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MaggieTheVoter

(37 posts)
Tue Jan 17, 2012, 05:56 PM Jan 2012

Please help demodonkey, a DUer in URGENT need.

I am posting this with Skinner's permission (thank you, Skinner!) to ask you all to help a long-time DUer get back on her feet after the tragic loss of her mother and family breadwinner.

Demodonkey has been on DU for many years. She was one of Andy's Angels who helped Andy Stephenson when he had his operation. She is a fierce fighter for better elections who was one of Regional Coodinators on the ground in Ohio for the 2004 Recount. Coming home to Pennsylvania, she founded the very active voting rights and election integrity group VotePA.us and has been working for better voting systems and a lot of other improvements in Pennsylvania's elections ever since. I am one of her organization's members, and I can vouch that there is truly NO OTHER PERSON doing as much for fair and accurate elections in Pennsylvania as demodonkey. I know demodonkey is single-handedly responsible or mostly responsible for getting numerous counties in PA to switch to paper ballots from unverifiable touch screens. Despite all that she has on her plate, she is still helping us work on the rest of the Pennsylvania counties that still use paperless vote-eater machines. She skillfully leads our fight for paper ballots and fair elections in PA, fighting the powers that be for change to the better. But unfortunately up to now our group has not been able to raise enough money to pay demodonkey even a small salary for the great work she does.

What many people do not know is that through all this demodonkey has also been an unpaid full time family caregiver. She gave up a career in the 1990s to help her mother take care of her autistic brother. He passed several years ago, but in the meantime her mother was physically disabled by a severe stroke. Demodonkey has taken care of her mother, who was wheelchair dependent, at home pretty much 24/7 for the last three years or so. She and her mother were very close, an amazing team really, and best friends as well as mother and daughter. Despite the stroke her mom cared deeply about elections as much as demodonkey, and travelled with demodonkey whenever possible in a loaned wheelchair van.

Last summer tragedy struck when demodonkey's mother died after an accident at home. Demodonkey was present when the accident happened but was unable to prevent it. It must have been horrible.

Demodonkey and her mom maintained their home on her mother's small retired teacher's pension and social security. So now, in addition to having lost her mother and best friend, she has no income at all. She received a little money from her mother's small life insurance, and has lived on that since her mother's passing, but she has only enough left to get through this month and then she will have nothing. In the meantime she is dangerously low on heating oil, her car needs major repairs (in the meantime she is still driving the loaned van that eats gas and IT has needed expensive repairs too), and she needs some repairs on her house as well to keep it safe.

In the meantime demodonkey is sending out resumes galore to get other work (she would be a GREAT find for someone), but having been a full time caregiver and unpaid activist for so many years is apparently working against her. She has not gotten even one interview. She has nothing left that she can cash in, sell quickly, or borrow from. She has no children, husband, ex, or close family to help her. This is it. She really needs someone to step in now and give her some support to get through the next few months. She desperately needs at least a few thousand dollars to help her get through this winter safely and to hang on until our organization can pay her or until she finds something that can.

I am writing to ask everyone on DU who is able, to PLEASE kick in whatever you can and help demodonkey get back on her feet. There are several things you can do:

** To send a gift donation directly to demodonkey via PayPal, use her email account sunnykay1 AT comcast DOT net.

** If you want to send something by snail mail or help by other means, please send me a private message and I will let you know how to do this.

** If you want to send something to VotePA in memory of demodonkey's mother or otherwise (all these donations will go toward our organization paying demodonkey for her work) please go to http://www.VotePA.us/donate

I know times are tough for so many people, but demodonkey is a really special case. She has done so much for so many for so long and despite her tragic loss this past year she tells us that she wants to hang on so she can do more. I know every dollar that people invest in helping her will get paid forward many times over.

Please help demodonkey.

