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(910 posts)
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 09:37 PM Jan 2013

Fat-shaming may curb obesity, bioethicist says

Unhappy with the slow pace of public health efforts to curb America’s stubborn obesity epidemic, a prominent bioethicist is proposing a new push for what he says is an “edgier strategy” to promote weight loss: ginning up social stigma.

Daniel Callahan, a senior research scholar and president emeritus of The Hastings Center, put out a new paper this week calling for a renewed emphasis on social pressure against heavy people -- what some may call fat-shaming -- including public posters that would pose questions like this:

“If you are overweight or obese, are you pleased with the way that you look?”

Callahan, a former smoker, argued that public shunning of those who lit up led to plunging rates of cigarette use. People were asked to smoke outside and told directly or indirectly that their “nasty” habit was socially unacceptable.

http://todayhealth.today.com/_news/2013/01/24/16664866-fat-shaming-may-curb-obesity-bioethicist-says?lite


Callahan is wrong about this. Fat people already face a lot of shaming, and losing weight is not easy nor is it cheap. Is Callahan willing to start an inexpensive line of organic low fat foods, offer cheap workout equipment, free gym memberships, counseling, and the other tools that help people lose weight?
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Fat-shaming may curb obesity, bioethicist says (Original Post) fried eggs Jan 2013 OP
is that like shaming for smoking riverbendviewgal Jan 2013 #1
You correct. I am a smoker and get shamed daily by non-smokers. RebelOne Jan 2013 #34
I am a smoker and people TRY to shame me but it also doesn't work on me. I virgogal Jan 2013 #39
It worked for me! I didn't want to be a smoker any more. I hated the way my clothes and CTyankee Jan 2013 #66
But was it the shaming, i.e., ... 1StrongBlackMan Jan 2013 #128
Well, I DID feel inferior to nonsmokers. I remember that at the time I admired Ralph Nader and CTyankee Jan 2013 #129
I'm sorry. n/t 1StrongBlackMan Jan 2013 #130
Oh, thanks but don't be sorry, I'm just so glad I stopped smoking! CTyankee Jan 2013 #131
Yeah, it doesn't, that's why obese people should pay 20% more in insurance premiums snooper2 Jan 2013 #50
And if obesity killed as many people, they might. dmallind Jan 2013 #75
I am 74 years old and have been smoking since I was 16. RebelOne Jan 2013 #112
Unfortunately for that argument, statistics exist mythology Jan 2013 #140
I wish we had a celery smiley instead of all this damn popcorn alcibiades_mystery Jan 2013 #2
Happy celery... BadgerKid Jan 2013 #17
did you just create those? niyad Jan 2013 #29
If you look closely, that's unbuttered smiliecorn. Ken Burch Jan 2013 #23
mmmmm, butter Hekate Jan 2013 #97
bahahahhahahah!!!!!!!!!!!!!1 Pretzel_Warrior Jan 2013 #146
Disgusting! BuddhaGirl Jan 2013 #3
Actually you are somewhat wrong: ohheckyeah Jan 2013 #62
well duh BuddhaGirl Jan 2013 #116
Got attitude? ohheckyeah Jan 2013 #118
nope! BuddhaGirl Jan 2013 #127
You said: ohheckyeah Jan 2013 #134
Shaming the obese already happens every day implicitly and explicitly. Selatius Jan 2013 #4
I can't believe someone actually recommended this thread!! BuddhaGirl Jan 2013 #5
threads are often recommended, not because the person agrees, but because the subject is niyad Jan 2013 #11
Makes sense BuddhaGirl Jan 2013 #22
how about addressing our entire food system, the poisons, the additives, the crap, the lack niyad Jan 2013 #6
^^^^^^^ BuddhaGirl Jan 2013 #9
Exactly! And even wages. Poverty forces many people to eat terribly. JaneyVee Jan 2013 #14
yes, thank you. and how about the fact that in many urban areas, there are NO supermarkets, niyad Jan 2013 #21
My hometown is a great bad example of the point you have made Art_from_Ark Jan 2013 #47
there was a wonderful 4-part series on pbs called "designing healthy communities" that addressed niyad Jan 2013 #56
Well said, niyad Hekate Jan 2013 #100
Ahem, THE ADVERTISING? nt Deep13 Jan 2013 #126
What's next, outright bullying overweight kids at school? Publicly shaming them... OldDem2012 Jan 2013 #7
This man is the quintessential bully...he loathes people with weight issues, Ken Burch Jan 2013 #20
His next new ad, "Shame the Gays" ... Then we can move onto "Shame the Brown Skin People" and RKP5637 Jan 2013 #76
What makes you think that's "next"? jeff47 Jan 2013 #159
Ridiculous & cruel. There are many obese people due to medical conditions. Now we're shaming JaneyVee Jan 2013 #8
That would just add to the mental health problems.... HuskiesHowls Jan 2013 #10
This guy has no clue about nickinSTL Jan 2013 #12
It didn't work for me AnnieBW Jan 2013 #13
This message was self-deleted by its author devilgrrl Jan 2013 #15
shaming does not work. we know that as parents. nt seabeyond Jan 2013 #16
If fat shaming worked, no one would BE fat. Ken Burch Jan 2013 #18
GMTA REP Jan 2013 #32
+1000! fried eggs Jan 2013 #48
Absolutely not! That person knows NOTHING about obese people. Honeycombe8 Jan 2013 #19
Seriously? Denninmi Jan 2013 #24
Not only will obesity rates climb because of actions like this. geomon666 Jan 2013 #25
also anorexia and bulimia eShirl Jan 2013 #28
That was precisely the result of fat shaming in my house. Butterbean Jan 2013 #109
Well you got it right on the nail geomon6. I am obese and I am a stress eater when I southernyankeebelle Jan 2013 #35
I am too. geomon666 Jan 2013 #42
It's very hard. I have been pretty luck now that I have gotten older. I told my doctor southernyankeebelle Jan 2013 #43
Diet foods are evil. Still Blue in PDX Jan 2013 #93
Your right. Sometimes is worse then eat a smaller portion of your regular foods you like. southernyankeebelle Jan 2013 #113
Yes, cause that worked so well to curb teen pregnancy, std's, and people getting high... Kalidurga Jan 2013 #26
According to Wikipedia BuddhaGirl Jan 2013 #27
I don't understand how such an idiot is part of the hastings center. I have been looking at their niyad Jan 2013 #30
If it worked, there would be few fat people. REP Jan 2013 #31
As an obese person I'm sick and tired of people degrading us. Fat people don't like being southernyankeebelle Jan 2013 #33
"Fat" is in the eye of the beholder duffyduff Jan 2013 #38
your so right. I have thyroid problems. In fact I just had a checkup for cancer. I got southernyankeebelle Jan 2013 #40
Yo yo dieting fried eggs Jan 2013 #49
Funny thing is for me once I stopped worring about dieting the yo yo stopped. What I did southernyankeebelle Jan 2013 #69
many years ago, a friend told me that she (a very large woman with a thyroid problem) had niyad Jan 2013 #89
my husband's cardiologist gives him the "lecture" every time he goes in for his regular CTyankee Jan 2013 #68
I have A-Feb (irregular heart beat). They haven't had that talk with me. But southernyankeebelle Jan 2013 #71
This doc made a bad impression from the start... CTyankee Jan 2013 #91
That doctor alone would stress me out. I would find another doctor that is in your health net. southernyankeebelle Jan 2013 #99
Bullshit. All it does is increase isolation and depression Warpy Jan 2013 #36
He's as ignorant of this issue as he is of abortion. duffyduff Jan 2013 #37
THE LOW FAT DIET IS A SCAM!! Mr. Mojo Risen Jan 2013 #41
The real reason I quit smoking was not that I was unacceptable to some fadedrose Jan 2013 #44
When I quit, I lost a source of information JustABozoOnThisBus Jan 2013 #90
How about shopping? fadedrose Jan 2013 #106
ohforfuckssake Matariki Jan 2013 #45
The obscene price of cigarettes are why I quit. MrSlayer Jan 2013 #46
Which is why some people have advocated for higher taxes ohheckyeah Jan 2013 #64
Yes, let's all hate each other. ZombieHorde Jan 2013 #51
I used to be a smoker until employers started treating smokers like lepers. Even if they only DogPawsBiscuitsNGrav Jan 2013 #52
But we don't pay more for smokers or fat people-we pay less! eridani Jan 2013 #61
Thanks for the link. Hopefully this will shut up the "you cost me more" crowd, but we're DogPawsBiscuitsNGrav Jan 2013 #105
I was, too. And now my employer is doing the same to obese people. Still Blue in PDX Jan 2013 #92
What ever happened to live and let live? It's no ones business if you're fat or you smoke. It's your DogPawsBiscuitsNGrav Jan 2013 #101
I had an employer encourage me to smoke tabbycat31 Jan 2013 #156
What an idiotic notion! Sadiedog Jan 2013 #53
Yep--husband has this, and his weight cycled up and down by 40lbs until eridani Jan 2013 #72
I wish you and him well! nt Sadiedog Jan 2013 #135
Great plan to increase future anorexics! Th1onein Jan 2013 #54
I agree with the losing weight is not easy, but it certainly can be cheap. nobodyspecial Jan 2013 #55
how do you propose that people do that who live in areas that have no supermarkets or grocery niyad Jan 2013 #73
Show me statistics where this is the majority of the overweight people nobodyspecial Jan 2013 #79
you might try actually looking at the realities of what I asked niyad Jan 2013 #80
And you didn't address anything I said. nobodyspecial Jan 2013 #84
it is obvious that any attempt would be pointless. niyad Jan 2013 #86
You're right nobodyspecial Jan 2013 #88
+1 nt laundry_queen Jan 2013 #85
Travel to one? Marr Jan 2013 #120
of course, why didn't I think of that? and just how do you travel that measely three miles? niyad Jan 2013 #136
Well, life isn't easy-- what can I tell you? Marr Jan 2013 #142
where did you get the idea I was referring to myself in any of that? nice try, though. niyad Jan 2013 #148
Yep. I'd been carrying an extra 30 pounds or so since college, and endlessly Marr Jan 2013 #117
Great job! nobodyspecial Jan 2013 #119
Thanks! Marr Jan 2013 #122
This Nature of Things episode is well worth a look u4ic Jan 2013 #57
Congrats to Callahan for being an accessory after the fact to bullycide eridani Jan 2013 #58
Shaming/bullying in regards to one's weight is one of DU's dirty little secrets... Earth_First Jan 2013 #59
Keep on fighting and alerting. dawg Jan 2013 #124
There's one problem. There's no healthy amount of tobacco TexasBushwhacker Jan 2013 #60
Some smoker's have more trouble quitting than others.... ohheckyeah Jan 2013 #63
Can we shame them with cheese sandwiches? Is that still in vogue? nt OneTenthofOnePercent Jan 2013 #65
I'm betting this doctor makes money on the side treating eating disorders. backscatter712 Jan 2013 #67
He should be subjected to douchebag shaming. pintobean Jan 2013 #70
Meh - telling that his example appeals only to shallow idiots isn't it? dmallind Jan 2013 #74
Is low self esteem more likely with obesity than with smoking? yellowcanine Jan 2013 #77
oh fuck him. Scout Jan 2013 #78
Yes, he is wrong. polly7 Jan 2013 #81
the secrets of thin people Mosby Jan 2013 #82
How dare you suggest individuals have ANY control over their weight. nobodyspecial Jan 2013 #98
You don't. What you have control over is eating and physical activity eridani Jan 2013 #144
Where did I argue that calories in equal calories out? nobodyspecial Jan 2013 #149
The trouble is that "doing something" will not necessarily put you anywhere near "ideal" weight eridani Jan 2013 #161
would you like butter with that? Warren DeMontague Jan 2013 #83
I had some clown give me shit in the supermarket checkout about what I was buying. hobbit709 Jan 2013 #87
excellent!!! Scout Jan 2013 #121
... sarge43 Jan 2013 #154
Great comeback for a lot of situations! Nay Jan 2013 #158
its interesting research quinnox Jan 2013 #94
It has worked well for smoking cthulu2016 Jan 2013 #95
Really? Perhaps someone should tell the President. WinkyDink Jan 2013 #138
Maybe he could ask the fashion industry to use skinnier models Hekate Jan 2013 #96
Yes, it might cause some people to lose weight bluestateguy Jan 2013 #102
Negative reinforcement. avaistheone1 Jan 2013 #103
Here's a photo of that four-eyed gray-haired wrinkle-face Daniel Callahan Ian David Jan 2013 #104
Walking is FREE and shoes are cheap. Walking is the BEST exercise for overweight people.You don't kestrel91316 Jan 2013 #107
Back when I was on a med that unbeknownst to me caused uncontrollable cravings... Hekate Jan 2013 #108
Hell, Dr. Callahan would just need to visit this thread. laundry_queen Jan 2013 #132
Shaming overweight people is stupid. justanidea Jan 2013 #110
You can't eat less than your body uses over long time periods eridani Jan 2013 #145
What we face exboyfil Jan 2013 #111
The bioethicist is nuts, but why do you think weight loss needs to be expensive? nt RedCappedBandit Jan 2013 #114
If people want to be fat, I say let them. Marr Jan 2013 #115
No they don't--they have information eridani Jan 2013 #147
Just one man but it worked for me nachosgrande Jan 2013 #123
Asshole-shaming may curb assholery, dawg says dawg Jan 2013 #125
I wish it did Hekate Jan 2013 #133
And yet, my skinny uncle still dropped dead of a heart attack. WinkyDink Jan 2013 #137
I actually kind of don't care how I look treestar Jan 2013 #139
Great. Just what we need . . . Brigid Jan 2013 #141
Callahan is a complete fucking idiot. n/t flvegan Jan 2013 #143
What an idiot. undeterred Jan 2013 #150
This is insane. Jackpine Radical Jan 2013 #151
I've felt ashamed for years. It hasn't helped me, and I have only gotten larger. GreenPartyVoter Jan 2013 #152
Shaming of any kind is ineffective and often cruel. MineralMan Jan 2013 #153
Given that there are multiple reasons for obesity rates... CBHagman Jan 2013 #155
Bullsh*t. mzteris Jan 2013 #157
Wow! Just what I want more of in my life - more guilt trips LibertyLover Jan 2013 #160
 

