be illegal, then dads need to pay

- If women are forced to carry unintended pregnancies to term, then we need laws putting dad (or dad's parents, if dad is a minor) on the hook for at least half of all expenses. Including, but not limited to: Prenatal. Delivery Expenses (including but not limited to: doctor, anesthesia, hospitalization, NICU, ambulance - you get the idea). Child Support. Secondary education funding. Medical and dental insurance.

- Neither Dad nor Dad Family get any say in Mom's choice of doctor or hospital.

- Financial responsibility does not entitle dad to visitation rights. That's a separate issue.

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If abortion is going to be illegal, then dads need to pay (Original Post) Algernon Moncrieff Jun 2022 OP
"Financial responsibility does not entitle dad to visitation rights. That's a separate issue." In kelly1mm Jun 2022 #1
To be clear, this is just how I think such a law should be framed Algernon Moncrieff Jun 2022 #2
Or the Mom can pay the Dad 18-21 years of child support if Dad has custody. In MD at least both kelly1mm Jun 2022 #15
The biological father should be on the hook for 3/4 of the expenses. roamer65 Jun 2022 #3
why? nt kelly1mm Jun 2022 #16
Why not? roamer65 Jun 2022 #20
So did she. Support for a child should be equal, or even better yet proport to income. nt kelly1mm Jun 2022 #22
It's called a paternity suit. Igel Jun 2022 #4
So the emergence of the DNA test should greatly streamline that process Algernon Moncrieff Jun 2022 #5
In NJ, often once you accept the role of the father you are on the hook even if DNA later proves not TheBlackAdder Jun 2022 #9
An unfortunate byproduct of overturning Roe: no_hypocrisy Jun 2022 #6
Not to mention that a baby is lifetime proof of incest, rape, affairs, etc. DNA is forever. nt okaawhatever Jun 2022 #7
Yes. Let's call it phylny Jun 2022 #8
Perhaps hitting men in the wallets will make them consider condoms Algernon Moncrieff Jun 2022 #24
I couldn't agree more. So many times in real life I have seen fathers raccoon Jun 2022 #10
Add rent and utilities until child is out of the home. JanMichael Jun 2022 #11
almost no states have laws mandating child support past 18 (or 19 sometimes if still in High School) kelly1mm Jun 2022 #17
I was being sarcastic. But life has become so expensive that older kids in the house must be... JanMichael Jun 2022 #18
All women forced to bear a child must enter their DNA into a database and if the father is known Vinca Jun 2022 #12
You can even shortcut that process Algernon Moncrieff Jun 2022 #23
The SC will probably rule that DNA paternity tests are an invasion of privacy. Irish_Dem Jun 2022 #13
There ya go tavernier Jun 2022 #14
Sorry for my naivete, but what obligations do the fathers have right now? BlueCheeseAgain Jun 2022 #19
In most states, H2O Man Jun 2022 #21

kelly1mm

(4,733 posts)
1. "Financial responsibility does not entitle dad to visitation rights. That's a separate issue." In
Fri Jun 24, 2022, 11:47 PM
Jun 2022

Maryland at least and in many other states I presume the fact that the father does (or does not) pay child support is immaterial to custody/visitation rights. In fact the father of a child has just as much rights to the child as the mother once the child is born.

Algernon Moncrieff

(5,790 posts)
2. To be clear, this is just how I think such a law should be framed
Fri Jun 24, 2022, 11:55 PM
Jun 2022

..and I think if we are revisiting a woman's right to control her body, we should also revisit who gets final say in raising the child. But the main takeaway is this - DNA testing can now prove paternity beyond a doubt (exception: dad is an identical twin). If you are Dad then you just bought yourself 18-21 years of child support.

kelly1mm

(4,733 posts)
15. Or the Mom can pay the Dad 18-21 years of child support if Dad has custody. In MD at least both
Sat Jun 25, 2022, 05:27 PM
Jun 2022

biological parents have equal rights to the child once the child is born, and in theory are on equal legal footing in initial custody proceedings. In the county where I am Moms win custody about 80% of the time. This is mainly because the in the vast majority of cases fathers do not contest custody. However in contested custody cases Dads win just under 60% of the time.

roamer65

(36,745 posts)
3. The biological father should be on the hook for 3/4 of the expenses.
Sat Jun 25, 2022, 12:01 AM
Jun 2022

At a minimum.

