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phantom power

(25,966 posts)
Thu Aug 1, 2013, 02:40 PM Aug 2013

Misogynist Trolls Have An Agenda, And It’s Not Lulz

I’d like to recommend a couple of interesting pieces by Paul Mason and Lindy West, who have a point that I think bears stressing: Trolls are real people and they have an agenda outside of some vague “need for attention”. They are misogynists, and as I said during the CONvergence panel on this subject, it’s important to understand that misogynists believe they are in the right. Indeed, they are incredibly dogged and self-righteous, as Mason found out when he first decided to explore online misogyny—they get really mad when you do this, by the way, because part of their self-righteous worldview includes a belief that they should be able to push their agenda without being examined or questioned too closely.

...

Of course, Mason interviews the guys who claim they’re just in it for the “lulz” and discovers to no one’s great surprise that actually, these trolls have deep hatred and resentment of women and actually do take the mission to silence women very, very seriously. They just can’t quite admit that to themselves, because part of the identity of the misogynist is to deny that he is a misogynist—he loves women as long as they know they are subhuman sex/reproduction appliances put here to serve, so how can he hate women?!—so the amount of rationalization that goes on is astounding.

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The seething rage on display from so many men (and their female supporters) all the time on the internet is educational; it makes it much harder to hand wave and pretend that rape and sexual harassment are a matter of miscommunication, that anti-choice sentiment is a result of some kind of affection for “life”, and that women’s failure to reach economic and social equality is a matter of women’s failures instead of widespread sentiment that women don’t deserve said equality. Seeing the livid rage of devoted Republican voters at the very existence of independent women sharing their thoughts and opinions online makes it very difficult indeed to see Republican policies that hurt women as being merely coincidental. So this shit matters.

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West is right; it’s time to stop thinking of trolls as idiots who are just seeking attention, and see them for what they are: Misogynists with a political agenda. These are men that absolutely do not want to live in a society where women are treated equally, and they are obsessed with silencing the women online whose writings they rightfully fear are going to help push society in a more feminist direction. They want to harass feminists into silence. If we keep this understanding front and center and discard useless theories about “attention-seeking” or “lulz”, we can begin to have a more productive conversation about what the hell to do about the problem.