virgogal

(10,178 posts)
39. I am a smoker and people TRY to shame me but it also doesn't work on me. I
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 10:46 PM
Jan 2013

actually think it is funny.

There are lots of behaviors I don't care for but I keep my thoughts to myself.

Those "shamers" are just small minded people.

CTyankee

(63,912 posts)
66. It worked for me! I didn't want to be a smoker any more. I hated the way my clothes and
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 02:02 AM
Jan 2013

my skin smelled. I very much wanted to be like nonsmokers, even tho I had been smoking for almost 20 years. And I consider it the smartest thing I've ever done and feel good about it now.

Weight loss is different. You don't have to smoke to live but you have to eat. And there are other environmental differences, esp. with stuff they put in our food supply, that determines a lot of weight gain, IMO...

 

1StrongBlackMan

(31,849 posts)
128. But was it the shaming, i.e., ...
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 04:39 PM
Jan 2013

some random person assert his/her right to stand right next to you in a thousand acre park and complaining that you are/were assaulting them and their unborn, that got you to stop? Or was it your desire to not be a smoker any more, and/or your hate for the way your clothes and skin smelled, and/or your very much wanting to be like nonsmokers?

This shaming stuff is just another example of "my right to treat you anyway I want."

CTyankee

(63,912 posts)
129. Well, I DID feel inferior to nonsmokers. I remember that at the time I admired Ralph Nader and
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 04:46 PM
Jan 2013

I noted that he had said he would never hire anyone to work for him who smoked and considered it to be a character flaw. That kinda made me feel bad about myself.

But I guess it was a combination of all of those things but I did feel unattractive and not a very good person...

 

snooper2

(30,151 posts)
50. Yeah, it doesn't, that's why obese people should pay 20% more in insurance premiums
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 11:39 PM
Jan 2013

Like us smokers do..



Making me look at e-cigs..finally going to order one tomorrow...

dmallind

(10,437 posts)
75. And if obesity killed as many people, they might.
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 11:31 AM
Jan 2013

Actuaries don't play favorites. If they did rates for fertile age women would not be higher either.

20% or so smoke - 435k deaths. 30%+ are obese - ca. 100k deaths (yes health nazis - the CDC retracted their laughable 363k lies shortly after the blunder, so stop quoting it hoping people are idiots who don't know that). To be equal to smoking in risk thhat would have to be closer to 700k. So which should carry a higher premium?

RebelOne

(30,947 posts)
112. I am 74 years old and have been smoking since I was 16.
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 03:26 PM
Jan 2013

And I plan on living to at least 84. I have known many who never smoked a cigarette and died in their 40s and 50s.

