Everyone wants us erased
We are a hot button issue. But here we are still kicking the absolute shit out of us trans people. People falling for talking points, basically saying we aren't real men or women that we try to be, that we know we are. At this rate. You're gonna get it. Trans kids will commit suicide because of the GOP being cruel. You'll see adults do the same or be murdered. But hey long as people feel "right" in their opinions.
I wish I had died a long time ago. People like me have very little to no hope since allies are few and far in between. I can't even defend myself here. A place I thought I would be a safe space but even that is not good enough for people like me.
I wish some would understand this. How it feels and how much pain and misery it causes. I don't understand why some can't.
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Others oppose things they don’t understand. Just understand that you do have allies and people who care about the well-being of the trans community. You are valued and loved. 
I must have missed some posts. I'm so sorry this community has let you down.
You have more people who support you here than you know. I think most of us assumed DU would be safe and didn't see the instances when you haven't been.
But yeah, the open, heartless, self-righteous cruelty towards trans people has been horrific.
I barely recognize our country anymore. It feels surreal.
I try to be a good ally and echo the thoughts from femmedem. Just want you to know I'm very glad you're here.
The world would be all the poorer were you to be erased.
Many people are fighting on behalf of trans people; my state and several others have declared themselves havens where trans rights to health care and support will be legally protected. Please don't give up.
Because the struggle for Civil Rights on MANY fronts is FAR from over. In fact, it's only just BEGUN.
How tragic that you've been made to feel unwelcome here. We need each other. You included. Please don't get "erased".
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I’m so sorry that people are jerks.
Your post aroused my curiosity, so I googled. This is the closest thing I could find:
Either way, I think I want to read this. 
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I know I can't read everything every day, but I do read a whole lot of the posts here daily. If I had read anything hurtful I would have been sure to write a reply. No one can judge or condemn until they've walked a mile in your shoes. Equal rights means equal rights for all. No one is better than anyone else, no matter their station in life. Do not let the ignorant control your life. You must be brave and stand up for those coming after you. May the angels spread their wings over you and protect you in this righteous fight. We are here for you.
Just really surprised. All I've seen is support. 
So sorry for any negatvity affecting any trans individuals. Shows ignorance as far as I'm concerned. I'm so glad I didn't see it. Where are the moderators? I wish I had time to be one. There is to be no criticism of any member or democrat. Period. We are supposed to be civil here. I guess some always slip, through.
It is a slim slice of this population. Ignore them. Trans people have enough life or death situations to deal with without that crap here. This is supposed to be a refuge for us all at this crazy time in this crazy world. The majority of us stand with lgbtq+ individuals. Pity for the rest. They still have a lot to learn in life.
If I see it myself, I will flag it. I have a gay brother, and have quite a few lgbtq friends. I am sensitive to this issue and have quit organizations when I learned of derogatory remarks made regarding lgbtq+ community.
Where do these hateful bastards get off thinking they are better than any other human being? Their illiteracy and ignorance are astounding to me. They must live under a rock. Will they ever grow up???
I'm truly sorry for what lgbtq+ people have to go through just to live their lives each day. It's horrendous and heartbreaking.
I've got your back, and there are plenty of us here, we are HERE FOR YOU, we will FIGHT THESE FASCISTS TOGETHER
All the best
I can't help you where you live, but I will confront anyone here who questions how you define yourself.
Help, such as can be had here, is coming your way.
And in Chicago. And sometimes in Palm Dessert.
I came out as a lesbian in 1974. I get your pain. I was disowned and unfriended in real life. I understand and I’m sorry.
And welcome here.
Put the haters on ignore, and you will check later, 9 times out of 10, THEY will have been erased, NOT YOU.
This is supposed to be a safe & welcoming place. I'm so sorry you are made to feel this way. We have a non-bininary child with a shit birth mother that considers us their parents. They're out and proud but I'm terrified for them with all the crap going on. Keep your chin high. It may not seem like it but you're a valued member of this community and you do have allies here. I think that we as a community need to get better at calling out and reporting these posts when we see them.
Reading your post made my heart hurt. Knowing that you feel this way makes me sad, and hearing that DU doesn't feel like a safe place for you makes me both sad and angry. (Sad for you and angry with anyone who has said things that made you feel unwelcome.) I am also deeply sorry for anything I may have ever unwittingly said or done that may have contributed to you or anyone else feeling unwelcome here.
I hope the responses help at least a little bit. Please believe that there are many of us here who genuinely do care about you and the other trans members of our DU community and are absolutely HORRIFIED by the vendetta Repukes have launched against people like you.
DU obviously needs to do better, and I believe we can do better. I want to help us do better. I want to have your back and the backs of every other person here who belongs to the LGBTQ+ community or any other marginalized group. More than thst, I want to help you feel like I and others here have your back.
Thank you for reminding all of us that we still have a ways to go. You have given us a wakeup call, and I pledge to do my best to rise to neet this challenge.