Including college or university if the child desires to attend one.

Igel

(35,320 posts)
4. It's called a paternity suit.
Sat Jun 25, 2022, 12:17 AM
Jun 2022

You prove that the guy's the baby daddy and he's on the hook for child support. I've seen that referenced in stuff from the 1950s; laws are still on the books.

At some point that went from simple court order to IRS facilitated. My mother was awarded child support (for my older brother) but judges work within state and they were in different states. He didn't pay. These days, she's at least get any tax return; a pittance, but something.

Algernon Moncrieff

(5,790 posts)
5. So the emergence of the DNA test should greatly streamline that process
Sat Jun 25, 2022, 12:44 AM
Jun 2022

And I believe the Clinton-era deadbeat dad laws are still on the books.

Frankly, if abortion is to be restricted, then paternity liability should be draconian. We are way beyond "They have to get married" as a society.

TheBlackAdder

(28,209 posts)
9. In NJ, often once you accept the role of the father you are on the hook even if DNA later proves not
Sat Jun 25, 2022, 05:21 AM
Jun 2022

no_hypocrisy

(46,130 posts)
6. An unfortunate byproduct of overturning Roe:
Sat Jun 25, 2022, 02:48 AM
Jun 2022

There are men who will murder women who bear their children in order NOT to pay child support.

raccoon

(31,111 posts)
10. I couldn't agree more. So many times in real life I have seen fathers
Sat Jun 25, 2022, 05:22 AM
Jun 2022

I couldn’t agree more. So many times in real life I have seen fathers Ordered to pay child support and somehow I know they just don’t pay. You probably know of at least one case everybody out there probably does probably more than one.

And I for one am sick and tired of it.

kelly1mm

(4,733 posts)
17. almost no states have laws mandating child support past 18 (or 19 sometimes if still in High School)
Sat Jun 25, 2022, 05:31 PM
Jun 2022

Some states extend some type of support obligation through college but usually only in a divorce action. One exception to this is for special needs adult children.

JanMichael

(24,890 posts)
18. I was being sarcastic. But life has become so expensive that older kids in the house must be...
Sat Jun 25, 2022, 06:14 PM
Jun 2022

...increasing. Actually is has over the last 40 years.

And with huge numbers of forced births that will hit over the next few years even less opportunity to flee the nest in another 40 years.

Vinca

(50,279 posts)
12. All women forced to bear a child must enter their DNA into a database and if the father is known
Sat Jun 25, 2022, 06:32 AM
Jun 2022

he should be forced to submit a DNA sample. If the father is unknown. The database needs to routinely be checked against criminal records, military DNA records, etc. In addition, the government should subsidize the mother and child until the child is 18 since the government is the entity causing it to exist. Maybe there needs to be a "3 strike" law for men who freely impregnate women and then go off on their merry way. Three times and you get a mandatory vasectomy.

Algernon Moncrieff

(5,790 posts)
23. You can even shortcut that process
Tue Jun 28, 2022, 12:37 PM
Jun 2022

If the baby is DNA tested, the likely father can probably be ruled in through genetic genealogy. In this process, a family tree is constructed by matching the baby's DNA to relatives who've done a DNA test on a service like Ancestry. So many Americans have tested that the odds of not finding cousins, aunts, or uncles (or closer) of the dad are slim. That should give a court sufficient evidence for the likely father to be compelled to provide DNA.

Irish_Dem

(47,138 posts)
13. The SC will probably rule that DNA paternity tests are an invasion of privacy.
Sat Jun 25, 2022, 08:37 AM
Jun 2022

I don't see the SC ever regulating male reproductive issues.

BlueCheeseAgain

(1,654 posts)
19. Sorry for my naivete, but what obligations do the fathers have right now?
Sat Jun 25, 2022, 07:03 PM
Jun 2022

I thought child support was already required, though I understand a lot of people are deadbeat dads and the legal system often does a bad job of forcing them to pay.

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