 

mythology

(9,527 posts)
140. Unfortunately for that argument, statistics exist
Sat Jan 26, 2013, 12:44 AM
Jan 2013

Just because you've live a long time while being a smoker doesn't mean that it's a healthy past time.

BuddhaGirl

(3,608 posts)
3. Disgusting!
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 09:45 PM
Jan 2013

He is comparing shaming the obese to the shaming of smokers??

Last I heard, obesity doesn't cause second-hand obesity, nor is it something some people have absolute control over.

Idiot!

ohheckyeah

(9,314 posts)
62. Actually you are somewhat wrong:
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 01:41 AM
Jan 2013

Children whose parents are overweight or obese are at higher risk for becoming obese themselves, studies have shown. A study in the Journal of Pediatrics, for instance, found five independent risk factors for childhood overweight. The main risk factor was parental weight.

http://www.yalemedicalgroup.org/stw/Page.asp?PageID=STW001880

BuddhaGirl

(3,608 posts)
116. well duh
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 03:41 PM
Jan 2013

My point was that obesity doesn't affect anyone standing in it's proximity. It was said to make a point, but I guessed you missed the sarcasm.

Selatius

(20,441 posts)
4. Shaming the obese already happens every day implicitly and explicitly.
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 09:47 PM
Jan 2013

This is simply tossing one or two more logs onto a roaring fire.

The obesity epidemic won't cure itself unless there is a major cultural shift in lifestyle, changes to eating habits, and subsidies for HFCS and sugars eliminated entirely.

niyad

(113,346 posts)
11. threads are often recommended, not because the person agrees, but because the subject is
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 09:50 PM
Jan 2013

one that the person feels should receive the widest possible attention.

niyad

(113,346 posts)
6. how about addressing our entire food system, the poisons, the additives, the crap, the lack
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 09:48 PM
Jan 2013

of nutrition in our food? the fact that so much of our food is NOT nutritious and healthy, thanks to big agra? how about addressing communities that do not encourage healthy exercise like walking, because these communities are not actually designed for human beings?

SHAMING people is the best you, an ethicist, can come up with? realllllly? you must be a total crackpot, then, and probably from a reichwing think tank, at that.

I see idiocy is not limited to any one branch of science or knowledge, is it?

niyad

(113,346 posts)
21. yes, thank you. and how about the fact that in many urban areas, there are NO supermarkets,
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 10:00 PM
Jan 2013

no grocery stores of any kind, only convenience stores, and no way to get fresh fruits and vegetables, fresh food of any kind?

yeah, this guy is a real genius and humanitarian.

Art_from_Ark

(27,247 posts)
47. My hometown is a great bad example of the point you have made
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 11:18 PM
Jan 2013

Up until the early 1970s, the downtown area was a thriving shopping area that was within easy access of most people living within the city limits, with sidewalks running along most city streets. The elementary school was a three-minute walk from my house, as was the high school. The junior high was 5 minutes away by bicycle.

Today, the nearest elementary school is in "Timbuktu", the junior high is in "Katmandu"-- I would have to take a bus to either of those places if I were a student today. The downtown shops, which are now mostly specialty shops that few people visit, usually either go out of business in a couple of years, or relocate to the affluent areas of "Istanbul" or "Jakarta". New developments are built without regard to pedestrians, and many stop lights are activated by cars, but not by bicycles or pedestrians.

niyad

(113,346 posts)
56. there was a wonderful 4-part series on pbs called "designing healthy communities" that addressed
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 01:23 AM
Jan 2013

many issues, including some we have mentioned here. if you get a chance, you might like to see it (I would imagine your library could get a copy)

http://designinghealthycommunities.org/

OldDem2012

(3,526 posts)
7. What's next, outright bullying overweight kids at school? Publicly shaming them...
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 09:48 PM
Jan 2013

....so that they hate going to school?

Great idea, Daniel.

 

Ken Burch

(50,254 posts)
20. This man is the quintessential bully...he loathes people with weight issues,
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 09:59 PM
Jan 2013

but what he actually wants(as all TRUE bullies do)is to get others to do the bullying FOR him. Once again, it's not so much about inflicting the pain as having the power to cause it to be inflicted on his command by those he feels entitled to command.

RKP5637

(67,111 posts)
76. His next new ad, "Shame the Gays" ... Then we can move onto "Shame the Brown Skin People" and
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 11:40 AM
Jan 2013

then "Shame the Nonreligious." Gee, we can shame a bunch. High Powered Marketing Ad! "Contact us for your next Shame Ad Campaign, we have a proven track record of guilt driven results."

jeff47

(26,549 posts)
159. What makes you think that's "next"?
Sat Jan 26, 2013, 03:18 PM
Jan 2013

I can assure that's already going on, and has been going on for a very, very long time.

 

JaneyVee

(19,877 posts)
8. Ridiculous & cruel. There are many obese people due to medical conditions. Now we're shaming
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 09:49 PM
Jan 2013

medical conditions? What next, posters asking people in wheelchairs if they're sad because they can't stand up?

HuskiesHowls

(711 posts)
10. That would just add to the mental health problems....
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 09:50 PM
Jan 2013

My daughter has the same shape as her mother, who has the same shape her grandfather did.....that of a pear! No way could my wife lose weight, irregardless of what she did. For both of them, its a genetic thing, and NO amount of shaming will help my daughter. The social stigma she has faced already has put her in the psych ward many times, and in counseling for many, many years!!

nickinSTL

(4,833 posts)
12. This guy has no clue about
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 09:52 PM
Jan 2013

the experience of obesity.

There is already significant societal shaming on obesity, and I know from personal experience that shaming on a personal level is counter-productive.

Someone who's never dealt with obesity is supremely unqualified to make any kind of pronouncements on how it should be addressed by society, imo.

AnnieBW

(10,429 posts)
13. It didn't work for me
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 09:52 PM
Jan 2013

I got it every day of my childhood and young adulthood. It doesn't work. It only makes a fat person have zero self esteem, and drives them into the food.

Response to fried eggs (Original post)

 

Ken Burch

(50,254 posts)
18. If fat shaming worked, no one would BE fat.
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 09:56 PM
Jan 2013

The shaming would already have made everyone stay permanently thin.

We are a society in which most of us, for various reasons, are constantly being shamed over something about ourselves. If all that shaming actually led to personal improvement, shouldn't it have turned us into a nation of self-created ubermenschen by now?

Shaming on personal issues doesn't ever work...humiliation never works...unless the objective is just to drive those that the shamer feels entitled to label as inferior all the way to suicide.

Who the fuck does this sadistic, judgmental bastard think he is? Is HE utterly without flaws?

And can we assume that EVERYONE with a weight problem has that problem strictly due to personal weakness?

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
19. Absolutely not! That person knows NOTHING about obese people.
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 09:57 PM
Jan 2013

Being obese is NOT the same thing as being addicted to cigarettes or heroin. It's a very different thing.

For one thing....you don't need cigarettes to live. You need food. People are addicted to cigarettes, and can give them up entirely. People are not technically addicted to food, and you can't give up food entirely.

Smoking just a little is dangerous. Eating just a little is not dangerous.

Making people pariahs in society for being obese will just get people more ashamed of their weight and more depressed or angry, which could lead to MORE overeating.

Stupid idea. There are also some reasons that some people become obese besides eating massive quantities of bad food. There is a fat gene, and there are medical conditions, as well as side effects from some medications.

So if someone, no matter what size, is eating a piece of cake, do you tell them to go outside and eat it? Or only if they're fat? How fat? Who decides that? What if someone is on Weight Watchers and is having something fattening for a splurge but is still within their diet rules? On WW you can eat anything...it's how often and how much you eat that count.

I am not obese, but I would NEVER participate or encourage this sort of thing toward others.

Denninmi

(6,581 posts)
24. Seriously?
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 10:01 PM
Jan 2013

How cruel. I think as a society we need to become increasingly accepting of people and look past any disabilities.

geomon666

(7,512 posts)
25. Not only will obesity rates climb because of actions like this.
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 10:01 PM
Jan 2013

But so will depression and social anxiety rates. More people on antidepressants and more suicides as a result of an increase in public ridicule and shaming. Those who don't succumb to suicidal thoughts are more likely to binge eat thus increasing their obesity and the risk of heart failure and other ailments go up.

Butterbean

(1,014 posts)
109. That was precisely the result of fat shaming in my house.
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 03:11 PM
Jan 2013

Two daughters with eating disorders. Great strategy, mom.