http://www.rawstory.com/rs/2013/08/01/misogynist-trolls-have-an-agenda-and-its-not-lulz/
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Misogynist Trolls Have An Agenda, And It’s Not Lulz (Original Post) phantom power Aug 2013 OP
I think that's probably right GiaGiovanni Aug 2013 #1
Very well said BrotherIvan Aug 2013 #2
That very thing happened here on DU when two of my favorite posters were chased away LanternWaste Aug 2013 #3
Oh, please. Pab Sungenis Aug 2013 #4
Here on DU there are plenty of misogynists of just the sort this article describes. Squinch Aug 2013 #5
Seriously? There are plenty of established posters liberalhistorian Aug 2013 #7
Ya think? QuestForSense Aug 2013 #8
Very well said. Standing ovation here. Whisp Aug 2013 #14
Nicely said. Squinch Aug 2013 #19
Links, please. Pab Sungenis Aug 2013 #23
I'm guessing you're in for a loooong wait.. opiate69 Aug 2013 #28
:snort: so you can tell us how that's not really misogynist, and we are being oversensitive, and Scout Aug 2013 #31
This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Aug 2013 #34
M is for..... opiate69 Aug 2013 #35
You act like an innocent noob who never set foot into meta, boston bean Aug 2013 #134
This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Aug 2013 #136
And you had nothing to do with it. LOL boston bean Aug 2013 #137
Fetch them your self. If you haven't read all those statement here multiple times, then you weren't bettyellen Aug 2013 #49
Then you should be able to provide them. Pab Sungenis Aug 2013 #59
And you could find them your own damned self, if you were truly interested. LOL. bettyellen Aug 2013 #67
I'm not the one making the accusation. Pab Sungenis Aug 2013 #74
No one here is actually required to find links for you. We are discussing something we have seen bettyellen Aug 2013 #79
And if you use what you think you've seen as an excuse to attack all men Pab Sungenis Aug 2013 #92
This makes little sense. But no, I am not searching for jack shit for you. Thought I made that clear bettyellen Aug 2013 #96
I don't give a shit. Pab Sungenis Aug 2013 #101
You can't always get what you want. bettyellen Aug 2013 #107
Misandry is tolerated? Well now I wonder if YOU will provide links supporting YOUR claim? Nine Aug 2013 #112
The way I'm being treated in this thread is a good example. Pab Sungenis Aug 2013 #119
THESE are your examples of misandry? Nine Aug 2013 #125
The first one isn't "misandry" treestar Aug 2013 #151
I'm pretty sure if the mirror statement was made about women it would be labeled as misogyny Major Nikon Aug 2013 #158
I was gonna ask the same thing hfojvt Aug 2013 #120
How many thousands do you want? Major Nikon Aug 2013 #141
You attack all men, is the accusation. Well, I know you don't. boston bean Aug 2013 #94
is that what Pab was trying to say? LOL, I needed that translation! bettyellen Aug 2013 #100
Don't you have to get links to prove the assertion in your last sentence? treestar Aug 2013 #149
you may not know this hfojvt Aug 2013 #87
I rarely read gun threads, so I would refrain from telling people what goes on in gun threads.... bettyellen Aug 2013 #93
I think he is right on hfojvt Aug 2013 #111
wow, way to go, privileged white dude. we are so sorry that you need to be exposed to other bettyellen Aug 2013 #117
so you won't provide the requested evidence hfojvt Aug 2013 #122
that white privilege exists! bettyellen Aug 2013 #123
Notice also the obvious "privilege" conflations Major Nikon Aug 2013 #159
There is currently a thread BainsBane Aug 2013 #65
So rude comments do not rise to the level of violence? ProudToBeBlueInRhody Aug 2013 #128
No, they most certainly do not BainsBane Aug 2013 #130
Pab Sungenis... theHandpuppet Aug 2013 #140
yep. bettyellen Aug 2013 #164
Here's the really sad part Major Nikon Aug 2013 #143
Sigh theHandpuppet Aug 2013 #144
It was a bit wordy, so I didn't read much of it Major Nikon Aug 2013 #154
Heh. (nt) Inkfreak Aug 2013 #147
You didn't realize we do spend all day in public - in the market , LOL? And you have no clue what it bettyellen Aug 2013 #165
"you have no clue" Major Nikon Aug 2013 #170
Oh dear, you assume cooking makes you understand what women's lives are like, LOL. bettyellen Aug 2013 #173
I'm just pointing out how your obvious display of sexism was dead wrong Major Nikon Aug 2013 #174
I live in New Orleans. Going to the Market is a normal thing. Katashi_itto Nov 2013 #181
Great post. nt raccoon Aug 2013 #24
+100000 JustAnotherGen Aug 2013 #26
Well said. Their agenda in obvious. nt sufrommich Aug 2013 #27
Yep. People have to be pretty blind not to see that those types are around here. (nt) Posteritatis Aug 2013 #40
Thank you. Most of us have run into at least one of those Warpy Aug 2013 #51
There are a few BainsBane Aug 2013 #64
That's bullshit the two posters mentioned were bullied and called out constantly even Arcanetrance Aug 2013 #11
More of a problem of misandry? That's horseshit. Gormy Cuss Aug 2013 #13
lol Sheldon Cooper Aug 2013 #15
this is akin to people claiming that gay people have too much control of du. nt La Lioness Priyanka Aug 2013 #16
Oh jeez, menz complaining about the poor oppresssed menz. nt geek tragedy Aug 2013 #18
+1000 Katashi_itto Aug 2013 #20
Ridic. Starry Messenger Aug 2013 #62
Exhibit A! Thank you! WinkyDink Aug 2013 #89
As long as people are still asking, "what was the rape victim wearing?" LanternWaste Aug 2013 #124
Agree Katashi_itto Nov 2013 #182
This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Aug 2013 #6
Does the little boy group still exists? trumad Aug 2013 #9
This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Aug 2013 #10
I rest my case. Pab Sungenis Aug 2013 #22
And by "a long time", you mean five minutes ago ProudToBeBlueInRhody Aug 2013 #129
shit...I put the little boys group on ignore trumad Aug 2013 #132
Don't even know what you are talking about ProudToBeBlueInRhody Aug 2013 #150
then you don't know much. bettyellen Aug 2013 #162
I guess you don't know what a poll is. ProudToBeBlueInRhody Aug 2013 #179
Both Redqueen and Seabeyond were very active sufrommich Aug 2013 #32
This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Aug 2013 #33
matter of fact they were both active all over DU. Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2013 #55
They chased them away and are still high-fiving each other over it. Sheldon Cooper Aug 2013 #17
This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Aug 2013 #21
That place was a wonderful, beautiful, cluster fuck The Straight Story Aug 2013 #29
This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Aug 2013 #50
I really don't think that is what chased those two away. The dissolving of Meta. Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2013 #36
All I have to go on are my keen skills as an observer of human nature. Warren DeMontague Aug 2013 #37
oh yeah, for reals that ... but, I was speaking to the other thing but, you know Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2013 #38
also, having interacted with those guys over the years, I might speculate that maybe, just maybe Warren DeMontague Aug 2013 #39
me too, Warren, me too. it is -just- a message board after all. Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2013 #42
Or a magnifying glass on the sunnier days... (nt) Posteritatis Aug 2013 #44
fried, yep. Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2013 #46
There always was, I think, but that did affect it Posteritatis Aug 2013 #43
I don't claim to have solution but, I recognize the problem. Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2013 #47
If you are talking mstinamotorcity2 Aug 2013 #156
Who got chased away? dkf Aug 2013 #176
K & R historylovr Aug 2013 #12
Sounds like Mason and West got trolled by the pros. Decoy of Fenris Aug 2013 #25
except too many women haters give themselves away. they arent nearly as smart as bettyellen Aug 2013 #52
Except they're not particularly "women haters". They just say things to piss folks off. Decoy of Fenris Aug 2013 #61
Trust me, there are too many of them in real life to think this is just bettyellen Aug 2013 #69
I never said there weren't such folks in real life. Decoy of Fenris Aug 2013 #73
I can't see how someone who really, really thinks of women as equals... LisaLynne Aug 2013 #75
Then you've missed a generation or two. Decoy of Fenris Aug 2013 #80
I've missed nothing. LisaLynne Aug 2013 #82
I've read the article, and I've done similar to what's in it. Decoy of Fenris Aug 2013 #91
IF you did all that and you think it was just for fun, you are fooling yourself. LisaLynne Aug 2013 #95
I already have, and I am pleased. Decoy of Fenris Aug 2013 #106
ha ha, first "you know people", now you are one of them... is that the fun "evil" trolling bettyellen Aug 2013 #104
I -was- one of them. Feels like a lifetime ago, though it was only a few years. n/t Decoy of Fenris Aug 2013 #115
Not beating their female partners is a tellingly low standard. I'm guessing the cars are nice and bettyellen Aug 2013 #83
Yeah, and I think the age thing may be coming into play here. LisaLynne Aug 2013 #85
Exactly- and any troll that picks on women as a specialty does have an axe to grind.... bettyellen Aug 2013 #90
And a nice little shield to hide behind. LisaLynne Aug 2013 #97
I've met a few too. And they weren't the angels you describe. And they are asses in bettyellen Aug 2013 #78
Oh, assholes are assholes, no doubt there. Decoy of Fenris Aug 2013 #81
what you don't get is that a decent percentage of those acting hateful on the net really are. bettyellen Aug 2013 #86
I don't "Excuse" anything. I understand it. Decoy of Fenris Aug 2013 #102
why do you refer to "them" when you admit here, it is you too? bettyellen Aug 2013 #105
I retired, so to speak. Decoy of Fenris Aug 2013 #108
Out of your depth here too. Goodbye and very good riddance. bettyellen Aug 2013 #110
Hardly. This is a kiddie pool in comparison. Decoy of Fenris Aug 2013 #114
In this subthread your descriptions of LULZers align with many traits of sociopaths. Gormy Cuss Aug 2013 #138
I noticed that too. bettyellen Aug 2013 #163
Or the other option is that these people are sad troglodytes that Dash87 Aug 2013 #148
and sometimes there are groups on the opposite quinnox Aug 2013 #30
So what? Posteritatis Aug 2013 #41
Bravo- all this BS about a few outliers. Thanks for laying it out clearly. bettyellen Aug 2013 #53
Kick & recommended. William769 Aug 2013 #45
According to this article, "abuse" = "gentle condescenscion laden with malice" Warren DeMontague Aug 2013 #48
Did something get mercuryblues Aug 2013 #58
Right. Warren DeMontague Aug 2013 #60
yup mercuryblues Aug 2013 #66
you're post was wrong, and is now corrected. perhaps if you didn't post bulllshit.... bettyellen Aug 2013 #68
It's quite common for them to cherry pick, and then claim others can't understand context. boston bean Aug 2013 #135
It does mercuryblues Aug 2013 #160
It is really bad when a Misoygnist Troll is a female. Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2013 #54
Meh. A tempest in a blog post. But still a chance for some to get their jollies. Oh, well. Comrade Grumpy Aug 2013 #56
Thanks for this demonstration... Z_I_Peevey Aug 2013 #57
k&r Starry Messenger Aug 2013 #63
One poster still can't help himself in this thread. boston bean Aug 2013 #70
Derp Major Nikon Aug 2013 #71
This message was self-deleted by its author JTFrog Aug 2013 #72
I assume you're talking about me. Pab Sungenis Aug 2013 #76
Always interesting when the responses to these types of articles MadrasT Aug 2013 #77
Only in the eyes of Pab Sungenis Aug 2013 #98
This message was self-deleted by its author JTFrog Aug 2013 #116
Yep. just look at the response to you. boston bean Aug 2013 #103
Who is berating women? Pab Sungenis Aug 2013 #113
Here and pretty much anywhere else they're discussed Posteritatis Aug 2013 #121
To paraphrase the Immortal Dr. Seuss: Warren DeMontague Aug 2013 #131
These threads certainly do bring you out. That's for sure! boston bean Aug 2013 #133
I found this part of the article to be really interesting: LisaLynne Aug 2013 #84
^^^^ yes.^^^^ Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2013 #99
it's not painful- it;s just to frightening to think they'd have to go up against their more bullying bettyellen Aug 2013 #109
Power has never wanted to share. Ever. If these men could eliminate all women, they'd turn on each WinkyDink Aug 2013 #88
they would turn on the more vulnerable- chicken shits do that. bettyellen Aug 2013 #118
Amen. WinkyDink Aug 2013 #146
This thread is a good example of why they do it LittleBlue Aug 2013 #126
You have described the antics of those two "feminists" so well. Good job. nt msanthrope Aug 2013 #142
exactly... and the concerted effort some are engaged in... opiate69 Aug 2013 #145
I think they gave as good as they got. The idea that they were victims, as opposed to willing msanthrope Aug 2013 #152
+1 Major Nikon Aug 2013 #157
Interesting that so many on this thread think they know which two posters were referenced. Gormy Cuss Aug 2013 #166
well, their names are mentioned earlier in this thread but, Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2013 #167
And as one of the study authors pointed out, "Ignore" is not my friend. Gormy Cuss Aug 2013 #168
Yes, you are right and it is a shame that subthreads developed because their names were Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2013 #169
Seems to have coincided with improvements to GD LittleBlue Aug 2013 #171
Yes but, you realize that you are admitting that there are, indeed Trolls when you say this: Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2013 #172
And I would suggest that you consider that those two weren't the subject of this thread Gormy Cuss Aug 2013 #175
They live on dating site forums. knitter4democracy Aug 2013 #127
It has taken me far too long in life to understand me b zola Aug 2013 #139
Intersting this thread is still going. Just Saying Aug 2013 #153
good read inspiraven Aug 2013 #155
Women should be seen and not heard. They need to STFU and stay in the kitchen and the bedroom Zorra Aug 2013 #161
What does lulz mean? roody Aug 2013 #177
"lulz" == "laughs" phantom power Aug 2013 #178
Kicked & Recommended In_The_Wind Aug 2013 #180

BrotherIvan

(9,126 posts)
2. Very well said
Thu Aug 1, 2013, 02:56 PM
Aug 2013

Speaking the truth, forcefully in this manner is the way to beat the knuckle-draggers. When we stop tip-toeing around the ignorant and hateful and start pointing out exactly what they are, we may find the apathetic or willfully indifferent open their eyes and "evolve" enough to push back against the Dark Ages onslaught.

