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Are_grits_groceries

(17,111 posts)
Sun Oct 13, 2013, 02:35 PM Oct 2013

Nightmare in Maryville: Teens’ sexual encounter ignites a firestorm against family

There wasn’t much left by the time she arrived, just a burnt-out structure and the haze of smoke that lingered around it.

The siding and gutters had melted. The roof was gone. Inside, piles of ash filled the rooms that had once bustled with the pleasant sounds of a family.

That morning last April when Melinda Coleman received word that emergency vehicles were gathering around her Maryville house, she had hoped for the best.

But if the events of the past year and a half had taught her anything, it was that when the town of Maryville was involved, that seemed unlikely.

Since the morning her daughter had been left nearly unconscious in the frost of the home’s front lawn, this northwest Missouri community had come to mean little besides heartache.

Few dispute the basic facts of what happened in the early morning hours of Jan. 8, 2012: A high school senior had sex with Coleman’s 14-year-old daughter, another boy did the same with her daughter’s 13-year-old friend, and a third student video-recorded one of the bedding scenes. Interviews and evidence initially supported the felony and misdemeanor charges that followed.

Yet, two months later, the Nodaway County prosecutor dropped the felony cases against the youths, one the grandson of a longtime area political figure.
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Nightmare in Maryville: Teens’ sexual encounter ignites a firestorm against family (Original Post) Are_grits_groceries Oct 2013 OP
I'm just going to say it. RandySF Oct 2013 #1
Oh my god, you said it. a la izquierda Oct 2013 #21
"Sexual encounter" historylovr Oct 2013 #2
The phrase "bedding scenes" is what caused my gorge to rise. Scootaloo Oct 2013 #26
Almost like a romance novel... "bedding scenes"... Bigmack Oct 2013 #41
Yeah and "Few dispute the basic facts of what happened " cvoogt Oct 2013 #56
Steubenville, Missouri roamer65 Oct 2013 #3
Horrible! GreenPartyVoter Oct 2013 #4
Truely shocking. Savannahmann Oct 2013 #5
I saw this on the front page of the Star. xmas74 Oct 2013 #6
Just finished the article xmas74 Oct 2013 #7
And the fact that the prosecutor and sheriff are so matter-of-fact in their interview. ScreamingMeemie Oct 2013 #8
Republican family values peacebird Oct 2013 #9
I hope Anonymous gets involved. roamer65 Oct 2013 #10
They are. Hong Kong Cavalier Oct 2013 #28
This is really ugly. Shrike47 Oct 2013 #11
They didn't "have sex"; they were RAPED alarimer Oct 2013 #12
We have an elected D.A. that refuses to prosecute a serial sexual offender. Manifestor_of_Light Oct 2013 #72
Isn't this a federal human rights violation? If the town chooses to ignore it, isn't jtuck004 Oct 2013 #13
How DARE you speak against our saintly Republican!!! Spitfire of ATJ Oct 2013 #14
Rape culture in action gollygee Oct 2013 #15
This is beyond sickening LostOne4Ever Oct 2013 #16
kick xmas74 Oct 2013 #17
With the Internet, these creeps can't hide. Arugula Latte Oct 2013 #29
The young women on campus have been sending each other his picture xmas74 Oct 2013 #33
I'd be happier if he dropped out of freedom for 25 to life mythology Oct 2013 #52
Don't forget putting kid porn on the net. Distributed and creator. Nt seabeyond Oct 2013 #54
Rape culture makes me sick. NuclearDem Oct 2013 #18
Why the fuck am I just now seeing this? joeglow3 Oct 2013 #19
At this point, I'd give up on the criminal justice system and pursue civil remedies. Jim Lane Oct 2013 #20
Barnett's part is spreading like wildfire. xmas74 Oct 2013 #22
good. if family, peers, justice system has no desire to shame these bottomfeeders, then the public seabeyond Oct 2013 #30
I was on campus today. xmas74 Oct 2013 #32
good. i have got no sympathy. the louder it is the better for all of us. including my two sons... seabeyond Oct 2013 #35