 

southernyankeebelle

(11,304 posts)
35. Well you got it right on the nail geomon6. I am obese and I am a stress eater when I
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 10:28 PM
Jan 2013

worry about things. The more a doctor ridicules a patient the patient will stop going to the doctor. I know I would and have done it. I mean I am paying the doctor and I already know I have a weight issue. Some doctors approach are nasty. I remember once going to the doctor and he said I was going to die. That was the last time I went to him. Am 65 now and I go to my doctors and do everything they tell me to do. My last doctor mention about losing weight in a kind way. I thanked him and told him I am trying to cut down and try not snacking. That is the only thing I can do. I am sick and tired of eating constant diet foods.

geomon666

(7,512 posts)
42. I am too.
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 11:00 PM
Jan 2013

It took me years to find a sympathetic doctor willing to treat me without ridiculing me or downplaying my other issues due to my weight.

 

southernyankeebelle

(11,304 posts)
43. It's very hard. I have been pretty luck now that I have gotten older. I told my doctor
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 11:03 PM
Jan 2013

last week I thank him for his concern but I just don't have it in me anymore and I am to old to change. He was understanding. I did tell him I would try to cut down. He said I was taking care of myself and going to all my doctor appointments and I am doing good.

Still Blue in PDX

(1,999 posts)
93. Diet foods are evil.
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 02:08 PM
Jan 2013

There is a graphic that I would post if I had it handy and if I knew how that says, "When you see low fat or nonfat, read chemical shit storm."

Kalidurga

(14,177 posts)
26. Yes, cause that worked so well to curb teen pregnancy, std's, and people getting high...
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 10:03 PM
Jan 2013

I can't think of a single instance where calling someone a loser for whatever reason or shaming them has actually led to a behavior change. Smoking rates have dropped, but I think that is more about the high tax put on cigarettes rather than draconian measures and shaming. And I can't imagine a drug treatment plan that consists of an addict going to treatment and getting berated for being a drug user. And teenagers know the stigma of having a baby at such a young age, yet somehow pregnancy rates don't drop until young people have something they are trying to achieve, then they drop because they don't have time to mess around.

As a disclaimer I am currently extremely obese. Being made fun of never once stopped me from eating. It might have stopped me from pigging out in a social situation, but I could and did get plenty of food at home. In fact, in many cases I would just eat more, because food wasn't making fun of me. After decades of being shamed the only thing that seems to work is finding out what foods satisfy me. And it wasn't even close to what I imagined it would be. We need to teach real nutrition and I don't know what will ever make that happen.

BuddhaGirl

(3,608 posts)
27. According to Wikipedia
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 10:03 PM
Jan 2013

Daniel Callahan is 82 years old.

A different era - shaming was definitely more acceptable.

niyad

(113,346 posts)
30. I don't understand how such an idiot is part of the hastings center. I have been looking at their
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 10:07 PM
Jan 2013

web site, and there appear to be some really good, thoughtful, intelligent articles there--NOTHING like what this bully with a degree is saying.

 

southernyankeebelle

(11,304 posts)
33. As an obese person I'm sick and tired of people degrading us. Fat people don't like being
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 10:21 PM
Jan 2013

fat. Believe me I have tried every diet in the world. Every diet. Even surgery. People who have a weight problem can't always do it. No matter how hard I tried. Yo yo dieting was killing me. I finally said enough. Now I haven't yo yo anymore but I am still heavy but happy. Believe me when I was younger then doctors made me feel bad. Until I finally had enough and stopped going to the doctor. That's what people will do stop going to the doctor. Because if we want to be humilated all we need to do is walk in public and hear it. People who don't have weight issues just don't get it.

 

duffyduff

(3,251 posts)
38. "Fat" is in the eye of the beholder
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 10:43 PM
Jan 2013

Fuck ignorant people who can't understand "fat"may result from hormonal changes in menopause or diabetes onset.

What this country needs is less shaming and blaming and a lot less bigotry.

 

southernyankeebelle

(11,304 posts)
40. your so right. I have thyroid problems. In fact I just had a checkup for cancer. I got
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 10:48 PM
Jan 2013

my call today and everything is clear. I still have nods and have to have them checked every so often. People who don't have that weight problem really don't get it. I am not lazy and I always worked hard.

 

southernyankeebelle

(11,304 posts)
69. Funny thing is for me once I stopped worring about dieting the yo yo stopped. What I did
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 09:27 AM
Jan 2013

was just cut my portion size down, stop drinking so much diet soda (I mean I still drink one or 2 a day with lunch and dinner some times). I drink allot of water because that gives you a full feeling and I love water. I am not into juices because they upset my stomach. I rarely fry anything. I try to cut out the in-between meals. When I do that I can of stay where I am. The yo yo diet isn't good for your system. I just can't diet anymore and after having that major lose surgery back in 75 where I lost over 100 pds. It really works hard on your system. When I hit 50 my body took a beating. I am on so many meds and I can't absorb the vitms that am on so many different pills now. Maybe you should try it for a month or 2 and see what happens. Don't cut out what you like just cut portion size and stop the in between eating.

niyad

(113,346 posts)
89. many years ago, a friend told me that she (a very large woman with a thyroid problem) had
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 01:01 PM
Jan 2013

been told by her doctor that a surprising number of people who spent their lived on yo-yo diets showed evidence of cirrhosis of the liver when they died. not a pleasant thought.

CTyankee

(63,912 posts)
68. my husband's cardiologist gives him the "lecture" every time he goes in for his regular
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 02:12 AM
Jan 2013

check up. I stopped accompanying him because I didn't want to hear it. His doc is a tiny, skinny man of a different culture. I doubt if he COULD put on weight, even if he wanted to.

My approach to my husband is just to limit his calories where I can and cook nutritious meals. He was doing pretty well losing weight after his two spinal surgeries and he does still work out at the gym, but I think the winter months cause him to eat more. I know I do, altho I am not obese and won't ever be downright skinny.)

 

southernyankeebelle

(11,304 posts)
71. I have A-Feb (irregular heart beat). They haven't had that talk with me. But
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 09:53 AM
Jan 2013

I have to say if he does I will thank him and tell him I have tried every diet in the book and even had the weight surgery and I am sick and tired of the yo yo dieting. I am trying to eat healthier but I just can't do the dieting anymore. Like you I try to eat healthier. I don't fry foods. I eat more chicken (baked). I cook pasta sauce in a crockpot. I'll make hamburgers in the oven. I happen to like hamburgers with cottage cheese and tomatoes on top. I like salads with vingar and olive oil. I think you are doing it right. I don't go to doctors who are from other countries if I can help it. They are always bring up your weight. Especially when they don't have a health problem. One time a doctor who was from India I think looked me in the eye and told me I was going to die. I got so pissed at him I looked him in the eye and I said to him maybe you and people in your country don't have weight issues but I come from a background where citizens in our country aren't starving on the side of the road because their government won't help them. He shut up and I never went back to him. Just tell your husband to tell the doctor he is trying but he just can't diet. Tell the doctor he needs to stop beating a dead horse. He already knows he is fat and the doctor hounding him isn't going to change the fact.

CTyankee

(63,912 posts)
91. This doc made a bad impression from the start...
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 01:17 PM
Jan 2013

when hubby had his cardio issues and was in the hospital the doc said to me to wait for the procedure being done and "the girls will come to get you." I said "I didn't know St. Rafe's Hospital employed children!" He said "oh, I mean the nurses."

That didn't go down well with me...

 

southernyankeebelle

(11,304 posts)
99. That doctor alone would stress me out. I would find another doctor that is in your health net.
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 02:28 PM
Jan 2013

Don't walk, run.

Warpy

(111,277 posts)
36. Bullshit. All it does is increase isolation and depression
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 10:39 PM
Jan 2013

both of which lead to more comfort eating, not less.

Public shaming didn't work to discourage smokers. High taxes and indoor restrictions did.

 

duffyduff

(3,251 posts)
37. He's as ignorant of this issue as he is of abortion.
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 10:41 PM
Jan 2013

He must be a 100 years old now.

Edit: He's 82, but he's been blathering on about abortion and other "ethical" issues for decades.

I am not kidding.

Mr. Mojo Risen

(104 posts)
41. THE LOW FAT DIET IS A SCAM!!
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 10:54 PM
Jan 2013

Sorry I notice you made a low fat food mention and I just had to yell that out. The low fat diet is another huge thing that hold people back. The think eating low fat peanut butter, low fat cheese, and low fat Hot Pockets... ... are going to help them loose weight.

