I usually don't bent my frustration about my brothers and sisters, but...

[imanamerican63]

I’m perplexed by how they can’t be with my mother more than a few hours worth of their time to visit with her.

Most of you all know that I have mother living with me in a house that I bought about a year ago. Most of my siblings live in different states, but they travel back to Omaha, yet only spend maybe a half a day to to a day and a half, but mostly just a couple of hours with her. They spend more with their friends and other relatives than my mom. I get that they have lives too, but my mom is going on 88 years old. Yet, they still don’t ask if I need any help with her? I’m on the road in order to pay for the house. I would love to be home than a week every 3 to weeks that I’m on the road. I don’t ask for any money, but I have in the past, asked for help with taking her shopping, which falls on deaf ears. I have 6 sisters and 2 brothers & still can’t get help. Yes, I’m willing to do whatever it takes to make my mom happy, but I can’t do it from a distance.

It’s like they are waiting for her die & then take the credit for looking out for her?

I could go on with my rant, I would just leave it there.

Thank you for letting me rant. Oh by the way, they all are trumpers for the most part & that is so frustrating to me!

[Ziggysmom]

1. I am an only child, and when I cared for my mom, after my dad passed, I wished I had

siblings. I see that's no guarantee of any help. It's sad for you not getting help, but does your mother feel neglected by them? It may be time for a family meeting with an attorney present. If they don't help physically, you should be compensated financially IMHO.

I know people who send money to magat campaigns, yet neglect family. It's like their minds are controlled by the orange anus.

[imanamerican63]

4. Neglected?

Yes, because she’s thinks they are mad at her, because she didn’t to enough for! And keep reminding her that she’s done way more for them. I won’t get into the details, but she has been there for all of us it’s crazy to see how much she has done!

[Ziggysmom]

6. Aw heck, that's terrible that Mom is feeling bad when the kids are causing her pain. I'm sorry

for her being made to feel guilty like that. I commend you for taking care of her; I know how hard it is to be a caregiver plus work full time. I hope you can get them turned around and spending more time with her. But if they are tRumpers, they may be too brainwashed already.

Best to you and Mom

[samnsara]

2. vent away!!!! i HAD 2 sisters who basically did the same thing and when i was executor of the wills

...i charged the estate every single penny i could for selling the house and all the crapola that went with it. They barely visited mom and dad at all then had their greedy hands out for cash when the house sold.

like i said.. i HAD 2 sisters....

[LuckyCharms]

3. I'm sorry. I've been exactly where you are now.

I don't have an answer for you as to why siblings sometimes get like this...but they indeed do.

Ignore them, and continue to do what is right.

You can't control others. You need to be able to live with yourself.

Be proud of your efforts.

Oh, and get ready for the slow-walking and crying by your siblings after your mother passes...which I hope will not be for a long time.

[Scrivener7]

5. After my parent died, I described a similar situation to my accountant

who is someone I have known a long time.

He said he has never seen a family where most of the siblings didn't run like hell away from the ailing or aging parent, leaving the parental care completely to one or two siblings.

I was lucky. One sister and I shared the burden. The rest of my siblings did, indeed, run like hell.

[DET]

7. That's Awful

They should at least pitch in with some money so you can find some respite from the relentless demands of being a caregiver and so Mom can go shopping. Even just $10/week from all of those siblings should be enough to get you some assistance. You might want to be more forceful in your requests. For what it’s worth, you’re an excellent son. Karma will reward you and deal with your siblings one day.