I was happy to see it all happening. xmas74 Oct 2013 #37
THAT IS AWESOME. pitbullgirl1965 Oct 2013 #46
It's all over facebook now xmas74 Oct 2013 #48
Thank goodness. pitbullgirl1965 Oct 2013 #49
The Restaurant he worked at is getting some interesting reviews. pitbullgirl1965 Oct 2013 #51
Omg... That is something. Tons. Yea social media. Take 'me all down. Nt seabeyond Oct 2013 #55
Brutal Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin Oct 2013 #57
Or vigilante justice, self help ArcticFox Oct 2013 #59
Anonymous to the rescue... ScreamingMeemie Oct 2013 #23
Love those close knit, family values small towns. Cleita Oct 2013 #24
this is not about sociopaths. this is about privilege and entitlement and little pieces of shits seabeyond Oct 2013 #25
absolutely. the culture that teaches males they can do anything to women BlancheSplanchnik Oct 2013 #40
But, but men are victims of sexism too!!!111 pitbullgirl1965 Oct 2013 #47
Calling Anonymous for justice riderinthestorm Oct 2013 #27
They've picked it up xmas74 Oct 2013 #34
Outstanding! hatrack Oct 2013 #36
I'd be surprised if he makes it to homecoming. xmas74 Oct 2013 #38
He won't finish the semester. roamer65 Oct 2013 #44
And probably grow up to be House majority leader DFW Oct 2013 #60
"Sexual encounter" Epic reframe fail! L0oniX Oct 2013 #31
Horrible. Quantess Oct 2013 #39
sexual encounter?? bedding scene??? FUCK YOU Kansas Star BlancheSplanchnik Oct 2013 #42
yup. it is disgusting. nt seabeyond Oct 2013 #43
Google this guy, folks. I am seeing a possible DUI arrest on him as well. roamer65 Oct 2013 #45
KICK! R. Daneel Olivaw Oct 2013 #50
Let the war to protect civil rights begin. defacto7 Oct 2013 #53
The comments on Gawker are rather funny. pitbullgirl1965 Oct 2013 #58
Regarding Neckzilla: NuclearDem Oct 2013 #62
lol. yup. a lot of obsessing on the neck thing. nt seabeyond Oct 2013 #64
Oh man, I couldn't stop laughing pitbullgirl1965 Oct 2013 #65
BREAKING NEWS: RESTAURANTS WEBPAGE DOWN pitbullgirl1965 Oct 2013 #61
huh. another one bites the dust... i thought they hired the rapist and the child porn maker and seabeyond Oct 2013 #63
The rapist was a waiter there pitbullgirl1965 Oct 2013 #66
i saw it more than once, in different threads. will peruse and see if i find it. nt seabeyond Oct 2013 #67
Thank you. pitbullgirl1965 Oct 2013 #71
Recommend. jsr Oct 2013 #68
I live next to a little red neck town Boudica the Lyoness Oct 2013 #69
Read the comments on the University's FB page JanMichael Oct 2013 #70
Which "crap"? The house burning down part? Or the mom fired for no reason crap? riderinthestorm Oct 2013 #73
or, raping a girl and putting it on the net for other men to get off on? really, i would really seabeyond Oct 2013 #74
+10000000. nt riderinthestorm Oct 2013 #75

historylovr

(1,557 posts)
2. "Sexual encounter"
Sun Oct 13, 2013, 03:15 PM
Oct 2013

Such a pretty euphemism for rape. And the mother of the victim's house is the one burned down. Nice.

 

Bigmack

(8,020 posts)
41. Almost like a romance novel... "bedding scenes"...
Mon Oct 14, 2013, 05:14 PM
Oct 2013

... only with a lot less romance and a lot more screaming.

cvoogt

(949 posts)
56. Yeah and "Few dispute the basic facts of what happened "
Tue Oct 15, 2013, 12:22 AM
Oct 2013

doesn't make the article's writers look any smarter / moral either. Sickening. Can't believe I share a planet with people who euphemize such things, in fact revel in it. We really, really need to send some people (the bad ones!) to Mars, and soon.

xmas74

(29,674 posts)
6. I saw this on the front page of the Star.
Sun Oct 13, 2013, 03:59 PM
Oct 2013

I just haven't had a chance to sit down and read the paper today.

xmas74

(29,674 posts)
7. Just finished the article
Sun Oct 13, 2013, 04:30 PM
Oct 2013

and found out that he's attending college in my town. I looked up his FB page and just realized that I recognized him.