A 2 mile walk every day and curbing carbohydrates goes a long way!

fadedrose

(10,044 posts)
44. The real reason I quit smoking was not that I was unacceptable to some
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 11:07 PM
Jan 2013

I preferred the smokers outside. Friendlier.

But in the last month I was smoking, an ash fell and I burned a teeny hole in the rug, a teeny hole in my slacks, and a teeny hole in my nightgown. And I wasn't aware of the ash falling till I felt the heat.

I started to worry that I was slower and my instincts were not as sharp and thought I might burn the house down. Everytime I went out I could not remember putting the last one out, even tho I know I did. Made me a nervous wreck.

JustABozoOnThisBus

(23,350 posts)
90. When I quit, I lost a source of information
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 01:14 PM
Jan 2013

The smoking area was populated with people in other areas of the company, so information (or gossip) got conveyed there. Once I quit smoking, I had no reason to stand around outside, so didn't see those folks.

It's the only part of smoking that I miss.

I remember burning teeny holes in my clothes, but that was WAY back, when seeds exploded

fadedrose

(10,044 posts)
106. How about shopping?
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 02:55 PM
Jan 2013

I used to go to the snack bar at Meijer's, or K-mart or whereever they had one, put down my packages, and have a good smoke.

And the rule was that smokers talked to each other, and it was never considered flirting or rude, it was just like family, no, better than family..

These snack bars are closed now, and a lot of other places..

Matariki

(18,775 posts)
45. ohforfuckssake
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 11:13 PM
Jan 2013

Callahan is looking for an excuse to be a mean asshole to people.

The smoking example is pure bullshit too. If people are quitting because they can't smoke indoors, it's more likely from the inconvenience and discomfort of having to stand outside in the cold and rain, away from their drinks. And the cost. Not from fucking "shaming".

What an asshole.

 

MrSlayer

(22,143 posts)
46. The obscene price of cigarettes are why I quit.
Thu Jan 24, 2013, 11:14 PM
Jan 2013

I never gave a fuck whether anyone liked it or not.

This dude sounds like a real douche.

ZombieHorde

(29,047 posts)
51. Yes, let's all hate each other.
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 12:06 AM
Jan 2013

Let's shame smokers, eaters, parents, rape victims, drug addicts, masturbators, drivers, and the poor.

If only there was more hate in the world.

 
52. I used to be a smoker until employers started treating smokers like lepers. Even if they only
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 12:35 AM
Jan 2013

smoked in the privacy of their own home. So yes, I guess the stigma worked for me. What really seemed to turn a lot of people against smokers was when they were told that they were paying more for insurance to cover the smokers health care. I told everyone back then that they'd come for the obese people next. And they will. It's only a matter of time. Obesity is already looked down upon privately, people just don't admit to it publicly. As soon as people start hearing their health care costs are so high because of Lung, heart, issues for the obese, it's done. I'm not saying it's right, I'm just saying that people are more than happy to take away things "other people" choose to enjoy.

Freedom is great as long as no one else gets it.

eridani

(51,907 posts)
61. But we don't pay more for smokers or fat people-we pay less!
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 01:35 AM
Jan 2013
http://www.nytimes.com/2008/02/05/health/05iht-obese.1.9748884.html

Preventingob obesity and smoking can save lives, but it does not save money, according to a new report.

It costs more to care for healthy people who live years longer, according to a Dutch study that counters the common perception that preventing obesity would save governments millions of dollars.

"It was a small surprise," said Pieter van Baal, an economist at the National Institute for Public Health and the Environment in the Netherlands, who led the study. "But it also makes sense. If you live longer, then you cost the health system more."

In a paper published online Monday in the Public Library of Science Medicine journal, Dutch researchers found that the health costs of thin and healthy people in adulthood are more expensive than those of either fat people or smokers.

Van Baal and colleagues create Preventing obesity and smoking can save lives, but it does not save money, according to a new report.
 
105. Thanks for the link. Hopefully this will shut up the "you cost me more" crowd, but we're
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 02:41 PM
Jan 2013

still dealing with the hypocrites who say it's a womans body she has the right to do with it as she please's, but that suddenly changes when it comes to a smokers right or an obese persons right. I fought tooth and nail for a womans right to an abortion on the platform that her body belonged to her. How would we like it if the repubs stared taxing abortions the way we do smokes and are now starting to do with sodas? After all, it's elective. This is all getting out of hand.

Still Blue in PDX

(1,999 posts)
92. I was, too. And now my employer is doing the same to obese people.
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 02:06 PM
Jan 2013

At least once a week I get an email promoting a "healthy lifestyle," and the intranet is full of articles on exercise, diet, and stress reduction. We get a miniscule bonus each year, and one of the things it is based on is the percentage of employees who fill out a total health assessment and are working on losing weight.

Some days I find it helpful. Other days I find it infuriating and degrading.

 
101. What ever happened to live and let live? It's no ones business if you're fat or you smoke. It's your
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 02:31 PM
Jan 2013

body, not theirs. If your fat or you smoke and that's what makes you happy, why must they make it their business? People won't be happy until we're all simple dumb drones with no vices at all, living in plastic bubbles to save us from anything that could harm us. Those who chose to live without the bubble and run through the forest and skin a knee should be imprisoned or treated like a leper.

The smoking thing went to far. The obesity thing is headed in the same direction. My body not theirs.

tabbycat31

(6,336 posts)
156. I had an employer encourage me to smoke
Sat Jan 26, 2013, 02:22 PM
Jan 2013

When I complained that smokers had more breaks than non smokers (they had their cigarette breaks in addition to the breaks everyone else got).

Their response was 'we sell cigarettes, you're 18, go buy a pack."

This was a chain drugstore and this was 1998.

Sadiedog

(353 posts)
53. What an idiotic notion!
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 12:40 AM
Jan 2013

I smoked for over 35 years have not had a cigarette now in 9 months but quitting had nothing at all to do with smoking outside or any shaming but had everything to do with my finances. Also as a person that has Graves disease and got down to 95 pounds before finding out what was wrong with me I discovered how much the thyroid has to do with weight. I am now overweight because of having radiation therapy to kill my thyroid and so now I am hypothyroid rather than hyper. It has absolutely nothing to do with the amount of food I eat. As many have mentioned here health issues can and do cause weight problems. Shaming suffering people is such a disgusting idea!

eridani

(51,907 posts)
72. Yep--husband has this, and his weight cycled up and down by 40lbs until
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 10:01 AM
Jan 2013

--he got his thyroid hormone dosage correct. He changed nothing about his eating habits or exercise patterns the whole time.

nobodyspecial

(2,286 posts)
55. I agree with the losing weight is not easy, but it certainly can be cheap.
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 01:15 AM
Jan 2013

"losing weight is not easy nor is it cheap. Is Callahan willing to start an inexpensive line of organic low fat foods, offer cheap workout equipment, free gym memberships, counseling, and the other tools that help people lose weight? "

You don't need organic or low-fat foods to lose weight. Just cut out all of the processed crap and focus on whole foods. Oatmeal, steal-cut or long cooking, is extremely nutritious. Buy produce that's in season and focus on your grocers specials. The other day at Aldi, I got 2 pounds of carrots, 2 big zucchinis, mushrooms, celery and bananas for $6. Frozen is also a good bet. Eggs, lentils and beans are very inexpensive sources of protein. All those diet foods, low cal options and fat free options are loaded with crap and end up leaving you hungry. Whole foods fill you up.

And you don't need a fancy gym or lots of workout equipment to get fit. Get outside when it's nice and work out in your living room when it's not. Doesn't cost anything to do squats, jumping jacks, pushups, chair dips, etc. Lots of free resources at the library and the Internet for at-home routines. I lost 30 pounds without any fancy diets or gym membership.

Yes, it is NOT easy. But, I think too many people make excuses for not taking charge of their health. Yes, some people have issues, but that certainly is not the majority of the people who are overweight or obese.

niyad

(113,346 posts)
73. how do you propose that people do that who live in areas that have no supermarkets or grocery
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 11:01 AM
Jan 2013

stores, only convenience stores (many urban areas). people in those situations have no access to wonderful fruits and vegetablesl, to whole foods.

perhaps some people do make excuses, but you need to look at the whole environment. for a lot of people, things are not as easy as your post seems to indicate.

nobodyspecial

(2,286 posts)
79. Show me statistics where this is the majority of the overweight people
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 12:03 PM
Jan 2013

Certainly, there are issues that we need to address, but this is *not* the majority of the population. And, in most urban areas, public transportation is an option for people without cars to get to the store. I don't have a grocery store where I can get fresh fruits and vegetables on my corner either.

