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ismnotwasm

(42,652 posts)
Thu Sep 12, 2024, 12:32 PM Sep 2024

Taylor Swift's "Childless Cat Lady" endorsement of Kamala Harris exposes what MAGA men fear most

This is a pretty good article. It struck me, because I remember ten years ago, twenty, thirty. I remember ten years ago here on DU, when we were infested with “mens rights activists” —the precursor to the likes of Andrew Tate or Charlie Kirk or JD Vance.

I’ve been a feminist for many, many years and to see articles like this, basically saying “fuck the male gaze” is amazing. You know, we all walk in beauty. Some of it is of the farm. Some of it is of the military. Some of it is of the sciences. Some of it is youth or mothers or aging. We are reaching toward presidency, yet again. It looks like we will make it. Women are everywhere. As they should be. A long time coming. Such a long time. Hell no, we are not going back.

There's a flailing quality to this behavior of men lashing out because they can't force women to care what they think. Swift will almost surely wrinkle her nose and say, "ew," of course. But so will most other women.

It wasn't always this way. Even those a mere decade older than Swift can remember how much it was drilled into female heads that we should care for nothing more than male opinion, often with little discernment over what man was offering the opinion. If a man, any man, deigned to render judgment on your looks, your behavior, your waist size, your lifestyle, or the tenor of your voice, there was an expectation that you, as a woman, were to take his opinion seriously. Women's magazines were an endless stream of articles about what men supposedly "liked" and strategies to mold yourself into that form. Men in prestigious publications and TV programs were empowered to offer their behavioral prescriptions for all womankind, and women were expected to apologize for their failure to please the male gaze.

The moment I could feel that tide shifting was probably the Great Vocal Fry Wars of 2013. It started with the standard practice of men opining in public that women, as a group, are Doing It Wrong and must change immediately. Vocal fry is a normal vocal affectation — used by both men and women — where you drop your voice for emphasis. (NPR's Ira Glass does it a lot.) In the 90s, women were castigated for pitching voices "too" high for emphasis. In the 2000s, however, many women went low, instead. Men got mad about that, too. They yelled on social media. They wrote angry emails. They even did podcasts calling women who used low registers for emphasis "repulsive."

Instead of simply bowing their heads and begging for forgiveness, young women revolted. They pointed out, correctly, that they were previously forbidden from going high and now they aren't allowed to go low. They noted that there is no way a woman can talk that won't draw male ire. They concluded that these men don't want women talking at all. And a mass consensus among women began to grow: No one should care what men think. Talk how you like, and stop worrying about the opinions of random men.

https://www.salon.com/2024/09/12/taylor-swifts-childless-cat-lady-endorsement-of-kamala-harris-exposes-what-maga-men-fear-most/
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Taylor Swift's "Childless Cat Lady" endorsement of Kamala Harris exposes what MAGA men fear most (Original Post) ismnotwasm Sep 2024 OP
Absolutely! SheltieLover Sep 2024 #1
As your average, opinionated, male product of the 60s and 70s, grumpyduck Sep 2024 #2
LOL. Ah, yes, the time of the DU "men's right infiltrators and yes a few (no longer here), were like Andrew Tate)... hlthe2b Sep 2024 #3
K&R brer cat Sep 2024 #4
Thank you for posting! spooky3 Sep 2024 #5
What they fear BaronChocula Sep 2024 #6
spot on OldSWODog Sep 2024 #7
The Patriarchy must die. OMGWTF Sep 2024 #8
Great article senseandsensibility Sep 2024 #9
Carly Simon sang about this in the 70's. hoosierspud Sep 2024 #10
Some men. Not all.Not by a long shot. applegrove Sep 2024 #11
I went there on facebook. kwolf68 Sep 2024 #12
Thank you for posting this excellent article. This, and the speech by niyad Sep 2024 #13

grumpyduck

(6,668 posts)
2. As your average, opinionated, male product of the 60s and 70s,
Thu Sep 12, 2024, 12:48 PM
Sep 2024

I agree 1,000,000%. Enough of that bullshit.

And if magats can't handle it, fuck 'em. Yeah, they're afraid.

hlthe2b

(110,815 posts)
3. LOL. Ah, yes, the time of the DU "men's right infiltrators and yes a few (no longer here), were like Andrew Tate)...
Thu Sep 12, 2024, 12:51 PM
Sep 2024

Glad to have that period pass and some sanity return...

This is a well-written piece.

As one only somewhat recently acquainted with Swift's music, I have long admired her willingness to be herself and to speak out. Kudos, Ms. Swift.

spooky3

(37,678 posts)
5. Thank you for posting!
Thu Sep 12, 2024, 02:06 PM
Sep 2024

Last edited Thu Sep 12, 2024, 07:34 PM - Edit history (1)

They are terrified of women’s power and wealth, which enables women not to have to settle for poor treatment from men. They haven’t yet learned that they must change their behavior around women, just as they do around more powerful men. They don’t like it that their entitlement is shattered.

OldSWODog

(109 posts)
7. spot on
Thu Sep 12, 2024, 02:34 PM
Sep 2024

A good short read; Isnotwasm, thanks for the link (bookmarked for my partner of 47 years)...don't know much about TS (prefer instrumental music) but I understand she's quite popular and well regarded...any bit helps. Cheers, OSD (card carrying Childless Cat Dude)

OMGWTF

(4,860 posts)
8. The Patriarchy must die.
Thu Sep 12, 2024, 02:44 PM
Sep 2024

I like the South Korean "4-B" movement response to their very Patriarchal society where young women are saying -- no dating, no sex, no marriage, no children.

Frankly, men should be thankful women only want equality and not payback.

senseandsensibility

(23,034 posts)
9. Great article
Thu Sep 12, 2024, 02:48 PM
Sep 2024

I'm not familiar with this author but will seek out more of her writing. I think men could benefit from reading this, but many women as well. This pressure on women is so invasive that even many women are not aware of it.

hoosierspud

(182 posts)
10. Carly Simon sang about this in the 70's.
Thu Sep 12, 2024, 03:27 PM
Sep 2024

We're finally trying to dump it 50 years later.

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kwolf68

(8,119 posts)
12. I went there on facebook.
Fri Sep 13, 2024, 01:32 AM
Sep 2024

An Aunt bashed Swift. I almost never respond, but Im drinking and did so. This was my response. She had a meme of "i dont want Swift to be a role model" so I responded:

"Simply because she endorsed the opponent of the guy you like, who lied (shocker) about her supporting him with AI? When Taylor Swift exploits slave labor in the far east so she can profit and externalize factors of production let me know. When she takes away the rights of people to live their own lives as they see fit let me know. When her relatives get millions of dollars from Saudia Arabia in a scam deal, let me know. Otherwise, she has no role in the destruction of this planet and the exploitation of its people, she sings songs and the ire about her is misplaced grievance.

Swift is merely a singer. That's all she is. If your guy can't appeal to at least a few of her zillion fans then maybe he's doing it wrong. Just saying. I see no Republican people complaining about Kid Rock or Lee Greenwood singing and supporting Republican politicians. Other than the fact they can barely fill a phone booth compared to Swift."

niyad

(125,576 posts)
13. Thank you for posting this excellent article. This, and the speech by
Fri Sep 13, 2024, 01:57 AM
Sep 2024

America Ferrera in "Barbie" should be run together everywhere.

I was one of the oddballs. .I figured out in high school. wayyyyyyy back in the dark ages, that the whole"male gaze" thing was complete BS. I was a radical feminist then (actually, I became a feminist at about age 5, in the 50's), and still am.

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