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I have been thinking about posting this for some time but was unsure of the reception. then I realised that damn the reception this sort of vindictive sexism needs to be brought into the light and, preferably, stamped out.
For sometime I have been horrified by the vile and abusive posts from MRAs that have been highlighted by FSTDT. Not being one to frequent such sites myself I thought such things were just aberrations of the same nature an Free Republic. Then I discovered the blog Man Boobz whose stated aim is "Misogyny, I mock it". In fact it highlights the hateful attitudes espoused by such groups
The first post I clicked was this horror "A Voice for Men fights the rising tide of loose vaginas" which highlighted some seriously vicious anti-women comments.
Other posts included
As men, Force is the greatest weapon we have
We must use it, says racist manosphere asshat.
http://manboobz.com/2012/11/13/as-men-force-is-the-greatest-weapon-we-have-we-must-use-it-says-racist-manosphere-asshat/
Innovative New Bread Metaphor Explains Why Most Women are Stale and Moldy
http://manboobz.com/2012/11/23/innovative-new-bread-metaphor-explains-why-most-women-are-stale-and-moldy/
Then there was this little profile of a certain Warren Farrell
What Mens Rights guru Warren Farrell actually said about the allegedly positive aspects of incest.
http://manboobz.com/2012/11/21/what-mens-rights-guru-warren-farrell-actually-said-about-the-allegedly-positive-aspects-of-incest-note-its-even-more-repugnant-than-that-sounds/
I will not quote directly from these posts, the titles are pretty self explanatory, click the links if you have a strong enough stomach.
hifiguy
(33,688 posts)I've never seen any links to this kind of crap anywhere on DU except in your post. This is like posting links to a bunch of dingbat reichwing sites, which is generally forbidden by the Admins.
intaglio
(8,170 posts)The attitudes that are starting to permeate the posts of certain groups on DU who seem to want to marginalise women.
I thought these sort of comments just came from a loopy minority that could be tolerated, instead I find they are just the tip of the iceberg. You may wish to live in ignorance, I do not and I believe that many others will be interested in this.
EVERY single mens right activist, or just the ones that you have viewed and in turn formed a stereotype in your head?
intaglio
(8,170 posts)and the deluded MRAs who enable them.
MrDiaz
(731 posts)are any women rights activists who view men the same way, or is this only the men who do this? Because like I said i think you are perpetuating a stereotype.
intaglio
(8,170 posts)additionally those extremist females do are not attempting to push their agenda onto DU nor do they pretend to be the majority or the mainstream.
Now perhaps you would like to justify your "stereotype" comment. MRA sites support vicious misogyny - at least all of those I have seen. Perhaps you could provide links to the, near invisible, MRAs who excoriate such behaviour and censor the issuers of such vile manifestos.
mensrights.com
intaglio
(8,170 posts)But the first article I clicked on was this one "Inside Story: Domestic Violence Shelters" Which has the following paragraphs near the beginning emphasis added)
The business of domestic violence is exactly that - a business only concerned with numbers, statistics, and money (generally in the form of donations). I believe this is incredibly detrimental to actual victims of domestic violence.
These shelters also make it extremely tempting to people to lie about abuse in order to present themselves as a victim of domestic violence so they would qualify for shelter care.
Any comments?
LiberalLoner
(9,762 posts)sendero
(28,552 posts)... THAT PARTICULAR site, right? Otherwise, bye bye any credibility you might have once had,
intaglio
(8,170 posts)Man Boobz is a site that samples and mocks the many MRA sites that exist. They also sample and mock the PUA sites.
MRAs are also active on sites like Stormfront and Free Republic.
... so a self-selected sample is now meaningful. And guilt by association also.
If you are still contending that even MOST men's right organizations are like these folks, just say so.
intaglio
(8,170 posts)There is no cure fore willful blindness and there is still no cure for apparently deliberate misreading of posts.
I have said that all "Men's Rights" sites I have seen support, publish, enable or refuse to condemn misogyny. I have given a link to a site that monitors such sick posturing and have noted that other examples can be found on other monitoring sites.
The one (repeat one) site that was touted to me as not supporting such hateful attitudes had no statement condemning such attitudes and at least one article explaining how domestic violence shelters are a business and encourage women to lie about abuse. This last is not just "guilt by association" it is guilt by act; reinforcing the lie that most women lie about domestic violence and rape.
Find me a Men's Rights site that unequivocally condemns misogyny and bans people posting such garbage and I will moderate my opinion of such sites - although I will continue to see "Men's Rights Activism" as being very like "White Rights Activism"
Lightbulb_on
(315 posts)Next think you'll say is that there are asshole women as well...
Well, I for one won't stand here and listen to these outrageous statements.
*stomps off in a huff*
Seriously though, Men's rights, Women's rights, Left handed Ginger rights... How about we just treat each other with some fucking decency and marginalize assholes...
Most groups have legitimate issues, custody rights come to mind for men and take your pick for women.
intaglio
(8,170 posts)That there are incest advocates in the world. True, there are also (mercifully few) man hating sites. The problem is that a few of these MRAs seem to be attempting to subvert DU.
Cerridwen
(13,260 posts)guilt by association...let the nerve wars begin.
The sites linked are not "reichwing" sites; they are from a blog in which misogyny is exposed, mocked, and ridiculed.