We can sit here and itemize a list of can'ts or why it is hard, but the fact is that as a nation, we are the fattest we have ever been. People lived in urban areas before. People had genetic predispositions before. People were poor before. Have you ever looked at what people eat each day? So many people are overweight that is has become normalized. We have no sense of what a healthy weight looks like any more.

Weight issues or not, most people eat like crap and don't exercise, which you can do in your home with no equipment. I am dirt poor. I still have managed to prepare nutritious foods and lose weight, which has been a lifelong struggle. I am not exceptional, just determined.

niyad

(113,346 posts)
80. you might try actually looking at the realities of what I asked
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 12:21 PM
Jan 2013

you might also look at the series I mentioned "designing healthy communities" but then, that might challenge your view of how things are.

an atom of empathy and understanding would not be amiss. the attitude of "I did it, so everbody else should do it too" is not very different from the shaming that this cretin mentions.

nobodyspecial

(2,286 posts)
84. And you didn't address anything I said.
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 12:50 PM
Jan 2013

My post was far more than "I did it so everyone else can." But I guess my points are easier to dismiss if we boil it down to such arrogance. And it is a far reach to say that I believe in shaming. I certainly don't advocate this as a successful strategy. Far from it. I was a fat kid and was bullied relentlessly. I know how much this hurts and how it feeds destructive emotional eating. You know nothing about me to make such accusations or generalizations about my thinking.

Yes, there are many systemic changes that need to be made to get to the heart of the problem. I definitely am on board with that. Never said I wasn't. But, guess what? Those take years if not decades to implement. What are we to do in the meantime while we push for those changes. Get fatter? Get more unhealthy? Continue raising kids who develop adult issues like diabetes and high blood pressure?

There are many ways to make it easier. My position is that it is not impossible now for many, many people. The claim I was addressing was that you have to eat expensive, organic foods or have a gym membership to lose weight. I was simply stating that although it can be challenging, it can be done. Not every overweight person is hobbled by some insurmountable challenge. I know plenty of people who have decent jobs, a kitchen, access to fresh foods and no major health issues that are still 20 or 30 pounds overweight. At what point is this an issue that they personally need to confront?

But, feel free to dismiss my notion that in many cases a certain degree of personal responsibility for one's own choices and health comes into play here. I am not claiming this is true in all cases, but health issues like hypothyroidism is the exception, not the rule. I'm tired of this attitude that it is too hard to do, so we just shrug our shoulders and continue to get fatter.

 

Marr

(20,317 posts)
120. Travel to one?
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 03:54 PM
Jan 2013

I live in the middle of a place like the one you describe. There's no supermarket within 3 miles or so, and tons of taco stands and fast food-- but that doesn't mean I have to eat tacos and fast food.

Once every two weeks, I take a trip across the city to a grocery store, and stock up on fresh and frozen vegetables, canned chicken, fruits, etc. My average lunch costs about $2 now, as opposed to the $6 it used to cost, eating the garbage that was close by.

niyad

(113,346 posts)
136. of course, why didn't I think of that? and just how do you travel that measely three miles?
Sat Jan 26, 2013, 12:15 AM
Jan 2013

do you have a car, or do you use public transit? I know people who have to travel 10 or more miles each direction, and they don't have cars, so carrying two weeks worth of groceries isn't exactly easy.

 

Marr

(20,317 posts)
142. Well, life isn't easy-- what can I tell you?
Sat Jan 26, 2013, 01:01 AM
Jan 2013

You sound like you want someone to do it all for you.

To answer your question, I've done it several ways. Public transit/carrying the groceries back (three or four bags with handles isn't that difficult to manage). I've walked and used one of those two-wheeled carts. I've biked and stuffed things into saddle bags and a backpack. And I've driven, alone or with a friend. It's not that hard.

By the way... if you consider three miles to be "measely", then why are you scoffing at the thought of carrying a couple of grocery bags to a bus stop?

niyad

(113,346 posts)
148. where did you get the idea I was referring to myself in any of that? nice try, though.
Sat Jan 26, 2013, 10:53 AM
Jan 2013

as I suggested to another poster, you might want to watch "designing healthy communities" to get some idea of what people in many communities are dealing with.

 

Marr

(20,317 posts)
117. Yep. I'd been carrying an extra 30 pounds or so since college, and endlessly
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 03:48 PM
Jan 2013

trying to melt it off by eating a bit less... but I was just eating a bit less *crap*. My diet was still 100% crap, there was just a little less of it.

As soon as I started tracking what foods I ate (myfitnesspal.com is fantastic), and did an afternoon's worth of research on healthy eating, my food bills were cut in half. Introduced an exercise regimen to compliment it, and that extra 30 pounds disappeared in less than a year. I've never felt better in my life. I even enjoy the exercise now.

 

Marr

(20,317 posts)
122. Thanks!
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 04:03 PM
Jan 2013

Yeah, I've treated it as more of a lifestyle change than a quick fix, so maintaining has been pretty easy. Once I got into shape, exercising became a lot of fun, and there are always new things to try out. I'm doing astanga yoga now and can't believe how strenuous it can be, for the limited space it requires.

u4ic

(17,101 posts)
57. This Nature of Things episode is well worth a look
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 01:26 AM
Jan 2013
http://www.cbc.ca/player/Shows/Shows/The+Nature+of+Things/2011-12/ID/2186429482/

New science links man-made chemicals to the global obesity epidemic. Man-made chemicals may be programming us to be fat - before we're even born.

Apart from being an asshat, Callahan is also not up to date on research. It's not just a calories in, calories out game any more.

eridani

(51,907 posts)
58. Congrats to Callahan for being an accessory after the fact to bullycide
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 01:27 AM
Jan 2013
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Suicide_of_Kelly_Yeomans

In evidence to court, Yeomans was described as a pleasant and friendly girl. However, she was reported to be the victim of repeated harassment and taunting, particularly about her weight. Her parents said that the incessant bullying had left Yeomans feeling miserable. Her mother asserted that she had gone to her daughter's school, Merrill College, Shelton Lock, thirty times to complain about the issue, but received no assistance. School officials, however, claimed they had received only one complaint.

Matters came to a head in September, 1997, when a group of youths reportedly gathered at Yeomans's home on several consecutive nights, on each occasion throwing food at the house and shouting taunts aimed at Yeomans. Her mother later said that the incident prompted Yeomans to tell her family, "It is nothing to do with you Daddy, nothing to do with you Mummy, and nothing to do with you Sarah [her sister]. I have had enough and I'm going to take an overdose."

The parents said they were worried and sought help for their daughter's obvious depression, but did not believe she would carry out her threat to take her own life. However, Yeomans was soon found dead in her bedroom after taking an overdose of painkillers.


Tough to get enough exercise if you can't do it in public for fear of constant vicious abuse.

http://chronicle.augusta.com/stories/1997/03/23/met_205736.shtml

Jacqueline Graham still can't bring herself to show her son's room to a stranger, but you don't need to look past the photos in the living room to see who he was: He was the fat kid who didn't have any friends. The easy target. The mark. It's all there in his eyes: The sweetness. The shyness. The hurt.

At 5 feet 4, 174 pounds, he wasn't the heaviest kid at his school. But he was sensitive, and when others teased him about his weight, when they chased him down the street or smacked the back of his head when the teacher wasn't looking, he sometimes cried. In the social hierarchy of fifth grade at Westwood Heights Elementary School, that put him squarely at the bottom.

WOULD THINGS HAVE been any different at Parkway Middle School? Sammy was to have started sixth grade there that Monday, the morning his father cut him down from the tree.

<snip>

He was logical and precise, gifted not only at puzzles but at music and math. He could dissect complex arguments with lawyerly skill. Yet he liked the same toys as his cousin, an infant. And he was awkward and clumsy; he couldn't even clap. Josh rode a bike before he could.

In the water, his awkwardness vanished. Not in the daytime - he was too ashamed to let anyone see him in his bathing suit. He had to swim in long pants and a shirt. But at night, it was magic, like shedding his body. In the water at night, he was free.

<snip>

He can only imagine how it must have happened, how God must have watched Sammy steal into the yard with a flashlight, a rope and a step stool, having pieced together his final puzzle: The body he hated. The school he feared. The perfect place that awaited his soul.

He could go there. He would go there. It would be easy, like swimming. Just position the stool and climb up, toward heaven. Then step into God's waiting arms.

http://blogs.sfweekly.com/exhibitionist/2011/09/marilyn_wann_bullycide.php

Teens who perceive themselves as "too fat" -- regardless of what they actually weigh -- are more likely to think about suicide and attempt suicide, according to a 2005 study.

