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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsI am South African, and I am ashamed
Full disclosure: I am American born, and I now live in the US. I lived in South Africa between the years of 1985 and 1994. I voted in the first election. I am a white person.
I lived as any South African white person would have lived during that time. I was not especially political. My reasons for moving to South Africa were personal, not political. In my unformed political consciousness, I had a vague understanding of how morally corrupt I was. In the spirit of cognitive dissonance, I snuffed it out. I was selfish and stupid.
I was thrilled when Mr. Mandela was released from prison. I knew his incarceration was wrong, although I could not have articulated why at the time. It was one of South Africa's finest hours. They'd had so few.
I was eligible to vote in the 1994 elections, by virtue of my marriage to a South African man. I did not vote for Mr. Mandela.
Of this I am ashamed.
I thought I was embarked on some kind of moral high road...because the ANC at that time had not officially renounced its armed struggle. I felt that I could not support a party that still called to arms. I supported a little-known and powerless liberal faction of progressive whites. It soothed my unenlightened conscience.
In hindsight, I realize how wrong I was.
I hope DUers can come to understand the political evolution of even the stupidest among us: it can happen. Among the great, like Mr. Mandela, it's organic. The armed struggle may have been part of the ANC's larger political agenda, but it was never close to a defining characteristic for the man. I failed to see that. I see it now. I see what I missed 20 years ago: a man of peace, of hope.
And I am sorry. I have learned. Hopefully, I have learned well. I've sure learned a lot from my DU friends.
I have to live with my vote, but in hindsight, I'm glad I threw it away. The best man won. Farewell, sir.
nadinbrzezinski
(154,021 posts)CaliforniaPeggy
(149,640 posts)I think, if Mr. Mandela were aware of your vote, that he would not mind. He would be glad that you have evolved and that you now understand the course of history.
He is at peace.
I hope you will be as well...
Fumesucker
(45,851 posts)Mnemosyne
(21,363 posts)painful. It is not easy by any means.
Thank you for sharing this, lapislzi.
Mr. Mandela would have no issue with you.
JI7
(89,252 posts)have the same views as you do now also.
jberryhill
(62,444 posts)...of which we will be ashamed tomorrow.
You voted for the candidate of your choice at that time in a democratic election. The point of having such an election is larger than the outcome.
Alameda
(1,895 posts)It wasn't that long ago having black slaves and trading in them was an acceptable practice, it wasn't long ago mixed race relations were banned. I wonder now if we will look at this time and see how horribly we have treated other species and shudder and wonder how "they" could have been so clueless.
....and I don't just mean farm animals...it's how we treat the whole universe, spewing our trash all over, the pollution of our waters.
babylonsister
(171,072 posts)I think we are here to evolve, and you did. Props to you on this sad day of Nelson Mandela's passing. But what a legacy he left, and the minds he inspired!
lapislzi
(5,762 posts)I still miss the place and would return if it were feasible. I visit as often as I can afford it. There is so much goodwill and opportunity for good people. I have actually encouraged my daughter (South African born, now 20 years old) to return on a student visa. She loves it and may settle in Cape Town.
Cha
(297,323 posts)up, lapiszi. I think it's so beautifully poignant when someone can recall how wrong they were and have learned so much since then.
What a close up evolutionary process you've had in such an important part of our wolrd history.. As we say in Hawai'i "No Shame" and after all, as you say, "The best man won"
merrily
(45,251 posts)MADem
(135,425 posts)Not scary, part of the scene, sweet, welcomed.
A lot of the characterizations of the ANC were spoon-fed to people who had to take their information passively. There was no Google back then, no high speed internet, it was early days for computers back then--the person with the biggest microphone often won the fight. And absent compelling information from multiple sources, people do sometimes tend to go with what they know.
Live and learn!
lapislzi
(5,762 posts)Sad to say I still have a few South African friends, whites, older folks mostly, who stubbornly resist reconstruction. It's very hard to talk to those folks now. Fortunately, they're an endangered species. Their racism dies with them.
I continue to hope that the arc of the universe bends toward justice.
KentuckyWoman
(6,688 posts)kick and recommend
nolabear
(41,987 posts)mountain grammy
(26,625 posts)or at least we should! What a waste hindsight would be otherwise.
Little Star
(17,055 posts)In one way or another we all have been in your (wrong) shoes.
Jim Lane
(11,175 posts)You have much less to be ashamed of than they do, but you're all in the same boat, of people who've learned over the years.
I have no problem with genuine evolution, as in your case. It's a different story when people announce that they've changed but it's obviously just for immediate political advantage. I don't blame the diehard conservatives who mocked Romney's announcement that he was "severely conservative" along with his switches on specific issues like abortion and Romneycare.
upi402
(16,854 posts)Of course Mandela would forgive. This is why it's VITAL for the media here to reform.