 

LanternWaste

(37,748 posts)
3. That very thing happened here on DU when two of my favorite posters were chased away
Thu Aug 1, 2013, 03:26 PM
Aug 2013

"and they are obsessed with silencing the women online whose writings they rightfully fear..."

That very thing happened here on DU when two of my favorite posters were chased away (or, at best, are still in-absentia) due the hate-filled, anti-equality vulgarity directed at them.

However, as cowards so rarely lack the courage of their own convictions, I have no doubt they will refuse stand up to be recognized for their "heroics", and maintain the comfort and safety of anonymity.

 

Pab Sungenis

(9,612 posts)
4. Oh, please.
Thu Aug 1, 2013, 03:34 PM
Aug 2013

Here on DU you can be labeled a misogynist just because one of a certain cabal don't like your tone of typing.

Or because you're a man.

It's getting to the point where we have more of a problem of misandry in this place than misogyny.

liberalhistorian

(20,818 posts)
7. Seriously? There are plenty of established posters
Thu Aug 1, 2013, 04:29 PM
Aug 2013

on here who think child support is male enslavement, who think women are too quick to cry rape and too sensitive about it, (or, worse, that they provoke it and are to blame), who think women are only out to trap men and suck them dry financially, who think domestic violence is either too over-hyped or men are as much or more victims of it despite plenty of research evidence otherwise, (or, even worse, that women somehow provoke it or bring it on themselves and therefore deserve it), who think women have more power than men now and that they're using it to put down men, who think there's total equality now and any woman who says otherwise is just a man-hater or in denial or greedy, who think that if a woman chooses not to have an abortion that the father then shouldn't have to pay child support or be a father, etc., etc., etc., etc. And they're quite proud of it also.

They are as bad as women who blame men for anything and everything and refuse to hold women accountable for anything at all.

Scout

(8,624 posts)
31. :snort: so you can tell us how that's not really misogynist, and we are being oversensitive, and
Fri Aug 2, 2013, 12:15 PM
Aug 2013

really WE are being the misandrists, etc. etc. etc.



Response to Scout (Reply #31)

boston bean

(36,221 posts)
134. You act like an innocent noob who never set foot into meta,
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 04:57 PM
Aug 2013

when in fact, you were a staple in that forum.

It could have been called the warren demontague snarkapalooza with google images forum, and no one would have known the difference! LOL

Also, in these threads, you seem to mock, you seem to have quite a bit to say. Not that you don't have the right to you do, of course, and I would never deny that fact. But what you did in meta is what you are doing in this thread. Really adding nothing of substance, but ridiculing feminists in a snarky way, making it well known, you think feminists are man haters who hate sex. That's a fair assessment, amirite?

Response to boston bean (Reply #134)

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
49. Fetch them your self. If you haven't read all those statement here multiple times, then you weren't
Fri Aug 2, 2013, 05:51 PM
Aug 2013

paying attention. Many of us have been.

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
67. And you could find them your own damned self, if you were truly interested. LOL.
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 09:41 AM
Aug 2013

I know better than to think that.

 

Pab Sungenis

(9,612 posts)
74. I'm not the one making the accusation.
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 10:46 AM
Aug 2013

So I'm not required to back it up.

I don't deny that there are misogynists on DU. But I DO deny that they do so with impunity. I also deny it's as big a problem as some think it is.

I remember the fight over "feminist martyr" S.E. Cupp, where those of us who said she wasn't qualified for her job were roundly branded misogynists. That kind of overreaction is based in the misandry of certain people on here. And anti-male posts regularly get a pass by juries.

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
79. No one here is actually required to find links for you. We are discussing something we have seen
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 10:53 AM
Aug 2013

plenty of times. Waaaay too many times for a progressive site. We know loads of people will want to live in denial and they are a waste of time. If you missed it, you ain't paying attention. And you're wasting my time.

 

Pab Sungenis

(9,612 posts)
92. And if you use what you think you've seen as an excuse to attack all men
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:11 AM
Aug 2013

then back up your claims. Otherwise, consider on what you are basing your view.

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
96. This makes little sense. But no, I am not searching for jack shit for you. Thought I made that clear
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:17 AM
Aug 2013

"Otherwise, consider on what you are basing your view. "
Um, yeah whatever that was supposed to mean.

If you actually gave a shit, you'd do research- but I am too smart to think that is the case.
Goodbye.

 

Pab Sungenis

(9,612 posts)
101. I don't give a shit.
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:19 AM
Aug 2013

I just want you to back up your complaints.

Misogyny is not tolerated here on DU. Misandry too often is. Neither should be tolerated.

Nine

(1,741 posts)
112. Misandry is tolerated? Well now I wonder if YOU will provide links supporting YOUR claim?
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:33 AM
Aug 2013

Asking for a link is appropriate when someone makes a narrow statement of fact. Not so much for broader observations. I don't have a bunch of links proving that racism is all too common in the US. I have the observations of a lifetime. Anyone who would dispute racism in the US based on the fact that I haven't spent my lifetime collecting links to support this observation is just nuts. Misogyny is shockingly common on DU. That is the long term observation of me and many others.

Nine

(1,741 posts)
125. THESE are your examples of misandry?
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 12:06 PM
Aug 2013

Well thanks for providing links, I guess, but I looked at your first few links and I'm not seeing a lot of misandry. If there's disdain, it mostly seems directed at misogynists, not men generally. As for your being gay, I wasn't aware that you were gay and I wasn't aware there was a stereotype about gay men being misogynists. I would be more likely to assume a misogynist was a heterosexual male than anything. If people are responding to you negatively on this thread, it probably has much more to do with the views you're expressing than the fact that you're male or gay.

Major Nikon

(36,827 posts)
158. I'm pretty sure if the mirror statement was made about women it would be labeled as misogyny
Sun Aug 4, 2013, 05:18 AM
Aug 2013

...by the same poster.

So it's either misandry or the DU definition of misogyny is skewed in favor of one gender over another.

Imagine the outrage if women's vaginas (complete with the vulgar reference to that body part) were deemed huge simply because the poster didn't like their politics or opinions. Would that be misogyny?

http://www.google.com/search?q=%22little+dick%22&sitesearch=democraticunderground.com

hfojvt

(37,573 posts)
120. I was gonna ask the same thing
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:47 AM
Aug 2013

a link or two showing that misandry was tolerated

but your claim is a broad one and harder to define

"misogyny is shockingly common on DU" is broad, and how do you define misogyny? Is it misogyny for me to object to the notion of "male privilege"?

But liberalhistorian made some narrow claims. She claimed that MANY posters on DU "think there's total equality now and any woman who says otherwise is just a man-hater or in denial or greedy," and also that MANY posters "think child support is male enslavement".

So there are say, twenty "established posters" who are going to make those claims, or just ten making each claim?

boston bean

(36,221 posts)
94. You attack all men, is the accusation. Well, I know you don't.
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:15 AM
Aug 2013

You speak out against misogynist trolls whose tactics are to claim you are attacking all men.

thanks for doing so.

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
100. is that what Pab was trying to say? LOL, I needed that translation!
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:19 AM
Aug 2013

Have they gotten it through their head that the "gimme links" tantrums do not work on me?

The links will be right next to the beer and sandwich, in their dreams.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
149. Don't you have to get links to prove the assertion in your last sentence?
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 08:51 PM
Aug 2013

What's good for the goose, etc.

hfojvt

(37,573 posts)
87. you may not know this
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:07 AM
Aug 2013

but I would guess that 90% of DU does not read 90% of DU.

