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ehrnst

(32,640 posts)
Wed Oct 9, 2013, 03:37 PM Oct 2013

Perspective

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Perspective.

Got stuck in the lone checkout line at Safeway behind a woman buying groceries with her ​​EBT card (food stamps). She had her teenaged son with her ​​and a huge stack of coupons. I've been having a frustrating week. I was wearing coat and tie and probably had a grumpy look on my face when I arrived. The woman working the register kept looking at me Apologetically as time went on and the l ine grew. The shopper had a coupon for almost every item. She went through that stack of coupons four times slowly because she was missing one. I think she had coupons for apples, soup, pasta, rice, beans, and bread. She was missing a 60 cent coupon for her two cartons of almond milk. She had a list and had calculated to the penny what she could buy, had $ 70 on her EBT card and $ 20 or so on a check she had written but she was $ 1.20 short to finalize the purchase.

I was tempted to pass the woman two bucks but she was already starting to radiate with awkward embarrassment. Her son stood behind her and stared at the floor. Finally the shopper asked the register worker if there was any way she could look through the weekly flier and find the coupon she needed and the worker started paging through it for her. My irritation Dissipated the longer I stood there. Its been a long time since I agonized over $ 1.20 for food. I've never had to do it with a crowd behind me. I could see the time and care she had put into her shopping trip, calculating the cost, clipping coupons, buying cheap healthy food. I relaxed. I smiled. The coupon was finally found and the sale made. The register worker kept thanking me for my patience. I suppose these days most folks expect a certain amount of eye-rolling and grimacing when a customer is inconvenienced for a few minutes. We're very busy people.

By Monday the shutdown will have cost me at this point from a plane ticket change fee and a lost weekend of National Guard wages that it will sting. But I won't miss a meal, or even skimp. I won't miss a mortgage payment. I won't fear for my phone or electricity being shut off. I have friends that may. I'm grateful for all that America has given me. I'm glad my wife has a good-paying job. Not everyone is so lucky. We have young National Guard soldiers here in Washington State that rely on their drill pay for food and lodging and on military tuition assistance to pay for college. They won't be getting either due to the shutdown. Each of them Volunteered to serve in their nation's military during time of war, uncertain of the cost. This will likely, hopefully, be resolved before my young soldiers or friends in federal service even have time to apply for food stamps or unemployment. But not, perhaps, before a few missed payments, missed meals, and sleepless nights. It bothers me to see them treated this way.

The Legislative Branch of our government has its work cut out for it. I'd like to see them take up that task with the same zeal, teamwork and selfless sense of service to nation and community I see in the young soldiers and law enforcement officers that work for me. I'd like that a great deal. All I did. The best I did today, was to stand patiently in line behind someone less fortunate than myself and not act like a complete ass. The woman at the register seemed appreciative. Almost like she expected me to be annoyed. Is this what we've come to? Is this what people expect?

Patience. Compassion. Persistence. Teamwork. I expect these attributes of my most junior employees. I expect them of myself. I expect them of my government.

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2naSalit

(86,647 posts)
1. Thank you
Wed Oct 9, 2013, 03:46 PM
Oct 2013

for that offering of perspective and for your introspection as well. I am glad to know that someone who is not suffering also sees what is happening to we poor people and what hoops we have to jump through to get what help we can actually get. Currently, where I live, it takes at least six weeks to be approved for SNAP benefits on an expedited claim. You can ony go to the food bank once a month and if one is not under 18, pregnant or have children in the home, there's really no safety net beyond a little bit for SNAP benefits, the food bank and unemployment if you were working for a long time... and that may not pay the rent either.

MineralMan

(146,317 posts)
2. Well done. Of course, if the coupon couldn't be found,
Wed Oct 9, 2013, 03:57 PM
Oct 2013

handing over the difference quietly would have been fine, too. I've done that many times when someone is a little bit short. I just give the money to the checker and quietly say, "here you go." While it's impossible to avoid embarrassing the customer a tiny bit, I've never gotten anything but a "thank you" when doing it.

And it's not just folks with EBT cards. Anyone can be a bit short at the cash register. And anybody can help make up the shortage. It's the right thing to do, if you can.

 

Swede Atlanta

(3,596 posts)
3. Yes, I have several times paid a few dollars to get the shopper out of the situation....
Wed Oct 9, 2013, 04:03 PM
Oct 2013

as well I will occasionally pay forward even at the drive-through coffee line. That is usually when I am high on endorphins after a good workout or bike ride but still it makes me feel good to do something for someone else.

The pukes are all about helping themselves and only themselves. For a party that claims to be so Christian, their behavior is the opposite. I really wonder what Jesus will say when these people meet her? I don't believe she is going to be overly kind to them.

MineralMan

(146,317 posts)
4. Well, I'm an atheist, so I don't expect they'll meet anyone.
Wed Oct 9, 2013, 04:04 PM
Oct 2013

But, being mean has to affect you at some point, I'd think. Mean people suck.

Squinch

(50,955 posts)
5. This is a great story, but one thing jumped out and made me sad:
Wed Oct 9, 2013, 04:08 PM
Oct 2013

In the United States in 2013, you and I can consider ourselves to be among the lucky ones because we won't be missing any meals due to poverty and/or the irresponsible actions of Republicans.

That is a very sad state of affairs. We are capable of so much better.

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