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This is a follow-up to an earlier post. For the last few years, I have been mostly uninterested in politics, because allowing myself to get invested in it always made my blood boil. But I have recently had an absolutely horrid experience with an ultra right-wing roommate, and it reaffirmed my desire to fight the GOTP because of the kind of people they attract.
Due to bizarre, unfortunate circumstances, I ended up living with this guy because I had no other options. He seems like a nice, passive guy on the surface, but allow yourself to be in a conversation with him for any length of time and he will start to talk your ear off about how the liberals are ruining everything. His views are extreme right-wing and by that I mean to the right of Hitler - the Duck Dynasty guys and Ted Nugent are role models, 2nd Amendment rights take precedence over public safety and the lives of children, the Republicans were right to shut down the government, Dick Cheney was a great leader, etc. He's in his early 20s and owns the house, which I respected him for at first, until he started talking about how much of a hard worker he is unlike liberals who are all lazy. Of course, he considers himself a Christian while loving guns more than life itself and considering all poor people to be lazy bums. And calling this guy a control freak would be like calling the sun lukewarm. If you don't wash dishes properly or leave them in the sink too long (aka more than 8 hours), he throws them away. If you don't take the trash out on time, he will deliberately shovel snow in front of your car. If he decides he doesn't need WiFi, no one gets to have it. Since it's his house and his rules, you have no privacy rights and none of your stuff is safe, if he doesn't like where it is, whether it's in the living room or your bathroom, he will move it, throw it out, etc. I'm not saying all conservatives are arrogant, selfish, power-tripping control freaks, but most arrogant, selfish, power-tripping control freaks are definitely conservatives. You definitely know people by their fruits. Oh, and he recently received a high-ranking position with the local GOP campaign for this year.
Has anyone else had a similar experience?
meadowlark5
(2,795 posts)I think I'd rather go live in a refrigerator box.
Rex
(65,616 posts)nt.
Rex
(65,616 posts)Easy to find, there is one right now in GD on page 1.
Rocknrule
(5,697 posts)Rex
(65,616 posts)Sad but a fact of life now.
shenmue
(38,506 posts)who broke my drinking glasses, broke the table, climbed in the window, and a million other things. That was weird.
I hope you can find a better situation.
Warpy
(111,270 posts)When I couldn't change my situation, I spent my time planning all the things I'd do to them on my way out the door. Once I got plastered and laughed about some of it and that scared the hell out of them, they had no idea I was that creative. I don't recommend this with a teabagger gun nut.
Just save every dime you can until you can get away from him. Nothing has to last forever, even though it will feel that way from time to time.
Rocknrule
(5,697 posts)is the knowledge that he is definitely going to die alone. He has no interest in dating and considering how he treats his roommates, any girl who ends up with him will probably donkey punch him in the nuts and tell him to go fuck himself after 3 days.
Orrex
(63,215 posts)It will get no better and will certainly get worse.
functioning_cog
(294 posts)Populist_Prole
(5,364 posts)I visit him for about a week, once a year or so. Having dinner, sitting in a parlor, riding in a car, he will ceaselessly try to browbeat and preach his politics to you and bait you into rebutting to cause a full-blown argument...where he feels his legendary pushiness gives him an edge. Hell, even if you try to "fog" the debate by not rebutting him, he'll get irritated that you're not an enthusiastic enough supporter of his view.
Trying to keep the conversation non political is very anxiety-ridden and fatiguing as my minds constantly working hard to monitor the conversation and choose my words just so.
What's funny is politics aside, when he's distracted by events or activities, he's a fascinating, stimulating father to have.
Even so, I can't "leave" in the sense that "you can choose your friends but not your family" but you can. Do it before you get an ulcer or some other stress-related disease.
SheilaT
(23,156 posts)It's one thing that he has his political opinions, it's entirely another that he shovels snow in front of your car or throws away dishes. That is simply not acceptable behavior.
1awake
(1,494 posts)They do.
The rest sounds wacked...
Rocknrule
(5,697 posts)I want more than ever for the Dems to beat the Republicans in my state (CO) in the upcoming election. Please DUers, help me make it happen!
blue cat
(2,415 posts)Crazy right wing control addict.
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indie9197
(509 posts)flt rsk
(92 posts)A couple of weeks ago, I was eating dinner at the bar of a local restaurant. When I was approaching the bar, a woman noticed I was limping. I had recently twisted my knee but told her that it was an old college football injury. Im 58 and weigh 172 lbs. not college football material. I said that the injury wasnt from playing football but from getting caught with a linebackers girlfriend and he beat the crap out of me. Laughter all around.
The man to my left, two chairs over, with an empty between, started a conversation. Im 65; hes 67 and has a 14-year-old son. At some point, he mentioned that he is going to a sports bar to play trivia. I commented with Like the woman answering the trivia question, How many heart attacks has Dick Cheney had? She yelled out, Not enough.