The last time I saw an mra site linked here was in a post titled: "the last time I hit a woman". I won't now provide the link just as I did not provide the link, to DU or the original source, the last time I posted an excerpt here:
I remember saying that I did not think that was fair. My father explained that fairness is a male value which most women do not understand or appreciate.
During my apology to my mother, as my father had predicted, she demanded that I acknowledge that I had caused her to hit me, that her violence was my fault. My father had advised me not to argue that point even though, objectively speaking, it is not true.
He explained I could use logic and rationality to devise an acceptable response to her demand without having to lie to her by falsely admitting that I thought her violence was my fault. He advised me to keep my logic to myself, explaining that women do not highly value logic at the best of times and that they detest it when they are emotionally upset. (I told you that much of our discussion was not politically correct.)
This has to do with DU because of the quantity of mra talking points that are showing up on DU.
bettyellen
(47,209 posts)There has been a lot of trolls exploiting it.
Also, you can also post all sorts of nasty stuff if you're relating a "personal anecdote" such as - my wife got over her being raped easily- why do other women obsess about it?
Stuff like that is judged to be okay here. And loads of us do find it disturbing.
LiberalLoner
(9,762 posts)It is a clear message to those of us who are not just fine with rape and misogyny, that we are not welcome here.
I asked for my payments to be stopped to DU over this. I have not yet received a reply. I don't expect to, to be honest.
Helen Reddy
(998 posts)IF they ask why you want to curtail payments, please respond in accurate detail. They won't listen to women's pleas, but perhaps their own pocketbooks will cajole them into doing the correct thing.
I hadn't seen that thread before.
liberalhistorian
(20,819 posts)several of whom made many appearances on that thread and one of whom believes all child support to be "male enslavement" and other such fucking horseshit. Disgusting that they're on a progressive site claiming to be Dems. They need to just switch parties already and be done with it.
Chorophyll
(5,179 posts)And the OP did NOT link to any dingbat sites.
LiberalLoner
(9,762 posts)redqueen
(115,103 posts)Riftaxe
(2,693 posts)comment in that thread was disgusting. That kind of thinking could lead to civilized behavior!
redqueen
(115,103 posts)...
Controversy ensued after residents tore downor defaced many of the posters; localbloggers found at least a few people who, seemingly unfamiliar with the ethos of the MRM, disagreed with the community's hands-onresponse. "You don't heara lot about [men's rights] and that's the surprising part," one man told News1130. "It is very surprising that they're being ripped down. Definitely,they should go back up. You see signs up for everything around here and to select which oneswe put up and which ones we don't,it's a little bit ridiculous."
Soon, Ruth Mason-Paull,who describesherself as a "Slam Master" at Vancouver Poetry House onher Facebook page,created a Facebookevent called "Has Feminism Gone Too Far?" The community was incensed by the ignorant title and became further incredulouswhen Mason-Paull posted the namesof the only two confirmed speakers: Chris Marshall,described on the event page as a "long time father'srights activist and blogger aiming to shine light on the justice system with regardsto father's parental rights," and "John the Other," a blogger for Vancouver Men's Rights Activism,the group behind the posters.
It only takes a brief glimpse at Marshall's website to realize you're dealing with a troubled, unhinged person, regardless of what transpired between him and his ex-wife. Checkout some excerpts from what lookslike a court-ordered psychologicalassessment,which he posted infull for some reason: "Ms. Wallat (his ex-wife) had continued to work but Mr. Marshall wanted a more traditional relationship and indicated he did not want her to be in the workforce." and "Ms. Wallat became sleep-deprived and Mr. Marshall continued a lifestyle more inkeeping with a single man. He was out with his friendsfrequently and she wasconcerned with his drinking." Marshall clearly has anaxe to grind.
And here are John the Other's lovely views on rape:
"Maybe it's a mistaken accusation, she doesn't remember who she had sex with because she wasdrunk at the party or whatever. Some make accusations that have nothing to do with being raped;they're angry,or they got stood up, they wanted to have sex with a guy but he said no. The fact that our society doesn't have a balance for thisis a major problem. I'm not suggesting every womanyou meet is a loose cannon, but every woman you meet hasthe potentialto be one,because for those few who are nutty, there's no disincentive for them to go, oh, I was late for work. I know,I'lljust say I got raped."
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Riftaxe
(2,693 posts)Consider me chastised.
*PS if you cannot find the derision in this post, don't bother bugging me, you are not worth it*
Cerridwen
(13,260 posts)Unless you skimmed right past this part:
edit to add: unless my own comprehension is off and I misread your post. Wouldn't surprise me a bit.
opiate69
(10,129 posts)Either she thinks it`s an MRA apologetics site, which would be funny, or she thinks it`s an anti-MRA blog. If that`s the case then she gets to be put into the group of people who seem to realize that just having a blog and a bunch of time to write long-winded screeds is apropos of exactly nothing when it comes to whether they actually have a clue about whatever it is they`re railing against. Which would be just sad.
Cerridwen
(13,260 posts)Yeah, you and I are reading at cross purposes.
I knew what the OP said and meant. I gave you the benefit of the doubt.
When you're finished trying to discredit manboobz, you can take on the SPLC. Good luck.
opiate69
(10,129 posts)"MRA are bad!!"
"Um.. according to whom?"
"Manboobz!!"
"And he is??"
