Angry Indian bride marries wedding guest

[Turborama]

An Indian bride has married a guest at her wedding after her groom-to-be had a seizure and collapsed.

Reports said the groom, Jugal Kishore, was epileptic and he had kept the information from the bride, Indira, and her family.

While Mr Kishore was taken to hospital, the angry bride decided to switch husbands.

She asked a member of her brother-in-law's family, who was a guest, to step in and marry her instead. He agreed.

Full story: http://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-india-31519551

[Xipe Totec]

1. All things considered, she married the best man. nt

[whathehell]

5. Good one..

[Enrique]

2. and then he called the cops

Local police official Ram Khiladi Solanki told the BBC that Mr Kishore and his family were initially upset and lodged a complaint with the police.

"But since the bride is already married now, what can anyone do? So the families have resolved the matter and the complaint has been withdrawn," he added.

[HappyMe]

3. I think Mr. Kishore dodged a bullet.

I hope he finds the best treatment for his epilepsy.

[OregonBlue]

4. I agree but the woman should have been informed before the wedding.

[HappyMe]

6. He should have been informed

about what a "loving" person she is.

[DetlefK]

8. Do you lie to your wife about longterm health-problems that send you to hospital?

Why not? If she loves you, she will understand!

[HappyMe]

11. I have a husband.

No, neither of us have any health problems.

Maybe he should have told her. I don't think that excuses her hideous behavior or shallowness.

[pnwmom]

14. You are presuming it was a love marriage. In an arranged marriage, what reason

would there have been for her to go through with it?

His health would have been considered paramount; also his earning capacity. Arranged marriages are like business affairs. They wouldn't have viewed each other as soul mates.

"The young bride, angry that her family had been kept in the dark about Kishore's medical condition, promptly changed her mind and announced that she would happily marry at the same ceremony a guest at the wedding, a man called Harpal Singh. The latter, incidentally, turned out to be her sister's brother-in-law.

Singh, caught unawares and dressed in jeans and a leather jacket, fumbled for a moment before declaring he would willingly take Indira as his wife. This time the "varmala" was exchanged between Singh and Indira, which went off without any hitch, with the pandit reciting the mantras and asking the new couple to take the seven "pheras".

Meanwhile, Kishore, who had been rushed to a doctor by his relatives, went back to the venue after he regained consciousness to see that his wife-to-be was now someone else's."

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/City/Bareilly/Groom-unwell-bride-weds-guest-in-fit-of-rage/articleshow/46277810.cms

[HappyMe]

16. I am presuming nothing of the sort.

What about her earning capacity? If it was an arranged marriage, wouldn't she have to wait to arrange another marriage rather than just marry whomever.

I don't think there is any excuse for her petulant, shallow behavior. He's well rid of her.

Would you have the same attitude if it were the bride with epilepsy and the groom did this?

[pnwmom]

17. Then you don't understand an arranged marriage. An arranged marriage is a contract, with details like

health and financial matters carefully vetted. He broke the contract when he lied about his health.

And she didn't "marry whomever." In choosing the brother of her sister's husband, she chose a man her family knew well. Her family didn't object, and neither did the groom.


http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/City/Bareilly/Groom-unwell-bride-weds-guest-in-fit-of-rage/articleshow/46277810.cms

"Singh, caught unawares and dressed in jeans and a leather jacket, fumbled for a moment before declaring he would willingly take Indira as his wife. This time the "varmala" was exchanged between Singh and Indira, which went off without any hitch, with the pandit reciting the mantras and asking the new couple to take the seven "pheras".

"Meanwhile, Kishore, who had been rushed to a doctor by his relatives, went back to the venue after he regained consciousness to see that his wife-to-be was now someone else's."

[HappyMe]

18. It's still a crappy thing to do.

Would your attitude have been the same if it was the bride with epilepsy?
After all, fully vetted and what not.

[pnwmom]

21. Yes, I'd feel exactly the same if the prospective bride in an arranged marriage

hid a serious medical condition from the prospective groom.

You're seeing this through American eyes -- not through those of people who live with arranged marriages. These marriages are family business matters, not individual love matches. Love for the couple is expected to develop over time.

[treestar]

41. I can agree with her not going through with the marriage

It was arranged, and so the medical condition should have been revealed.

But marrying another guy right then and there was the real shallow thing to do.

[CreekDog]

42. I'm pleased that she actually chose whom she married

many women do not get such a choice.

[riderinthestorm]

23. Something like 90% of marriages in India are arranged

They're business deals.

The two families (parents) had already worked out the marriage deal for the bride and groom. In their eyes, substituting a groom is of little consequence since the deal has already been made between the Families.

The groom was in the wrong for not disclosing a serious medical condition that could have potentially problematic consequences for the other partner in the "deal", his bride.

These aren't love matches. They're business contracts.

[LisaL]

35. Exactly. Parents arrange the marriages.

It's not a love match. It's a business deal. Given that, epilepsy could very well be a deal breaker.

[whathehell]

37. I've talked to someone from India about these arranged marriages,

and he said "You have to like each other", so I'm not sure if it's quite

that cold and business like.

