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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsI try to be a forgiving person and but sometimes when you deal with a certain type of person
I just can't find a way to forgive. The person in this article & the people he worked with screwed up so many peoples life's and even caused deaths, I just cannot find it in me to forgive them.
Former Ex-Gay Staffer Apologizes to LGBT Community
The so-called ex-gay movement was left in shambles when Exodus International announced it was shutting down in June, and the groups leader, Alan Chambers, publicly apologized for the harm it had caused LGBT people over the years for insisting they could be turned straight.
Now Randy Thomas, another long-term supporter and former employee of Exodus, has also issued an apology to the LGBT community for the damage the ex-gay organization caused.
I participated in the hurtful echo chamber of condemnation," Thomas writes on his blog. "I gave lip service to the gay community, but really did not exemplify compassion for them. I apologize to the gay community for idealizing and reinforcing the institutional groupthink of Exodus. I apologize for remaining publicly silent about the hurt caused by some of Exodus leaders and actions. I also apologize for my inexperienced participation in public policy, placing my personal ambition over truly serving the gay community as a Christian friend.
http://www.advocate.com/politics/2013/07/24/former-ex-gay-supporter-apologizes-lgbt-community
darkangel218
(13,985 posts)I wouldn't either.
William769
(55,147 posts)It's hard to say how I feel about this because my emotions just run to high.
MADem
(135,425 posts)I wonder, if that joint hadn't shut its doors, the former touters of the program would be so quick to deny it.
The paychecks have stopped. The enthusiasm was purchased.
William769
(55,147 posts)MADem
(135,425 posts)They know what they did was wrong, and they know they did it for the cash...
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)The horror they suffered under these people are unspeakable. Forgiveness is hard and a simple statement is not going to cut it for many people.
William769
(55,147 posts)Now that you mention it, there is a lot that they could do to make amends instead of just a statement.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)Pretzel_Warrior
(8,361 posts)But regardless of how upsetting their stance was to you, if they were doing so based on their sincere belief and have now done a 180 quite publicly, why not think about forgiveness? You must admit that unlike a relatively uncommitted person choosing to reject gay rehabilitation, this highly prominent leader in the movement rejecting it is powerful beyond description.
Warpy
(111,329 posts)as the god they so fervently believed in turned his back and refused to "cure" them.
Forgiving them doesn't mean there won't be schadenfreude when the multiple lawsuits have the two of them moving into cardboard condos under an overpass.
Lordquinton
(7,886 posts)Restitution comes well before that, they must restore what they damaged, which will be a long task for them. After that, maybe forgiveness will begin.
Warpy
(111,329 posts)If it's the former, that's the beginning of forgiveness.
William769
(55,147 posts)Warpy
(111,329 posts)and I'm working on 4 hours' sleep last night. Maybe there is nothing to follow?
DonRedwood
(4,359 posts)and some people, these men, deserve it.
I'd turn my back to them were I to be introduced.
Douglas Carpenter
(20,226 posts)would have found it near impossible to accept that they were gay. Their whole belief system and social order would have required them to construct vast webs of self-deception just to face life. It is encouraging when someone with that sort of deep, deep religious indoctrination finally breaks through. They undoubtedly had put themselves through hell before they reached that point.
William769
(55,147 posts)I never even came close to this.
Douglas Carpenter
(20,226 posts)reality. Some people are simply more susceptible to the whole sexual guilt thing then others. Some people do go through stages where they GENUINELY believe they are being delivered from the satanic curse of homosexuality. When reality catches up with them - they may have so much of their emotional system and are so deeply socialized into the Evangelical sub-culture that they cannot imagine any other path in life. Also, I think in earlier times - 40 years ago and more - I am sure even most gay people would have welcomed a cure if they thought it was possible. And fundamentalism promised them that it was.
William769
(55,147 posts)alittlelark
(18,890 posts)"...truly serving the gay community as a Christian friend. .......yeah better LGBT support at your local pest exterminator.
Not accepting apology w/o SERIOUS rectifying of issues.
Skittles
(153,178 posts)because of the damage he did, maybe he should do more than apologize
William769
(55,147 posts)Skittles
(153,178 posts)it doesn't sound like one of those pathetic non-apologies - perhaps a LGBT group could contact him with ideas for true atonement
vlyons
(10,252 posts)hold the thought and hope in your mind that some day in the future, you can find a way to forgive. Don't close your mind to at least the possibility that you CAN forgive. That will help you tremendously to overcome your bitterness and anger at how you were unfairly hurt.