There are tens of thousands of posts on this forum every day. Nobody here reads them all. I am guessing that most people here do not even read 10% of them. Remember, even to read 10% of them would mean you are reading 1,000 posts a day.

It is not snobbishness or putting people on ignore or putting blinders on, it is just the sheer volume of posts and numbers of people.

Although for myself, sometimes I will read a thread title and think "good grief, I am not going anywhere near that flamewar inferno."

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
93. I rarely read gun threads, so I would refrain from telling people what goes on in gun threads....
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:14 AM
Aug 2013

but I do read a lot on women's issues, and feel confident explaining what I know I have seen.
This poster is either talking out their ass, or picking nits. They have not convinced me they give a shit.

hfojvt

(37,573 posts)
111. I think he is right on
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:33 AM
Aug 2013

but I could have missed some things.

He/she is demanding proof for a fairly outrageous statement

"there are PLENTY of established posters who ..."

and given that list of beliefs, I would be surprised and shocked if there were more than TWO such established posters on DU who believed even TWO of the things on that list.

I think that rant is mostly hyperbole. There are some established posters who dispute some things people say about women's issues. Perhaps even MANY such posters.

I would not dispute that, because I am probably one of them. I have my disputes even with some things which are part of the Liberal Nicene Creed. Things like "male privilege" or "unequal pay" (and I happen to be somewhat of an economist) and have scoffed at the notion of a "rape culture" in this country.

Now it is one thing to be very angry at the things I have actually said, or the way I said them, and it is another thing to say that, for example, because I scoff at the idea of "rape culture" that I believe (or have ever said) I "think women are too quick to cry rape and too sensitive about it, (or, worse, that they provoke it and are to blame)" or I "think there's total equality now and any woman who says otherwise is just a man-hater or in denial or greedy."

Until a few examples are provided, that list reads like a bunch of strawmen.

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
117. wow, way to go, privileged white dude. we are so sorry that you need to be exposed to other
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:37 AM
Aug 2013

people who walked the earth's analysis and opinions- and without hem giving you foot notes.
That must really suck for you!

hfojvt

(37,573 posts)
122. so you won't provide the requested evidence
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:51 AM
Aug 2013

but you will provide some insults.

You realize that provides evidence of some other things that you may not have wanted to prove.

Major Nikon

(36,827 posts)
159. Notice also the obvious "privilege" conflations
Sun Aug 4, 2013, 06:25 AM
Aug 2013

"male privilege" = "white privilege". Evidently the poster makes absolutely no distinction between the two terms, even though male non-whites suffer the effects of lack of privilege disproportionately compared to female non-whites. Asking someone like this to actually back up their assertions is like asking a cop where is the best place to buy a dime bag.

BainsBane

(53,031 posts)
65. There is currently a thread
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 03:38 AM
Aug 2013

claiming that women engage in as much violence as men. Of course they define violence as making a rude comment. Have a look at all the posts about false rape allegations in that group, about how public service announcements seeking to combat rape are "misandrist." Look at the threads about the horrible oppression faced by men and the journals of the hosts. You should be able to figure out where to go.

ProudToBeBlueInRhody

(16,399 posts)
128. So rude comments do not rise to the level of violence?
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 01:32 PM
Aug 2013

Got it. You're completely wrong, of course, but I'll be sure to point that out to you when you 180 when it suits your agenda.

BainsBane

(53,031 posts)
130. No, they most certainly do not
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 02:55 PM
Aug 2013

That's not to say they are a good thing to do or acceptable, but they are not violence.

Perhaps the dictionary will help you out: a : exertion of physical force so as to injure or abuse (as in warfare effecting illegal entry into a house)

theHandpuppet

(19,964 posts)
140. Pab Sungenis...
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 06:19 PM
Aug 2013

I'm entering this discussion way too late in the game to know exactly what y'all are talking about at times (I have no idea what the "Meta" thing is) but I can tell you most of us here have dealt with misogyny on a regular basis, some in-your-face and some more subtle. I'm only tossing in an observation here because as chance would have it I had posted just this morning, on LBN, about some men in the UK who had been tweeting women politicians and threatening them with rape, murder and bombing. A poster, responding to the article, described these atrocious and intimidating threats as simply "adverse comments" from a few nutters and scolded the women who complained because what kind of administrative response could they expect from a free service?
This is the kind of thing which many might not even recognize as an example of misogyny. But dismissiveness bordering on disdain is what many of us have had to put up with, even here, year after year. Part of the problem, I think, is that many wouldn't even recognize the inherent misogyny in flipping off rape threats as just some "adverse comments", not to mention scolding the women who complained about it. It's the same kind of lack of self-recognition to be found in many posts I would consider to be homophobic.
Yes, over the course of time I've read some posts which I thought to be guilty of misandry but they pale by comparison to the number, tone and language of misogynic posts here. Condescension, dismissiveness, insulting women by referring to them as body parts (which is, IMO, a type of violence), insulting other men with suggestions of effeminacy, et al.
I've come to believe that you perceive feminists as the enemies of men (and that may be, I hope, a misperception on my part) and that's really a shame. Feminism is an ideal, not the banner for misandry, that belongs to people of all genders.

Major Nikon

(36,827 posts)
143. Here's the really sad part
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 06:49 PM
Aug 2013

If they are so delusional to think a left biased web site is overrun with teh misogynists, imagine the potential for outrage generated by just going out in public to the market. The horror must be absolutely unbearable.

theHandpuppet

(19,964 posts)
144. Sigh
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 07:36 PM
Aug 2013

And your post is exactly the kind to which I was referring in post #140 -- dismissive, derisive and condescending. Oh well. I'm outta here.

Major Nikon

(36,827 posts)
154. It was a bit wordy, so I didn't read much of it
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 10:28 PM
Aug 2013

I have no idea who you are and I'm not sure if I even care, so if you think I was being dismissive, derisive, or condescending towards you then there's a good chance you're exactly the kind I was referring to as well.

Just sayin'

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
165. You didn't realize we do spend all day in public - in the market , LOL? And you have no clue what it
Sun Aug 4, 2013, 11:47 AM
Aug 2013

is like out there? LOL, what do you do, skim over every woman here's postings? Sounds like it.

Major Nikon

(36,827 posts)
170. "you have no clue"
Sun Aug 4, 2013, 01:16 PM
Aug 2013

I do pretty much all the cooking for my family and always have. You can find many of my recipes over in Cooking and Baking where I'm a frequent poster.

Cheers!

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
173. Oh dear, you assume cooking makes you understand what women's lives are like, LOL.
Sun Aug 4, 2013, 04:06 PM
Aug 2013

How delightfully naive and regressive. It seems I was right, you have no idea it't not the 50's and who cooks means jack shit. I am certain however, that you think you deserve some sort of pat on the back if you boast about it here.

Major Nikon

(36,827 posts)
174. I'm just pointing out how your obvious display of sexism was dead wrong
Sun Aug 4, 2013, 04:52 PM
Aug 2013

The implication that gender subjects are beyond the scope of reason is all yours.

Cheers!

 

Katashi_itto

(10,175 posts)
181. I live in New Orleans. Going to the Market is a normal thing.
Wed Nov 20, 2013, 11:16 AM
Nov 2013

In New Orleans almost every guy is an ametuer chef of sorts.

Not many places in the US where you can sit in a coffee shop and see two guys get into a shouting match over cooking processes.

JustAnotherGen

(31,816 posts)
26. +100000
Fri Aug 2, 2013, 10:43 AM
Aug 2013

And I wish those two posters would come back. But - they are tough women who are probably putting their beliefs into practice and action while on hiatus. . . and that will do us all good.

Warpy

(111,253 posts)
51. Thank you. Most of us have run into at least one of those
Fri Aug 2, 2013, 05:56 PM
Aug 2013

poor victims and some of us have used "ignore" as liberally as we do on word jumpers and other pests.

