some women will put up with anything for money
Read this today in regards to the domestic violence showing Ray Rice cold cocking his then fiancée, leaving her unconscious for minutes, and then dropping her on her face while she was knocked out.
I was aghast.
Let me just say what I hear when I see comments like that:
"Hey, she gets paid well for those beatings."
It made me furious. It made me sick to my stomach to read it. I was ashamed for the person and persons who think that way about domestic violence.
Here is some good reading material on why persons stay with abusers, educate thyself before saying something so ignorant as what I read today:
•They fear their abusers will become more violent—perhaps fatal—stalking them if they leave.
•Friends and family may not support their decision to leave.
•They fear being a single parent with little money.
•There are periods of calm, nurturing and love between incidents of violence (see The Cycle of Abuse).
•They may be unaware of sources of advocacy and support.
•They may be unaware of shelters and other resources that offer safety and support.
The reasons women stay in abusive relationships typically fall into three categories.
Lack of resources
•Most abused women have at least one minor child.
•Many abused women are not employed outside the home.
•Many abused women don't have property that is solely theirs.
•In many cases, abusers have cut off access to cash or bank accounts.
•Most abused women fear losing joint assets and custody of their children.
•Abused women fear a lower standard of living for themselves and their children.
Responses by services and authorities
(See How Professionals Can Respond)
•Often, clergy and social workers are trained to "save the family" rather than to stop violence.
•Police often treat incidents of domestic violence as mere "disputes" rather than as serious crimes in which one person is physically assaulting another.
•Police may try to discourage women from pressing criminal charges.
•Attorneys are often reluctant to prosecute cases. Justices rarely assign the maximum sentence or fine possible.
•Restraining orders and peace bonds (see Stalking) do little to prevent abusers from repeating their violent patterns of behavior. Sadly, there are too few shelters to keep women safe.
Traditional thinking
•Many women don't view divorce as a viable alternative.
•Many abused women don't accept the notion of single parenting. They believe a bad father (or in the case of a lesbian relationship, a bad partner) is better than none at all.
•Many women are conditioned to believe they are responsible for making their marriage or relationship work; that if the relationship fails, they have failed as women. Society has often taught these women that their worth is measured by their ability to get and keep a man.
•Many abused women feel isolated from their families and from society. Isolation is either the result of the abuser's possessiveness or jealousy, or it may be an attempt on the part of the victim to hide signs of abuse from the outside world. Either way, such isolation leads many victims to feel they have nowhere to turn.
•Many victims externalize or rationalize the reasons for their abuser's behavior, casting blame of circumstances such as stress, financial hardship, job stress, chemical dependency, etc.
•Between violent episodes, there are periods of calm during which the abuser is charming, nurturing, and caring. Those traits which initially attracted him/her to his/her victim resurface and the victim sees her abuser as a loving person, thereby reinforcing her decision to stay.
http://www.womensweb.ca/violence/dv/leave.php
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YesI read the article. 
I was just speaking on my feelings. I could never imagine going on with a wedding to a man who would beat me like that.
Thought-provoking - thanks for posting... 
Also proud of being outspoken and opinionated and someone who stands up for what I believe in, even when other people don't agree with me.
But I am going to leave the rest of what you are implying to the other thread where it belongs.
Let this be another kick to *this* thread, which I hope people read.
And for the record, I did NOT deny that the woman is battered. I also did not suggest the behavior was acceptable.
Gratuitous kick to this thread in replying to you. 
