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Amaryllis

(10,771 posts)
Tue Sep 16, 2025, 11:02 AM Sep 16

"Why Trump needs you to hate him" by a Ukraniann writer who understands hate very well. Very timely.

https://viktorkravchuk.substack.com/p/why-trump-needs-you-to-hate-him

War, Love, and Survival in Ukraine 🇺🇦
Why Trump needs you to hate him
We must stop giving him exactly what he wants
Viktor Kravchuk
Mar 06, 2025

I KNOW WHAT IT MEANS TO LIVE IN A DIVIDED WORLD. I know the consequences when a leader thrives not by building, but by tearing apart. I have watched a war unfold where an aggressor sought to crush a nation and, instead, made it stronger. I have seen a people who once disagreed on so much come together. Not because they wanted war, but because they refused to be erased.

And now, as I watch what is happening in the United States, in Canada, in Europe, I see a different kind of war taking place.

Not a war of bombs and bullets, but a war of hatred.

And I see one man at the center of it all: Donald Trump.

Some still think Trump is reckless, that he says outrageous things simply because he cannot help himself, or because “he’s too straightforward”. That when he suggests annexing Canada as the 51st state, he is just “playing to the crowd.” That when he calls European allies freeloaders, he is just “being impulsive.” That when he pushes Mexico, mocks NATO, and threatens everything that binds the West together, he is simply “ignorant of diplomacy.”

But this is not ignorance. This is not impulse.

This is strategy.

And it is the same kind of strategy that Putin used against Ukraine, but only inverted.

Putin thought he could break Ukraine by force. Instead, he created a Ukraine more united than ever. Before 2014, before Crimea, before the full-scale invasion, Ukrainian identity was still forming. Russian aggression erased all doubts. It turned cultural differences into shared determination. It turned regional disputes into a national cause.

It turned an independent country into an unbreakable force.

And now Trump is using the opposite strategy to achieve the same outcome, but for his own benefit.

Trump does not care about governing. He does not care about national strength. He does not even care about winning in the way that most politicians do. What he cares about is control through division.

Because a fractured society is easier to manipulate.

He knows exactly what he is doing when he proposes absurdities like taking over Greenland. He knows it will never happen. He knows it makes no sense. But he also knows that his base of supporters will not abandon him because of it.

He understands something fundamental about hate and polarization:

His supporters will never leave him because of what he says. But his opponents will hate him more with every word.

And that is his real game.

For Trump, every outrage, every scandal, every provocation is a win. Not because it strengthens him politically, but because it deepens the cracks in society. It makes Americans hate each other more. It makes Europeans look at each other with suspicion.

It turns allies into rivals, neighbors into enemies.

And when a society reaches the point where everyone is too angry to listen, too bitter to find common ground, too exhausted to seek unity, what happens?

No one knows. But it is never something good.
Why do people hate people?

I am writing this as someone who has every reason to hate. I live in a country that has been bombed, invaded, and brutalized by an empire built on lies. And yet, I have seen how hatred alone cannot be our guiding force.

It is what our enemies want.

Trump is not powerful because he is wise or competent or even particularly skilled. He is powerful because he has mastered the ability to make people hate him just enough to keep him relevant.

And that is what must stop.

Hating him plays into his hands. It makes him the center of attention, which is the only thing he truly values. It makes him the focal point of every conversation, every election, every crisis.

If we truly want to defeat Trumpism, if we really want to stop this cycle of division, then we must take away his greatest weapon: our hate.
Americans Support Ukraine "As Long As It Takes" | Chicago Council on Global Affairs

We must reject his game. We must refuse to let his words dictate our emotions. We must stand not just against him, but against the trap he has set for the entire world.

Because as long as we hate him, he wins.

As Ukrainians, we understand solidarity in a way many never will. We know what it means to stand together in the face of destruction. We know that strength is found not in division, but in unity.