Arcanetrance

(2,670 posts)
11. That's bullshit the two posters mentioned were bullied and called out constantly even
Thu Aug 1, 2013, 05:18 PM
Aug 2013

When the discussion had nothing to do with them. They'd be referenced and bullied the "cabal" you mention are people who aren't going to take the misogynistic crap that shows up here and will call it out. There's not one poster I can find that are anti man .

Gormy Cuss

(30,884 posts)
13. More of a problem of misandry? That's horseshit.
Thu Aug 1, 2013, 05:25 PM
Aug 2013

Oh sure, there is occasional misandry. More often though the claim of misandry is made as a lame retort to posts pointing out misogyny.

Starry Messenger

(32,342 posts)
62. Ridic.
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 01:03 AM
Aug 2013

And several of *my* favorite women posters are gone, gay women who were TS'd or run off because of the abuse here.

 

LanternWaste

(37,748 posts)
124. As long as people are still asking, "what was the rape victim wearing?"
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:57 AM
Aug 2013

As long as people are still asking, "what was the rape victim wearing?" it's still a concern rather than a cabal.

Response to LanternWaste (Reply #3)

Response to trumad (Reply #9)

 

trumad

(41,692 posts)
132. shit...I put the little boys group on ignore
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 04:27 PM
Aug 2013

A long time ago.... by the way...that poll for the hottest celeb still the most popular?

sufrommich

(22,871 posts)
32. Both Redqueen and Seabeyond were very active
Fri Aug 2, 2013, 12:22 PM
Aug 2013

at DU2 and in the feminist forum well before Meta ever existed. Your accusation is without merit,as usual.

Response to sufrommich (Reply #32)

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
55. matter of fact they were both active all over DU.
Fri Aug 2, 2013, 06:22 PM
Aug 2013

seabeyond maybe even more so than Redqueen ... although long ago Redqueen was a regular in the lounge and GD.

Response to Sheldon Cooper (Reply #17)

Response to The Straight Story (Reply #29)

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
36. I really don't think that is what chased those two away. The dissolving of Meta.
Fri Aug 2, 2013, 04:50 PM
Aug 2013

Really, there was other stuff going on In Real Life as far as one of them was concerned. The other one I can not speak to.

Warren DeMontague

(80,708 posts)
37. All I have to go on are my keen skills as an observer of human nature.
Fri Aug 2, 2013, 04:54 PM
Aug 2013

It's pretty apparent, to me at least, from this thread that some people dearly miss meta.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
38. oh yeah, for reals that ... but, I was speaking to the other thing but, you know
Fri Aug 2, 2013, 04:59 PM
Aug 2013

after watching Meta seep all through the rest of DU with its poisonous tentacles, I sometimes wonder if it did serve a purpose keeping it all contained in the cesspool.

Sort of double edged sword or something. a necessary evil.

I don't miss it but, I hate seeing it all over DU.

With it there, if I wanted drama I knew where to go.

Now it seems there is drama every where and no where is safe.

Warren DeMontague

(80,708 posts)
39. also, having interacted with those guys over the years, I might speculate that maybe, just maybe
Fri Aug 2, 2013, 05:00 PM
Aug 2013

they got tired of having the same totally pointless fights over and over again.

I know I do.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
42. me too, Warren, me too. it is -just- a message board after all.
Fri Aug 2, 2013, 05:08 PM
Aug 2013

even if it is some internet experiment. I feel like a bug under a microscope sometimes.

Posteritatis

(18,807 posts)
43. There always was, I think, but that did affect it
Fri Aug 2, 2013, 05:11 PM
Aug 2013

It brought a lot of the more specific, personal grudges a lot of posters have out into the open - it makes it harder to ignore (or miss) it in, say, LBN or GD if there's fifteen threads in Meta where different people are complaining about the conduct of a couple of others, whether the complaints are justified or not.

I adminned a much smaller (but still large), mostly apolitical board a few years back that tried a similar setup for discussing moderation and policy. It was an absolute disaster - a large audience started hanging out there almost exclusively, and when the subforum was shut down the drama it brought out into the open was impossible to ignore everywhere else.

(That said, I'm still happy to see Meta gone; that place was a cesspit.)

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
47. I don't claim to have solution but, I recognize the problem.
Fri Aug 2, 2013, 05:45 PM
Aug 2013

I can remember times past when one of the posters mentioned but not mentioned hung out pretty regularly in the Lounge.

Things sure have changed.

 

Decoy of Fenris

(1,954 posts)
25. Sounds like Mason and West got trolled by the pros.
Fri Aug 2, 2013, 10:26 AM
Aug 2013

The whole Lulsec mission extrapolated outside operational capacity is to perform acts directly against the social norm, "for the lulz", precisely because it gets people riled. These guys (and girls) don't care one way or another about the end result of their actions; they do it for the reaction and they get their jollies when people throw fits or try to understand them, as Mason and West have done. Quinn Norton described the phenomenon in the best way:

"Anons lie when they have no reason to lie. They weave vast fabrications as a form of performance. Then they tell the truth at unexpected and unfortunate times, sometimes destroying themselves in the process. They are unpredictable."

While the OP may have a point in macro, the analysis of the lulz is poor at best and willful ignorance in analysis at worst.

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
52. except too many women haters give themselves away. they arent nearly as smart as
Fri Aug 2, 2013, 05:57 PM
Aug 2013

you are making them out to be.

 

Decoy of Fenris

(1,954 posts)
61. Except they're not particularly "women haters". They just say things to piss folks off.
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 12:52 AM
Aug 2013

There's very little intelligence behind it; they find out what will provoke the most response, and then say/strike at that particular point, solely to entice a reaction.

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
69. Trust me, there are too many of them in real life to think this is just
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 09:56 AM
Aug 2013

a game. Some of us, who have a stake in this shit pay attention.
Others who do not, blow it off as harmless fun. It is not. It makes the net shittier for lots of people.

 

Decoy of Fenris

(1,954 posts)
73. I never said there weren't such folks in real life.
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 10:42 AM
Aug 2013

I know quite a few of these "lulz-worthy" folks. I game with them, I hang out with them, I work with them; they're kind and caring spouses/boyfriends who would trip over themselves for their female counterparts, most of them are happily married with kids. Not a one of them would raise a hand or their voice at any women, let alone their significant others. They're good folks, and they engage in the kind of trollery described in the OP.

Why?

For no reason other than that the reaction makes them laugh. That's it. No ulterior motive, no deep conspiracy, no mommy issues or relationship troubles. To quote one of my coworkers last night on the subject: "Your crying makes us laugh." Also, "Your tears are sweet and taste of jam."

It may be a dark revelation, but some people just like to watch the world burn.

LisaLynne

(14,554 posts)
75. I can't see how someone who really, really thinks of women as equals...
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 10:46 AM
Aug 2013

would also think it's really funny to do the sort of trolling that the article is talking about. I don't think someone who is a good person can really find getting others upset by attacking who they are is funny. I know the kinds of guys you're talking about. I think you're missing a huge part of their personality.

And just not raising a hand to any woman, as you put it, doesn't mean they don't have deep-seated sexist or misogynistic feelings.

 

Decoy of Fenris

(1,954 posts)
80. Then you've missed a generation or two.
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 10:54 AM
Aug 2013

This is the mid-beginning of an age where friends insult, injure and humiliate each other -as signs of affection-. Likewise, it's an era of "Me", where "I got mine so fuq you" is the growing standard. The Internet provides an outlet for everything and anything, and no topic or subject is taboo. Note the recently-growing trend of "Trayvoning", where someone puts on a hoodie, grabs iced tea and skittles, and pretends to play dead, to be photographed and put on the internet for "the lulz". It is not meant to protest anything; it's a fad. A child's murder is now a passing fad. -That- is the growing environment in the world today, and it's rapidly becoming normalized, if it isn't already.

The raising a hand was meant as an example, less to be taken literally and more taken euphemistically.

I'm not saying there aren't genuine "Mens Rights" loonies out there who genuinely believe women are inferior or should be treated as if they were, but I'd bet the vast bulk of the "Lulz" folks are not those people.