"He`s a guy with a blog!!!!!"
redqueen
(115,103 posts)Cerridwen
(13,260 posts)at your link:
I mention this because I continue to run across men, even supposedly pro-feminist men, who are seduced by MRA claims that the court system is somehow anti-male and that its easy and common for women to make evidence-free false accusations that are immediately believed and used to strip men of all custody rights of their children. Perhaps, like this letter writer, they have male friends who swear this is whats happening to them. But sad stories like the one above should serve as a reminder of the importance of rating real world evidence against your friends telling tales that are missing details and rely heavily on misogynist stereotyping to convince you. (emphasis added)
And what is the story the author wanted to highlight?
Found at this link: http://www.rawstory.com/rs/2012/11/27/when-mens-rights-narratives-kill/ - When Mens Rights Narratives Kill
RKP5637
(67,112 posts)really gives me the creeps.
hfojvt
(37,573 posts)I mean when I first read it, it seemed like manboobz was "mocking" the idea that misogyny exists, and not mocking "the expression of misogyny"
Especially when it is followed by a seemingly contradictory statement "In fact ..."
Like the statements "Liberalism, I mock it". In fact, it highlights the hateful attitudes espoused by conservatives.
That is, it seems to say "In fact, the site does not mock liberalism." even though the first statemnt said it did.
intaglio
(8,170 posts)or possibly reading
redqueen
(115,103 posts)Of course, spewing the talking points went on as per usual.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/1114553
Rails against VAWA, mouths some self centered support for reproductive rights. Everyone is fooled!
Nope! Still got his troll ass banned!
opiate69
(10,129 posts)redqueen
(115,103 posts)Try to keep up.
opiate69
(10,129 posts)But some of us won`t forget what was done. Sorry.
Response to opiate69 (Reply #31)
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Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)Lots of interesting craaaaaaaaaazy stuff was posted around March-April, wasn't it? Good times, Good times.
obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)It has happened in some of the recent rape threads.
I hope Gormy Cuss sees this and posts her SPLC Link.
Gormy Cuss
(30,884 posts)I wish to point out that this thread is about so-called men's rights groups, which are usually just anti-women groups.
It's important to keep in mind that such groups are only a subset of the Men's Movement. Other mens groups are focused on their changing roles in modern society and discussing how it affects their lives, their perceptions of self, their families and friends, etc. Many within the Men's Movement embrace feminist theory or at the very least embrace a discussion of how gains for women may have both positive and negative effects on their lives.
obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)Cerridwen
(13,260 posts)for quite a while. I thank you for taking this on.
I expect we'll both get "slaughtered".
Initech
(100,102 posts)redqueen
(115,103 posts)It's one guy's blog.
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)redqueen
(115,103 posts)Chorophyll
(5,179 posts)Egalitarian Thug
(12,448 posts)Cerridwen
(13,260 posts)SPLC is the Southern Poverty Law Center.
http://www.splcenter.org/get-informed/intelligence-report/browse-all-issues/2012/spring/a-war-on-women - Leaders Suicide Brings Attention to Mens Rights Movement
http://www.splcenter.org/get-informed/intelligence-report/browse-all-issues/2012/spring/myths-of-the-manosphere-lying-about-women - Mens Rights Movement Spreads False Claims about Women
http://www.splcenter.org/blog/2012/05/15/intelligence-report-article-provokes-outrage-among-mens-rights-activists/ - Intelligence Report Article Provokes Fury Among Mens Rights Activists
http://www.splcenter.org/get-informed/intelligence-report/browse-all-issues/2012/spring/misogyny-the-sites - Misogyny: The Sites
opiate69
(10,129 posts)It should be mentioned that the SPLC did not label MRAs as members of a hate movement; nor did our article claim that the grievances they air on their websites false rape accusations, ruinous divorce settlements and the like are all without merit.http://www.splcenter.org/blog/2012/05/15/intelligence-report-article-provokes-outrage-among-mens-rights-activists/
Cerridwen
(13,260 posts)A Voice for Mens Paul Elam tried on a collegial tone at first. The goals of SPLC and AVfM are quite similar, he averred in open letter to the SPLCs president, Richard Cohen. We both work to identify groups who seek to oppress others, and inform the public of the inequities they would perpetuate. But just days later, in a post headlined Southern Poverty Law Center Linked to Hate Activity, he changed his tune.
It should be mentioned that the SPLC did not label MRAs as members of a hate movement; nor did our article claim that the grievances they air on their websites false rape accusations, ruinous divorce settlements and the like are all without merit. But we did call out specific examples of misogyny and the threat, overt or implicit, of violence.
Now, I'm done playing along with your attempts at trying to Benghazi this discussion.
sufrommich
(22,871 posts)What a perfect description.
Cerridwen
(13,260 posts)<insert wry smile smiley here>
opiate69
(10,129 posts)with the inaccurate picture you wish to paint. Your "context" changes nothing. SpLC specifically and unequivically states that they did not claim all MRAs are hate groups. Despite how often certain people around here wish to bandy that claim about, it is demonstrably false. Reality`s a ... well it ain`t always nice.
