Nation: Ann Romney, Working Woman?
But the brouhaha over Hilary Rosens injudicious remarks is not really about whether what stay-home mothers do is work. Because we know the answer to that: it depends. When performed by married women in their own homes, domestic labor is workdifficult, sacred, noble work. Ann says Mitt called it more important work than his own, which does make you wonder why he didnt stay home with the boys himself. When performed for pay, however, this supremely important, difficult job becomes low-wage labor that almost anyone can doteenagers, elderly women, even despised illegal immigrants. But heres the real magic: when performed by low-income single mothers in their own homes, those same exact taskschanging diapers, going to the playground and the store, making dinner, washing the dishes, giving a bathare not only not work; they are idleness itself. Just ask Mitt Romney.
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So there it is: the difference between a stay-home mother and a welfare mother is money and a wedding ring. Unlike any other kind of labor I can think of, domestic labor is productive or not, depending on who performs it. For a college-educated married woman, it is the most valuable thing she could possibly do, totally off the scale of human endeavor. What is curing malaria compared with raising a couple of Ivy Leaguers? For these women, being supported by a man is goodthe one exception to our American creed of self-reliance. Taking paid work, after all, poses all sorts of risks to the kids. (Watch out, though, ladies: if you expect the father of your children to underwrite your homemaking after divorce, you go straight from saint to gold-digger.) But for a low-income single woman, forgoing a job to raise children is an evasion of responsibility, which is to marry and/or support herself. For her children, staying home sets a bad example, breeding the next generation of criminals and layabouts.
http://www.thenation.com/article/167456/ann-romney-working-woman
Interesting distinction between who is working and who is not.