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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsEvery year I ask my students to write an essay about the ONE thing they want for Christmas.
Only one thing. They have to choose. And they need to tell me why they want this one thing. And why they deserve it.
They always grumble at first and tell me they have 15 or 20 or 50 things on their list. They can't possibly pick just one. But eventually they do and I always get some really interesting essays. Some of them write about whatever the year's hot new toy is. Some lie and say they've been the best kid ever so they really deserve to get what they are asking for.
A few pick something like a new house for their family or a bag of money for their family. And every year some kid (usually a girl) writes about the one thing they would really like to give their little brother or sister.
Then one year I got an essay I'll never forget. It said ---
All I want for Christmas is electricity.
This kid was the sweetest little boy. He had 3 brothers and they lived with his aunt who had 5 kids of her own. His mom was a drunk who bounced in and out of jail and rehab. She came to school one time and you could smell the booze in the room for an hour after she left. Aunt had legal custody and did the best job she could but feeding 9 kids was a struggle. And that year, right before Christmas, she didn't have enough money to pay the electric bill.
And this sweet kid, who deserved to have a sack full of presents, only wanted electricity.
I think about that little boy every Christmas. And I hug my own kids and am so very thankful for what we have and what we are able to give each other.
So this Christmas Eve, hug your loved ones, reflect on the good things in your life and be grateful for what you have. Especially electricity.
Merry Christmas, DU!
p.s. Yes, we were able to contact a local agency who helped Aunt pay her electric bill and found another charity to take some groceries and presents to their home on Christmas Eve. When school started after Christmas break, that little boy told me he had the best Christmas ever. And I believe he probably did.
femmocrat
(28,394 posts)proud2BlibKansan
(96,793 posts)Merry Christmas to you and yours as well!
Skittles
(153,193 posts)I know how you teachers are
proud2BlibKansan
(96,793 posts)Skittles
(153,193 posts)YEE HAW!!
Hoyt
(54,770 posts)proud2BlibKansan
(96,793 posts)calimary
(81,500 posts)Our daughter's kindergarten teacher carried a tote bag with her that carried the inscription: "I touch the future. I teach."
SO true. I've never forgotten that. Really makes you think. And it always gives me a valuable perspective on how critically important our teachers are. We owe our teachers our future.
riverbendviewgal
(4,253 posts)Thanks. Peace and love to you.. thanks for being such a great teacher.
KCDem
(3,773 posts)I am at a Title I high school, and it's just so sad knowing that some of these kids dread the holidays because the only constant in their lives is school. The weeks leading up to Christmas and to the end of the school year are always stressful. So good of you to arrange this child and his family to have a Merry Christmas!
Yup... teaching sure doesn't pay, but the benefits can be outstanding.
proud2BlibKansan
(96,793 posts)This kid was a 4th grader.
ZombieHorde
(29,047 posts)Lucky Luciano
(11,260 posts)ZombieHorde
(29,047 posts)Lucky Luciano
(11,260 posts)ZombieHorde
(29,047 posts)I'm a fairly silly, light-hearted guy.
NYC_SKP
(68,644 posts)One day we must exchange writing prompts.
I had one for every day of the school year back in the day, some were better than others.
I would love to have used this one, though it would have elicited many similarly sad stories with my incarcerated students, I imagine.
Happy season.
DrewFlorida
(1,096 posts)May 2013 be a better year for those who have less!
SunSeeker
(51,714 posts)I have to concentrate on stories like that as my family goes off to spend Christmas with my in-laws. They have the huge house, so everyone goes there for Christmas. And all of their kids are spoiled brats who don't appreciate what they have and are never impressed with what they get. And yet, each year the parents top the prior year in terms of money spent on these brats. And they expect me to deluge their kids with presents as well. I only do it because my husband does not want to create friction within his family. My husband is the only progressive in the family. The rest of them are all right wing evangelical Christians, who constantly post crap on Facebook about the "War on Christmas." It is these clueless hypocrites who are killing Christmas.
madfloridian
(88,117 posts)Local support agencies knew my voice and that of other teachers at our school. That's very moving.
busterbrown
(8,515 posts)Fuck Scott Walker and all like him
and Bless you for what you do!
proud2BlibKansan
(96,793 posts)Merry Christmas!
DiverDave
(4,887 posts)We had some dire years growing up.
Thank you for reaching out to him.
My kids have no idea how good they have it...
JNelson6563
(28,151 posts)Teachers can be like guardian angels (they can also be a source of hell in kids' lives but we'll skip that for now).
Your story reminds me of my own guardian angel teacher story where I was the 2nd grade student. I used to get bronchitis annually as a child. Really bad. My mom was not the nurturing type, couldn't stand it when we kids were around. She sent me to school pretty sick sometimes. Once I was so bad I coughed up all sorts of nasty stuff during the pledge of allegiance. I was very embarrassed and did my best to hide all the snot that came out of me in a piece of paper, which I stuck in my desk.