And we know that if we want to fight a tyrant, we must refuse to play by his rules.
In Battered Ukraine, Spirit Of Defiance Lives On In Maidan Square : Parallels : NPR

To our friends in America, in Canada, in Europe: Do not let Trump dictate your hatred. Do not let him pull you into his cycle of manipulation and division.

Speak against him. Vote against him. Resist him.

But do not let him own your emotions.

Because in a world where hate dictates history, only the worst men rise to power.

And that is something none of us can afford.

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"Why Trump needs you to hate him" by a Ukraniann writer who understands hate very well. Very timely. (Original Post) Amaryllis Sep 16 OP
Can I still hate Stephen Miller, at least? n/t Whiskeytide Sep 16 #1
Dont know. That is a hard one. The idea is that we don't let others control our emotions...because they win if we do. Amaryllis Sep 16 #2
Yeah. I do get that. I was just ... Whiskeytide Sep 16 #8
Ending scene from "The Day of the Dove" Uncle Joe Sep 16 #23
I get what he's saying, and intellectually, slightlv Sep 16 #18
I don't believe you do turn your head or your back. The author says" Speak against him. Vote against him. Resist him. Amaryllis Sep 16 #29
Please feel free. May I join you? Ocelot II Sep 16 #4
Of course. We can start and anti-fan club! n/t Whiskeytide Sep 16 #9
Hate all you want but hate is toxic to you and the target feels nothing from it. Bernardo de La Paz Sep 16 #5
Yes but the hatred is the catalyst for the steely cold determination. Irish_Dem Sep 16 #11
Briefly. Once that has happened, ditch the hate. Bernardo de La Paz Sep 16 #15
Yes. Use it for courage and cold determination. Irish_Dem Sep 16 #20
Maybe hate him and his Nazi-like ideas, but pity him and laugh at him, too. thought crime Sep 16 #25
Trump doesn't live in my head and he's not worth my hate. Ocelot II Sep 16 #3
Corrosive is a very good word for this. Hate eats from the inside. Amaryllis Sep 16 #6
I get this. It's the heart of the civil rights movement. 1WorldHope Sep 16 #7
As the author says: Speak against him. Vote against him. Resist him. But do not let him own your emotions. Amaryllis Sep 16 #10
Excellent essay, spot on. WestMichRad Sep 16 #12
Trump likes professional wrestling. no_hypocrisy Sep 16 #13
When Trump "jumps the shark" 2na fisherman Sep 16 #21
REC a million times Wild blueberry Sep 16 #14
Bravo. K&R x1000000000 c-rational Sep 16 #16
I don't agree. Trump is reckless; he shoots from the hip; and he doesn't know what he is doing. Aristus Sep 16 #17
k and r BoRaGard Sep 16 #19
I think it's possible to hate everything about the person... ananda Sep 16 #22
Jesse Welles "commentary" thought crime Sep 16 #24
My pals and I bring our instruments and play and sing music KitFox Sep 16 #26
The thing that will defeat Trump is dobleremolque Sep 16 #27
I respect what you are saying Wifes husband Sep 16 #28
I don't have the bandwidth to hate the Chump Hassler Sep 16 #30
Anyone else flash to "A Wrinkle In Time" while reading this? summer_in_TX Sep 17 #31
Great anology. Love that book. And I have always thought that Trump must be miserable to be so hateful. Amaryllis Sep 17 #32
Yes. Exactly. summer_in_TX Sep 17 #33

Amaryllis

(10,771 posts)
2. Dont know. That is a hard one. The idea is that we don't let others control our emotions...because they win if we do.
Tue Sep 16, 2025, 11:09 AM
Sep 16

Whiskeytide

(4,612 posts)
8. Yeah. I do get that. I was just ...
Tue Sep 16, 2025, 11:18 AM
Sep 16

… being flippant.

The analysis of the piece is correct. People like Тяцмp and Miller feed on hate, and have learned well how to use it to divide and weaken democracy.