MaggieTheVoter in Pennsylvania

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Please help demodonkey, a DUer in URGENT need. (Original Post) MaggieTheVoter Jan 2012 OP
She has stood up against incredible odds... CaliforniaPeggy Jan 2012 #1
Kick and Recommend alfredo Jan 2012 #2
I feel her pain and hope things turn around soon. Bonobo Jan 2012 #3
Where in PA does she live? HopeHoops Jan 2012 #4
Western PA near Pittsburgh MaggieTheVoter Jan 2012 #15
I cross-posted a link to your OP in the Pennsylvania group. HopeHoops Jan 2012 #17
K&R for Demodonkey! rox63 Jan 2012 #5
please beware about posting information that makes her identifiable... grasswire Jan 2012 #6
Done! Suich Jan 2012 #7
Yes! I'm in too. hedda_foil Jan 2012 #8
To demodonkey, if you're out there: AverageJoe90 Jan 2012 #9
KnR SammyWinstonJack Jan 2012 #10
Sorry to hear about demodonkey's situation. sabrina 1 Jan 2012 #11
tell me maggie barbtries Jan 2012 #12
Either one would be great! MaggieTheVoter Jan 2012 #14
Here is a post from demomonkey on Christmas Day: Suich Jan 2012 #13
k&r Starry Messenger Jan 2012 #16
K & R !!! WillyT Jan 2012 #18
Yet another instance of how amazing DUers are Dragonbreathp9d Jan 2012 #19
Making paypal donation now. Texasgal Jan 2012 #20
k&r uppityperson Jan 2012 #21
Thanks for letting us know TuxedoKat Jan 2012 #22
It may be that the Social Security office can help her find a gig EFerrari Jan 2012 #23
I asked her about doing that... MaggieTheVoter Jan 2012 #24
I have no shoulds for demodonkey. EFerrari Jan 2012 #26
K&R Fumesucker Jan 2012 #25
kick JanMichael Jan 2012 #27
She is in PA, one of my states. flvegan Jan 2012 #28
Can you send me a DU mail please MaggieTheVoter Jan 2012 #38
Money sent--thanks for letting us know. coffeenap Jan 2012 #29
This is horribly sad. My mom just had a major stroke so I know glinda Jan 2012 #30
small donation sent. I can do more next month. I hope this helps. nt Mojorabbit Jan 2012 #31
Kick! CaliforniaPeggy Jan 2012 #32
k&r for demodonkey!!! hedda_foil Jan 2012 #36
Let's keep this kicked. nt Bonobo Jan 2012 #33
k&r tawadi Jan 2012 #34
I have been offline since the SOPA blackout MaggieTheVoter Jan 2012 #35
I wish I could help DiverDave Jan 2012 #37
K&R! jannyk Jan 2012 #39
Kick nt grntuscarora Jan 2012 #40
Done, and kicking. nt Curmudgeoness Jan 2012 #41
Sent what I could... one_voice Jan 2012 #42
Kick Mnemosyne Jan 2012 #43
Kicking and Thanking everyone for helping. MaggieTheVoter Jan 2012 #44
Just read her post on DU2 DiverDave Jan 2012 #45
I'm really short on money Spirochete Jan 2012 #46
K & R a la izquierda Jan 2012 #47
Kick for Monday DiverDave Jan 2012 #48
Thanks for writing this MaggieTheVoter marzipanni Jan 2012 #49
K + R deacon Jan 2012 #50
Kick Mnemosyne Jan 2012 #51
Thank you all for keeping kicking and helping MaggieTheVoter Jan 2012 #52
Done, kick n/t Duer 157099 Jan 2012 #53
Do you have any update on how Demodonkey is doing? Curmudgeoness Feb 2012 #54
I'm wondering also. Kick for good news... Mnemosyne Feb 2012 #55

grasswire

(50,130 posts)
6. please beware about posting information that makes her identifiable...
Tue Jan 17, 2012, 06:53 PM
Jan 2012

....because those sociopaths over at the web site that hates DU can and will try to make trouble for anyone they can ID. Seriously. This kind of compassionate attempt to help another human stirs them into fits.

hedda_foil

(16,375 posts)
8. Yes! I'm in too.
Tue Jan 17, 2012, 07:51 PM
Jan 2012

Demodonkey has done SO much for the cause of voter-verified paper ballots,and not only by her tremendous work in Pa, but also nationally. She has come through time and again for national efforts and organizations, without pay, and often without even reimbursement of her expenses. She has always been there for all of.us in the election integrity community. I know Andy would want DU to be there for her to help her through this awful time.