Egalitarian Thug
(12,448 posts)Starry Messenger
(32,342 posts)redqueen
(115,103 posts)Cerridwen
(13,260 posts)you've provided:
The first time I read an mra on the "intertubes" was the late 90s. He was posting at an mra forum about custody issues and wanted to know, now that he was out of jail for "domestic violence", how he could work around the charges and still get custody of his kids. Further reading on my part and posting on his and it became obvious that he wanted to "punish the b*t*h" who was his soon-to-be-ex and the mother of his children. It was very ugly.
Then there were the mras I met in person.
redqueen
(115,103 posts)Sometimes I get interrupted before I can pick the best parts to share, and I've shared this info before, so I just post the link.
Cerridwen
(13,260 posts)Now I read it, it does read that way.
I posted the piece I posted because it reminded me of that first internet encounter.
redqueen
(115,103 posts)it really is important stuff. Very important.
I trust you're aware of PAS, if you've been dealing with these characters for a while.
Nasty business.
haikugal
(6,476 posts)could you post more here or send a pm to me please? Thanks
davidn3600
(6,342 posts)This article makes the claim that schools today favor girls.
The proposal and the research backing it say boys are at a crisis point in education, in physical and emotional health, in employment and in the lack of dads participating in their lives. Boys are losing ground in schools geared to how girls learn and too many are growing up without male mentors in either homes or classrooms. Name a daunting number higher suicide rates, how many drop out of high school or graduate from college or even take medication for attention deficit and girls fare better than boys.
It is not deliberate, but society seems to have declared a war on boys.
http://www.deseretnews.com/article/765552031/The-war-on-boys-young-men-are-facing-a-new-crisis.html?pg=all
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Cerridwen
(13,260 posts)The republicans are waging a war on women. Who is waging the war on boys? Wanna bet it's the same people?
Egalitarian Thug
(12,448 posts)Especially when the audience isn't very good at critical thinking.
gollygee
(22,336 posts)Men are not working in education enough because it's considered "women's work" and therefore boys don't have male mentors in the schools. I think the lack of men at home is caused more by the right wing radical free market and the effect that has had on poverty and crime.
obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)Just as an FYI.
TrueBlueinCO
(86 posts)Something needs to be done to improve education for boys, or there will be dire consequences.
A society full of under-educated, under-employed young men is a power keg waiting to explode.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)advocate. they have taken advantage of the opportunities provided, not sloughed off education cause it isnt manly to be academic.
it is in the parenting.
TrueBlueinCO
(86 posts)but I don't think that answer would fly if it were girls that were being failed by the education system.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)it use to be they could get out of high school and find a job that gave them a livable income. not so much today. on the other hands, it is being stressed to girls to get a degree cause there are no other options.
the schools do not fail the boys. not once have i seen where the school has been an issue with my kids education. i pay attention. up to high school, i made sure i was connected with all teachers to ensure my kids did what they were suppose. all the teachers are looking for is parental support. they so often do not get it and instead get excuses for little johnny.
the boys are entering college more than the past, just not as fast ass the girls are.
school does not fail our boys.
society does.
want to have that discussion, i am all for it.
sufrommich
(22,871 posts)are actually favoring their girls for higher education. I only have a son,I made it quite clear to him at a very early age that education does not end with high school,college is a must.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)TrueBlueinCO
(86 posts)When did boys start getting taught that being dumb is cool?
Who is teaching them this?
Why aren't girls being taught the same thing?
gollygee
(22,336 posts)But you're ignoring us.
sufrommich
(22,871 posts)teaching boys that dumb is cool?
TrueBlueinCO
(86 posts)has created a culture where many men don't see where they fit.
Why get married when you will get pummeled in divorce court as soon as your wife gets a little bored?
Why be financially responsible for your kids when the government will pay for them?
Why act like a father to your kids that you get to see every other weekend if you're lucky?
Why put in the effort to get educated when you can just fuck off all day and all will be provided anyway?
These are definitely the unintended (or maybe they were intended) consequences of the system we have built.
sufrommich
(22,871 posts)obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)and against affirmative action, as he stated downthread.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)gollygee
(22,336 posts)Had a lot of right wing talking points down, even not related to this issue.
sufrommich
(22,871 posts)this one:
> This is a right wing troll. Please read the whole sub thread.Yikes.
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> JURY RESULTS
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> A randomly-selected Jury of DU members completed their review of this alert at Mon Dec 3, 2012, 08:14 PM, and voted 2-4 to LEAVE IT ALONE.
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> Juror #1 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE and said: Doesn't look right-wing to me. Just an counterpoint, in other words, a debate.
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> Juror #2 voted to HIDE IT and said: No explanation given
> Juror #3 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE and said: I do believe this is a right-wing troll. But I also believe that his arguments are so lame as to be laughable. Knock this one down with a half-reasoned argument; no need to lock every piece of idiocy you see here. Just counter it effectively.
> Juror #4 voted to HIDE IT and said: Agree that this is a right wing troll.
> Juror #5 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE and said: He's probably a troll, but he's holding his own in the argument.
> Juror #6 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE and said: He has a right to his opinion.
>
gollygee
(22,336 posts)Being a right wing troll is reason enough to be hidden and PPR'd. He can have his opinion at FR. I don't think people understand the TOS.
Starry Messenger
(32,342 posts)sufrommich
(22,871 posts)The new,improved DU.
gollygee
(22,336 posts)Not here anymore. They're on it.
obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)I emailed a MIRTer. He was a live one. I hope that helped some.