But it’s really hard not to despise everything about them, and consequently the electorate that gave them the power they are now abusing. Hate is not a productive emotion, but once it’s rooted in our brain most people can’t seem to call up another to take its place.

slightlv

(6,959 posts)
18. I get what he's saying, and intellectually,
Tue Sep 16, 2025, 11:58 AM
Sep 16

I agree 100%. But emotionally? Man... how do you make the leap?! SMDH

We learned what happened in Germany with Hitler and the German people at our mother's and father's knees. Most of us had parents or other relatives who experienced it first hand. I guess the old conundrum of what would you do if you ran across "baby" Hitler really applies here. I just know I want him gone, and at this point, I really don't care how it's accomplished. Unfortunately, the same holds true for his whole maga movement, in my heart and soul. I could never trust anyone who had been a member of that group, simply because I know what they stood for and have watched them carry it out their desires... knowing even now if they had their way, they'd round up every Democrat in the country and put us in a firing line. How do you turn your head, your heart, and your back on this kind of evil?

Amaryllis

(10,771 posts)
29. I don't believe you do turn your head or your back. The author says" Speak against him. Vote against him. Resist him.
Tue Sep 16, 2025, 02:20 PM
Sep 16

But do not let him own your emotions. " It is not easy. And it takes intention and catching oneself when you start to feel hate creeping in. I read Viktor's posts on Substack every time he posts, and it helps me come back into balance.

Bernardo de La Paz

(60,038 posts)
5. Hate all you want but hate is toxic to you and the target feels nothing from it.
Tue Sep 16, 2025, 11:12 AM
Sep 16

Replace it with cold steel determination. Do what you can with minimal emotion.

Take care of yourself so you can care for others better. Purge toxins, especially hate.

Bernardo de La Paz

(60,038 posts)
15. Briefly. Once that has happened, ditch the hate.
Tue Sep 16, 2025, 11:53 AM
Sep 16

Once determination has been made, hate is just baggage to bog you down. Catalysts have only momentary roles.

thought crime

(953 posts)
25. Maybe hate him and his Nazi-like ideas, but pity him and laugh at him, too.
Tue Sep 16, 2025, 01:45 PM
Sep 16

He's already trapped in a hideous hell of his own making. His own life is wasted on hatred. Let's not waste ours.

Any time we spend actually hating these people is wasted time. And I've wasted plenty.

Ocelot II

(128,038 posts)
3. Trump doesn't live in my head and he's not worth my hate.
Tue Sep 16, 2025, 11:11 AM
Sep 16

While he deserves as much ridicule as we can muster, hate is distracting and corrosive. When you're trying to get rid of a parasite you don't waste emotion hating it. You just pour salt on it until it shrivels up and drops off.

1WorldHope

(1,746 posts)
7. I get this. It's the heart of the civil rights movement.
Tue Sep 16, 2025, 11:16 AM
Sep 16

Non violence and love your enemy. I would love to remove the hate from brain for little donny. To do that, I would have to close him out of my mind. Stop reading media, stop protesting, stop obsessing. Sounds good. I probably only have 10 good years left in my life. It would be good to have peace in my heart again.
But, I'm still going to protest. I wave my Hate Wont Make Us Great flag, but, I'll still have my Epstein Epstein Epstein sign. Progress, not perfection. 🙄

Amaryllis

(10,771 posts)
10. As the author says: Speak against him. Vote against him. Resist him. But do not let him own your emotions.
Tue Sep 16, 2025, 11:22 AM
Sep 16

no_hypocrisy

(53,633 posts)
13. Trump likes professional wrestling.
Tue Sep 16, 2025, 11:48 AM
Sep 16

And projecting himself as the classic “Heel”.

The character you jeer and cheer against.