The man went from being calm father/grand fatherly professional to bat-shit crazy in nothing flat. He started yelling that she was crazy and if that was my politics then I was crazy, too. Its a joke, I said. Still yelling at me, he continued his tirade. I couldnt hear everything due to the noise in the bar and the ringing in my ears from the military. I told him that I couldnt hear him. He responded that our conversation was over. Good, I said. Yet, he continued to yell. I looked over and said that I thought the conversation was over. He said, It is. Then shut up.
Still ranting, I heard him say, I knew people like you were out there, but Ive never met one. My answer was Get used to it, were everywhere. More yelling. Next he leaned in and yelled, If thats your politics, you deserved to have that linebacker beat the crap out of you. I thought you said our conversation was over. It is, he yelled. Now I am openly pissed off. I leaned in as close as I could get, looked him in the eye, and said in a low voice, Then shut the fuck up or we will have a different type of conversation. I am not big and bad, or a fighter, but I was pissed off. He paid his tab and left the bar.
What the hell is wrong with these people? What gives them the idea that they have the right to yell at progressives? No facts, just yelling insults. I was at a regatta last week, eating at a sponsored buffet and started talking with another sailor that I had not met until that evening. We were at a picnic table. I told him what happened and how I could not understand the Tea Bagger mentality. I was used to discussions, exchanging ideas. He agreed. The only other person at the table never said a word. Just finished his pizza and left.
PlanetaryOrbit
(155 posts)Quote: "What gives them the idea that they have the right to yell at progressives?"
People have as much right to yell at progressives as they do to yell at conservatives - or at people who are politically neutral, for that matter.
flt rsk
(92 posts)I should have written yell curses and insults instead of just yell.
Populist_Prole
(5,364 posts)And well he should be. He just wanted to "go down swinging", and I'm glad you made the choice his by standing up to him.
Enthusiast
(50,983 posts)They. Are. Indoctrinated.
It is the result of the steady propaganda stream into their ears almost every waking moment. They simply cannot step outside the confines of the misinformation box. It is a matter of perception.
They mistake their conceptions for reality. "Poor people are lazy. Unions are bad, cost us jobs. Obama is spending us into oblivion. Socialism has failed everywhere it has been tried." Thousands of these right wing memes have been imprinted on their brains. Even otherwise intelligent righties cannot escape this condition.
narnian60
(3,510 posts)You are sooo right.
sweetapogee
(1,168 posts)Buy a large house and rent out rooms to baggers. Then do the same to them. Finally, smile and be happy!
Skittles
(153,169 posts)I would f*** him over good
Demonaut
(8,918 posts)companies, some multilevel marketing firms..etc
this is s joke
or is it?
Rocknrule
(5,697 posts)Last edited Wed Mar 19, 2014, 07:50 PM - Edit history (2)
"I moved out today because I cannot stand another second of living with you. I have bent over backwards kissing your ass trying to follow all your stupid fucking rules but nothing is ever good enough for you. You are an arrogant, anal-retentive, power-tripping control freak. I had to hole up in my room after coming home every night because I always felt like an unwanted guest and if I set foot outside you would always find something to bitch at me for. You treat me and my belongings like shit and I feel sorry for whoever is replacing me because they will have to put up with this crap from you too. I don't care if it's your house and you think you're the king of the world because you're a homeowner and a landlord, you had NO RIGHT to throw my pans in the backyard or pile snow all around my car. Who the hell do you think you are to treat me and my property that way? I have NEVER done anything as spiteful and disrespectful to you as that. If that's the way you treat people if they don't do everything your way, you're going to be a very lonely person. Here's some advice: pull that gigantic stick out of your ass, don't have roommates at all if you're going to be a bullying controlling vindictive asshole to them, keep your hands off other people's things, and for God's sake replace that POS dishwasher with one that actually performs the job it was built for. Oh, and when you have guests, keep a leash on them the way you do with your roommates because when that freeloading friend of yours was staying with us, he ate a ton of my food without my permission. It's a good thing you're married to your job because you are never going to get a woman. Have fun hosting your rich old white guys party this summer and sitting around with them talking about ways to screw the country more just to make Obama look bad. I sure wouldn't want to be around to spoil THAT. And just so everyone is clear: you didn't kick me out. I CHOSE to leave rather than subject myself to your micromanaging passive-aggressive bullshit anymore. I'll give you one thing though: your house is the nicest prison I've ever visited."
LiberalAndProud
(12,799 posts)Second. I'm glad you were able to remove yourself from a really bad situation. Onward to better things! Congrats.
Rocknrule
(5,697 posts)And I feel GOOD