Starry Messenger
(32,342 posts)Must have been right as we were both posting. God, that was awful.
sufrommich
(22,871 posts)jury.
Starry Messenger
(32,342 posts)I hope that's a new feature.
Starry Messenger
(32,342 posts)The War Against Boys: How Misguided Feminism Is Harming Our Young Men [Hardcover]
Christina Hoff Sommers (Author)
http://www.aei.org/scholar/christina-hoff-sommers/
"Christina Hoff Sommers, a former philosophy professor who taught ethics, is probably best known for her critique of late-twentieth-century feminism. She is also known for her extensive writings, among them Who Stole Feminism? (Touchstone Books, 1995) and The War Against Boys (Touchstone Books, 2001). Her textbook, Vice and Virtue in Everyday Life, a bestseller in college ethics, is currently in its eighth edition. She recently edited The Science on Women and Science (AEI Press, 2009) and is preparing a second edition of The War Against Boys."
It's a very anti-Dem, anti-Obama website. People who claim that feminism is the downfall of education are wingers, and I'm glad this fool was banned.
The woman who wrote this book is also the source for misinformation about sexual violence in the US. Veeerrrry interesting.
http://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/cdc-study-on-sexual-violence-in-the-us-overstates-the-problem/2012/01/25/gIQAHRKPWQ_story.html
"How the CDC is overstating sexual violence in the U.S."
"The agencys figures are wildly at odds with official crime statistics. The FBI found that 84,767 rapes were reported to law enforcement authorities in 2010. The Bureau of Justice Statistics National Crime Victimization Survey, the gold standard in crime research, reports 188,380 rapes and sexual assaults on females and males in 2010. Granted, not all assaults are reported to authorities. But where did the CDC find 13.7 million victims of sexual crimes that the professional criminologists had overlooked?
It found them by defining sexual violence in impossibly elastic ways and then letting the surveyors, rather than subjects, determine what counted as an assault. Consider: In a telephone survey with a 30 percent response rate, interviewers did not ask participants whether they had been raped. Instead of such straightforward questions, the CDC researchers described a series of sexual encounters and then they determined whether the responses indicated sexual violation. A sample of 9,086 women was asked, for example, When you were drunk, high, drugged, or passed out and unable to consent, how many people ever had vaginal sex with you? A majority of the 1.3 million women (61.5 percent) the CDC projected as rape victims in 2010 experienced this sort of alcohol or drug facilitated penetration.
What does that mean? If a woman was unconscious or severely incapacitated, everyone would call it rape. But what about sex while inebriated? Few people would say that intoxicated sex alone constitutes rape indeed, a nontrivial percentage of all customary sexual intercourse, including marital intercourse, probably falls under that definition (and is therefore criminal according to the CDC)."
Looks like her fan club decided DU would be a cool place to troll.
davidn3600
(6,342 posts)Something is wrong with the boys in this country. And it's not getting any attention. The DOE statistics show there is a problem.
The test scores for boys are going down. Their suicide rates and rates of depression is going up. Less and less boys are going to college. Less are learning new skills. Income for young males are declining, and unemployment is rising for that age group. They've lost motivation. They are developing a social anxiety. Many are sitting around not knowing where to go in life and become withdrawn.
Whether it is the schools, teachers, parents, curriculum, the economy, the media...I don't know. But the fact is that the statistics don't lie. The trends have been continuing for over 2 decades. It's not about being right or left wing. Something is wrong and society is right now ignoring it because ALL the attention has been on girls for the last 40 years.
It's starting to look like the Japanese youth in the 1990s and early 2000s. This was called "the lost generation" in that country and they are still struggling because of it. We also see it in parts of Europe especially Italy where an increasing number of adult males are sticking with their parents into their 30s and even 40s, delaying their careers, marriage, and fatherhood.
Starry Messenger
(32,342 posts)It's SES of family.
http://www.schoolsmatter.info/2008/05/more-debunking-of-boys-crisis.html
The American Association of University Women, whose 1992 report on how girls are shortchanged in the classroom caused a national debate over gender equity, has turned its attention to debunking the idea of a boys crisis.
Girls gains have not come at boys expense, says a new report by the group, to be released on Tuesday in Washington.
Echoing research released two years ago by the American Council on Education and other groups, the report says that while girls have for years graduated from high school and college at a higher rate than boys, the largest disparities in educational achievement are not between boys and girls, but between those of different races, ethnicities and income levels.
In examining a range of standardized test scores, the report finds some intriguing nuggets about the interplay of family income, race, ethnicity and academic performance. For example, it finds that while boys generally outperform girls on both the math and verbal parts of the SAT, the male advantage on the verbal test is consistent only among low-income students, and that among black students, there was no consistent advantage by sex from 1994 to 2004.