LisaLynne

(14,554 posts)
82. I've missed nothing.
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:01 AM
Aug 2013

I think you are really missing something, but I don't harbor any hope of getting you to see that.

I actually sort of see what you're saying -- you don't think these people mean it. They're just goofing off on the internet. It's what people do. Yeah, I've been here on the internet probably way longer than you, so yeah, I've see it all. I've been INVOLVED with it all. BUT what the article, if you read it, actually brings out is that there are people who have gone out and TALKED to these guys and they are coming back with reports that, no, they are not "just" being funny. Their posts and harassment come from a place of true hatred.

 

Decoy of Fenris

(1,954 posts)
91. I've read the article, and I've done similar to what's in it.
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:11 AM
Aug 2013

In games, I've helped destroy real life years of effort and time; I've scammed the equivalent of close to $80,000 worth of real money out of in-game groups, I've wiped out in-game livelihoods and structures that took a decade to come into being. I've worked alongside Anon and one of their subgroups, being a part of Project Chanology most notably. I've done my part to define certain aspects of the internet, both creating and disseminating memes, one in particular reaching megaviral status and is still in use at the moment.

Do you want to know why I, and others like me, do such things? It's very simple; Because we can.

-That- is what "For the lulz" means. Because it makes us laugh. I'm missing nothing, because I've been a part of exactly what the article describes. The two authors can attribute meaningless drivel to "Lulz" folks as much as they wish, but in the end, it's incredibly and utterly simple.

On the net, we have the power to do whatever we want. Any idle thought, any passing notion, all attainable with a whim and a few keystrokes. Whether we use our power for good or evil, assuming such arbitrary notions are a concern (Generally, they're not), is irrelevant in the matter.

I can see where the writers of the article might think they're on to something, and maybe they are, but what they don't understand is that it's far, far bigger than they think, and attempting to dissect one small corner of a phenomenon and claim truth is like trying to say that the entire universe is lifeless aside from Earth, simply because that's what we have observed.

LisaLynne

(14,554 posts)
95. IF you did all that and you think it was just for fun, you are fooling yourself.
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:16 AM
Aug 2013

If you are over 20, I'd suggest, and I honestly mean this in the kindest way you are able to take it, you really take a nice long look at yourself, who you are, who you will become, and what you want your life to have been about.

 

Decoy of Fenris

(1,954 posts)
106. I already have, and I am pleased.
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:27 AM
Aug 2013

I've done things that hundreds of thousands will remember. I've written articles that are still in use fifteen years after their inception. I've written (and re-written, and altered) history in one of the greatest, largest and most enduring games yet known to mankind. I've been published, cited and used as a source. My actions are both myth and history, and in a way, in -my- way, I've become a legend, a folk-tale, looked at in equal parts terror, awe, and reverence. There was a time when my words or thoughts shaped the lives of five hundred thousand people in an instant, and I could shape or unmake any creation.


Be it Dungeons and Dragons, or EVE, or World of Warcraft, or Warhammer, or Magic: The Gathering, or the old Yahoo forums, the Bolter and Chainsword forum, a webcomic or two, and even (in most ways) real life, I've shaped the world around me, not the other way around.

I can't say that I'm disappointed or that I regret any of it. Can you say the same for your life?

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
104. ha ha, first "you know people", now you are one of them... is that the fun "evil" trolling
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:24 AM
Aug 2013

you do to feel such "power". Good god, stay in the basement where you can bask in all that incredible imaginary "power".
If you'd all do that, the world would be a more interesting place. What a sad fucking life you have described for us.

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
83. Not beating their female partners is a tellingly low standard. I'm guessing the cars are nice and
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:01 AM
Aug 2013

the women pretty and that's what makes the poster think all is well in their troll lives.
It's very telling that this poster thinks he knows all about their perfect little lives. Incredibly naive, if not BS he's pulling out of his ass. I don't know a decent person who does that shit over the age of sixteen.

LisaLynne

(14,554 posts)
85. Yeah, and I think the age thing may be coming into play here.
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:06 AM
Aug 2013

I can forgive it, perhaps, in 16 year olds, but you do need to grow past that. If you're still doing it even in your early 20s, let alone your early 30s, there's something else going on.

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
90. Exactly- and any troll that picks on women as a specialty does have an axe to grind....
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:09 AM
Aug 2013

even if they are keeping up appearances to their friend, they have an anger that the net is giving them an outlet for. And the net gives them clubby little pockets whee they can feel normal in their hatred with other assholes.

LisaLynne

(14,554 posts)
97. And a nice little shield to hide behind.
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:17 AM
Aug 2013

So they don't have to face the consequences of their actions.

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
78. I've met a few too. And they weren't the angels you describe. And they are asses in
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 10:50 AM
Aug 2013

real life too. So, there you go. That's the company your perfect gentlemen LULz friends keep.
And you know what- if you are an asshole sometimes, then it IS what you are, sometimes. It's not like you are not doing it just because it's the net. And it;s not like you actually know how great they are at home. Lots of happy looking home harbour fucked up people.

 

Decoy of Fenris

(1,954 posts)
81. Oh, assholes are assholes, no doubt there.
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:00 AM
Aug 2013

There will always be assholes in any group; there's no stopping that. The point I'm getting at is that sometimes, "Lulz are lulz". Is everyone an angel? Hell no, I'd bet you've got some pretty dark skeletons someone could dredge up if they wished, but we all do. That's besides the point. The point is, the article in the OP describes a phenomenon that is in place -solely- to create tension and animosity, because watching the following explosion of emotion and drama is funny to some people.


And I'll have to call you out on "not like you are doing it just because it's the net": These types of people are doing it -solely- because it's the net. Anonymity is the rule of law, and there are no repercussions of any merit. They can say what they want, when they want, simply because they can and without reason.

Here's an exercise: Go dig around Youtube comments. You'll see racial epithets more than you'll see proper grammar, and you won't believe how promiscuous some users' mothers apparently are.

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
86. what you don't get is that a decent percentage of those acting hateful on the net really are.
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:07 AM
Aug 2013

many of those people are saying what they really think about women and minorities. Some have more courage because it's the net- but many find situations in real life where there will also be no repercussions. I judge people on the net by what they put out, I don't think there's any reason I should go looking for excuses to pardon the hatred they spread- why do you?
Hate is hate. Geting off on hurting people is a vile trait. Your friends are assholes.

 

Decoy of Fenris

(1,954 posts)
102. I don't "Excuse" anything. I understand it.
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:20 AM
Aug 2013

The article above is seeking ill-intent; they will thusly find it. Any time a group goes searching for a result, they'll find it one way or another, and that's exactly what has happened in the article.

I'll give you probably 40% of displayed hate on the net is real. The rest, though, I'd wager is simply to elicit reactions.


See? Here's the crux, right here. You say "I judge people on the net by what they put out", and that's fine and good. But you're not judging me (or anyone else). You're judging the person I display on this particular forum. You're not judging a person, you're judging a name, and that's why the Internet is as much a weapon as a tool: I could viciously insult you, degrade you, humiliate you here, and I, -personally-, am not held accountable. Sure, Skinner could ban my username or my IP, but in the end, in the real world, I am suffering no ill effects, while you could (potentially) suffer from emotional injury and other ill-effects.

There's no consequences, no retaliation of note, no reaction that can harm or otherwise stop the lulz-folks. That is why they do what they do; they can say anything, hurt anyone, help anyone, or do anything they wish, with no repercussions, simply because they want to. Hence the maxim, "For the lulz".


I see where you're coming from, but it's not something that can be stopped, short of policing the entire internet for hurtful words and phrases.

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
105. why do you refer to "them" when you admit here, it is you too?
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:26 AM
Aug 2013

slightly afraid of repercussions, I suppose.

 

Decoy of Fenris

(1,954 posts)
108. I retired, so to speak.
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:28 AM
Aug 2013

I wish I could say I outgrew them, but they outgrew me. I'm too slow to keep up any more. Now it's all code, programming, and politics that I just don't have a head for. I got replaced, and that's okay. I was out of my depth.