ScreamingMeemie

(68,918 posts)
8. And the fact that the prosecutor and sheriff are so matter-of-fact in their interview.
Sun Oct 13, 2013, 04:45 PM
Oct 2013

And the mother who says their "boys" deserve an apology? FUCK you mom...you've done a horrible job.

alarimer

(16,245 posts)
12. They didn't "have sex"; they were RAPED
Sun Oct 13, 2013, 05:24 PM
Oct 2013

Why the hell can't the reporters get that straight?

No wonder people don't go to the police when they are raped, because the police don't help. In this case, they initially did the right thing, then bowed to pressure from somewhere to drop the charged.

The family was subjected to a campaign of harassment and intimidation.

This case embodies all that is wrong with small town.

"Small-town" American is an oppressive, unAmerican place, where influence rules and everyone is is everyone else's business.
Small-town people are the most hateful, the most bigoted, the most unenlightened people in this country. Small-town values are not values I admire in the least.

 

Manifestor_of_Light

(21,046 posts)
72. We have an elected D.A. that refuses to prosecute a serial sexual offender.
Tue Oct 15, 2013, 08:31 PM
Oct 2013

For sexual assault. Because she's busy protecting the good old boys.

If a victim acts like a typical victim, she(yes, she's an elected District Attorney) won't bring it before a grand jury.

http://www.dshs.state.tx.us/mt_mtenforcement.shtm
Scroll down to "John Phillips, Massage Therapist, MT002614"

He voluntarily surrendered his license but that just means he can still sexually assault women, he just can't charge them money for it and call it a "massage".




 

jtuck004

(15,882 posts)
13. Isn't this a federal human rights violation? If the town chooses to ignore it, isn't
Sun Oct 13, 2013, 05:37 PM
Oct 2013

there another venue?

xmas74

(29,674 posts)
17. kick
Mon Oct 14, 2013, 12:03 AM
Oct 2013

It's showing up all over FB right now and quite a few students I know are already commenting that they know the guy.

This is going to get uglier.

 

Arugula Latte

(50,566 posts)
29. With the Internet, these creeps can't hide.
Mon Oct 14, 2013, 02:59 PM
Oct 2013

This will follow this asshole for the rest of his life. Good.

xmas74

(29,674 posts)
33. The young women on campus have been sending each other his picture
Mon Oct 14, 2013, 03:47 PM
Oct 2013

as a caution.

He might as well pack up and drop out.

 

mythology

(9,527 posts)
52. I'd be happier if he dropped out of freedom for 25 to life
Tue Oct 15, 2013, 12:02 AM
Oct 2013

It's good that this case is getting publicity. Hopefully the appropriate charges will be filed and, if convicted, sentenced to some serious jail time. I can't believe that sex with a 14 year old isn't a crime in general, much less one that's passed out and then to be left outside like that. Yeah, there's not much that qualifies as human presuming the facts are as stated.

And whatever scumbag burned the victim's family's house deserves a significant stint behind bars as well.

 

NuclearDem

(16,184 posts)
18. Rape culture makes me sick.
Mon Oct 14, 2013, 12:11 AM
Oct 2013

I would say more, but I'm just too sickened and heartbroken to keep going. Just a little bit more faith in humanity lost.

