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Dear Daughter: I Hope You Have Awesome Sex
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Look, I love sex. Its fun. And because I love my daughter, I want her to have all of the same delights in life that I do, and hopefully more. I dont want to hear about the fine details because, heck, I dont want those visuals any more than my daughter wants mine. But in the abstract, darling, go out and play.
Because consensual sex isnt something that men take from you; its something you give. It doesnt lessen you to give someone else pleasure. It doesnt degrade you to have some of your own. And anyone who implies otherwise is a man who probably thinks very poorly of women underneath the surface.
Yes, all these boys and girls and genderqueers may break your heart, and that in turn will break mine. Ive held you, sobbing, after your boyfriend cheated on you, and it tore me in two. But you know what would tear me in two even more? To see you in a glass cage, experiencing nothing but cold emptiness at your fingers, as Dear Old Dad ensured that you got to experience nothing until he decided what you should like.
Youre not me. Nor are you an extension of my will. And so you need to make your own damn mistakes, to learn how to pick yourself up when you fall, to learn where the bandages are and to bind up your own cuts. Ill help. Ill be your consigliere when I can, the advisor, the person you come to when all seems lost. But I think theres value in getting lost. I think theres a strength that only comes from fumbling your own way out of the darkness.
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way more:
http://goodmenproject.com/ethics-values/brand-dear-daughter-i-hope-you-have-awesome-sex/