 

Decoy of Fenris

(1,954 posts)
114. Hardly. This is a kiddie pool in comparison.
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:34 AM
Aug 2013

However, if you wish to avoid further discussion, I can't force it upon you, and I wish you a good day and safe travels.

Gormy Cuss

(30,884 posts)
138. In this subthread your descriptions of LULZers align with many traits of sociopaths.
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 05:14 PM
Aug 2013

Just an observation. Lying just for the sake of lying, trying to rile up other just for one's own gratification, no remorse or guilt about it, etc.

Dash87

(3,220 posts)
148. Or the other option is that these people are sad troglodytes that
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 08:44 PM
Aug 2013

feel superior by bringing the "evil wimmenz" down a notch.

And usually, when someone claims to be doing something for "teh lulz," they're really just being an ass because of shortcomings in their own life. They're bullies lashing out online because they're too afraid to do so in real life.

 

quinnox

(20,600 posts)
30. and sometimes there are groups on the opposite
Fri Aug 2, 2013, 11:52 AM
Aug 2013

side, made up of feminists with extreme views, who have big time agendas. Everyone and their brother is a misogynist in their eyes, or so it seems.

Posteritatis

(18,807 posts)
41. So what?
Fri Aug 2, 2013, 05:08 PM
Aug 2013

The comparison's meaningless because those groups have negligible power and influence - those fretting over them are, on their best days, precisely as silly as evangelical Christians panicking over the "war on Christmas."

Perhaps when they send aggressive sympathisers to their views to sit in Congress - or the legislature of any country - in enough numbers to affect policy, that fringe will be relevant enough to consider, maybe, in certain circumstances, bringing up as a counterpoint to the overwhelmingly larger, overwhelmingly more active, overwhelmingly more powerful herds of outspoken misogynists out there.

While waiting for that day to come about, I'd suggest not embarrassing yourself by making that kind of incredibly asinine comparison.

Warren DeMontague

(80,708 posts)
48. According to this article, "abuse" = "gentle condescenscion laden with malice"
Fri Aug 2, 2013, 05:46 PM
Aug 2013

I would posit that they're not the same thing, not even in the same neighborhood, any more than jaywalking is the "alter ego" of serial killing.

No wonder the author sees "abuse" everywhere on the interwebs. If the idea now is to try to get rid of all the "gentle condescenscion" on the net... well, good luck. You can tackle that right after you get rid of all teh porn.

mercuryblues

(14,530 posts)
58. Did something get
Fri Aug 2, 2013, 09:13 PM
Aug 2013

lost in translation?
The actual quote:

Now my timeline’s been flooded with abuse – and its alter ego, gentle condescension laden with malice –

mercuryblues

(14,530 posts)
66. yup
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 07:42 AM
Aug 2013

Because the author of the OP did not define abuse as mild condemnation as you stated. By the use of the word AND it was a list that defined the range of posts, from mild condemnation to outright abuse.

She makes the that quote even clearer with this sentence:

This is why writing on the internet while female means getting everything from laughably delusional men pretending to “critique” your writing while barely concealing their rage to rape and death threats.

So this begs the question. Were you pretending to critique the OP by using an intentional misrepresentation of what was actually said or did you speed read the OP and miss critical words?

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
68. you're post was wrong, and is now corrected. perhaps if you didn't post bulllshit....
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 09:44 AM
Aug 2013

people wouldn't need to correct you= "keep it going"

boston bean

(36,221 posts)
135. It's quite common for them to cherry pick, and then claim others can't understand context.
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 05:04 PM
Aug 2013

All to try to shift an argument, and those who don't take the time to research end up believing the fallacious hype. That's the hope for those who employ the tactic, and unfortunately, it works well.

mercuryblues

(14,530 posts)
160. It does
Sun Aug 4, 2013, 09:45 AM
Aug 2013

because you can be assured that, that misinterpretation will most likely end up as a reply somewhere else.

boston bean

(36,221 posts)
70. One poster still can't help himself in this thread.
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 10:16 AM
Aug 2013

Speculating bullshit, re writing history, downplaying his role, still trying to get the women's to shut up.. Even though he was instrumental in forcing two feminists off DU. Par for the fucking course!

Response to boston bean (Reply #70)

 

Pab Sungenis

(9,612 posts)
76. I assume you're talking about me.
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 10:47 AM
Aug 2013

Please elaborate on my role. Point out where I've told a single woman to shut up.

 

Pab Sungenis

(9,612 posts)
98. Only in the eyes of
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:18 AM
Aug 2013

The Girl Who Cried Misogynist.

Not every criticism of a woman is rooted in misogyny. Not every bad thing that happens to a woman is due to misogyny. It did not rain on your day off because of misogyny.

Accusing people inaccurately of misogyny does not help your argument. It diminishes it. And it invites backlash.

Learn how to recognize who is really on your side and who is really against you. It will make the fight easier in the end if you stop fighting your allies.

Response to Pab Sungenis (Reply #98)

boston bean

(36,221 posts)
103. Yep. just look at the response to you.
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:23 AM
Aug 2013

berating women who post about sexism and misogyny. A male on top of it. He would know best I guess. We ought to resign ourselves as lowly little women that we just dont know what the fuck we are talking about.

 

Pab Sungenis

(9,612 posts)
113. Who is berating women?
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:33 AM
Aug 2013

Sexism exists. Misogyny exists. But they are not the cause of every problem.

Nor are they tolerated culturally or here on DU. In fact, they're marginalized so much that those who use them as a crutch have to make shit up to justify their victimhood.

I don't belittle these spurious claims out of misogyny. I belittle them because they ARE spurious. They have no more basis in fact than the claims of "men's rights" activists who say that child support is slavery.

Posteritatis

(18,807 posts)
121. Here and pretty much anywhere else they're discussed
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:50 AM
Aug 2013

There's been a lot of discussion of misogyny and related issues in the gaming world the last couple of years, for a specific example. It's slowly, painfully making some headway in pretty good and intelligent ways, but I'd be hard-pressed to name a high-profile piece written about it in that world where certain types of people didn't just pour out of the woodwork to whine about how women are getting cooties all over the treehouse or something like that.

It's not quite that bad on DU (though I've noticed things tend to get pretty ugly if an article is about a younger girl or woman getting wronged; given the demographics of DU people will turn the paternalism knob up to 11 for those), but it's a difference of degree more than kind.

Warren DeMontague

(80,708 posts)
131. To paraphrase the Immortal Dr. Seuss:
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 04:15 PM
Aug 2013

Last edited Sun Aug 4, 2013, 06:03 AM - Edit history (1)

"Start a new meta thread. Treat it unkind.
Feed it stale outrage, flamebait and wine
Start a week's worth! A month!
All the old, worn out flack
Then perhaps old missed meta,
and its friends
will come back!"




LisaLynne

(14,554 posts)
84. I found this part of the article to be really interesting:
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:04 AM
Aug 2013
I would argue that people who are dogmatic on the “ignore the trolls” front—who are far disproportionately men, in my experience—have ulterior motives a lot of the time. Not that they support misogyny! On the contrary, I think misogyny makes a lot of men uncomfortable, and so they try to fix their discomfort by pressuring women being attacked by trolls to conceal what’s happening.


You know, I can see that. I think it happens on DU, too. I think it does come from a good place -- OMG HOW CAN THIS HAPPEN, IT'S AWFUL AND I DON'T WANT TO LOOK. I mean, hey, I feel that way sometimes, too. I just don't want to deal with it. But I think the author's take on it makes me feel a little better about it. They aren't saying "ignore it because it doesn't matter" but more, whether they realize it or not, don't make me look because it's too painful.
 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
109. it's not painful- it;s just to frightening to think they'd have to go up against their more bullying
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:31 AM
Aug 2013

type bros. Painful my ass, they want to go along to get along, and not consider the collatoral damage to the women they puport to care about. Chickenshit rules.

