How are folks doing traveling the grief cycle?

[NewHendoLib]

I've thankfully been busy - new grandchild and lots of babysitting, super cold weather, my birthday, my wife's birthday.

But that now all ends - and it will be about garden planning and book writing, but I will have more time to let my brain leak into politics.

Like many of us I was immediately into shock and denial. EarlG and elad's new DU forum, The Way Forward, are helping me to touch into choice 6 - working through - and that is where I currently find myself.. I will not be able to achieve choice 7 for a long time - perhaps not until "he" is done with his carnage and we can look forward to a Dem president.

These are not straight lines, not step wise - we can bounce around forward and backward. But I can say that I zipped around choices 1, 2, 3 and 4.

This is a cycle I found that adds a few steps to the typical 5 step Kugler Ross. I think we need them.

Just curious how you are doing.

24 votes, 3 passes | Time left: Unlimited
	1. shock and denial
	0 (0%)
	2. pain and guilt
	0 (0%)
	3. anger and bargaining
	3 (13%)
	4. depression
	9 (38%)
	5. turning upward out of the abyss
	4 (17%)
	6. working through, reconstruction
	6 (25%)
	7. acceptance and hope
	2 (8%)
	3 DU members did not wish to select any of the options provided.
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[Blue_Tires]

1. Which number is

"I want half of Americans blasted into the sun for being so goddamn ignorant and racist?"

[NewHendoLib]

2. yup. understand your suggestion - I feel it as well.

[hlthe2b]

4. Yeah... No bargaining here, just sheer rage (targeted at America's morons)

[orangecrush]

15. My number.

Thanks.

[stillcool]

3. my husband died in April...

he didn't have to see this crap. I feel like I've lost my past, and any thought of a future. The perfect present is where I'm at.

[NewHendoLib]

6. I am so sorry for your loss.

[stillcool]

19. thank you.

[2naSalit]

5. Pissed...

Disgusted and channeling my anger toward the goal of relocating, I'm rather motivated right now. Packing is moving right along.

[H2O Man]

7. "Other."

I have children and grandchildren, and am concerned about their well-being and futures. Some live in the US and others in Europe. But very little of current events has surprised me ...... except I did hope and expect VP Harris to win in November. And while I still have some questions about the election's outcome, I'm prepared to oppose the felon and his cult, and to promote Democratic Party values.

[NewHendoLib]

8. wise response...as always.

[H2O Man]

14. Thank you.

I was just talking with some old co-workers/ friends from the mental health clinic, and a few others from other county departments. Most of us are retired now. We were all active in the union, as we are in a very, very conservative county ..... the board of supervisors was a republican club. ( I remember the first day of contract negotiations when I was VP. A cranky old hardware store owner/ town supervisor looked at me and sneared, "You social workers are a dime a dozen." I knew that he and my father had argued since they were kids, for my father warned me I would never encounter such a skinflint as this dehydrated miser. So I looked him in his eyes and said, "That's just the good ones. It's the bad ones that are really expensive.&quot

Any how, if my friends were DUers, each of the selections in the OP would have at least one more vote!

[hlthe2b]

18. Glad to have you setting an example...

[hatrack]

9. Did I miss the "Fulminating Rage" category?

Just asking . . .

[NewHendoLib]

11. So many are asking me to make up a revised published cycle!

Which I decided not to do - but yeah, I can be in that box with you. I may not leave it for 4 years. But I am working hard to separate it from living my life, with so much going on.

[Solly Mack]

10. Sardonic. My resting state.

[Silent Type]

12. Acceptance and hope. I learned my lesson on 2004 when Kerry lost. I was in a miserable funk

well into 2005. Mad, depressed, irritable, and worse.

I’m not letting that MFer trump do that to me. Although, he’s already ticking me off.

[Basso8vb]

13. I'm angry, not bargaining whatsoever.

Ready to fight.

I have nothing to lose.

[LeftInTX]

16. Feel like I've been hit my a tsunami.

I didn't see that in the options.

His EO are much worse than 2017. I'm also worn out for working for eight years on this!

[stollen]

17. I'm turning upward out of the abyss

In other words, I'm flying to another country for as long as possible.

[alarimer]

20. I am really, really pissed off all the time

Not sure about the bargaining part, but I want these assholes to suffer.

[Skittles]

21. I do not do the grief cycle

I was angry then, I am angry now

seeing Trump SHIT all over my beloved country while assholes cheer him on is beyond sickening

[ananda]

22. Total escapism here.

I just don't want to think about it all the time.