After the pledge my teacher came over to me and took me to the office. She went in to talk with the principal and the next thing I knew my mom came and got me. I was so relieved to go home to bed but was stressed about all the snot-paper in my desk. For some reason I was embarrassed and just wanted to get it out of there and into the garbage. When I went back to school the first thing I did was go to my desk to deal with it and it was gone.
My teacher had seen all and cleaned up the mess for me as well as making sure I went home when I was too sick for school. I will never forget her kindness and caring, more than y own mom. Her name was Mrs. Robbins.
To all the Mrs. Robbins of the world (and especially those of you on DU):
Julie
Starry Messenger
(32,342 posts)corneliamcgillicutty
(176 posts)I would bet that every Christmas he thinks of you and is very grateful for the caring and support you gave to him and his family. Thanks to you, I sit here in my warm little home and am so very thankful for all that I have. I am sure you have had a positive influence on all the young lives you have taught through the years. I too taught 4th grade and loved it! I wish you a very happy Christmas and peace and joy to you and your family in the new year.
lunatica
(53,410 posts)japple
(9,841 posts)teachers out there who are "first responders" in the lives of many children and families who are in need. I truly appreciate all of the wonderful teachers I had during my years in school. Most of them were kind, caring, and dedicated to the higher ideals of their profession. Bless you for being one of the good guys.
I had some good ones also. Didn't really appreciate that fact until I got into college and was glad I listened to them. And my appreciation and my esteem for them grew recently. Very fine, giving and brave people.
Honeycombe8
(37,648 posts)as a springboard to becoming a productive citizen in his adulthood, without a booze or drug problem, so that he is able to provide electricity to his children. The hardships never leave you.
heaven05
(18,124 posts)he also got the gift of kindness shown by fellow human being. How can we be a race(human) of people who will show such kindness to each other and then have some who do such horrible things? Yin and yang? Positive and negative? Good and evil? My list goes on and on. Really is hard to reconcile sometimes.
proud2BlibKansan
(96,793 posts)I'll never understand that mindset. If we do nothing we know how these kids will turn out. But if we help them, we may also save a few.
heaven05
(18,124 posts)as long as people like you exist, there is hope for humanity. Good cheers for the season to you. I raise my glass to you.
proud2BlibKansan
(96,793 posts)Merry Christmas!
iemitsu
(3,888 posts)(actually its not just right wingers, many Americans show disdain for the poor). I suppose, for some, rejecting and belittling the poor is a defense mechanism, allowing them to ignore a problem they feel powerless to change and for others, blaming the poor for their own poverty provides justification for them to keep more than they can use. Who knows? But its a creepy attitude.
My mother-in-law, who is not an evil person but who has had to be frugal to survive, is in the habit of saying, about those with cardboard signs (identifying their needs), that they beg for money all day then walk a block to where their Mercedes-Benz is parked and drive it to a beautiful home in a nice neighborhood. She is absolutely convinced of the accuracy and believability of this story and is sure that it applies to most of the needy she sees on the streets.
If you can imagine her spitting this condemning accusation (when she sees someone down on their luck), in a heavy Japanese accent, perhaps you can also imagine my reaction to her attitude. At first I made a point of giving a few dollars, to those in need, when we were out shopping or when she was in the car with me.
It really drove her crazy, no she really thought I was crazy, but she stopped saying nasty things about the poor around me.
When I am around republicans or others with anti-charity attitudes, I am compelled to be openly generous toward those in need.
They need the model.
I am not usually an advocate of showy or grandiose gestures and I recognize that something is lost when charity is motivated by a desire to "teach the avaricious a lesson", but I will admit to a certain satisfaction associated with the act. I try to counter this wicked aspect of myself by quietly donating time and resources to community groups, which provide for those in need, and to individuals who need some help.
Giving to someone in need is its own reward. I suspect that those, who don't believe we should help the poor, have never tried it.
Dont call me Shirley
(10,998 posts)Merry Christmas
demwing
(16,916 posts)Was his just a story to remind us how bad it can get? Did you and the other teachers do anything to help?
proud2BlibKansan
(96,793 posts)I also thought I made it clear that this is a story to remind us to count our blessings.
littlemissmartypants
(22,808 posts)read this....thank you Mrs. Mink for a great first grade experience and teaching me to read. I may love books now more than I love people. But don't feel bad, Mrs. Mink. I write, too. Love, your former student. LMSP
iemitsu
(3,888 posts)I am constantly struck by the stories of hardship experienced by many of my students. It reminds me that I have nothing to complain about.
I knew how your story would end because you are a teacher. Teachers are wonderful resources, they can find answers and solutions to problems. I knew that if you could not find a way to get the power turned back on, through the community, you would have paid the bill yourself. Christmas day (or any day for that matter) without electricity or food, and nine children in the home, would have been very difficult for the mom/aunt. Your intervention that Christmas made the day wonderful for the whole family, not just your student.
I'll bet they all remember that Christmas as the best one ever.
You did not say whether or not you had your own children at home that year but if you did, I'd bet they remember that as a special Christmas too.
I know how one feels when they can provide that kind of help to someone in need. There is nothing quite like it.
I hope you had a very Merry Christmas and that your new year will be the best one ever.