<snip>
davidn3600
(6,342 posts)I explained it in detail here:
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=1924448
Starry Messenger
(32,342 posts)Science has differing views. SES is accountable for the differing results. This is known. Globally.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)each child has their unique way and though boy tend toward one, it is not exclusive. teachers get this. i had my oldest sons kindergarten give me a boy on learning and different brain behaviors cause she immediately recognized an issue. SHE bought the book for me with HER money, for my son, a boy. for 6 yrs, kindergarten thru 5th grade i addressed the issues with teachers prior to son starting the year. for 6 yrs teachers did EVERYTHING to work wit son to his best advantage. fro 6 years working together we were able to provide tools for my son, to be able to make it in his world and succeed academically.
my niece on the other hand learns the way boys are "suppose" to learn.
about damn time we get out of stereotypes and do our damn job giving time, effort and work to our children, for their success.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)they really stupid men movies you guys just love.
my kids were not allow to watch ANY of the shows that promoted dumb. period. end of story and not an option.
the tshirts in the store. almost all tshirts were about boys being lazy and dumb. not allowed to buy a one.
books at home from day one. every night until they could read. and then every night for a half hour until this day.
four different magazine subscriptions sit on dining room table for kids to read
dinner conversation every night. has to be stimulating and interesting.
who is dumbing down our kids? the parents that are not doing their job and society.
and the teachers are BEGGING for fuckin help with the kids and support from parents.
it is ridiculous to suggest there is some conspiracy with the feminist teacher to dumb down our boys. that ONLY makes there days all that much harder when a kid does not put in effort. how ridiculous is that thought.
sufrommich
(22,871 posts)TrueBlueinCO
(86 posts)is run by women were heavily influenced by feminist thought while getting their degrees, then I would like to talk to you about buying a bridge in New York.
gollygee
(22,336 posts)And pays only a supplemental income, and in the patriarchy, women are very often only paid supplemental incomes.
And the pay keeps going down as public schools are privatized and charter schools reduce salaries even more.
TrueBlueinCO
(86 posts)gollygee
(22,336 posts)Pay teachers more, encourage men to take education too and don't act like men should all be engineers and women should be the teachers, and there will be more male teachers to be mentors to the boys.
And then the economic policy of the past 30 or so years has been creating poverty and poverty-related crime and breaking up families. Fix that too so kids are more likely to be in two-parent homes.
davidn3600
(6,342 posts)The teaching methods in schools today are geared more towards girls. Boys tend to be spatial and kinesthetic learners. Girls tend to be auditory learners. That's why girls tend to take better notes in a lecture-style of teaching. In lectures, boys tend to struggle with this, get bored quickly, and start to zone out. This type of instruction is incredibly difficult to a student with a learning disability or has attention-deficit disorder. 70% of special ed and learning disabled students today are male. Also, the content favors girls. The literature in English classes for example are stories that girls find more interesting than boys. When boys are presented with stories that are more geared towards their interests, their reading comprehension scores increase.
Budget cuts also hurt boys more than girls. When districts cut the school budget, the first things that are usually cut are things that benefit boys (music and physical education specifically). And when districts get more money, everyone wants raises for teachers and new textbooks. They don't replace the money where it was cut.
A lot of people think sports in schools should not be a focus and money should be spent elsewhere. But the statistics show that boys that are active in sports or do music have higher grades and higher self-esteem. Coaches also serve as strong mentors.
Another problem is girls develop literacy skills earlier than boys. And schools today are teaching kids literature and writing at younger and younger levels than before. Girls are excelling with this. Boys are having trouble because they are a few years behind in that mental development. So while girls are on pace, the boys are playing catch-up all throughout elementary school. If the boy is not exceptionally smart, this can haunt him in middle and then high school. And they may never catch up.
The problem with feminism is they are ignoring the problem and twisting it. They claim that girls are now doing better. And that's why it only looks like boys are doing worse. Unfortunately, studies show the feminists are wrong. Yes, no question girls are doing much better in schools. But boys are doing worse and worse.
There needs to be far more emphasis and more resources spent on boys especially with reading and writing in the elementary grade levels. And don't push boys through the system. They need to learn the skills so they catch up to girls by the 4th and 5th grade. But we probably wont see any of this happen. Because it is politically incorrect to help boys over girls.
tama
(9,137 posts)Here in Finland people and educators are generally well aware of those issues. Also, at certain stage girls develop much faster than boys.
What sounds weird to me is what you claim about feminism. At least hear feminists generally don't deny those well studied issues.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)lower grades. school administrations recognize the shortage and are actively trying to get men into the position. MRAs position on it is pay the men more.
ya, that is right.
pay the men more.
you know, cause it seems it has to be the mans right to be paid more. and btw, even in teaching, which is mostly female, the men are paid more from the start. but, the suggestion to get more men in is pay them even more.
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)laid at the feet of men.
Many more women will turn down a man who does not earn enough money than the reverse and you probably know this.
It pressures men to go for the money. To assume that men do not want to teach is to fall prey to negative stereotypes about men, you know. That they do not care, that they are selfish, etc. and to give credence to all the GOOD things about women -they are nurturing and selfless.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)grades.
maybe it is that they have a women have a higher expectation. i wont argue that. and maybe it is equal that a man feels he is worth more, with education and male normally get, not accepting less. that is NOT a bad thing. in my view, that is a good thing. but... it is a reality. dont add the assumptions and emotions to this.
many women will not turn down a man that earns teacher pay, also.
and for them not to do it because it is not a masculine job would be the work of a patriarchy. and cheers to the man that says.... fuck that. i like teaching and works for me.
my youngest would do well in teaching and coaching. it is perfect for him. he has found no career that sit well with who he is. at dinner the other night he had mentioned coaching and i thought.... perfect. can be a lifetime of happy for him. we talked teaching and coaching kids. not a fortune, but livable, and happy. that works.
yesterday he expanded on the idea. good for him
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)Part of the problem in America is that teachers are not given enough respect and especially elementary school teachers are not valued. It is not considered important and has been considered "nanny work" so it goes to woman and YES, that is sexist AND anti-education.