In April, two 14-year-old best friends in Minnesota, Haylee Fentress and Paige Moravetz, died in a shared suicide. Haylee was teased for her weight and her red hair. Haylee's aunt, Robin Settle, said that although Haylee wasn't "severely overweight," she was so self-conscious she rarely ate at school.

Brian Head was 15. One day, students were pulling his hair and slapping him. He had been bullied for his weight since seventh grade. He shot himself. In a poem discovered later, Brian described himself, "as an insignificant 'thing,' something to be traded, mangled, and mocked," reports Barbara Colorosa, author of The Bully, the Bullied and the Bystander. Brian's father successfully lobbied for a law in Georgia that makes bullying a crime.

Brian's death wasn't the last weight-related bullycide. In 1996, I heard about 12-year-old Samuel Graham, who hanged himself from the family's backyard tree rather than start junior high and face taunts about his weight.

In 2004, eighth-grader April Himes skipped 53 days of school to avoid weight-based bullying. School officials were unable to stop the harassment, but they also informed her she must attend or face a truancy board and possible juvenile detention. At that news, she hanged herself.



Earth_First

(14,910 posts)
59. Shaming/bullying in regards to one's weight is one of DU's dirty little secrets...
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 01:34 AM
Jan 2013

I see degrading comments to one's weight with Limbaugh and Christie frequently on DU.

I've callled them out; only to be called a GOP appologist, troll etc.

I alert on these threads/responses every time.

2/3 of the time; the comments are permitted to stand.

dawg

(10,624 posts)
124. Keep on fighting and alerting.
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 04:23 PM
Jan 2013

I never alert. It just isn't something that I do. But I do sometimes challenge other posters when they post things that might be hurtful to good people who just happen to be overweight, etc.

For a bunch of supposed liberals, we sure can be a prejudiced, intolerant bunch. Just, you know, not against the same people the Freepers are intolerant to.

TexasBushwhacker

(20,202 posts)
60. There's one problem. There's no healthy amount of tobacco
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 01:35 AM
Jan 2013

A smoker can, and should, quit and never use tobacco again. A person who has a drinking problem can give up drinking entirely. Most people find that easier than just becoming light drinkers. But you can't quit eating. You have to modify your eating habits which is a lot harder. There aren't any grocery stores or restaurants that sell ONLY healthy food. We are constantly bombarded with ads for food, fast food on every street corner etc. I'm fat, but it wouldn't bother me in the least if they decided to get rid of the soda and snack machine at work. I know a lot of people would be pissed though.

ohheckyeah

(9,314 posts)
63. Some smoker's have more trouble quitting than others....
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 01:57 AM
Jan 2013

women have a harder time, generally speaking, than men. Smokers who are in physical pain and who have ADD particularly have trouble smoking. Many alcoholics are self-medicating and without medical intervention for the cause of the self-medication some find it virtually impossible to quit.

It's so easy to look at someone else's problem as being easier to deal with. I won't tell you what you can and should do if you don't tell me what I can and should do.

backscatter712

(26,355 posts)
67. I'm betting this doctor makes money on the side treating eating disorders.
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 02:03 AM
Jan 2013

This proposal would certainly drum up business...

dmallind

(10,437 posts)
74. Meh - telling that his example appeals only to shallow idiots isn't it?
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 11:26 AM
Jan 2013

"If you are overweight or obese, are you pleased with the way that you look?”

Look to whom? Look to achieve what purpose? Which truly great person in history achieved these things because of their "look"? What a fatuous nonsensical thing to give a shit about. I've been a bloated whale and I've been a chiselled athlete and obviously enough everywhere in betwen and I can guarantee my answer to that question would be the same at every stage: "who the fuck cares, and if they do, why should I care about them?"

yellowcanine

(35,699 posts)
77. Is low self esteem more likely with obesity than with smoking?
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 11:51 AM
Jan 2013

That would be an important question to answer before embarking on some kind of campaign based on anti-smoking results. Because shaming absolutely doesn't work when low self esteem is involved. In fact it probably makes things worse.

Scout

(8,624 posts)
78. oh fuck him.
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 11:57 AM
Jan 2013

and fuck low fat organic foods. low fat means more sugar or less taste.

plus, well, fuck him. how stupid do you have to be to realize that fat shaming has been with us since forever, and it doesn't work anyway.

what a maroon.

polly7

(20,582 posts)
81. Yes, he is wrong.
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 12:29 PM
Jan 2013

Providing lower-income areas - with available and reasonably priced, nutritious food and safe areas for children and adults to participate in physical activity would do a lot more than 'shaming' (which is disgusting!). People don't choose to be obese - if the alternatives are there to prevent it ... they'll use them, imho.

Comparing obesity to smoking is just stupid.

eridani

(51,907 posts)
144. You don't. What you have control over is eating and physical activity
Sat Jan 26, 2013, 04:55 AM
Jan 2013
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/2336074?dopt=Abstract

This is a study of 12 twin pairs who were overfed by 1000 calories a day for 100 days. It clearly shows that calories in = calories out does not explain individual differences in fat deposition.

--The average gain was about 18 lbs (range = 9 lbs to 29 lbs), 2/3 of which was fat mass
--The twin pair that gained the least gained about 6.5 lbs of fat, and the twin pair that gained the most gained 19 lbs of fat
--The total number of calories overfed for all subjects was about 84,000.
--Not a single one of the subjects stored all of the extra calories as fat.
--The pair that gained the least stored 22,000 calories as fat.
--The pair that gained the most stored 68,000 calories as fat.
--Neither of these numbers is 84,000, so the notion that all calories you consume over what you “need” become fat is bullshit.
--Since energy balance has to account for the missing calories, something must have else happened to them.

What happened to them was solely dependent on genetic differences between the twin pairs, which were dramatic.

If the effects of overfeeding are so dramatically different for twin pairs, it is highly likely that underfeeding will demonstrate equally dramatic differences.

You can decide to eat less and exercise more, but you have absolutely no control over the effects these changes make on your body.

nobodyspecial

(2,286 posts)
149. Where did I argue that calories in equal calories out?
Sat Jan 26, 2013, 12:59 PM
Jan 2013

The amount of muscle, types of fiber and number of fat cells and location are all genetically determined before birth. All of this would account for differences in metabolism. You may not have any control over that, but you do have control over how much you eat and exercise. If you see you are gaining a lot of weight, then you have to do something different. You do have control over your actions.

And, yes, life's not fair. Some people can eat like crap and never gain weight while others need to be very, very careful.

And before you assume that I am just so smug because I never had issues, I'll let you know that I've been in a lifelong struggle with my weight. It's hard work and sometimes sucks but it can be done.

eridani

(51,907 posts)
161. The trouble is that "doing something" will not necessarily put you anywhere near "ideal" weight
Sun Jan 27, 2013, 01:07 AM
Jan 2013

It will merely make you healthier. However, that is just not enough for the weight Nazis like Callahan.

Lots of people would rather have a life, and therefore focus on healthier activities instead of weight

hobbit709

(41,694 posts)
87. I had some clown give me shit in the supermarket checkout about what I was buying.
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 12:57 PM
Jan 2013

told me it wasn't healthy to eat meat.
I told him I had a health tip for him too
"You'll live a lot longer if you keep your nose out of other people's business"

Scout

(8,624 posts)
121. excellent!!!
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 03:59 PM
Jan 2013

"You'll live a lot longer if you keep your nose out of other people's business"

yup.

 

quinnox

(20,600 posts)
94. its interesting research
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 02:12 PM
Jan 2013

to be sure. I think it is worth a try, in the interest of science. Obese people could volunteer and be paid for their time.

Hekate

(90,714 posts)
96. Maybe he could ask the fashion industry to use skinnier models
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 02:16 PM
Jan 2013


There is already an overabundance of fat-shaming in this culture, and not enough action on the causes of obesity, which are complex and multi-faceted.

bluestateguy

(44,173 posts)
102. Yes, it might cause some people to lose weight
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 02:33 PM
Jan 2013

And countless other fat people would commit suicide or withdraw from society all together.

Positive incentives is still the best way to go. Not "shaming".

 

avaistheone1

(14,626 posts)
103. Negative reinforcement.
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 02:34 PM
Jan 2013

I don't think that works. I believe it actually causes people to eat even more to comfort themselves from the shame.

Ian David

(69,059 posts)
104. Here's a photo of that four-eyed gray-haired wrinkle-face Daniel Callahan
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 02:35 PM
Jan 2013


Hey, nice jowls, mole-face.