 

WinkyDink

(51,311 posts)
88. Power has never wanted to share. Ever. If these men could eliminate all women, they'd turn on each
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 11:08 AM
Aug 2013

other afterwards.

 

LittleBlue

(10,362 posts)
126. This thread is a good example of why they do it
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 12:17 PM
Aug 2013

Look at how many precious souls inhabit DU.

Someone above mentioned two posters who were "chased off" DU. lol. They got their fun by making inflammatory threads. When they hit a nerve, they exploited it by making thread after thread that inevitably end in flame fests. Then the pro trolls turned the tables with boob threads, Femen, and other topics that riled them. They cried misogyny, but the admins weren't having it, knowing full well what they'd been up to for months. Their group demanded action in the form of bans for members and topics that they disliked. When they didn't get their way, they left in a huff, claiming DU was a cesspit of sexism and misogyny.

That's the truth of DU and the internet in general. Those who take it too seriously end up disappointed. At heart the internet is a free-for-all, and those are the terms you accept by browsing it unfiltered. If that upsets you, then it isn't the place for you because others will quite easily sense this and exploit it.

 

opiate69

(10,129 posts)
145. exactly... and the concerted effort some are engaged in...
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 07:42 PM
Aug 2013

To try to whitewash the history, and paint two of the most belligerent, uncivil, obnoxious posters this board has ever seen as somehow being fucking victims is the height of absurdity.

 

msanthrope

(37,549 posts)
152. I think they gave as good as they got. The idea that they were victims, as opposed to willing
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 09:16 PM
Aug 2013

participants is ludicrous.

Frankly, there is a group of posters who think that their mission is to 'educate' the rest of us. I think I have bras older than some of them. That one of them used the filthiest term I have ever heard to describe a female--and then defended that use with some specious 'academic' reason was vile.

Now, don't mistake me--there are blatant violations of the TOS with regards to gender that happen here, and they must be dealt with. But the idea that GD should become this shitfest of flamebait threads that serve no purpose but to foment martyrdom is bullshit.

Gormy Cuss

(30,884 posts)
166. Interesting that so many on this thread think they know which two posters were referenced.
Sun Aug 4, 2013, 12:02 PM
Aug 2013

Some are assuming the reference was to seabeyond and redqueen but they're hardly the only DUers who have left in the past six months because of the level of misogyny tolerated by the community. I know because others have told me on their way out the door. Hell, I've even taken a break because of it.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
167. well, their names are mentioned earlier in this thread but,
Sun Aug 4, 2013, 12:15 PM
Aug 2013

I agree with what you say and I also take a break in the form of hiding threads and ignoring certain misogynistic DUers but, it gets old and I am tired of being intimidated and told to Lighten Up and go along with the tired, old, lame ass sexist jokes that try to pass as humor in some places on this board.

The jokes are stale and weren't even that funny when they were told the first time over forty years ago.

This is a political message board not some porno site.

There are plenty of those all over the internet and I (and everyone else) know how to find them if that is what we want.

I too, have witnessed a mass exit of good contributing DUers because of the rampant misogyny occurring on a daily basis in and around this website.

Gormy Cuss

(30,884 posts)
168. And as one of the study authors pointed out, "Ignore" is not my friend.
Sun Aug 4, 2013, 12:34 PM
Aug 2013

Ignoring the bad behavior trolls doesn't make them go away. It certainly doesn't change their behavior -- if anything, it emboldens them.

Sea and RQ weren't mentioned by name for some time in the discussion. Once they were named the discussion deflected to their posts and personalities rather than the real issue raised by the OP.

Thank you for adding your witness that there are many other former DUers who left because of the misogyny tolerated here.





Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
169. Yes, you are right and it is a shame that subthreads developed because their names were
Sun Aug 4, 2013, 12:38 PM
Aug 2013

mentioned. Still, I am grateful for this thread because it is spot on as to what is happening all over the internet and with a certain regularity in some forums and groups right here on DU, a political message board.

 

LittleBlue

(10,362 posts)
171. Seems to have coincided with improvements to GD
Sun Aug 4, 2013, 01:17 PM
Aug 2013

We don't get many trollish threads on those topics anymore, whereas before, especially with Meta, it was a constant flame war. I would suggest that the timing of their departure and the instant improvement in the forums is no coincidence.

The victim claim wore thin when they were trolling Meta and GD. They made themselves sport for trolls when they wore out the forum's sympathy.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
172. Yes but, you realize that you are admitting that there are, indeed Trolls when you say this:
Sun Aug 4, 2013, 02:17 PM
Aug 2013
... They made themselves sport for trolls ...


and They are gone while the Trolls are still here, right?

I think that is what I take from that statement and just want to clarify if that is what you intended.

Thanks.

Gormy Cuss

(30,884 posts)
175. And I would suggest that you consider that those two weren't the subject of this thread
Sun Aug 4, 2013, 06:18 PM
Aug 2013

and by reducing the topic to a rehashing of the likers/dislikers of two specific posters the broader discussion of misogyny trolls has been hijacked. How very Meta.

As for the condition of this forum, GD has always had one-topic posters and/or endless threads on a topic argued with great fervor (in recent time, it's guns, Snowden, NSA, for example.)

me b zola

(19,053 posts)
139. It has taken me far too long in life to understand
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 05:22 PM
Aug 2013

...that behind misogynists statements are men who have very serious issues with women and inevitably inflict one type or another of abuse (verbal/emotional, physical, or sexual) on the women in their personal lives.

Its not funny nor cute.

Just Saying

(1,799 posts)
153. Intersting this thread is still going.
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 10:04 PM
Aug 2013

I posted once earlier today and came back to find a hidden post response with a link to fathers unite or some such thing. I believe part of the quote that was hidden mentioned "radical feminist minority" and how they wreak havoc on families and children for the self-interest of women.

Wow.

inspiraven

(6 posts)
155. good read
Sat Aug 3, 2013, 10:35 PM
Aug 2013

I thought the comments on the Raw Story page were actually interesting and worthwhile.

Every time a man condescendingly tells me, “You are giving them attention! Just ignore and block them!”, I hear, “Being exposed to the brutal misogyny you get aimed at you every day is uncomfortable. It would be so much better for me if I didn’t have to know this is what’s going on.” This phenomenon is not unique to the internet. Kids who get bullied get “don’t be a tattletale” from adults. Women who get street harassed end up having to apologize for making men in their lives uncomfortable by bringing it up. The intention is almost never to tell someone they are to suffer this in silence, but the effect is that you are telling them just that.


Shutting the messenger and or victim down instead of shutting down abuse is so pervasive in our society. Destructively so. Even the best most caring people contribute to this pattern every day, and it further harms and isolates victims and does in fact assist the abusers, manipulators, and those who are so sadly broken that they (insert destructive behavior here).

I like the idea of shifting from hide it / ignore it to quashing it. I am loving the trend on the internet and on the streets to stop this type of bullying.

On a side note:
To the folks who came to this thread purely because of their discomfort with the word / concept of misogyny:




Zorra

(27,670 posts)
161. Women should be seen and not heard. They need to STFU and stay in the kitchen and the bedroom
Sun Aug 4, 2013, 10:59 AM
Aug 2013

where they belong, because they are only good for cooking, cleaning, and sex. It even says that women must submit to their husbands in the Bible. What more proof is needed than that? That's why men are legally given the rightful authority and power to decide what women should be allowed to do with their bodies. Men clearly are superior, everybody knows it, and that's the way it is, and has always been. The women who are always complaining about not being equal have no case. Women are clearly treated equally to men under the law, because that is the law, so how can it be otherwise? I'm not saying that men should not be nice to women when they deserve it. its just that this whole feminism thing is a silly waste of time.

That said, I don't hate women, and I am not a troll!!1!! I have every right to express my opinions here!1!!!

Besides, this whole who-is-the-misogynist-troll-witch-hunt is disruptive nonsense.

It betrays an utter lack of creativity on the part of the women and their male enablers who are making these accusations. They are so convinced that they are right that they cannot imagine someone else might hold a different point of view in good faith.

Either that, or they are incapable of advocating for their own point of view on its merits.




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