 

joeglow3

(6,228 posts)
19. Why the fuck am I just now seeing this?
Mon Oct 14, 2013, 01:00 AM
Oct 2013

Here is a link from July with most of these facts. Why the fuck are we, as a nation not spreading this disgusting story like wildfire so we the people can give these fuckwads the treatment they deserve?


http://m.kcur.org/?utm_referrer=http%3A%2F%2Fsearch.yahoo.com%2Fsearch%3B_ylt%3DApvILc8xdB9Xk27YmPrYTU8zQVxH%3Ftoggle%3D1%26cop%3Dmss%26ei%3DUTF-8%26.tsrc%3Dyfp-hrmob-901%26p%3Dmaryville%2Brape#mobile/39975
 

Jim Lane

(11,175 posts)
20. At this point, I'd give up on the criminal justice system and pursue civil remedies.
Mon Oct 14, 2013, 02:28 AM
Oct 2013

The local DA won't prosecute, the state has concluded (per the linked article) that it doesn't have jurisdiction to review the DA's decision, and I really doubt that there's any federal crime involved -- at least not one that the U.S. Attorney would decide to prosecute.

It stinks, but I don't see any chance that any of these guys will be held criminally accountable.

Instead, the two victims and their families should pursue a civil suit. Advantages are: (1) Bringing the suit doesn't require the approval of the local authorities, who are covering up for the locals against the outsiders; and (2) The standard of proof is lower (preponderance of the evidence instead of beyond a reasonable doubt). In light of all the publicity, they should also get the case out of Maryville. I don't know Missouri venue rules, but there's a good chance they can bring the suit where they now live.

xmas74

(29,674 posts)
22. Barnett's part is spreading like wildfire.
Mon Oct 14, 2013, 06:48 AM
Oct 2013

I live in the town where he is attending college and after the KC Star article yesterday his picture is everywhere. It's all over FB and linked all over Twitter.

People in our town now know what he did in Maryville.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
30. good. if family, peers, justice system has no desire to shame these bottomfeeders, then the public
Mon Oct 14, 2013, 03:12 PM
Oct 2013

needs to fill that role. otherwise too many are being taught this is acceptable. and owed an apology it appears, for fucking an unconscious girl and putting it on the net to feel like a man....

xmas74

(29,674 posts)
32. I was on campus today.
Mon Oct 14, 2013, 03:30 PM
Oct 2013

The sororities are talking about it and banning him,girls are tweeting and sharing his picture. I even saw a sign on a pole with his picture and rapist written in red. I just received a tweet from someone local that said #justice4daisy.

He has no idea and that was before Anonymous stepped in. One girl I spoke to today said he needed to transfer out because it's over at UCM.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
35. good. i have got no sympathy. the louder it is the better for all of us. including my two sons...
Mon Oct 14, 2013, 03:53 PM
Oct 2013

a nice clear boundary of what is unacceptable.

xmas74

(29,674 posts)
37. I was happy to see it all happening.
Mon Oct 14, 2013, 04:34 PM
Oct 2013

It makes the other men on campus realize that the women will only put up with so much before they will get together and turn on them all for improper or illegal behavior.

xmas74

(29,674 posts)
48. It's all over facebook now
Mon Oct 14, 2013, 06:35 PM
Oct 2013

Multiple pics of him and everyone asking everyone else to share the info with their friends and family, so you can "identify the rapist running around town by sight".

ArcticFox

(1,249 posts)
59. Or vigilante justice, self help
Tue Oct 15, 2013, 01:03 AM
Oct 2013

It's what a justice system it's designed to avoid. I'm so surprised we don't see these victims and their families taking the law into their own hands.

Cleita

(75,480 posts)
24. Love those close knit, family values small towns.
Mon Oct 14, 2013, 02:17 PM
Oct 2013


Never mind criticizing me about this cuz I live in one of those towns. I hear all the gossip and the girls seem to be always more at fault than the boys.
 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
25. this is not about sociopaths. this is about privilege and entitlement and little pieces of shits
Mon Oct 14, 2013, 02:43 PM
Oct 2013

that get off filming and putting out on the nets. i want to know what a boy/man gains putting this shit on the net. fuckin unconscious girls. what is it about this act that makes a man proud, so god damn proud that he puts it out for the world to see. bottomfeeders, every one of them

BlancheSplanchnik

(20,219 posts)
40. absolutely. the culture that teaches males they can do anything to women
Mon Oct 14, 2013, 05:11 PM
Oct 2013

and get away with it teaches them that there are no boundaries. Violence is fun, females aren't people. Use them to act out your chest-beating reptilian-brain urges.

