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Nevilledog

(51,198 posts)
Sun Sep 25, 2022, 04:33 PM Sep 2022

Thread from an Uvalde victim's father, 4 months after losing his son





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This time, four months ago, It was a normal day. I was at my office getting a booklet made for each of my coworkers that would show their growth in their skills to help get them raises. 2 hours from then, I’d get a call that would shatter my world. My wife called, screaming

“There’s a shooter at Uzi’s school.” I told my lead I had to go as I was running to my car. As I hauled ass towards the school, I got another call. “He’s in the fourth grade hallway, and I can’t get ahold of Uzi!” The shots rang through my phone as my wife was telling me this.

By the time I made it to town I received a third call. “They aren’t letting us see or get the kids, go to the civic center.” I headed there, not knowing it would be 8 hours of sitting and hoping. As bus loads of children got off, Uzi’s class never made it.

I called my other 10 yo and asked him to call his friends to see if they had heard from Uzi. He said they hadn’t but had heard it was Uzi’s teacher that was shot. I knew. I knew then that my little boy wasn’t coming home. I knew that I was going to receive the news I had always

Dreaded. Then we hear Greg Abbott on FB confirming 14 deaths, and as we looked around the civic center, you start noticing 13 other families. I knew. At 7:30 to 8 we got called back to another room. I knew. To hear the words “I’m sorry but Uziyah didn’t make it.” is the moment

my world crumbled. They had made a liar out of me. I always tell my kids that I will protect them and nothing could stop me. I was made a liar, by the school system, by the cops, and by that piece of shit shooter. I snuck out the back to avoid media and went and grabbed my car.

I picked my wife up at the back, and drove home. A 3 minute drive I had to figure out how I was going to tell my other kids that their brother wasn’t coming home. My grief is incomparable to the moment I had to tell them. Some dropped to their knees, one ran to the backyard

One helped me hold the little ones. The wail of my daughter is a sound that stays with me, just the same as hearing the shots. Its the unimaginable. The wail that informed the world that she was broken. Then a daze came. The next few days I don’t remember much except for sitting

on my porch running reporters off. It’s a daze that still comes over me at times, as I try to escape reality for a few moments just to come crashing back down with the reality that my little boy will never walk back in this house.

It’s been 4 months. And nothings changed. Nobody is being held accountable. Nothing has been done. Us parents should be at home grieving to the fullest, yet we are having to fight every entity imaginable. I’m exhausted. I break down. I have panic attacks that are

devastating. But I have to fight. And I will not stop until real change has been made, and even then I will continue. Our kids deserve better. We deserve better. It’s been 4 months!
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Thread from an Uvalde victim's father, 4 months after losing his son (Original Post) Nevilledog Sep 2022 OP
Devastating read Demovictory9 Sep 2022 #1
I read that yesterday. sheshe2 Sep 2022 #2
K&R LetMyPeopleVote Sep 2022 #3
Absolutely devastating. No parent should have to go through that. Initech Sep 2022 #4
Gut wrenching. nt LittleGirl Sep 2022 #5
"Now is not the time..." "We can't do anything about guns/mental health/school safety..." japple Sep 2022 #6
It's always either Grokenstein Sep 2022 #13
We need to be reminded of this pain. And keep it in front of the politicians and gun manufacturers. erronis Sep 2022 #7
No words ...nt Jarqui Sep 2022 #8
Another example of how broken we are at holding people accountable. I can't imagine the pain. Evolve Dammit Sep 2022 #9
Heartbreaking Martin Eden Sep 2022 #10
🤷‍♂️💕🤷‍♂️ Cha Sep 2022 #11
Heartbreaking. brer cat Sep 2022 #12
K&R MustLoveBeagles Sep 2022 #14
K n R ! Thanks for posting!... JoeOtterbein Sep 2022 #15
This breaks my heart. crickets Sep 2022 #16
I can't even..... TigressDem Sep 2022 #17

sheshe2

(83,907 posts)
2. I read that yesterday.
Sun Sep 25, 2022, 04:44 PM
Sep 2022

It was a very difficult read. You could hear the father's pain.

So heartbreaking.

Initech

(100,103 posts)
4. Absolutely devastating. No parent should have to go through that.
Sun Sep 25, 2022, 05:30 PM
Sep 2022

It's high time the NRA and their stupid A+ ratings system were kicked to the curb. This shit has to stop.

japple

(9,839 posts)
6. "Now is not the time..." "We can't do anything about guns/mental health/school safety..."
Sun Sep 25, 2022, 06:16 PM
Sep 2022

It's too close to elections. No one will give up their guns. Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.................

Grokenstein

(5,727 posts)
13. It's always either
Sun Sep 25, 2022, 07:03 PM
Sep 2022

"Too early to talk about this, let the families grieve in peace"

or

"Are you still on about that? It's history!"

until it affects them directly.

erronis

(15,335 posts)
7. We need to be reminded of this pain. And keep it in front of the politicians and gun manufacturers.
Sun Sep 25, 2022, 06:16 PM
Sep 2022

There is a solution.

Australia and UK have enacted tough gun laws and they have far fewer mass murders than the US.

Perhaps only Russia/USSR is a larger mass murderer. And Russia/NRA/(r)epuglicons are responsible for the lack of gun control in the US.

Martin Eden

(12,875 posts)
10. Heartbreaking
Sun Sep 25, 2022, 06:44 PM
Sep 2022


The NRA and the politicians they bought can go straight to Hell, along with the gun nuts who vote for them.

TigressDem

(5,125 posts)
17. I can't even.....
Sun Sep 25, 2022, 09:30 PM
Sep 2022

I am 60 years old.

My son was a wild one, but recently my grandson bested me in a way my son never did.

I had 5 people watching the grandson at the water park while I went to put my swim suit on. I came back and could not find him any where. Never, ever lost a kid near water. EVER.

I told my sister, "I CAN'T FIND HIM!!" and it was a wail like I knew he was dead or taken. I was freaking out. It had only been about 10 minutes, but 10 minutes under water is a death sentence.

They got everyone out of the water and we looked everywhere again.

We found him.

But if, if....


I can't even imagine.

How those parents don't storm in somewhere and practice their second amendment rights on someone is a testament to the REAL HEROES in all of this, parents who go from one day to the next without their child and don't go completely bonkers.



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