Posie Parker (British anti-trans activist and documented actual Nazi) was run out of New Zealand on rails after she tried to hold a series of anti-trans rallies in Auckland, Wellington and Christchurch. Almost 6000 counter-protestors turned up and the hundred-odd Parker supporters fled the scene.
https://www.stuff.co.nz/national/300839091/antitrans-activist-posie-parker-leaves-country-after-chaotic-auckland-rally
There are more of us than there are of them and we shouldn't let the loudest and most obnoxious on the other side cloud our perception of the actual love and support that is out there.
These kids are the future, not the haters.
They aren’t even trying to hide their dog whistles. From trying to defend the term GC/TERF, to denying JKR being a TERF, to outright trying to make it look like there is some sort of struggle between women and trans women here on DU.
They are putting in only the most minimal attempt to hide their disdain.
That said, Earl G did a great job pushing back against them!
a terrifying number of human beings are. Transphobes take delight and filthy satisfaction in harming transfolk any way they can, from insulting them with words to passing dehumanizing laws, and in more extreme cases, to murdering them. Mean, ignorant bigots think it is perfectly fine to harm transfolk, because they see transfolk as less than human.
Makes me hurt and sick to the very depths of my heart and soul.
Hang in there, vercetti2021, and know that there are some of us who recognize the KKK like fascist horror that resides in the hearts and minds of transphobic bigots, and we're not gonna take it.
Together, we're going to kick transphobe ass in the next election. If we can't change their hearts and minds, we can at least drive them back under the slimy rock they crawled out from under.
As for so called progressives hating on transgender folks, you are a shame to the Democratic party and the progressive movement, and your stinking hypocrisy knows no bounds.
Get a life. The first step to getting a life is understanding this...
We are all equal members of one human family. Hurting transfolk because you are not right in the head and heart is so very wrong. Like Stevie Wonder wrote, "when you believe in things that you don't understand, then you suffer...superstition ain't the way".
"People crave a reason for their struggles, he contended, and so turn to figures like Donald Trump for answers.
“They need an explanation, in my view, as to why they are worse off, and Trump is giving them—and his friends give them—the lying, dishonest explanations. ‘It’s the immigrants, it’s blacks, it’s gays, it’s transgender people,’” Sanders said. But the “real cause” of that pain is the “economic system designed to benefit the very, very rich at the expense of everybody else.” Bernie Sanders
We need you and your voice here at DU, vercetti2021. Please don't ever leave. Many here are geninely empathetic enough to get it, to feel the mean, cruel, sick hatred that transphobes carry in their hearts and minds.
We know what's going on. We love you, and the rest of the transgender community here at DU, vercetti2021.
You will always have an ally in me.
I was in Harrisburg PA last week, and was pleasantly surprised to be there while a big LGBT event was held. The Hilton was totally booked with this event so we had to stay at the Crowne.
It was really cool to see folks of all ages in the group. I saw no haters in Harrisburg. At least where I was.
We went out to eat in several restaurants on Restaurant Row and there was a big group from the event at all of them. No one was staring or acting stupid.
Just normal peeps eating out and enjoying the evening. So cool.
But for those haters here and anywhere else - fuck off.
You've definitely got allies. Fvck the transphobes! 
dispatch them. We all will need to stay alert and shut them out. The overwhelming majority here holds you in light! You are brave! You are respected and admired here.
And I'm sorry for what you've had to face, even here on DU where people really should know better. Sadly, there is still some backward thinking and irrational fear here, as everywhere. We should do better.
I don't want you erased. I want you alive, joyous, proud, your true self living your best life. The best revenge, as they say. I want you and all trans people to be protected, celebrated, and free. The cruelty and ignorance and scapegoating makes me sick to my heart.
You're beautiful and you matter.
but I know I don't walk in your shoes. However I promise you do have an ally in me. please don't die. don't give up, don't give in.
Individuals are just that, individuals.
Ascribe to the malevolent, malevolence.
Ascribe to the delusional, delusion.
Ascribe to the reasoned, reason.
Ascribe to those that love, love.
The malevolent and the delusional will always fight against reasoned understanding.
This is because the malevolent and the delusional have absolutely zero use for reasoned understanding.
"Their" understanding resides in the same place that manufactures their "butt-nuggets of wisdom".
As in the rest of life it is necessary to "take what you need and leave the rest."
Life is full of useless assholes
Let the horses patooties speak for their selves.
I just stay grateful that they self-identify!
I embrace what I love.
I start with myself, I leave the rest.
By focusing on what I love, I embrace what's useful, and allow the rest of "the chips" to fall where they may.
It allows me to avoid the larger shit-shows wherever they may roam.
Otherwise, the patootie's shit-shows block the sunlight of reason that emboldens my steps and brightens my day.
Where I come from, in my local parlance, we're all y'all.
May reason rule wherever y'all dwell!
And always remember to laissez bon temps rouler!
Celebrate your life so that others may celebrate theirs with you!
loving, creative, sexy, funny, talented, strong humans!
And that goes for all my family and friends who feel absolutely the same way.