2na fisherman

(146 posts)
21. When Trump "jumps the shark"
Tue Sep 16, 2025, 12:51 PM
Sep 16

I too noticed his wrestling persona and he once played a role when he "fought" Vince McMahon on camera. So he's very aware of presenting the tough guy image. It's the same role he portrayed in The Apprentice, but modified with the Wall Street image of corporate hit-man armed with his catch-phrase, "You're Fired!" So many gullible viewers of such programming really believed in his supposed powers which had no reality to them. And many of them became his voters. But now, as Commander In Chief, he wields actual powers to kill people with impunity. So he presents the nation with dramatic images of "narco-terrorists" being bombed to flex his muscle and demonstrate his willingness to spill blood. And lately he has increased his rhetoric against the "radical left" as sponsors of political violence and vows to attack them as terrorist organizations. So he is paving the way to justify the use of lethal military force against them. He has also hinted at using nuclear weapons to target foreign adversaries. But what low point will it take for Trump to have "jumped the shark" to finally have his show canceled?

Aristus

(71,216 posts)
17. I don't agree. Trump is reckless; he shoots from the hip; and he doesn't know what he is doing.
Tue Sep 16, 2025, 11:57 AM
Sep 16

He's just lucky that he lives in a country where a lot of substandard human beings respond positively to those things.

What Putin achieves through deliberation, Trump achieves by accident.

ananda

(33,824 posts)
22. I think it's possible to hate everything about the person...
Tue Sep 16, 2025, 12:56 PM
Sep 16

what they do, and what they stand for, without actually
hating the person.

EG: Trump and Miller have my deepest sympathy and
compassion for having completely lost their humanity
and for turning into horrible, monsters.

And I will always speak out against what they do and
say, and I will support and admire others for speaking
out and resisting also.

KitFox

(455 posts)
26. My pals and I bring our instruments and play and sing music
Tue Sep 16, 2025, 01:48 PM
Sep 16

at our protest rallies. A lot of people gather around and listen or sing along. We want to be steadfast in our resistance but hope we can feel good while we’re at it and spread good feelings to our protesting community. Thank you for posting this article. I need reminders of ways to resist the cruelty being perpetuated. An autocrat is in trouble if people ever collectively realize keeping us divided is their sure way to amass power and control. I think the fact that the protests are ongoing and growing in thousands of places across every state is a hopeful sign. Climate change awareness rallies coming this Saturday. Another No Kings rally October 18th. Be well, everyone!😊

dobleremolque

(1,076 posts)
27. The thing that will defeat Trump is
Tue Sep 16, 2025, 02:05 PM
Sep 16

mass indifference to him. Hating him requires the payment of emotional capital. Loving him does, too. But if we can foment mass indifference, while at the same time fighting and blocking the demolition of our functioning national government, that is what we need to do. Mass indifference to him, but not to his actions, will topple him as fast as anything.

Wifes husband

(645 posts)
28. I respect what you are saying
Tue Sep 16, 2025, 02:18 PM
Sep 16

You make good points, but for me, I despise what they have done to my country. I hate all of them

Hassler

(4,621 posts)
30. I don't have the bandwidth to hate the Chump
Tue Sep 16, 2025, 09:07 PM
Sep 16

All my emotions are tied up caring for my wife who's in hospice with brain cancer. All my hate is directed at the glioblastoma slowly robbing her of life. It took everything she loved to do--read, bike, garden, cook-- and then it will take her life. In my life he is down there with catching red lights rather than green ones.

summer_in_TX

(3,902 posts)
31. Anyone else flash to "A Wrinkle In Time" while reading this?
Wed Sep 17, 2025, 01:01 AM
Sep 17

Ultimately it was the refusal to hate and the ability to get in touch with love that enabled Meg to rescue her brother, Charles Wallace from the evil entity IT.

I do think that is a profound truth that hate is what Trump seeks and it actually feeds him. I despise (okey, hate) what he does and how he brings out the worst in us, but I feel sad for this person who will never know unconditional love and real joy.

Amaryllis

(10,771 posts)
32. Great anology. Love that book. And I have always thought that Trump must be miserable to be so hateful.
Wed Sep 17, 2025, 11:43 AM
Sep 17

summer_in_TX

(3,902 posts)
33. Yes. Exactly.
Wed Sep 17, 2025, 02:43 PM
Sep 17

When I think of Trump as that one-time little boy being treated in such a way that produced in him all of these characteristics, I am able to have empathy and be sad for him.

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