Here in Japan, where teachers are called "Sensei" -the same thing you call a Doctor, there are at least half men at the Elementary school level.
sufrommich
(22,871 posts)if it's an intentional manipulation. You're also perilously close to painting a woman's college education as merely feminist propaganda.Do you believe your child's education is propaganda?
TrueBlueinCO
(86 posts)have resulted in the conditions that are failing boys in our education system.
sufrommich
(22,871 posts)obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)He admitted to me he advocates some MRA stances. I guess this is one, because this is one of MRA big things.
sufrommich
(22,871 posts)are the reason boys are lagging at school. NO MRAs at DU though,no sir.
boston bean
(36,223 posts)sufrommich
(22,871 posts)MadrasT
(7,237 posts)I think they are getting wise to our evil planz for world dominashun.
obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)sufrommich
(22,871 posts)(I've said too much)
tama
(9,137 posts)Just hope that it means society based on positive feminine values - which all sexes can support and share - instead of women imitating worst aspects of patriarchal hierarchy.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)on a progressive board.
are feminist, feminazi's? or is that a whole different group of feminists
TrueBlueinCO
(86 posts)but I certainly don't consider myself to be a feminist.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)certainly be anti feminist.
TrueBlueinCO
(86 posts)just a consequence of where it has brought us.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)follow the patriarchal role that is demanded of them. that means at a young age they can be very articulate and not called names yet embraced. and they can excel in the reading comprehension courses, and english and history and be rewarded instead of told they must excel at math, not english.
all thru the system my kids were able to be who they were and define who their masculinity instead of allow patriarchy do it for them. and they have done a damn fine job. so whatever the reason, i am all for it.
RedCappedBandit
(5,514 posts)We're waiting.
gollygee
(22,336 posts)Women are getting together and plotting ways to make boys dumber?
Women become teachers mainly because it is considered a woman's job and it's an easy job to have in the patriarchy. It doesn't pay that well, but works as a supplemental income. Women are generally primary caregivers for children, and teachers obviously work school schedules, so the women are around when the kids are off school.
They aren't doing it because they are plotting against boys. They're doing it because it makes sense in the patriarchal society we live in. I'd love to see more men teachers and more women engineers. Let's work on that, eh?
DURHAM D
(32,611 posts)boston bean
(36,223 posts)intaglio
(8,170 posts)Or are you just mouthing propaganda that you saw on other sites?
If so provide links to those sites
obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)boston bean
(36,223 posts)obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)As per your post dpwnthread when you said you support some points MRA groups advocate for?
Just so other posters know, TBIC did state that further downthread.
Nye Bevan
(25,406 posts)I'm really, really shocked.
sufrommich
(22,871 posts)obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)Nye Bevan
(25,406 posts)obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)Nye Bevan
(25,406 posts)obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)intaglio
(8,170 posts)FSTDT which, although it does not have a specific section devoted to MRAs does carry plenty of MRA posts from sites like "Stormfront" and the laughable "Free Republic". If you bother trying to look you will find other examples of single person blogs attempting to confront the sick minds that are fed by Mens Rights Activism.
Man Boobz is just one active blog attempting to shine a light under the stone where MRAs live
intaglio
(8,170 posts)Ok ...
And you are a monarchist, at least whilst the majority of supports the monarchy ...
Why are you using the screen name of one of the greatest socialist politicians the UK has ever seen?
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)TrueBlueinCO
(86 posts)sufrommich
(22,871 posts)At least if you're a white heterosexual man.As a woman, I started getting my rights in 1920 and it's been a slow crawl to equality since then.If you're a black person, you're rights were legalized in 1964 and are still being realized (and threatened).If you're a gay person, your rights are still on hold and being held hostage by the religious right.
TrueBlueinCO
(86 posts)and need an advocacy group to support them?
obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)TrueBlueinCO
(86 posts)but I do think that there are areas where there is a lot of room for improvement in the way men are treated by society.
Family Law is the most glaring example.
I don't think that it is a bad thing to have activist groups working to improve men's rights where it is needed.
obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)Because, as you know from this thread, SPLC has declared these group hate groups.
Very interesting.
Thank you for being so honest!
68. I'm sure that I don't agree with every position of every men's rights group,
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but I do think that there are areas where there is a lot of room for improvement in the way men are treated by society.
Family Law is the most glaring example.
I don't think that it is a bad thing to have activist groups working to improve men's rights where it is needed.
TrueBlueinCO
(86 posts)And if so, what is so hateful about advocating for men?
obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)You answered me.
Again, thank you for your honesty in declaring your agreement with some points of MRA Groups. Most on here that agree with such groups won't publicly admit it.
TrueBlueinCO
(86 posts)Is every group that advocates for men an MRA?
How can tell which groups that advocate for men are ok and which are hate groups?
obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)I didn't trick you in any way or anything. I don't continue discussions with folks who keep moving the goalposts.
But, I am truly sincere about thanking you for being honest in your initial reply to my question.
TrueBlueinCO
(86 posts)I do see issues in the world where men are treated unfairly, such as the treatment of men in family court and the how the education system is failing boys, and some of these groups appear to touch on them.
