Please I beg you. Survive.

[KentuckyWoman]

If you are in a toxic relationship that is difficult to leave for whatever reason, I beg you not to let it beat you all the way down. Do something. Reach out somewhere. Even if it seems impossible, embarrassing. Even if you feel shame (you shouldn't).

If all else fails call 988. 24/7

They'll provide what you need in the moment and help you figure out longer term.

Please. Oh please. Do something other than end it. Please.
You are worth more than you might think.

[Joinfortmill]

1. Amen

[Scrivener7]

2. Great post.

[Funtatlaguy]

3. Wow. you have empathy for others. You must not be a Republican. Lol.

[Atticus]

4. THIS x 1,000. The sun WILL rise tomorrow. nt

[Aristus]

5. ...

I love that there are still people like you in Kentucky. I love Kentucky, and have lived there a grand total of five years of my life.

There is still good in the Bluegrass State…

[KentuckyWoman]

10. I am actually in Ohio now.

But there are more of us than you think in Kentucky.

[panader0]

18. Ft. Campbell?

[Aristus]

22. Fort Knox.

Three years as an Army brat when my Dad was stationed there. And then two years when I was stationed there during my time in.

[FakeNoose]

6. Yes absolutely

It seems maybe you're going through some things yourself, or within your own family?

[KentuckyWoman]

13. I'm fine.

A lady I don't know particularly well gave up. It is heartbreaking and I know there are a lot of ugly relationships on the planet.

[CousinIT]

7. A million times, yes.

If I could rec this a million times, I would.

[MLAA]

8. Right on!

[Tetrachloride]

9. I am on call for 5 people especially.

i am expecting the next call in an hour. One person is more predictable than the others.

We find a way.

[AllaN01Bear]

11. also,,,, it is not your fault

[herding cats]

12. Thank you for this!

So very many people (yes, even here) need to see this and know. We all have value and we all matter. We're more than our toxic circumstances. Don't let them take away your humanity!

My love to you! ❤️

[Skittles]

14. important to let folk you know that you are there for them

that they can flee in the middle of the night with nothing and know there is an open door somewhere

[KentuckyWoman]

15. That's part of why I posted too.

If I'd had any idea what this lady was going through I'd have made sure she knew my door was open. Too often people don't tell anyone what is happening. For those, I'm glad they made it easier to remember how to get help.

[Skittles]

24. my couch served as temporary means for a gal to escape her boyfriend

I was so glad no kids were involved. You're right about them not saying anything, they are often too embarrassed or scared to talk. I just happened to accurately surmise what what could be happening with an acquaintance and let her know I was always awake all night and she could call me.

[Upthevibe]

16. KentuckyWoman ............

It's horrifying to hear about what some people go through.

May I ask, what prompted your post?

[Stuart G]

17. K and R...Thanks for posting..

[brer cat]

19. A very important message.

Thank you for taking the time to post it, KW.

[llmart]

20. Thank you for this heartfelt post.

Way too often we try to keep these things from those we know, as you said, out of embarrassment or fear of being judged/shamed. Even if you only have one person to confide in that you trust, tell that person.

[IbogaProject]

21. Most Golden Gate jump survivors say instant regret

https://sites.psu.edu/sarahnicolegalang/2014/04/03/jumping-off-the-golden-gate-bridge-and-surviving-the-fall/

Of 33 survivors 19 said they instantly regretted jumping.

[Kaleva]

25. Where people drive over a cliff, there'll often be skid marks

Which indicates the driver slammed on the brakes before going over the edge.

[calimary]

23. What a great post!

I bet somebody’s gonna see this and take heart, and feel supported. OR they’ll pass this good info along to someone else who does. Sometimes I feel like there’s a lot of overwhelm out there. This will help.

Thank you, KentuckyWoman!

[bucolic_frolic]

26. Many kinds of relationships can be toxic

and the gender or orientation of the victim can include anyone.

Families, bosses, spouses, siblings, neighbors, professors, therapists, even doctors can (rarely) be exploitative.

I think this mass media pop culture breeds followers who succumb to dominant narcissists.

Protect yourselves, people, protect those you care about and those victims you can help. Become stronger before you are eaten alive.

[PJMcK]

27. One of our neighboring houses...

… is a safe house for women and children. It was rehabbed a few years ago as it had been deserted for some time. The house was rebuilt, the property was cleaned up and an above-ground pool, jungle gym and other toys were installed in the backyard. It’s a lovely and secluded home for multiple families and we’ve seen many different people there.

It’s unapproachable, of course, and that’s as it should be. There are 3 large dogs that guard the property, (they must have invisible fence collars since they never leave the property).

As a man, I find it inexplicably sad that our society needs places like this to protect vulnerable people. I cannot imagine abusing anyone let alone my wife or child. The toxic masculinity that fosters abuse is disgusting.

[markie]

28. good post!

thanks


I used to house abused women and children... more information is always needed!!!

[txwhitedove]

29. Yes. Been there, through that, lots of stories. Claw your way out of that wreckage

and move on, one foot in front of the other. You can survive, and even SURPASS the toxicity, the abuser, the damage.

[Beastly Boy]

30. You may have just saved a life or two. How many people can say that? Be proud.

[CaptainTruth]

31. Yes. There is ALWAYS help available, no one should hesitate to use it.