It's what causes good people to support evil leadership employing well-funded propaganda.
Glad you woke up and are so aware now.
Nonhlanhla
(2,074 posts)In supporting the DP (I assume), you helped to bring some balance in South Africa's parliamentary system. Mr. Mandela did not need your vote. He needed you to vote from a sense of conviction. So, I would agree that you may have voted for the DP because of somewhat misguided reasons, but Mr. Mandela did not need your vote. He was going to be president no matter how you voted. And he would probably have understood your reasons.
I also did not vote for the ANC. In my heart yes, I voted for Mr. Mandela. I was excited that he was going to be our new president. As an idealistic young white South African I had been against apartheid since my teens, and our first democratic elections took place one day after my 24th birthday. It was a great day. I stood in line with a "colored" (for those not in the know, a person of mixed race origin) friend, seeing his joy in being able to vote for the first time. But I did not vote for Mr. Mandela's party, not because I did not want him as president, but because I believe in balance in the democratic system. In South Africa's system every vote counts towards the percentage by which each political party is presented in parliament. I wanted different voices to be present in parliament. Because I knew that Mr. Mandela is not the whole picture. There were (and are) plenty of other people in the ANC that are wonderful and good, but there are also some who are power-hungry, and who need a strong opposition to prevent them from becoming totalitarian. So I voted for the liberal largely white (although mixed race to some extent) Democratic Party, and I did so because I knew Mr. Mandela did not need my vote, but perhaps he needed me to play whatever small role to help keep the ANC's toes to the fire.
Whether it worked or not, I don't know. But politics are never simple. As many her know, sometimes you vote strategically.
I don't know if I would make the same decision today. But I know that I made it back then because I believed firmly that we must make South Africa work, and that, for me, required the presence and the voice of other political voices in parliament.
In the end, I am never ashamed of being a white South African. I benefited from apartheid, and I realized it at a very young age. But I also opposed apartheid at an age when most girls in my peer group spent their time putting on makeup and reading teen magazines. I opposed it imperfectly. Yet, it is not our origins, but our journey that defines us.
lapislzi
(5,762 posts)Thank you for taking the time to respond, and for responding as you did. Yes, I too knew that Mr. Mandela would become president, and I did vote DP. Many of my white friends (older than we) were terrified by what this might mean and retreated into NP votes where they would not have done otherwise. I was sorry to see that happen.
What actually came to pass was far more wonderful and terrifying than any of us could have imagined. Although I watched it from afar, having repatriated to the US soon after the election, it excited me and gave me hope that SA might be a place my daughter would want to live when she grew up. And so it is. My 20-year-old is reviewing her options for continuing education and career, and UCT is on the short list.
As a foreigner entering SA society during apartheid, I shocked myself by absorbing the trappings of privilege almost reflexively. It was dangerous. I could so easily have become submerged in the casual racism that's still practiced. I'm glad my embryonic conscience developed as it did, although I wish it had happened sooner.
Message me if you want to reminisce about olden times.
davidpdx
(22,000 posts)I myself have changed stances on a few issues. For years I was on the fence about the death penalty, but it took one thing to change my view in opposition of it (this was long before I joined DU). That was very personal. There are other issues as well. The important thing is we see things in a different light, even if it is after the fact.
oberliner
(58,724 posts)Why did you not want to stay in SA?
Doc Holliday
(719 posts)to a bit of curiosity on that myself.
Having said that, I'm stealing this sentence: "The armed struggle may have been part of the ANC's larger political agenda, but it was never close to a defining characteristic for the man."
This is a huge truth, and you showed personal growth when you realized it.
oberliner
(58,724 posts)Kick for the possibility of one.
pink-o
(4,056 posts)And I was just as active protesting Apartheid in the 80s, when Reagan and his ilk didn't wanna give up the lucrative between our countries. Gold and Diamonds speak volumes, after all!
But please don't beat yourself up. White people created Apartheid, but White South Africans also helped work to end it. There were always folks who understood how immoral and heinous it was, and it took all South Africans to rise against it.
MFM008
(19,818 posts)I knew nothing about politics, I just knew it would the first time I voted. I could have voted in 1980 but didnt.
All I knew at the time was I didnt like Mondale and especially Ferraro. By 1988, I thought, hey what is the difference between a democrat and a republican. I never voted Republican again and never will. Dont be so hard on yourself.
HipChick
(25,485 posts)I am curious how long it took you to become a SA citizen, and if you can only vote after being a SA citizen?
Stellar
(5,644 posts)Thank you for sharing.
MrMickeysMom
(20,453 posts)the difference here is unlike so many others, you have moved on and learned by your own reflection.