Just being helpful.

 

kestrel91316

(51,666 posts)
107. Walking is FREE and shoes are cheap. Walking is the BEST exercise for overweight people.You don't
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 03:09 PM
Jan 2013

need to eat organic to lose weight - that's just nonsense with no scientific basis whatsoever and you MADE IT UP.

Money is not a legitimate reason for fat people to remain fat.

Hekate

(90,714 posts)
108. Back when I was on a med that unbeknownst to me caused uncontrollable cravings...
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 03:11 PM
Jan 2013

... My primary doc would talk to me about losing weight. Diet. Exercise. All that. But the worst was my GYN, a woman, who told me flat out that she knew my internist and that he, like she, did not want to have patients who refused to take care of themselves.

Is that "shaming" enough for you, Dr. Callahan?

I was SO ashamed of myself for my loss of control. Up until my early 40s I was routinely told I looked at least 10 years younger than my actual age. But the inexorable weight gain took that and so much else from me.

It was not until 20 years had gone by that I was changed off that medication. It took a month or so of reduced dosages before the last one, but within 24 hours of it clearing my system I felt like a switch in my brain had been turned off. It was that dramatic and noticeable. The cravings left me.

But hey! I am now pre-diabetic. Arthritis of the knees is exacerbated. My personal metabolism is post-menopausal. Aaaaand, in that time the food industry put HFCS into everything.

I'm working at it, and I'll have to work at it the rest of my life. But I have to say that I am furious at the various doctors who had the information in front of them and put all the blame on me, personally.

PS: If Dr. Callahan wants to see fat-shaming, he should just visit DU and its archives.

 

justanidea

(291 posts)
110. Shaming overweight people is stupid.
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 03:16 PM
Jan 2013

Most who are overweight are already self-conscious about it. Shaming them wont motivate them to lose weight. That being said, the whole "big is beautiful" movement is equally moronic. It just encourages an unhealthy lifestyle.

Losing weight isn't rocket science. Eat less calories than your body uses. It's that simple. No miracle diets needed. Unfortunately many people don't get this and instead just latch onto the latest, greatest miracle diet, which they try and then give up on since after 2 weeks they don't look like a model. Then they procede to justify their lack of determination by trying to convince themselves they are overweight due to some "Medical condition". Sorry but 90%+ of the people who are overweight are that way due to an unhealthy lifestyle.

If you're overweight, fixing it is fairly simple. Cut out junkfood, shrink down your proportions when you eat, and get some exercise. You don't have to spend 3 hours in the the gym, just go for a mile or two jog each day. If you can't jog, walk. If your body is using more calories than it takes in you will lose weight. End of discussion.

I know, I was chubby in high school. It took 2+ years of dieting and bodybuilding but I eventually got to where I was happy with my body.

eridani

(51,907 posts)
145. You can't eat less than your body uses over long time periods
Sat Jan 26, 2013, 05:17 AM
Jan 2013

That's because if you eat less, your body adjusts to use less.

exboyfil

(17,863 posts)
111. What we face
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 03:18 PM
Jan 2013

Dollar MenuYour stomach is empty – and so is your wallet. Good thing there's the Dollar Menu. Freshly-prepared faves, like the McDouble or a Sausage Biscuit, are a tasty way to fill up for less.

McDonald's McDouble - 390 calories, 23g protein, 19g fat for $1 (8 g saturated)

No way you can match this given the time needed to fix meals at home

I paid a $1.20 for two egg whites and salsa at my company's cafeteria - 8 grams of protein and about 50 caloires. Same price for two eggs and salsa which would be about 200 calories, 12 g of protein, 14g of fat (2 g saturated)

Healthy eating is hard and expensive.





 

Marr

(20,317 posts)
115. If people want to be fat, I say let them.
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 03:33 PM
Jan 2013

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If you want to be unhealthy and live a shorter life, who am I to insist you change? However, I doubt there are many people who get up in the morning and say, "I sure am glad to be obese".

I expect there are plenty of people who aren't happy being obese, but just don't know how to go about changing it. Shaming won't do them any good, but neither will "fat acceptance". They just need information.

eridani

(51,907 posts)
147. No they don't--they have information
Sat Jan 26, 2013, 05:35 AM
Jan 2013

What they need is the time and motivation to make getting to and maintaining ideal weight the entire purpose of their lives. And no, losing 30 lbs or so is not going to turn really fat people into "normal" people.

nachosgrande

(66 posts)
123. Just one man but it worked for me
Fri Jan 25, 2013, 04:14 PM
Jan 2013

My family members told me I was fat and flat out mocked me when I showed up obese to a family vacation in 2007 (I had been battling depression and weight issues for the prior three years). It was definitely a tipping point for me. I was pissed as hell and felt ashamed and disgusted, so when I got back home I started jogging (all you need is a pair of sneakers) and completely revamped my diet - cut out the fast foods, fried foods, refined sugars, and started cooking all of my meals from scratch. No crash diet. Just limited my calorie intake to 2000/day. Once I reached 2000, no more food for the day. I ended up losing sixty pounds in just a few months. The best part was that my mental health ills basically went away with the weight and bad diet. Since then, I've kept the weight off and gotten myself into the fittest shape of my life - even ran my first marathon a few months back (and beat Paul Ryan).

Having said all that, a public shaming campaign could obviously do more harm than good, and I am in no way an advocate of such an approach. In my opinion, we need to keep increasing our education efforts to highlight the negative effects obesity has both financially and to quality of life.

Jackpine Radical

(45,274 posts)
151. This is insane.
Sat Jan 26, 2013, 01:09 PM
Jan 2013

Anybody think fat people aren't already carrying around a weight of shame at least equal to their excess adipose poundage?

Anybody not think that their already activated shame, and often clinical depression, doesn't make it harder for them to lose weight?

MineralMan

(146,317 posts)
153. Shaming of any kind is ineffective and often cruel.
Sat Jan 26, 2013, 01:51 PM
Jan 2013

It can have exactly the reverse effect than the one intended. It is just another form of bullying.

CBHagman

(16,986 posts)
155. Given that there are multiple reasons for obesity rates...
Sat Jan 26, 2013, 02:09 PM
Jan 2013

...Callahan's idea is unhelpful as it is mean-spirited.

It's true that we have to change the culture, but that's been created out of, among other things, technology and the trend towards sedentary lifestyles.

mzteris

(16,232 posts)
157. Bullsh*t.
Sat Jan 26, 2013, 02:33 PM
Jan 2013

Some people have medical conditions.

Some people take medications that cause the weight gain.

Some people are genetically disposed to being "heavier".

That being said, yes, we need to promote better - cheaper nutritious foods, more exercise, more MEDICAL care.

We should re-institute COOKING the children's lunch in school with appropriate local VEGETABLES and cooked daily, fresh, and with care as opposed to the prepackaged reheated unhealthy GLOP that is supposed to pass for food. My youngest has never had a "school lunch" in his life. Put RECESS and elementary school supervised PE/Recess (the kids think it's recess, but it's really a PE class disguised as play) back into the school day. Make PE a FOUR YEAR part of high school, not one year. (A school sport can count, though.)

We need an initiative to TURN OFF THE TV and the gd VIDEO GAMES - lets shame THAT behaviour!!! - and get the kids back outside playing. Riding bikes, running, jumping, climbing, etc.

DO NOT SHAME PEOPLE BECAUSE OF THEIR WEIGHT! You might motivate some adults to get off their ass and to a gym, or start eating fewer chips and more veggies and join weight watchers - though honestly - does anyone here actually believe that FAT SHAMING ISN"T GOING ON EVERY SINGLE DAY???

This is beyond ridiculous. This "scholar" is a IDIOT who shouldn't be allowed anywhere near a school or public forum of any kind. He obviously has no freaking idea what he is blithering about.

LibertyLover

(4,788 posts)
160. Wow! Just what I want more of in my life - more guilt trips
Sat Jan 26, 2013, 03:51 PM
Jan 2013

because of my weight. Am I overweight? Yes, I am. Do I know it? It's difficult not to notice, thanks. Does putting more guilt and shame on me because of how I look help me want to control my weight? No, it just makes me want to hide, disappear and to die. Yeah!!! I'll be dead and no thin person will need to look at me again. Of course the downside to that is that my non-working husband and my 10 year old daughter will be destitute, but, what the hell, I won't be around to upset some nice thin person with my large body. Hey, it's a win-win!

What an idiot this bioethicist is.

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