[LisaL]

39. THis article describes how its done.

Parents arrange marriages through newspaper ads. Socio economic status appears to be of most importance.

"So he gave up on the American dating scene and turned to tradition, asking his parents back home to arrange a match for him. A match not made in heaven, but in the classifieds. Just as in America, Indian matchmaking sites in newspapers and on the Internet are popular hunting grounds for singles."

http://abcnews.go.com/2020/story?id=6762309

[whathehell]

40. I've seen those classifieds close and personal..

but the "liking" provision still applies.

[OregonBlue]

20. Yes and given that epilepsy is a serious condition, she should have been informed.

What if the seizure had happened after the wedding on their wedding night? She might not have had any idea what was going on. I've seen many seizures and they are not to be taken lightly.

[pnwmom]

22. I've had two relatives who've had seizures. You are right; they're not to be taken lightly.

I hope yours are well-controlled.

[Yo_Mama]

27. These are arranged marriages - and this one was arranged by lying by omission.

I'm not saying I admire her for this, but understand the wedding was already paid for.

If she knew and loved her prospective husband, that would be another situation.

[whathehell]

7. Yes, I do feel a sorry for the bridegroom with epilepsy

but he should have told her.

I had epilepsy in childhood, but it was well controlled with drugs.

I dropped the drugs as a young adult, and never had a seizure

again, so I was told I "grew out" of it.

[pnwmom]

31. There is at least one type of childhood epilepsy that most kids grow out of.

That appears to be what you had.

[whathehell]

32. Okay,

Thanks for that information...Do you know anyone else who was diagnosed

with epilepsy?...It's kind of interesting, IMO.

[pnwmom]

34. Yes, I do.

One of my young relatives had this as a child:

http://www.epilepsy.com/learn/types-epilepsy-syndromes/benign-rolandic-epilepsy

It may or may not have been related to a head injury when she was 9. They gave her seizure medication till she was an adult, and then weaned her off it. It's been almost ten years and it never came back.

[whathehell]

36. Thanks again for this info..

I'm not sure if the type described in the link is what I had. Mine were

described as "grand mal" seizures. I had them at 12 and thirteen years of

age, and was hospitalized both times, although they never found anything

physical to account for them.

I'd like to talk a little more about it if you don't mind, but it's a bit personal,

so do you mind if I send you a pm?

Thanks pnwmom.

[pnwmom]

38. I'd be happy to talk to you, whathehell.

[Yavin4]

9. Looke like Catherine Hagel has her next RomCom! n/t

[shenmue]

10. Uh...

Whut

[lpbk2713]

12. "Hey you. C'mere."

"What was your name again?"

"OK ... Continue."

[giftedgirl77]

13. Wow, hope she snagged the right one...

[pnwmom]

15. She was probably able to swap an arranged marriage for a more romantic one.

She knew the young man she chose.

"The young bride, angry that her family had been kept in the dark about Kishore's medical condition, promptly changed her mind and announced that she would happily marry at the same ceremony a guest at the wedding, a man called Harpal Singh. The latter, incidentally, turned out to be her sister's brother-in-law

Singh, caught unawares and dressed in jeans and a leather jacket, fumbled for a moment before declaring he would willingly take Indira as his wife. This time the "varmala" was exchanged between Singh and Indira, which went off without any hitch, with the pandit reciting the mantras and asking the new couple to take the seven "pheras".

Meanwhile, Kishore, who had been rushed to a doctor by his relatives, went back to the venue after he regained consciousness to see that his wife-to-be was now someone else's."

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/City/Bareilly/Groom-unwell-bride-weds-guest-in-fit-of-rage/articleshow/46277810.cms

[riderinthestorm]

26. Agreed. She knew her BIL obviously and seized the opportunity while she had it

I too think she saw a window of opportunity to marry for love and jumped at it!

It really does sound like a Bollywood movie

[pnwmom]

28. It does!

[Tommy_Carcetti]

19. Reminds me of a Jerry Seinfeld bit.

"The tuxedo is a wedding safety device created by women because they know that men are undependable. So in case the groom chickens out, everybody just takes one step over and she marries the next guy. That's why the wedding vow isn't 'Do you take Bill Simpson', it's 'Do you take this man'"

[Stallion]

24. Sounds Like a Delightful Romantic Bollywood Comedy

...can't wait to see it on cable

[n2doc]

25. Marry in haste, repent at leisure

Crazy can be fun, but eventually the fun wears off....

[pnwmom]

29. In this case, she married someone she probably knew and liked better.

Instead of an arranged marriage to someone she clearly didn't know well enough -- who had been lying to her and her parents about his health -- she married her sister's brother-in-law. So I bet the chances are that this marriage will work out much better.

[polly7]

30. I hope the best for Mr. Kishore

and that he finds someone worthy of marrying.

[Glassunion]

33. In her defense, a wedding dress is really expensive.

If I shelled out what my wife did for her wedding dress, I'd first marry the cake before I let that fucking dress go to waste.

[CreekDog]

43. her family probably paid for the entire wedding too