 

AverageJoe90

(10,745 posts)
9. To demodonkey, if you're out there:
Tue Jan 17, 2012, 07:53 PM
Jan 2012

I'm so sorry you lost your mother, ma'am. If I ever get the chance to help, I most certainly would.

barbtries

(28,798 posts)
12. tell me maggie
Tue Jan 17, 2012, 08:14 PM
Jan 2012

do you prefer a snail mail donation directly to her or a donation to VotePA? i prefer not to do the paypal, i do it so rarely i can never remember my password and it's frustrating. i'll do whichever of these two ways you prefer. it can't be much but i can chip in some for her.

EFerrari

(163,986 posts)
23. It may be that the Social Security office can help her find a gig
Tue Jan 17, 2012, 10:31 PM
Jan 2012

as a caregiver. They are in the network of people who look for help and they eventually do the paper.

Good luck, my dear. What a tough time this is.

MaggieTheVoter

(37 posts)
24. I asked her about doing that...
Tue Jan 17, 2012, 11:08 PM
Jan 2012

She told me that she can do lots of things but she knows she is not cut out to be a professional caregiver for the elderly; she only did it for her mother whom she loved so much. Said if she tried to do it for anyone else she would see her mother in front of her everyday. I think it might be too hard to face given the way her mother died.

On edit: It has only been about five months since her mom's accident and I would bet she is still hurting a lot just thinking about it. I know I couldn't imagine myself having to deal with the same type of thing that soon after seeing something like that.

EFerrari

(163,986 posts)
26. I have no shoulds for demodonkey.
Tue Jan 17, 2012, 11:21 PM
Jan 2012

I can't imagine myself after my mother's death, period. One of my friends was widowed suddenly and she managed to make ends meet that way for a while as she figured out how to surf that big sudden change.



flvegan

(64,408 posts)
28. She is in PA, one of my states.
Wed Jan 18, 2012, 12:21 AM
Jan 2012

I'd be happy to look at a resume and promote her for hire if appropriate in my company in any way I can. She can redact any personal info until I look at the possibles.

coffeenap

(3,173 posts)
29. Money sent--thanks for letting us know.
Wed Jan 18, 2012, 01:13 AM
Jan 2012

I am so sorry for her and I honor her efforts on behalf of all of us.

glinda

(14,807 posts)
30. This is horribly sad. My mom just had a major stroke so I know
Wed Jan 18, 2012, 01:28 AM
Jan 2012

how awful and hard the situation must have been especially with the accident. Sending her love. All my small amount of money is going to help my elderly parents, travel to see them, etc.....
I hope she gets help, work, support from our peeps here. How horribly sad.

MaggieTheVoter

(37 posts)
35. I have been offline since the SOPA blackout
Thu Jan 19, 2012, 06:47 AM
Jan 2012

Kicking for the AM.

Thank you all to everyone who is helping DemdoD and to all who are keeping this kicked, etc.

She is a good person.

DiverDave

(4,886 posts)
37. I wish I could help
Thu Jan 19, 2012, 08:47 AM
Jan 2012

but kicking is all I can afford.
If I come into any riches, she is on the list...Hang in there.

marzipanni

(6,011 posts)
49. Thanks for writing this MaggieTheVoter
Wed Jan 25, 2012, 09:39 PM
Jan 2012

*kick* for demodonkey
If many of us send even a little it will be a big help!

MaggieTheVoter

(37 posts)
52. Thank you all for keeping kicking and helping
Sun Jan 29, 2012, 05:41 PM
Jan 2012

Have had some problems of my own this week so I haven't been able to check in.

I'm going to try to call DemoD as soon as I can and see how she is. I know the last time we talked she was having problems singing on. Something because of DU2 and DU3 and her browser? As I remember her computer is an older one. When we talked I made her promise that she would absolutely call me if she had real bad trouble.

Anyway thank you all for helping.

Curmudgeoness

(18,219 posts)
54. Do you have any update on how Demodonkey is doing?
Thu Feb 2, 2012, 10:49 PM
Feb 2012

I think of her often and still worry about how she is holding up and managing.

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