I'm amazed this is only now getting exposure?? The victim's family home was BURNT DOWN??? A raped LITTLE GIRL and her family??

Is this a rural kkkristian town? Of course it is.... if the rural town I used to live in is anything similar, I'd guess at least 5 churches, at least one of them a mega-church, at least 5 bars and a good-old-boy repuke county legislature made up of the biggest CON-servative crooks in town. (My town, they got their stimulus $$$$ and used it to build a super-great town hall. These jackasses who made a little boy's secret club of the barber shop did nothing with that money for the falling apart town.)

pitbullgirl1965

(564 posts)
47. But, but men are victims of sexism too!!!111
Mon Oct 14, 2013, 06:32 PM
Oct 2013

It wouldn't hurt my feelings if some of the men on campus smacked him around a little. Those poor girls, and their families. I'm thankful they weren't home when the fire happened. And lovely that the mother was fired from her job.

xmas74

(29,674 posts)
34. They've picked it up
Mon Oct 14, 2013, 03:49 PM
Oct 2013

and this guy is going to feel the heat on campus soon. All the girls at his college are talking about it and they are making comments about him. Someone even had a sign on a pole today with his picture and the word "Rapist" typed in red.

BlancheSplanchnik

(20,219 posts)
42. sexual encounter?? bedding scene??? FUCK YOU Kansas Star
Mon Oct 14, 2013, 05:15 PM
Oct 2013

Thank technology and the intertubez that Anonymous is involved and I hope they rip not only the "young men with connections and a bright future " but also the police dept, county pols and the POS newspaper.

roamer65

(36,745 posts)
45. Google this guy, folks. I am seeing a possible DUI arrest on him as well.
Mon Oct 14, 2013, 06:17 PM
Oct 2013

Looks like a real scumbag. The Northwest Missourian lists the arrest date as Dec 11...I assume 2011.

defacto7

(13,485 posts)
53. Let the war to protect civil rights begin.
Tue Oct 15, 2013, 12:09 AM
Oct 2013

And let peaceful resistance and forced transparency reign. The outcome will be nothing less than justice.

 

NuclearDem

(16,184 posts)
62. Regarding Neckzilla:
Tue Oct 15, 2013, 12:24 PM
Oct 2013
WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH HIM

SERIOUSLY

WHAT THE FUCK

I

I DON'T UNDERSTAND

THAT'S NOT ANATOMICALLY POSSIBLE UNLESS YOU'RE PART GIRAFFE


That one made me laugh.

pitbullgirl1965

(564 posts)
61. BREAKING NEWS: RESTAURANTS WEBPAGE DOWN
Tue Oct 15, 2013, 12:17 PM
Oct 2013
http://agrestaurant.com/ Matthew Barnett worked here as a waiter. However is it true his family owns the restaurant?

I hope most reading these comments who are not aware of the situation get the gist of it. The family that owns this establishment kept their star athlete kid from facing justice after raping a fourteen year old girl.

http://www.yelp.com/biz/a-g-restaurant-
 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
63. huh. another one bites the dust... i thought they hired the rapist and the child porn maker and
Tue Oct 15, 2013, 12:32 PM
Oct 2013

distributor is the son of the owners.

pitbullgirl1965

(564 posts)
66. The rapist was a waiter there
Tue Oct 15, 2013, 04:23 PM
Oct 2013
i thought they hired the rapist and the child porn maker and distributor is the son of the owners.
Do you have a link for the son of the owners? I've looked can't find it.
thanks!
 

riderinthestorm

(23,272 posts)
73. Which "crap"? The house burning down part? Or the mom fired for no reason crap?
Tue Oct 15, 2013, 08:45 PM
Oct 2013

Or the family getting run out of town? Or the prosecutor mysteriously deciding to NOT take this case to trial?

Or the Facebook page of a university getting some verbal spanking? Or Barnett, who has admitted he did this!, getting publicly shamed since our justice system has broken down here?

Exactly which "crap" needs to stop?

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
74. or, raping a girl and putting it on the net for other men to get off on? really, i would really
Tue Oct 15, 2013, 08:58 PM
Oct 2013

like that "crap" to stop.

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