I think that it is a good thing that there are groups bringing these issues up for discussion and are searching for ways to fix them.
LiberalLoner
(9,762 posts)TrueBlueinCO
(86 posts)I think that there are reasoned and reasonable arguments against affirmative action that are not hateful.
LiberalLoner
(9,762 posts)Your position better, thank you for being honest about it.
TrueBlueinCO
(86 posts)LiberalLoner
(9,762 posts)obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)What other pro white groups are there?
TrueBlueinCO
(86 posts)but I would like to know, is any group that advocates for white people a hate group by default? If so, why?
obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)And, how can a pro white power group NOT be a hate group? Whites are the race at the top of the power pyramid in the US. YOU tell ME what they need to advocate for?
I am shocked, absolutely shocked you aren't for affirmative action. MANY US universities had quotas for Jewish students well into the 50s and 60s.
TrueBlueinCO
(86 posts)because I believe in the meritocracy.
I think that the best students, regardless of race, should be given the spots in the universities.
Is that hateful?
obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)Or democratic/Democratic. Or fair. It rewards the 1%.
Nice going!
TrueBlueinCO
(86 posts)but I am a Democrat, even if I don't agree with the party stance on affirmative action.
obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)Response to obamanut2012 (Reply #114)
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obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)omfg
TrueBlueinCO
123. I don't think that being pro white necessarily makes a hate group
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anymore than the NAACP, or la Raza. They advocate for their race, seems fine to me.
I join groups that advocate for my people (Jewish), I don't see anything hateful about it.
TrueBlueinCO
(86 posts)I do think that white people have just as much right to an advocacy group as any other race.
I don't really appreciate when I am told that my support for fellow Jews and Israel is tantamount to being in a hate group, and I suspect that there are white people who feel the same way.
obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)Liberal said white power, and you didn't disagree with her.
So, what is pro white/anti affirmative action groups, if not white power/empowerment groups? Hmmm.....? Name one.
And, oh, I know there are white folks who feel the same way. I don't associate with them.
lolololololol I said nothing against Israel, Jews, or anything else. Nice strawmountain.
TrueBlueinCO
(86 posts)I don't support white power groups.
I don't support black power groups.
I don't support latino power groups.
I don't support any "power group".
I do think everyone is entitled to have an advocacy group, including *gasp* white men, without being labeled a racist or hateful or whatever.
obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)And think white empowerment groups are the same as the NAACP. Oh, and think feminists are failing boys in school, and support some MRA group stances.
Gotcha!
So funny!
obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)opiate69
(10,129 posts)cali
(114,904 posts)obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)TrueBlueinCO
(86 posts)Men wanting to be treated equally. Ridiculous.
gollygee
(22,336 posts)TrueBlueinCO
(86 posts)Last edited Mon Dec 3, 2012, 09:14 PM - Edit history (1)
Well, I have a regular poker group. Does that count?
I forgot that I give to some Jewish groups. But I'm not "in" them.
gollygee
(22,336 posts)Not unless you wear white hoods at it.
obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)TrueBlueinCO
(86 posts)You keep trying to attribute something along those lines to me, but it simply is not the case.
obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)Bazinga!
Starry Messenger
(32,342 posts)boston bean
(36,223 posts)But I wish the ppr mentioned mra talking points or anti feminist.
Can't get everything you wish for though. Glad he's gone.
Earth_First
(14,910 posts)If it is another one of those "minority of men" issues, how specifically does this discussion pertian to DU?
obamanut2012
(26,137 posts)MRA points are often posted here, and not just by 75-post newbies/
intaglio
(8,170 posts)A group of haters that espouses ideas and acts that are inimical to the stated aims of DU and other liberal sites.
A group that has its own apologists on DU ...
cecilfirefox
(784 posts)intaglio
(8,170 posts)Go and find about about Mens Rights Activism. Use a search engine, Bing, Google or whatever.
Wonder why a book by an advocate for incest was recommended as a good read by a long standing member of DU.
Egalitarian Thug
(12,448 posts)haikugal
(6,476 posts)AND the discussion which I've just begun to read. I've noticed a lot of this kind of talk showing up on this site and others lately. There appears to be a push against women. Knowing the enemy is important and information is power, so being able to brush up on what's happening on the web and where it's coming from means a lot to me.
You've done us all a service with this. Please continue and don't be discouraged!
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)that is what we recognize. and the net allows it to grow, get powerful and effective.
littlemissmartypants
(22,804 posts)and helping me understand its inhabitants. The post reminded me of something I read somewhere when I was researching anger. " Anger is fear translated." These four words alone have allowed me to shift my thinking about those with angry souls and see them for what most of them are: afraid. It also helped me to assess and analyze my own angry moments and to face my fears. Thank you for speaking your mind while leading us to this discussion. LMSP
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)Which, upon the recent study showing the growing body dysmorphia growing among boys, took it upon itself to spread hate and anger at the thought there might be some people also concerned about boys. It is an absolutely pointless and hateful screed and exists only to whip up undeserved anger.
IMO, some Radfem sites should be considered hate sites and I haven't even shown the worst ones which are violently anti-transgender in some cases.
intaglio
(8,170 posts)I'm actually surprised that no-one has cited the SCUM manifesto as a reason for MRAs. The fact that equivalent groups exist at both extremes does not excuse the extremists.